"It's SELFISH to have more than three kids"

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Credit: SWNS   A mum says it is "selfish" and "irresponsible" to have more than three kids – as parents can’t give them "enough attention".  Aurora McCausland, 28, feels parents of three or more children can't dedicate enough time to each of them individually.  The mum - who has two sons Bastian, six, and Rosen, four - believes it is "irresponsible" to have a large family.

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00:00 The decision to have children is selfish because the children don't have any say in the matter.

00:06 They don't, they're not asking.

00:08 My husband and I decided that we wanted to have kids.

00:16 We originally wanted five children.

00:18 After getting pregnant with our first and having one, we realized really, really quickly that, you know,

00:25 we really couldn't have more kids than we had arms.

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00:41 Having two kids, one for each of us to pay attention to, so that way nobody was ever left out,

00:46 nobody ever felt neglected, nobody ever felt like there weren't enough parents for them.

00:52 And so, for us, we decided pretty much immediately two kids is our maximum.

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01:04 I think that everyone's individual threshold is going to be slightly different.

01:07 You know, I can imagine that some parents could handle three or four kids, you know,

01:12 that they could handle maybe a few more than I could.

01:15 I think that a lot of people view having children as a selfless thing.

01:19 They view it as, "I'm sacrificing my time and my energy for these children. That's so selfless."

01:25 And while that sounds selfless, the decision to have children is selfish

01:30 because the children don't have any say in the matter.

01:33 They don't, they're not asking.

01:35 I had children for me, not for my children.

01:38 You know, that's a decision that my husband and I wanted,

01:41 not because our children could have wanted that.

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