Things to Remember When a Friendship Ends
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Things to Remember , When a Friendship Ends.
NPR spoke with the author of 'Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — And Keep — Friends,' Marisa Franco.
She gave advice if you're dealing with losing a friend. .
1. Remember that things simply fizzle out sometimes, A 2009 study found that on average, every seven years, people lose close to half of their friends.
Nobody really necessarily wanted
the friendship to end, but people kind
of got busy and didn't intentionally
maintain the friendship, Marisa Franco, author of 'Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — And Keep — Friends,' via NPR.
2. Say things you've withheld, Address issues instead of pulling away.
For me, ... in the past I would withdraw, and
thus the friendship would no longer be
sustainable. But now I know that if I want to
withdraw, that's a sign. That's a sign that I need
to have a conversation about something, Marisa Franco, author of 'Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — And Keep — Friends,' via NPR.
3. Grief over a lost friendship is normal, Allow yourself the time to feel these emotions.
We think ... What's wrong with me? Instead of
being like ... of course I'm sad. Of course I'm
upset. Like I lost someone I'm very close to.
That means I love them deeply. .... This is
a natural part of intimacy and loss, Marisa Franco, author of 'Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — And Keep — Friends,' via NPR.
4. Express your emotions, Grief doesn't have a timeline.
Grief is just a process of continuously
releasing emotion and little nuggets over time.
If there's a friend that makes me feel safe,
and no matter what you share with them,
they're going to validate it and acknowledge
the extent of the loss, Marisa Franco, author of 'Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — And Keep — Friends,' via NPR.
5. Be nice to yourself, The loss of the friendship isn't necessarily
your fault and doesn't mean you won't
have other meaningful friendships.
Just because this happened like this doesn't
mean more friendships will happen like this, Marisa Franco, author of 'Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — And Keep — Friends,' via NPR
NPR spoke with the author of 'Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — And Keep — Friends,' Marisa Franco.
She gave advice if you're dealing with losing a friend. .
1. Remember that things simply fizzle out sometimes, A 2009 study found that on average, every seven years, people lose close to half of their friends.
Nobody really necessarily wanted
the friendship to end, but people kind
of got busy and didn't intentionally
maintain the friendship, Marisa Franco, author of 'Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — And Keep — Friends,' via NPR.
2. Say things you've withheld, Address issues instead of pulling away.
For me, ... in the past I would withdraw, and
thus the friendship would no longer be
sustainable. But now I know that if I want to
withdraw, that's a sign. That's a sign that I need
to have a conversation about something, Marisa Franco, author of 'Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — And Keep — Friends,' via NPR.
3. Grief over a lost friendship is normal, Allow yourself the time to feel these emotions.
We think ... What's wrong with me? Instead of
being like ... of course I'm sad. Of course I'm
upset. Like I lost someone I'm very close to.
That means I love them deeply. .... This is
a natural part of intimacy and loss, Marisa Franco, author of 'Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — And Keep — Friends,' via NPR.
4. Express your emotions, Grief doesn't have a timeline.
Grief is just a process of continuously
releasing emotion and little nuggets over time.
If there's a friend that makes me feel safe,
and no matter what you share with them,
they're going to validate it and acknowledge
the extent of the loss, Marisa Franco, author of 'Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — And Keep — Friends,' via NPR.
5. Be nice to yourself, The loss of the friendship isn't necessarily
your fault and doesn't mean you won't
have other meaningful friendships.
Just because this happened like this doesn't
mean more friendships will happen like this, Marisa Franco, author of 'Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — And Keep — Friends,' via NPR