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00:00:00 (upbeat music)
00:00:03 - Our newlyweds are being fast-tracked
00:00:05 into the next intense phase of the experiment.
00:00:08 - Hello.
00:00:09 - Moving into the first home they'll share together
00:00:12 as husband and wife.
00:00:13 - Awesome.
00:00:14 - Stuck with you now, man.
00:00:17 - Yeah.
00:00:18 Gonna be living together.
00:00:20 - We'll be rough.
00:00:21 - You sure? - We'll talk about it.
00:00:21 - You took a moment then.
00:00:24 Let me get it, let me help you.
00:00:25 Let me help you.
00:00:26 Oh my God.
00:00:27 Oh, that's what happens when you help me.
00:00:30 - We're backing out, Joshua.
00:00:32 - Beep.
00:00:32 Beep.
00:00:33 Beep.
00:00:34 (laughing)
00:00:36 (screaming)
00:00:40 - Okay.
00:00:41 Welcome home.
00:00:44 - Whoa.
00:00:45 - Oh my God.
00:00:49 We're going to the youth room.
00:00:52 - This is sick.
00:00:53 - Wait.
00:00:54 - Have a look at this.
00:00:55 - Oh my God.
00:00:56 - Oh my God.
00:00:57 - Akiva.
00:00:59 - Woo.
00:01:00 (laughing)
00:01:01 - Legends.
00:01:02 Here we go.
00:01:03 They knew I was coming.
00:01:05 - Ah, Shannon.
00:01:08 - What?
00:01:09 - It's like taking a toddler to the playground.
00:01:10 - Chicks love me.
00:01:12 (laughing)
00:01:14 - In the big smoke now.
00:01:16 - We are in the big smoke.
00:01:17 (laughing)
00:01:19 Wow.
00:01:20 (gasping)
00:01:22 - Oh.
00:01:22 - That's a bit cute.
00:01:24 - Oh my God.
00:01:25 - Oh my God.
00:01:26 - Holy crap.
00:01:29 - You look stunning there.
00:01:30 - Just look at the background.
00:01:31 You look so handsome.
00:01:32 - I like that.
00:01:33 Thank you so much.
00:01:34 - We actually look like we've already known each other
00:01:34 for years.
00:01:35 - Yeah.
00:01:36 - That's actually cute.
00:01:37 - Oi, we look good.
00:01:39 - Oh my God.
00:01:40 - Moving in together turns up the heat on our couples.
00:01:46 It's time they start to see each other
00:01:48 in their most vulnerable state.
00:01:50 As the comfort of their new home is also the place
00:01:53 where they'll reveal their true selves to each other.
00:01:56 - Oh.
00:01:57 - Oh, shitty ass.
00:01:58 - I'm bleeding too.
00:01:59 (laughing)
00:02:02 - That was on purpose.
00:02:03 - For some couples, there may be conflict
00:02:05 as they are forced to confront issues they have hidden
00:02:08 or avoided discussing with their partner
00:02:10 so far in the experiment.
00:02:13 - There is more than enough room for all the activities
00:02:16 that we need in here.
00:02:18 - Like washing.
00:02:20 - Like washing.
00:02:20 (laughing)
00:02:21 - Each other.
00:02:23 - Yes.
00:02:23 - What?
00:02:24 - If our couples are open and honest with each other,
00:02:28 their new home can become a safe space
00:02:30 in which to grow as a couple.
00:02:32 - Our new.
00:02:35 - Home.
00:02:35 - I just can't believe it's so quiet, right?
00:02:38 - Can you open it?
00:02:39 - Yeah, it's like.
00:02:40 (laughing)
00:02:42 - You're really damaging the artwork.
00:02:51 - Damaging the artwork?
00:02:52 - Damaging this artwork.
00:02:54 - No, no.
00:02:55 - For Sandy and Dan.
00:03:01 - Oh, wow.
00:03:02 - Moving in together is a giant step in their relationship
00:03:06 as Sandy has had zero relationship experience
00:03:10 before entering the experiment.
00:03:12 - Check it out.
00:03:13 - And has never shared a home with anyone
00:03:15 outside of her immediate family.
00:03:18 - Oh, that's great.
00:03:20 We were definitely strangers then, weren't we?
00:03:23 - Sandy's lack of relationship experience
00:03:26 saw Dan start slowly when getting to know his new bride.
00:03:30 - I want you to know that there's no rush,
00:03:32 either from my perspective.
00:03:33 Like, to me, it's all about growing this organically.
00:03:36 So it's on our terms, okay?
00:03:39 - No, I appreciate that, 'cause that is important for me.
00:03:41 I'm on board with that.
00:03:42 - Yeah.
00:03:43 - But Sandy and Dan have proceeded at a pace
00:03:47 that has seen a connection start to form.
00:03:50 (gentle music)
00:03:52 - It's cozy, huh?
00:03:53 Not much privacy, huh?
00:03:54 - No.
00:03:55 Up until the last year,
00:03:57 I've always lived at home with my parents
00:03:59 and moving in together, for me,
00:04:01 it's huge for the relationship,
00:04:03 but just for me as a person,
00:04:04 I've never lived with a partner.
00:04:06 But so far, so good.
00:04:07 Like, I think we're in a good place.
00:04:09 - Look, there's enough room for the pillow forward.
00:04:12 - Shut up.
00:04:13 - We don't do that anymore.
00:04:17 - While Sandy and Dan adjust to cohabitation,
00:04:20 downstairs, Jesse has arrived without his wife, Claire.
00:04:25 On their wedding day, Jesse was besotted with Claire.
00:04:31 (Jesse gasps)
00:04:34 - Hi.
00:04:35 Hello. - Hey.
00:04:38 - Hi, I'm Claire.
00:04:39 - Jesse.
00:04:41 - Oh my God, you look so cool.
00:04:46 - So do you.
00:04:47 - Thank you.
00:04:47 - I don't even know what to say.
00:04:50 - But Claire's high energy.
00:04:51 - I always pack undies,
00:04:54 like I'm gonna poo my pants every day.
00:04:57 - All right.
00:04:58 - Was too much for Jesse to handle.
00:05:01 - Honestly, I thought I was a high energy guy myself.
00:05:04 (Claire screams)
00:05:06 But compare me to Claire.
00:05:08 (Claire screams)
00:05:09 - Yes.
00:05:10 - Leading to hurt feelings on their honeymoon.
00:05:17 - Oh my God, look at the water.
00:05:18 Oh my God, amazing.
00:05:20 - Yeah, no, you're not my person.
00:05:22 - And after arriving at the dinner party separately,
00:05:27 Claire openly discussing their private issues
00:05:30 overwhelmed Jesse.
00:05:31 - I noticed that Claire, as far as I'm concerned,
00:05:34 was talking pretty loudly.
00:05:36 And I said.
00:05:37 - But shush, can you shush?
00:05:39 (glass shatters)
00:05:42 With Jesse arriving before Claire,
00:05:49 he's hoping their brand new home for the next eight weeks
00:05:53 will snap him out of his low mood.
00:05:56 - The hell is this?
00:05:58 - So what do you think?
00:06:02 - I think this is some bullshit.
00:06:08 - Can't even freaking open that.
00:06:10 Hey, how funny is this?
00:06:11 Fighting fish.
00:06:12 How symbolic.
00:06:14 Freaking mirror.
00:06:18 The top things are bumming me right now is,
00:06:23 this is a Claire type of apartment.
00:06:27 This is 100% her vibe.
00:06:29 My house wouldn't look like this, that's for sure.
00:06:32 The decor would give Claire a lot to talk about,
00:06:34 that's for sure.
00:06:35 There's hardly any space to kind of have your own space.
00:06:40 Oh my God.
00:06:42 And that is something I need a lot of.
00:06:45 At this point in time, no room for love, that's for sure.
00:06:48 I just know she's gonna walk in.
00:06:50 Oh my God, oh my God, oh my,
00:06:54 look at all the pretty colors.
00:06:56 - Hello.
00:07:01 What, oh, this is cool.
00:07:05 - She's a bit small, but she's cool.
00:07:08 - Yeah, I thought you'd like it.
00:07:11 I'm just trying to get my head around.
00:07:14 - Confined spaces?
00:07:15 Yeah, same.
00:07:17 It's gonna be fine.
00:07:18 Look, we have a balcony at least.
00:07:19 Let's get some air into this place.
00:07:21 How about that?
00:07:22 I'm enjoying this space.
00:07:24 It's very cool.
00:07:25 It's very retro rock and roll, which I love.
00:07:28 It's funky.
00:07:29 I think it's a good vibe in here.
00:07:31 - I couldn't figure out how to open it.
00:07:34 - Nice.
00:07:35 - Ta-da!
00:07:36 I love this.
00:07:38 This is cool.
00:07:39 Jesse's vibe is, I can tell he's freaking out.
00:07:44 I can tell that he's a little bit on edge.
00:07:46 He's a little bit stressed, a little bit small.
00:07:48 He doesn't know where to put his things.
00:07:51 I know that this is quite overwhelming for him.
00:07:53 Everything is gonna be fine.
00:07:54 - We're screwed.
00:07:56 - So I did my best to just be like,
00:07:59 it's okay, we got this.
00:08:02 (dramatic music)
00:08:04 Look, you can put some stuff in there.
00:08:06 - Yeah, maybe I can.
00:08:07 - Put some things in there.
00:08:09 We'll figure it out.
00:08:10 Obviously last night was not great,
00:08:14 but I'm just gonna focus on the positive
00:08:16 and not dwell on anything that's happened in the past
00:08:19 and let that be that.
00:08:21 And let's move forward.
00:08:22 Oh, look!
00:08:23 Jesse!
00:08:27 That's really cute.
00:08:31 (gentle music)
00:08:33 That's such a cute picture.
00:08:35 - Yeah, it's pretty good.
00:08:37 - We had such a good day.
00:08:38 - Yeah.
00:08:39 - So let's just try and have fun with this.
00:08:45 Let's just try and start fresh, build on our friendship.
00:08:48 Whatever's happened, happened.
00:08:50 I'm not gonna hold any grudges.
00:08:51 I just want you to know that.
00:08:52 And I just wanna like, clean slate.
00:08:56 Let's make the most of this.
00:08:58 - Yeah.
00:08:59 - Yeah?
00:09:00 - Let's do it.
00:09:01 - Okay.
00:09:02 (laughing)
00:09:06 - As Claire and Jesse agree to start over.
00:09:11 - Ready?
00:09:12 - Our other couples are settling into their new apartments.
00:09:16 - Cool, huh?
00:09:19 - The most important thing, they have a coffee machine.
00:09:21 - Beautiful.
00:09:22 - Most importantly.
00:09:23 - Yeah.
00:09:24 - Here we go.
00:09:24 - Is it gonna stick there?
00:09:26 - Yeah.
00:09:27 - Nice.
00:09:28 - Good times ahead.
00:09:30 - Here's to wedding bliss.
00:09:32 - Wedding bliss.
00:09:34 - But while most couples make themselves at home.
00:09:40 - Bronte.
00:09:41 - Bronte and Harrison are the last to check in.
00:09:44 - This is fun.
00:09:47 - Feeling a little bit nervous about moving in together.
00:09:53 But I do want this to work.
00:09:55 But my biggest fear is that we do start living together
00:09:59 and then we just keep fighting.
00:10:00 - This is nice.
00:10:02 - And last night, Harrison and I ended up in another fight.
00:10:13 I was crying.
00:10:14 He didn't even ask me if I was all right.
00:10:16 And I've come to tell you, he's acting like nothing's wrong.
00:10:22 - At last night's dinner party,
00:10:24 Harrison remained defiant over his previous relationship
00:10:28 that he claims he ended the day
00:10:30 before entering the experiment.
00:10:33 - But I just feel like it was a week ago.
00:10:35 - How long should you be single for
00:10:37 before coming in here a day, a month, a year?
00:10:38 - When you're alive for the show.
00:10:40 - What?
00:10:41 - When you're alive.
00:10:42 We're here because we can't find someone,
00:10:43 but you found someone a week before the show.
00:10:45 You can find someone, dude.
00:10:47 - But I was dating multiple people
00:10:48 before coming on to the show.
00:10:49 - Oh, okay.
00:10:50 So what are you doing here?
00:10:54 - Mel's put her two cents in where it didn't belong.
00:10:57 And no one asked for her opinion.
00:10:59 - This doesn't listen, babe.
00:11:02 - Getting that vibe.
00:11:03 - Hey, you good?
00:11:04 Do you wanna go for a chat?
00:11:07 I didn't get an apology for the things that happened.
00:11:16 And for me to truly move forward,
00:11:19 I need him to acknowledge that he's hurt me and why.
00:11:23 - Got you a cake today.
00:11:27 - Hmm?
00:11:28 - I walked past this place
00:11:30 and had the most amazing cakes in the window
00:11:32 and I thought of you and I thought I'd get you something.
00:11:35 - Um.
00:11:46 You wanna chat about anything?
00:11:52 - If you want to, it's a dinner show.
00:11:54 - Do you wanna have a chat?
00:11:57 - Um, like it's, if you want, yeah.
00:12:00 I think there's a lot of things we should talk about.
00:12:02 - Okay.
00:12:06 Take a seat.
00:12:08 So,
00:12:13 last night ended badly, again.
00:12:21 I cried, again.
00:12:24 (dramatic music)
00:12:26 And you didn't come and see if I was okay, again.
00:12:31 - You've essentially asked me for space.
00:12:37 So you've imposed a boundary on our relationship.
00:12:40 - Harrison, asking for space doesn't mean
00:12:42 that you don't stop giving genuine human kindness.
00:12:46 - I didn't know you were crying.
00:12:48 - You saw me leave with the girls crying.
00:12:51 Everyone saw me crying.
00:12:53 - No, I didn't.
00:12:54 - Bronte, if I saw you crying,
00:12:55 I would have asked if you were okay.
00:12:56 - No, you wouldn't, because every single time
00:12:57 in the past that I've cried,
00:12:59 you've never once asked if I'm okay.
00:13:00 You've never even apologized.
00:13:02 Ever. - What do I have
00:13:03 to apologize for?
00:13:04 - Oh my God, this is why I'm requesting
00:13:09 to stay in a separate room from you.
00:13:10 You're impossible.
00:13:12 Like, you're actually impossible.
00:13:14 - You can't ask for space and then hold that
00:13:16 against the person that's respecting that boundary.
00:13:19 And I feel like that's the position I'm in.
00:13:22 My hands are tied, I can't do anything.
00:13:24 - You're hurting my feelings,
00:13:26 and you don't think that you have to apologize for that?
00:13:28 You're actually impossible.
00:13:34 - Do you not think that, like, right now,
00:13:41 I'm sitting here very rationally trying
00:13:43 to have a discussion with you, and you're--
00:13:45 - I'm sorry that I'm getting mad
00:13:47 that I'm crying over and over and over,
00:13:48 and you're not seeing anything wrong with it.
00:13:51 - It's amazing you've turned this entire thing
00:13:53 into something about Brontë.
00:13:55 Do you not, like, I'm also going through
00:13:59 a lot of things at the moment.
00:14:00 - You're impossible, like, I literally cannot talk to you.
00:14:04 Like, I need out of this room.
00:14:06 Like, I literally just can't even look at you.
00:14:08 I can't (beep) stand the guy.
00:14:11 - Totally rational, well said.
00:14:16 Thanks for the insight.
00:14:19 (Brontë sighs)
00:14:21 - Well, I tried yet again, so--
00:14:25 - Don't try.
00:14:26 At all.
00:14:28 You got me a (beep) cake.
00:14:31 Cool.
00:14:32 - What are you doing for the relationship?
00:14:36 - Oh, my God, Karen. - What effort
00:14:37 are you putting in?
00:14:37 I'm not gonna talk to a closed door, Brontë.
00:14:41 If you wanna come out and have a discussion,
00:14:42 I'm happy to do it.
00:14:43 - I don't wanna talk to you.
00:14:45 - Brontë, you're making communication impossible.
00:14:47 - I'm not, oh, shit.
00:14:49 That's rich.
00:14:50 - I literally can't talk to you.
00:14:52 - I'm not talking, I'm not, I refuse.
00:14:54 I'm not talking to you.
00:14:55 I'm not coming out.
00:14:59 I'm done.
00:15:01 Right now, I'm done.
00:15:03 - I'm a pretty decent human.
00:15:07 I wanna respect the fact that she's asked for space.
00:15:10 But at the same time, every time we try
00:15:12 and have a conversation, Brontë just derails it
00:15:15 and walks off and slams the door.
00:15:17 So there's essentially no communication.
00:15:19 I just feel like this blame game
00:15:23 that Brontë's playing is not productive.
00:15:25 I'm gonna go.
00:15:28 Every time I attempt to have a conversation with Brontë,
00:15:38 it ends like this.
00:15:40 You know, the only thing I can do
00:15:41 is to move into my own place.
00:15:43 Bye.
00:15:47 (door slams)
00:15:49 - Our couples have moved in together
00:16:03 and begun settling into their new apartments.
00:16:07 - Oh, oh.
00:16:08 It's all good.
00:16:10 Okay.
00:16:12 - But lamps aren't the only casualties
00:16:15 of move-in day.
00:16:17 Brontë and Harrison have separated just minutes
00:16:20 after moving into their shared apartment.
00:16:23 - This is nice.
00:16:24 All right.
00:16:27 - I'm not a quitter, and I know that he's not a quitter,
00:16:34 but in order for us to have a healthy relationship
00:16:36 moving forward, being in an environment like this
00:16:38 is not good.
00:16:39 - Brontë couldn't wait to essentially ask me to leave.
00:16:44 - I feel like I was trying to be rational,
00:16:47 but I got confronted with a lot of blaming,
00:16:51 and it was just not productive.
00:16:53 The only way to have a discussion now
00:16:56 is for the experts to hold Brontë accountable.
00:17:12 - With the experiment in its 10th season,
00:17:15 the experts have raised the stakes,
00:17:17 and this morning are launching our couples
00:17:19 head first into Confessions Week.
00:17:22 - We have a delivery.
00:17:23 - I'm scared.
00:17:25 Oh no, it's a video.
00:17:28 Don't.
00:17:29 Am I gonna cry?
00:17:30 I don't wanna watch.
00:17:33 - You ready?
00:17:35 - No.
00:17:36 - Three, two.
00:17:41 - Hello, newlyweds.
00:17:43 Now you're settled into your apartments.
00:17:45 What better way to jump into the deep end
00:17:48 than with Confessions Week?
00:17:50 - Oh no.
00:17:50 - Confessions Week has always been
00:17:54 one of the most intense stages of the experiment,
00:17:57 where our couples' relationships are fast-tracked.
00:18:00 - Oh God.
00:18:01 - Are you nervous?
00:18:02 - Um, not at all.
00:18:03 - Okay.
00:18:04 - Yeah, I'm pretty good.
00:18:05 - The purpose of this phase is to have hard conversations
00:18:08 early, which ordinarily would take months
00:18:11 in a relationship in the outside world.
00:18:13 It's just the word confession
00:18:15 that like just makes me like anxious.
00:18:17 The tasks of Confessions Week can be confronting
00:18:20 and may uncover uncomfortable truths.
00:18:23 So it's important our couples balance honesty with empathy.
00:18:26 - Shit.
00:18:30 - The first couple to take on a Confessions Week task
00:18:36 is Tani and Oli.
00:18:38 - Chase out, girl.
00:18:40 - Oh, no, no, no, no.
00:18:42 (gasps)
00:18:45 - They had an immediate connection on their wedding day.
00:18:47 - Give me a kiss to the bride.
00:18:49 - Perfect.
00:18:49 (crowd cheering)
00:18:52 - I feel like when we kissed at the start,
00:18:56 like I felt like it was kind of like,
00:18:58 I don't know, I felt a little something.
00:18:59 - Yeah.
00:19:00 - Same.
00:19:01 - Yeah.
00:19:02 - And their relationship grew deeper
00:19:02 when honeymooning in Fiji.
00:19:04 - This is gonna be a bit.
00:19:11 (camera shutter clicks)
00:19:12 - Yeah, I should know that.
00:19:13 - So.
00:19:14 (Tani laughs)
00:19:15 - I think the relationship's going really, really well.
00:19:17 I think we're in a really good spot.
00:19:19 - Fully cut me with your toenails, bro.
00:19:22 - I think fully cut is a little bit.
00:19:26 - All right, come on, focus.
00:19:28 - Kind of growing more and more feelings for her every day,
00:19:30 I would say, yeah.
00:19:31 - But now the experts have given them
00:19:33 the photo ranking task,
00:19:35 where they must rank the brides and grooms in the experiment
00:19:39 in order of who they find most attractive.
00:19:42 - I'm not nervous, but if Tani puts me last,
00:19:44 I'd be pretty devil.
00:19:46 Let's just say that.
00:19:48 - Oh, I'm so stressed.
00:19:49 - So, we've got a few people we know.
00:19:51 - Oh, it's so awkward.
00:19:52 - The photo ranking task is one of the most
00:19:56 challenging tests our couples
00:19:58 will undertake in the experiment.
00:20:00 - Oh my God, I really hate this.
00:20:02 - This task asks our couples to reveal
00:20:05 what they find attractive in a partner.
00:20:07 In the past, it's brought couples closer together,
00:20:10 but also pushed some couples further apart.
00:20:13 The raw honesty that this task elicits
00:20:16 is crucial for this stage of the experiment,
00:20:19 but how they navigate this honesty
00:20:20 is a true indication of the strength of the relationship.
00:20:25 - I'm gonna do least to most first.
00:20:27 - Okay, you start, least.
00:20:28 - I definitely think Oli and I's relationship
00:20:30 is going from strength to strength.
00:20:32 It's kind of exciting to have things
00:20:34 thrown at us and challenges,
00:20:36 but also daunting 'cause I don't know how we're gonna go.
00:20:38 - Um...
00:20:39 (squeaking)
00:20:42 I'm gonna go...
00:20:42 Mate, his eyes are fire.
00:20:45 He's gonna be number one for me.
00:20:47 Look at those eyes.
00:20:48 Look at him, he looks really handsome.
00:20:50 - So, what we're saying here, right, essentially--
00:20:52 - Based on looks alone.
00:20:53 - Yeah, what we're saying,
00:20:55 you're out of the club,
00:20:57 you're doing your thing.
00:20:58 - At the club.
00:20:59 - All these guys are here.
00:21:01 - Yeah.
00:21:02 - And you're looking at John.
00:21:04 - It's not John.
00:21:05 - Josh.
00:21:06 - Josh.
00:21:07 (playful music)
00:21:10 - I feel like he's giving sugar daddy vibes.
00:21:12 - Okay.
00:21:13 (laughing)
00:21:14 Let's just...
00:21:15 (laughing)
00:21:17 Let's just slow down.
00:21:18 (laughing)
00:21:20 Two out of the three were men over 40.
00:21:23 It's a bit funny.
00:21:25 I'm actually, I'm 26, I'm the youngest, so...
00:21:28 So the next thing, I guess you get out me.
00:21:34 - So I, without, like, it's not even,
00:21:36 it's not even like a discussion.
00:21:38 Like, you're not even on the set, like...
00:21:41 There you go.
00:21:42 (laughing)
00:21:44 You don't seem happy about being number one.
00:21:46 - No, I am.
00:21:46 I'm not happy about the bloody picture,
00:21:48 but that's a story for another day.
00:21:50 - I definitely think Ollie is a 10 out of 10.
00:21:52 His values, everything is like really top tier for me.
00:21:56 All right, shall we do the girls?
00:21:58 - Sure.
00:22:01 - All right, so who would I approach in the club?
00:22:06 Who do I feel like I would try and talk to,
00:22:11 or I would go up and talk to,
00:22:12 or want to have a conversation with?
00:22:14 Yeah, I'd say probably this one.
00:22:17 - Claire? - First, yeah.
00:22:18 - Okay.
00:22:19 - And then where's my girl?
00:22:21 Oh my God.
00:22:25 - No, I should have had my hair down.
00:22:27 - And then my little Thai princess.
00:22:30 She's probably gonna go at the top, number one.
00:22:34 - Nah, I think you're so gorgeous.
00:22:40 - Soon as you walked down the aisle,
00:22:44 I think I was just like, "Yeah, boy."
00:22:46 And I think, yeah, no, you look so lovely on that day,
00:22:52 and you continue to every day.
00:22:54 - Give me a hug.
00:22:55 - While Tani and Ollie have completed
00:23:00 ranking the brides and grooms,
00:23:02 other couples are taking on this polarizing task.
00:23:06 - Crying out loud.
00:23:08 - Yeah, no, that can stay in there.
00:23:11 - Who the (beep) are they just,
00:23:13 they're just the same fricking person, look at that.
00:23:16 - You're getting a bit flustered there, Jesse.
00:23:18 - For me as well, it's a pretty simple one, you know.
00:23:22 - I make a difference.
00:23:28 This is just my, who I'm drawn to, from most to least.
00:23:33 - It is a marriage experiment, it's not a dating experiment,
00:23:36 and I think that anyone in this experiment right now
00:23:40 that is not finding their partner
00:23:43 the most attractive in the group
00:23:45 has got a lot of work to do.
00:23:46 - Love it.
00:23:49 Where's the blue tape?
00:23:52 - Confessions Week is Caitlin and Shannon's opportunity
00:23:55 to go deep and open up with one another.
00:23:59 Caitlin and Shannon both showed off
00:24:01 their fun personalities at their wedding.
00:24:04 - I think it's safe to say
00:24:05 that we're both absolutely shitting ourselves.
00:24:07 (laughing)
00:24:09 - I should warn you that I can be cheeky at times,
00:24:12 but I'm hoping you don't mind,
00:24:13 and that you take my hand and be my partner in crime.
00:24:16 (cheering)
00:24:18 - Yeah, you're so glad, didn't ya?
00:24:22 Right in front of mum too, oh no.
00:24:25 - And continued enjoying themselves on the honeymoon.
00:24:28 - Everything's got this funky little dude on it.
00:24:32 - That's, I think, bizarre-gy.
00:24:34 - Love is an investment.
00:24:37 Audrey Hepburn, congratulations.
00:24:39 Did Audrey Hepburn write this to us?
00:24:41 - I don't know.
00:24:42 I think she did. - Okay.
00:24:45 Oh, is she?
00:24:46 Oh, God bless her.
00:24:46 - But the photo ranking task will push Caitlin and Shannon
00:24:52 to have an open conversation about attraction,
00:24:55 in the hope that it will fast-track their connection.
00:24:59 - God, it's like a real-life Tinder, isn't it?
00:25:00 (laughing)
00:25:02 - They're all beautiful women.
00:25:03 - I like the quirkiness of this one.
00:25:06 This is tough.
00:25:07 - When I first met Shannon,
00:25:08 his willingness and enthusiasm for the experiment
00:25:11 was evident, but his ability to be empathetic
00:25:14 and compassionate needed improvement.
00:25:17 - You know, if your words match your actions,
00:25:20 big one, big winner.
00:25:21 That's me to a T as well.
00:25:23 Like, I always back with what I say.
00:25:26 - One of the beauties of this experiment
00:25:30 is people get to come in here,
00:25:32 take a look at their past patterns in relationships,
00:25:36 and make adjustments.
00:25:38 - You, as experts, have already taught me something,
00:25:40 because if I didn't watch previous shows
00:25:42 with you guys in it,
00:25:44 I would've come in here and been brutally honest.
00:25:47 Like, you know, and the biggest thing
00:25:49 that you guys taught me is you can be honest
00:25:51 without being a dick, pretty much.
00:25:54 And I'm still even learning today,
00:25:58 how do I do this without being an ass, you know?
00:26:02 - Do you know, it's one little word, empathy.
00:26:04 You put yourself in that other person's position.
00:26:08 What impact do my words and behavior have on them?
00:26:12 - Yeah.
00:26:15 - Are you watching over?
00:26:18 - Mm-hmm.
00:26:19 - Yeah, you're gonna explain to me
00:26:20 why you're choosing what you're choosing.
00:26:22 - This is gonna be a surprising one.
00:26:23 - Is it?
00:26:24 - First place.
00:26:26 - Melinda.
00:26:28 No, I'm not shocked.
00:26:30 - This one here would impress your mates.
00:26:32 It's like, hey, look who I picked up.
00:26:37 - She's someone that you'd show off to your mates.
00:26:43 - Yeah.
00:26:48 - There's like a way to express that
00:26:52 that doesn't make it seem like she's a notch on your belt
00:26:56 if you were to take her home.
00:26:57 - Usually I've tried to approach girls like this,
00:27:02 all right, just like off looks and stuff.
00:27:05 Usually, yeah, but usually they say no.
00:27:08 Usually they get an off vibe from me.
00:27:10 - Mm, that's interesting.
00:27:14 - I guess these two.
00:27:17 They're older, like, you know?
00:27:18 - Yeah, yeah, okay.
00:27:19 - Like, I'm not old enough to be their son.
00:27:21 I'm attracted to younger ladies.
00:27:26 - Yeah.
00:27:29 Like, I don't think he realizes
00:27:32 that the stuff he's saying is still
00:27:34 that sort of (beep) behavior.
00:27:37 - Like, if you picked them up,
00:27:41 you wouldn't be complaining,
00:27:42 showing them off to your mates.
00:27:43 (laughs)
00:27:48 - That's me.
00:27:49 What are your thoughts?
00:27:51 - Like, I'm so aware of all these little red flag comments.
00:27:56 - And now the moment of truth has arrived
00:27:59 where Shannon must rank Caitlin
00:28:02 in his lineup of attractiveness.
00:28:04 - I feel like there's a nice empty spot
00:28:07 waiting for me there.
00:28:08 - Yeah, I know you thought something,
00:28:09 it's like beautiful.
00:28:10 - No.
00:28:11 (dramatic music)
00:28:14 - Yeah, cute. - Absolutely.
00:28:36 - Okay.
00:28:38 - They're top three.
00:28:39 (dramatic music)
00:28:41 - No.
00:28:53 - Arigato.
00:28:59 - Um.
00:29:07 - I don't think I have anything to say.
00:29:09 - I'm just getting all the honesties out.
00:29:13 'Cause I think that's just the logic of the task.
00:29:17 - It's just 'cause I know more about you
00:29:20 and those emotional sides sort of kick in.
00:29:22 And you know, I haven't seen these girls
00:29:25 without makeup on either
00:29:26 and I've seen you without makeup on.
00:29:28 You know, you have the potential to be put over here.
00:29:36 You also have the potential just to like level up.
00:29:39 It's just tough.
00:29:45 It was pressureful as well.
00:29:46 If I went and put a second,
00:29:52 I would have been lying to myself.
00:29:54 I had to put it there.
00:29:55 Their natural beauty shines more than yours.
00:30:00 I need to be honest, I need to.
00:30:04 (dramatic music)
00:30:06 As far as relationships go,
00:30:08 all I've done through, I eat with my eyes.
00:30:10 I like to know what I see first
00:30:15 and I've always put emotion in second.
00:30:18 But now with Caitlin,
00:30:20 I'm probably gonna have to push through
00:30:21 and put the emotions first a little bit
00:30:23 because there's girls who I've seen
00:30:25 that are more attractive to me than Caitlin.
00:30:29 And I'm not gonna just put a second just to be nice.
00:30:32 (dramatic music)
00:30:35 - The intensity of Confessions Week
00:30:49 challenges our couples to reveal their true feelings.
00:30:52 For Alyssa and Duncan.
00:30:56 - Oh gosh, I'm really nervous.
00:30:58 - Their first Confessions Week task
00:31:00 will test them to see how much of their true self
00:31:03 they're willing to reveal in this phase of the experiment.
00:31:08 - I think this week allows us
00:31:11 to probably get even deeper than we have.
00:31:13 - This is like a judgment-free zone
00:31:16 and it's only gonna make us better
00:31:18 if we know more about each other.
00:31:19 - At their wedding, Duncan was impressed
00:31:23 by the values Alyssa gained from her early life.
00:31:26 Having been raised Mormon.
00:31:28 - Obviously she's had a pretty interesting upbringing.
00:31:31 She's a loving, caring, family-orientated person.
00:31:36 But a strong-willed woman who's gonna say her piece
00:31:39 and that's exactly what I want.
00:31:42 - And their shared feelings and values
00:31:45 has seen them easily navigate
00:31:47 the first phases of the experiment.
00:31:49 - Yeah, it just feels really natural
00:31:52 and amazing with Alyssa.
00:31:57 Made me feel a bit giddy actually.
00:31:59 Can't believe I just said that, that it's true.
00:32:02 - Now the experts are challenging Alyssa and Duncan
00:32:07 to open up and write a letter
00:32:10 revealing something extremely personal.
00:32:12 - The Confessions Letter task
00:32:18 has seen some of the most significant breakthroughs
00:32:21 in the experiment,
00:32:22 as it challenges our couples on two fronts.
00:32:25 To be vulnerable when sharing their story
00:32:27 and also reserve any judgment
00:32:30 when listening to their partner's confession.
00:32:32 It's vital that our couples don't waste this opportunity
00:32:35 to learn more about their partner
00:32:37 as this crucial task can uncover a secret
00:32:41 or difficult life experience
00:32:43 that will lead to a deeper understanding between them.
00:32:45 - I'm a bit nervous about this task.
00:32:50 It's a bit scary.
00:32:54 (dramatic music)
00:32:56 What I'm telling Duncan,
00:32:58 I haven't told almost anyone in my life.
00:33:03 It's not something that I'm proud of
00:33:05 and it could definitely change his perception of me.
00:33:08 But for this to work,
00:33:10 it's important that he trusts
00:33:11 that it's not going to happen again.
00:33:14 And I know that's gonna be a big ask.
00:33:16 Hi.
00:33:19 - Hey.
00:33:21 - But you know, I'm ready to put my heart on the line
00:33:23 and surrender to this experiment,
00:33:25 which is what I came for.
00:33:27 - Ladies first.
00:33:28 - Great.
00:33:29 Okay, I'm really anxious.
00:33:32 I guess I'll just read it.
00:33:34 Duncan.
00:33:40 What I'm about to tell you is really difficult.
00:33:47 It's not easy for me to admit this part of my past.
00:33:51 And yeah, it's been like a big fear that I've been hiding.
00:33:59 But if we really want this marriage to work,
00:34:02 I definitely need you to know.
00:34:04 I was complicit in an affair.
00:34:16 I was the other woman
00:34:18 and I knew that he was a married man.
00:34:44 I was completely shocked when she said that.
00:34:49 I did not expect that at all.
00:34:56 I was cheated on when I was younger.
00:35:00 I was a shell on myself when it happened to me.
00:35:03 It rips people apart.
00:35:06 - It's not something I'm proud of and deeply ashamed for,
00:35:12 but it's something that I've been able to learn from.
00:35:16 And I also know now it will absolutely never happen again.
00:35:20 And I never want it in the future.
00:35:24 So if you have any questions, I'm obviously an open book.
00:35:41 (dramatic music)
00:35:43 - Pretty shocked.
00:35:48 I didn't think that
00:35:50 you would have a confession like this.
00:35:56 - I didn't really know how Duncan was gonna react,
00:36:04 but I do feel like I was getting judged.
00:36:09 I can understand when people stuff up
00:36:14 sometimes when they go out.
00:36:16 But if you like willingly went into something
00:36:21 with someone that was married, then
00:36:23 that's not a mistake, right?
00:36:29 It's a choice.
00:36:31 That's extremely poor behavior.
00:36:35 (dramatic music)
00:36:38 - Yeah, I definitely don't think he took it that well.
00:36:42 So it's a bit scary.
00:36:47 Tears.
00:36:48 We literally-
00:36:51 - I'm still trying to process it all.
00:36:52 I don't know if I have the right questions to ask.
00:36:56 - It's just a shock.
00:37:04 (dramatic music)
00:37:06 So far, things with Alyssa have been great,
00:37:11 but when you hear a story like that,
00:37:14 you question people's moral compass.
00:37:18 Trust takes a long time to build,
00:37:22 and it breaks in a second.
00:37:24 And
00:37:25 stories like that make it hard.
00:37:30 (dramatic music)
00:37:33 - A new day in Confessions Week
00:37:53 sees Alyssa and Duncan still reeling.
00:37:56 After Alyssa revealed yesterday
00:37:58 she was once in a relationship with a married man.
00:38:01 - Yeah, waking up this morning sucks.
00:38:07 Things have been going so well for Duncan and I.
00:38:11 It's like we've been living on cloud nine,
00:38:15 and then it's just like it's taken like a huge dive.
00:38:19 Feeling like really hurt
00:38:22 and like embarrassed, if anything,
00:38:27 because what I confessed to Duncan
00:38:30 about a previous relationship that I was in,
00:38:33 that's one of my biggest secrets ever.
00:38:38 And I do feel like I was getting judged.
00:38:41 So I think, yeah, our whole dynamic
00:38:45 has changed because of this.
00:38:47 - Shocked by Alyssa's revelation,
00:38:51 today Duncan is ready to discuss his wife's confession.
00:38:56 (dramatic music)
00:38:59 - I think there's a few things.
00:39:00 One, like understanding more about the context of it,
00:39:08 like how long it went for.
00:39:10 - Six months.
00:39:12 He had told me that his marriage
00:39:18 was kind of like circumstantial.
00:39:20 So like it wasn't like an actual real marriage.
00:39:25 And that's just me basically being super gullible
00:39:28 and believing everything that he said.
00:39:30 And I think that just goes back to my faith, right?
00:39:37 Like growing up as Mormon,
00:39:40 like it's a very sheltered way of growing up.
00:39:43 So I trusted him, you know what I mean?
00:39:46 (dramatic music)
00:39:49 I don't really have anything else to say.
00:39:59 - It's...
00:40:14 (dramatic music)
00:40:16 Everyone makes mistakes.
00:40:22 Everyone does stuff that they don't like from their past.
00:40:25 It doesn't change how I feel about you in any way.
00:40:42 If anything, I probably feel a bit closer
00:40:46 because you told me something that you really didn't have to
00:40:49 and something that you knew probably I wouldn't like,
00:40:53 but you told me anyway.
00:40:54 I've pretty much,
00:40:59 I'm pretty much at peace about what you said because
00:41:11 I think that I know you deep down,
00:41:15 which sounds really weird to say after eight days.
00:41:18 I think that you are a very genuine person
00:41:23 and that this could be something really great.
00:41:28 - I'm feeling much better after having a chat with him.
00:41:32 Do I think we can get through this?
00:41:36 Definitely.
00:41:39 - As Alyssa and Duncan restore the confidence
00:41:41 in their relationship,
00:41:42 Sandy and Dan are taking on the confessions letter task,
00:41:50 each writing about a deeply significant
00:41:52 individual experience.
00:41:54 - I'm not nervous to share this experience with Dan.
00:41:59 I think it just gives him a better understanding of me.
00:42:03 But because I'm now at a point in my life
00:42:06 where I'm very much confident in who I am,
00:42:09 where I've come from, what my background is,
00:42:12 it's something that I actually feel empowered to share.
00:42:15 Both my parents are Indian Punjabi.
00:42:22 So I'm a first generation Australian.
00:42:24 When I was growing up,
00:42:27 I went to a school that was heavily Caucasian.
00:42:30 There weren't many brown kids around.
00:42:34 So I felt like growing up, I was the ugly duckling.
00:42:37 - You finished?
00:42:43 - Yeah, all done.
00:42:44 - Good.
00:42:45 - I think what I'm gonna share with Dan today
00:42:46 will give him a good indication of why I am so passionate
00:42:49 about my culture and wanting to share that
00:42:51 with him and others.
00:42:52 Like the story in itself is a big one
00:42:54 'cause it's something that stayed with me.
00:42:55 Like even now it's something that I'm just insecure about.
00:42:59 Okay.
00:42:59 (sad music)
00:43:02 Dear Dan, I want to share with you an experience
00:43:13 from my childhood, which I feel has had a significant impact
00:43:16 on me and who I am as a person.
00:43:18 When I started school, I experienced firsthand comments
00:43:25 about the way I smelled or dressed
00:43:27 as a first generation Indian girl growing up
00:43:29 in Australia.
00:43:30 One boy in particular would make comments like, "You stink."
00:43:36 What he referred to as stink was the smell
00:43:38 of my mother's home cooked Indian food.
00:43:40 This experience hindered me in my early years,
00:43:48 but is now something that helps me embrace
00:43:50 who I am and my culture.
00:43:52 But there is always a small fear of judgment,
00:43:59 whether it's to do with the way I look or who I am.
00:44:02 A part of me will think back to that time
00:44:05 and put up barriers, especially when I don't feel accepted.
00:44:08 The issue is it's more, you know,
00:44:17 there's things people say, it's not just that comment.
00:44:20 It's just being different and all that sort of thing.
00:44:23 - The judgment.
00:44:24 - Yeah, the judgment, not feeling accepted.
00:44:26 It all ties back to that for me more than anything.
00:44:29 Like I accept who I am now,
00:44:30 but I think obviously there's always gonna be
00:44:33 little parts of me when I feel like the other person
00:44:35 maybe doesn't accept who I am or parts of me or whatever,
00:44:39 then that's when the barriers come up or...
00:44:41 - Yeah.
00:44:42 So for me, how can I support you in that?
00:44:48 And is it just more reassurance or...
00:44:53 - Yeah, no, I think you've been good.
00:44:55 So far, like it's just something I thought I should share.
00:44:58 It gives you some insight into maybe sometimes
00:45:02 why I am so big on wanting to share my culture
00:45:04 and make such a big point of how I am different
00:45:08 and that that's okay.
00:45:09 It's okay to be different.
00:45:11 There's two levels to why sharing this experience
00:45:13 is important.
00:45:13 Obviously with Dan to deepen our relationship,
00:45:17 but also just for people to realize
00:45:19 that sometimes those words that you say to others,
00:45:22 they stick with them.
00:45:25 That one little comment that you've just thrown out there
00:45:29 can affect someone for the rest of their life.
00:45:31 - Thank you for sharing.
00:45:34 I appreciate it.
00:45:34 It's always hard to talk about those insecurities
00:45:39 and the vulnerability side of things.
00:45:42 It's good to know because me having an understanding of that
00:45:46 just makes me feel more aware in terms of like,
00:45:49 how I can show up better for you in all of this as well.
00:45:54 - I appreciate that.
00:45:55 - Yeah, yep.
00:45:55 - I think if we all thought about our comments
00:45:59 a little bit more,
00:46:00 maybe we'd be in a happier place, that's for sure.
00:46:04 - Can I have a hug?
00:46:05 - You can have a hug.
00:46:06 - I love a hug.
00:46:08 - Just kindness, just be kind.
00:46:11 - Feel good?
00:46:17 - Mm-hmm.
00:46:17 - Coming up.
00:46:24 - This is a very hard topic for me to talk about.
00:46:28 - Jesse reveals his past heartbreak.
00:46:30 - One measure of love is how much you tolerate.
00:46:34 - Our love languages are completely different.
00:46:41 - Harrison listens, but Bronte remains unheard.
00:46:45 - You don't hear me, Harrison.
00:46:46 - I'm here listening to you now.
00:46:47 - I'm trying, but you still don't hear me.
00:46:50 - It's so vague, I can't follow it.
00:46:51 - How is it vague?
00:46:52 I was crying.
00:46:53 And there's been a lot of times you've upset me.
00:46:55 - And Caitlin overhears a late night conversation.
00:47:01 - There was a phone call that he had tonight.
00:47:03 He came inside in tears.
00:47:05 I said, "Were you on the phone to your ex?"
00:47:09 And he said, "Yes."
00:47:10 I don't know where that leaves me.
00:47:19 (dramatic music)
00:47:22 - The Confessions Week tasks our couples are undertaking
00:47:33 push them to be honest,
00:47:35 with the aim of fast-tracking a connection.
00:47:38 For Bronte and Harrison,
00:47:44 taking on the photo ranking task is fraught with danger.
00:47:48 After an argument earlier this week
00:47:50 ended with them moving into separate apartments.
00:47:54 - The idea of doing tasks with Harrison makes me nervous
00:47:58 because I just don't want another fight.
00:48:00 There's a side to me that he brings out
00:48:04 that I don't particularly like.
00:48:05 I get snappy.
00:48:09 I get emotional.
00:48:11 So I really hope that this task
00:48:16 doesn't push us in the wrong direction.
00:48:18 - Cool.
00:48:19 Physical attraction is important
00:48:26 in any romantic relationship.
00:48:27 From left to right,
00:48:29 place the photos in order of who you find most attractive
00:48:32 to who you are least attracted to.
00:48:34 - I mean, talk about adding fuel to the fire.
00:48:38 This is really like adding napalm to the fire.
00:48:45 - Yeah, all right, let's do it.
00:48:46 - Let's do it.
00:48:47 Total honesty.
00:48:48 All we've gotta do.
00:48:50 - It's always worked well for us in the past, so.
00:48:52 - Just gotta be honest with yourself.
00:48:55 I'm gonna be totally honest.
00:48:57 - Okay.
00:48:57 I'm looking forward to that.
00:48:59 - Amazing.
00:49:00 Okay.
00:49:06 See, aesthetically, like,
00:49:12 he is what I would usually go for.
00:49:13 European looking, dark hair, dark eyes, facial hair,
00:49:17 like, that's my vibe.
00:49:18 - Adam, Dan, Oli, Shannon.
00:49:29 - Okay.
00:49:32 I've got a type,
00:49:33 but that's not why we're here.
00:49:35 This is just off my, like, aesthetic.
00:49:37 - Hey, mute.
00:49:38 I'm not judging.
00:49:39 You do what you gotta do.
00:49:40 - Cool.
00:49:41 So, I think it's time to pop you in there.
00:49:45 - Sweet, do it.
00:49:45 Let's go.
00:49:46 - Okay.
00:49:48 Cool.
00:49:49 Okay.
00:49:51 So, based on physical attraction,
00:49:55 I'm being 100% honest.
00:49:57 Okay, so I'm actually gonna pop you right here.
00:50:00 Duncan is what I usually look for
00:50:05 and what I'm physically attracted to,
00:50:07 but I'm here with you
00:50:08 and we've got to work through, obviously, our issues
00:50:13 and I need somebody who's sensitive and empathetic
00:50:17 and who wants to work through this, so.
00:50:20 - Well, you're looking at him.
00:50:21 - I disagree with that, completely.
00:50:25 Who's the 20 year old that you have on the outside?
00:50:27 - I was seeing a number of girls
00:50:28 before I came into this.
00:50:30 Do I feel sexual chemistry with you?
00:50:32 Look, not at the moment.
00:50:37 I want you to show me that you're in this as much as I am.
00:50:40 - I'm never asking her to prove it.
00:50:42 - You need to show her.
00:50:44 - Wow.
00:50:45 - He just makes me cry all the time.
00:50:48 - All right, well, that was eye opening.
00:50:51 Yeah.
00:50:53 - I'm struggling to see past everything,
00:50:56 but again, it's our communication.
00:50:59 Our love languages are completely different.
00:51:02 Your love language is giving me cupcakes.
00:51:05 - And what's yours?
00:51:07 - Mine's words of affirmation
00:51:09 and admitting when you're wrong
00:51:11 and you haven't done that yet.
00:51:12 'Cause you don't feel like you need to apologise
00:51:15 for hurting someone's feelings.
00:51:16 - Explain why I need to.
00:51:18 Explain to me why I need to apologise.
00:51:19 - But it's common sense.
00:51:21 Like it's common human decency to say,
00:51:24 I'm so sorry that I upset you.
00:51:26 Buying me a little cupcake is not an apology.
00:51:29 - Brontë, look.
00:51:31 - It's not.
00:51:32 - Brontë, I'm respecting what you've asked for,
00:51:35 which is space.
00:51:36 You can't hold it against me that I give you space.
00:51:38 - Of course I was asking for space
00:51:39 because you weren't giving me what I was asking for.
00:51:42 You don't hear me, Harrison.
00:51:44 - I'm here listening to you now.
00:51:45 You're not saying anything. - I'm trying, I'm trying.
00:51:46 Because I've already said what I needed to say
00:51:49 and you still don't hear me.
00:51:49 - It's so vague.
00:51:51 I can't follow it. - How is it vague?
00:51:52 I was crying.
00:51:53 - And there's been a lot of times you've upset me.
00:51:55 The task was to rate the other couples
00:52:02 in order of attractiveness,
00:52:04 but it's also an opportunity
00:52:05 where Brontë and I are in the same room.
00:52:07 And I kind of took the opportunity to say,
00:52:08 "Look, let's have it out."
00:52:10 - This is what I need.
00:52:14 I need you to be more vulnerable with me.
00:52:16 'Cause I don't--
00:52:17 - Brontë, Brontë, I've gotta stop you there.
00:52:19 My issue has never been that I'm not opening up to you.
00:52:21 So don't go there.
00:52:22 - Oh, it kind of is.
00:52:24 'Cause you keep saying you're fine.
00:52:25 - This attitude that you're displaying
00:52:30 is very disrespectful to me and my feelings.
00:52:32 - I don't have an attitude.
00:52:35 I'm hurt.
00:52:36 And I'm trying--
00:52:39 - Well, it's very, very unattractive.
00:52:41 But I feel like our relationship
00:52:48 has essentially been put into a holding pattern
00:52:50 because you've asked me for space
00:52:53 and I have to respect that.
00:52:54 Right?
00:52:55 But at the same time,
00:52:56 I see no attempt from you to reconcile things.
00:52:59 I felt like you abandoned me.
00:53:01 And I don't know where we go from here
00:53:04 because I'm trying, I'm willing.
00:53:07 - But this is not easy for me in any way
00:53:13 to let somebody in that essentially I've just,
00:53:18 from the very first few hours that we knew each other,
00:53:22 my worst nightmare had come to life.
00:53:23 But I don't want you to feel abandoned.
00:53:27 Like, you know, I abandoned my--
00:53:29 - I do feel that.
00:53:30 But that's not my intention.
00:53:34 It's not to abandon you.
00:53:35 If I'd abandoned you,
00:53:37 I would have literally got on a plane.
00:53:39 - It might not be your intention,
00:53:40 but it is your behavior.
00:53:42 - I don't feel that way.
00:53:47 - You don't feel like you've abandoned this relationship?
00:53:49 - No, I really don't 'cause I'm still here.
00:53:51 But the way that we communicate, Harrison--
00:53:56 - I don't think that there's an issue
00:53:57 with the way that I communicate.
00:53:59 I feel like I've sat here
00:54:00 and listened to everything you've had to say.
00:54:01 I've never been the one to walk off from you.
00:54:04 I don't get upset.
00:54:05 - There's just things that trigger me.
00:54:07 That's why I walk away.
00:54:09 I get triggered.
00:54:11 - Right, so it's not an issue with the way we communicate.
00:54:13 It's an issue with the way you communicate.
00:54:15 (dramatic music)
00:54:19 (Harrison sighs)
00:54:22 - Confessions Week allows our couples
00:54:31 the opportunity to discuss topics
00:54:34 that would normally take years to surface
00:54:36 in a relationship outside the experiment.
00:54:39 - You ready for this or what?
00:54:40 - Yeah.
00:54:41 I mean, as ready as I'll ever be.
00:54:43 - Yeah?
00:54:44 It's really important for me to tell you this.
00:54:47 As you're now my wife,
00:54:48 and I want you to know everything about me.
00:54:51 - I want to confess why I haven't had a relationship before.
00:54:54 I think the reason is because
00:54:56 of the wild lifestyle I have lived.
00:54:58 And I wanted you to know that I'm committed to changing.
00:55:02 I wanna tell you about my biggest fear,
00:55:05 and that's a fear of commitment.
00:55:08 - That makes two of us.
00:55:13 Always similarities.
00:55:14 And now this time, not a good one.
00:55:17 - For Claire and Jesse,
00:55:22 this week represents a fresh start.
00:55:24 But Jesse is apprehensive about the confession letter task.
00:55:29 - This task is one that I'm not
00:55:34 comfortable nor excited about.
00:55:38 The part of me I'm sharing with Claire today
00:55:40 is my last relationship,
00:55:43 and how that kind of shaped me into what she sees today.
00:55:48 Why I don't chase chicks these days.
00:55:54 This is a very hard topic for me to talk about.
00:55:57 And when trying to share this with friends in the past,
00:56:02 I have received responses in defense of my ex's actions.
00:56:10 And I'm nervous that Claire could give a response like that.
00:56:15 Ready?
00:56:21 - I'm ready.
00:56:22 - Dear Claire, this is Jesse.
00:56:25 We got married last week.
00:56:29 It was pretty good.
00:56:30 My confession to you is that I've never been
00:56:35 in a healthy relationship.
00:56:37 (somber music)
00:56:39 - Oh yes, it is all right, it's okay.
00:56:57 - But it was the last relationship that did all the damage.
00:57:06 (somber music)
00:57:08 I was kept a secret for two entire years.
00:57:14 I never met any of my ex's friends or family.
00:57:18 The relationship had no trust,
00:57:26 and we never went out and did anything with anyone.
00:57:35 This increased the severity
00:57:36 of all the other challenges that we had.
00:57:38 One measure of love is
00:57:45 how much you tolerate.
00:57:53 How much you endure, forgive, and allow.
00:58:03 If I allowed my ex to keep me a secret for two years,
00:58:07 you can take to the bank just how much I loved her.
00:58:09 When the relationship came to an end,
00:58:18 I was left feeling like a ghost.
00:58:20 Here I am seven years later,
00:58:23 processing the small remains of the emotional,
00:58:25 mental, and spiritual trauma I experienced.
00:58:29 That same trauma makes up how I operate
00:58:31 towards dating these days.
00:58:34 Anyway, see you at dinner.
00:58:36 From Jesse.
00:58:36 - My heart.
00:58:43 Like, my heart.
00:58:45 Imagine being hid for two years.
00:58:49 It makes me really sad for him.
00:58:50 I couldn't ever imagine feeling that way.
00:58:52 I'm really sorry you went through that.
00:58:56 That must be really hard.
00:58:57 Thank you for sharing that with me.
00:59:01 Do you think maybe that's why you have so many, like,
00:59:03 red flags and so many ics
00:59:05 that you don't really give the person an opportunity?
00:59:07 - Yeah, it's a screening thing.
00:59:12 - Do you think you've done that with me?
00:59:14 - Oh, yeah.
00:59:15 Absolutely.
00:59:17 - There's so much power in being vulnerable, though.
00:59:21 I love that.
00:59:22 It's like my favorite side of you is your soft side.
00:59:24 - I'm so sorry.
00:59:28 - It's okay.
00:59:29 When you're, like, real and you talk and you get deep,
00:59:32 like, sharing stuff like that,
00:59:34 it makes me just like you so much more
00:59:36 because I can understand you.
00:59:37 - I think that was exactly what we needed.
00:59:42 I really do.
00:59:44 I guess I can understand why he has walls up
00:59:48 rather than just taking it personally.
00:59:50 I think there may be, like, a little leaf turned over.
00:59:56 - 'Cause I mean, in the space of, what, an hour,
01:00:00 like, how much has it changed?
01:00:01 - It's nice.
01:00:02 It's been really nice.
01:00:03 - Getting vulnerable with Claire is initially
01:00:07 not something I really wanted to do.
01:00:10 Didn't really want to go there.
01:00:12 But there seems to be, from Claire,
01:00:15 a lot of understanding and empathy.
01:00:18 I wasn't expecting that.
01:00:22 And I've realized just how much I've been putting walls up.
01:00:27 I gotta admit, it's caused a lot of problems between us.
01:00:30 - I can objectively say that Claire's
01:00:33 a well-meaning person.
01:00:37 But yeah.
01:00:41 This whole thing has brought us closer together.
01:00:46 (gentle music)
01:00:49 (dramatic music)
01:00:57 - After another day of Confessions Week,
01:01:03 our newlyweds have deepened their understanding
01:01:06 of one another.
01:01:07 - My life's getting better each day.
01:01:09 We've made progress today.
01:01:11 And I realized Claire is a loud person,
01:01:14 but this is just her trying to connect.
01:01:17 She's not trying to piss me off.
01:01:19 - Oh!
01:01:20 - This is just, it's just her.
01:01:23 And I can work with that.
01:01:26 - Wow!
01:01:27 - Oh, shit!
01:01:28 (laughing)
01:01:30 - Okay, no balls in the house.
01:01:36 (dramatic music)
01:01:42 - And while some couples have reconnected,
01:01:45 others are thriving.
01:01:47 - I was thinking maybe we could read a bedtime story
01:01:50 before we go to sleep.
01:01:51 - All right, okay.
01:01:53 - The Tales of 1D.
01:01:55 - The Tales of 1D.
01:01:56 All right.
01:01:58 Are you gonna do it from the beginning or?
01:02:00 - I don't think it's a chronological book, if I'm honest.
01:02:03 (dramatic music)
01:02:10 - And as most couples are winding down for the evening,
01:02:14 Caitlin has overheard her husband, Shannon,
01:02:18 taking a phone call in the hallway.
01:02:20 - There was a phone call that he had tonight.
01:02:26 He came inside in tears.
01:02:28 And I asked if he was okay.
01:02:31 And I said, "Were you on the phone to your ex?"
01:02:36 And he said, "Yes."
01:02:38 (dramatic music)
01:02:40 Like I came here to potentially find love
01:02:43 and for someone to match me up.
01:02:45 So I will be devastated if there is a point
01:02:48 in which he's like, "You know what?
01:02:50 "I'm not over my ex."
01:02:51 - I was in a relationship for seven years.
01:02:58 I was engaged.
01:02:58 I spent seven years and I had a daughter with her as well.
01:03:01 I mean, it was great, but there was always breakups.
01:03:04 And it just seemed like our paths were just going
01:03:07 two separate ways.
01:03:08 - You have this love relapse where it's like,
01:03:10 "No, I want you back, I want you back."
01:03:11 And then, "No," and it doesn't work.
01:03:13 It's this thing, monotonous cycle.
01:03:15 - When he first entered the experiment,
01:03:18 Shannon was open with us about his past relationships,
01:03:21 particularly the on and off nature
01:03:23 of his engagement with his ex.
01:03:25 What's the thing you're looking forward to the most
01:03:28 about your next relationship?
01:03:30 - I wanna get married because I want that full commitment
01:03:32 with someone.
01:03:33 Hoping that companionship just lasts for a long time.
01:03:36 It's just as long as you guys grasp the fact
01:03:38 that I'm in this and trust you guys,
01:03:42 even like just with the whole experiment itself.
01:03:44 - I can see that.
01:03:45 I can see that you're in it.
01:03:46 - I know there's gonna be challenges,
01:03:48 but I'm just gonna embrace it.
01:03:51 - All of our participants carry the weight
01:03:53 of their past experiences with them.
01:03:55 But by entering the experiment,
01:03:57 they're making a commitment to the process
01:03:59 and most importantly, to the partner we've matched them with.
01:04:05 - After overhearing Shannon's phone call with his ex,
01:04:08 Kaitlin has some questions.
01:04:10 - He had an emotional phone call with his ex tonight,
01:04:17 which I think brought off a lot of emotions for him.
01:04:20 - All right, it's fine.
01:04:27 Just ask away.
01:04:28 - You're on the phone to your ex.
01:04:31 So I just wanna like check on where your head's at,
01:04:34 where we're at, how we're moving forward.
01:04:38 Like, how are you feeling?
01:04:39 - I honestly don't know.
01:04:45 - It's like obviously brought up like a lot of concerns
01:04:53 for me personally.
01:04:55 - What I'll do.
01:05:03 - Like, there's just so many emotions
01:05:05 like going through me right now.
01:05:07 But sometimes you just can't,
01:05:10 you just, you can't help what your heart speaks sometimes.
01:05:14 - Is there anything else you feel like you need to say
01:05:17 or you need to get off your chest or?
01:05:19 I just want you to speak your truth.
01:05:22 - I've come from a toxic relationship.
01:05:29 It was seven years on and off, on and off, on and off.
01:05:33 Like a breakup that we had, it was 12 months ago.
01:05:36 And then we tried again for my kid.
01:05:42 I seriously was coming into that like this,
01:05:49 I wanted to break that cycle.
01:05:51 And I just feel like I can't, I (beep) can't.
01:05:57 (dramatic music)
01:06:00 But I'm still thinking about my ex.
01:06:06 Like maybe this is just a hit, I don't know.
01:06:11 Like I do, like I still,
01:06:13 I hate the fact that I say this, but I still love her.
01:06:15 (dramatic music)
01:06:18 (dramatic music)
01:06:30 - After overhearing Shannon have an emotional phone call
01:06:36 with his ex, Caitlin is asking her husband
01:06:39 to reveal his true feelings.
01:06:42 - I've come from a toxic relationship.
01:06:46 It was seven years on and off, on and off, on and off.
01:06:50 Like a breakup that we had, it was 12 months ago.
01:06:53 Like I do, like I still,
01:06:58 I hate the fact that I say this, but I still love her.
01:07:01 (dramatic music)
01:07:11 - I've got so much respect to you
01:07:13 and I'm not just gonna lie, I can't do it.
01:07:17 Like you're an absolute saint.
01:07:18 (sighs)
01:07:22 I just feel like I'm leading two people on.
01:07:30 - You're not leading me on,
01:07:34 I'm well aware of like the situation.
01:07:36 Now.
01:07:40 (dramatic music)
01:07:42 (dramatic music)
01:08:09 - So, where does that leave you?
01:08:13 - Can I cry now?
01:08:18 Like is that okay?
01:08:18 (dramatic music)
01:08:21 (Caitlin crying)
01:08:27 (Caitlin crying)
01:08:37 - Okay.
01:08:38 (dramatic music)
01:08:40 - Um, I don't know where that leaves me.
01:08:49 (dramatic music)
01:08:52 I'm always, I'm always in this position.
01:09:01 (dramatic music)
01:09:04 So I'm new.
01:09:05 (dramatic music)
01:09:07 I was just hoping that this time maybe,
01:09:14 I'd be with someone who could love me.
01:09:20 (dramatic music)
01:09:23 But no, no.
01:09:24 (Caitlin crying)
01:09:27 That I'm not surprised.
01:09:28 (dramatic music)
01:09:34 (Caitlin sighing)
01:09:36 Shit.
01:09:37 (dramatic music)
01:09:40 (upbeat music)