My Husband Helps To Pick The Men I Date | LOVE DON'T JUDGE
ALEX, 31, met her husband Mitch, 31, when they were teenagers living on the Island of Guernsey, where they grew up. The couple were close but weren't official until they were both living in England several years later. Now married for 10 years, the couple shares four children and are happier than ever. Although content in their relationship, the couple have faced significant backlash due to their decision for Alex to do OnlyFans alongside dating other men. Trolls judge the couple because Mitch supports Alex going on dates, whilst he stays home looking after their children. Alex has been called a 'bad mother' whilst Mitch has been labelled a 'simp' and a 'disgrace' for his decision to support Alex. Mitch is unfazed by Alex meeting with other men, and believes having one partner in life isn't realistic but admits he has no urge to date other women. As well as going on dates with other guys, Alex also has a 'sugar daddy' who has paid for holidays, meals out and her dates. Mitch says: "If someone was prepared to pay for all that for me, I wouldn't turn it down," and sees no problem in Alex receiving financial support from another man. The couple believe they have such a strong relationship because of trust and communication, something they continuously commit to. They believe their relationship is 'real life', their love for one another is rare, and they couldn't go through life without each other. Alex and Mitch believe people need to be more open-minded to the world's varying types of relationships, and there is no rule book as to what makes a perfect relationship.
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00:00 This is Alex.
00:02 She fell in love with Mitch.
00:04 But Alex isn't just romantically involved
00:07 with her husband.
00:08 - I date other people whilst my husband's at home.
00:11 - It would be way more upsetting for me
00:13 to see her walking down the street
00:15 holding hands with someone else
00:16 rather than having sex with someone else.
00:18 - But the couple's unconventional arrangements
00:21 have brought them judgment online.
00:22 - That ain't a husband, he wants to be a pimp.
00:25 I'm a bad wife.
00:26 People have said that our relationship's just weird.
00:30 - And whilst Alex frequently dates other men,
00:33 the same is not the case for Mitch.
00:35 - The thought of Mitch dating another woman,
00:39 it's like, no.
00:40 (laughing)
00:43 - So today I am looking at dresses
00:51 for pictures for my dating profile
00:54 and I'm gonna show you my husband Mitch
00:56 for some options.
00:57 I think I'm gonna take this one to Mitch
01:00 to see what he thinks.
01:01 We first met when we were 14 years old.
01:05 He just stopped and gawked at me
01:07 and he didn't know what to do.
01:09 - That's true.
01:10 - This is too much for a first date.
01:12 - Might be a little bit.
01:13 - Yeah.
01:14 - Yeah.
01:15 Went out for two weeks, you dumped me.
01:16 - Yeah, that's true.
01:17 - And then I didn't give up.
01:18 Seven years later, I got back together.
01:20 - Very persistent, yeah.
01:22 - Me and Alex have been together
01:23 for just over 10 years now.
01:26 As a couple, we are massively judged
01:29 because we don't do the traditional thing.
01:32 You know, I date other people.
01:34 Mitch is predominantly the one that's at home
01:37 with the kids, which to some people,
01:39 that's really bizarre 'cause it's usually the woman.
01:41 Some people have said I'm a bad mom,
01:43 I'm a bad wife.
01:45 People have said that our relationship's just weird.
01:49 I think when I started OnlyFans,
01:51 I faced such a big wave of judgment
01:55 that it almost gave me the confidence
01:58 to just live my life as I want to.
02:01 I said, you know, I'm thinking about opening up
02:03 a dating app, how do you feel about that?
02:06 And then it wasn't even really a long conversation,
02:08 really, was it?
02:09 - No.
02:10 - Because we've sort of had little bits
02:11 of conversation here and there,
02:13 and we've said it's not really a big deal to us.
02:15 - I think my main thing is just honesty.
02:18 - Yeah.
02:19 - Loads of people cheat, and I think the worst part
02:20 about it is the dishonesty.
02:22 I don't think people having sex with other people
02:23 is actually that big of an issue, to be honest.
02:26 - Even if I tried to lie to him about something,
02:29 he would know, you would just know,
02:31 so it's just best to always be open
02:33 about this sort of thing.
02:34 Okay, I'm ready.
02:35 Today we are going to take some new photos
02:39 for my dating profile.
02:41 - I guess some people would think it'd be quite odd,
02:43 assisting her to do the pictures for her dating profile,
02:45 but, you know, she's on OnlyFans,
02:47 and if people want to see pictures of her,
02:48 they've got the internet,
02:50 so I don't really see that it's any different.
02:52 - I'd never want to meet any of the dates.
02:54 I think that would just be a bit weird, to be honest.
02:56 - I do have a type.
02:57 - I think Alex's type is kind of a bit geeky,
03:00 more dad bod than gym bod, I would say.
03:03 - I love geeky men that are good at maths.
03:07 I don't know why, that's just my thing.
03:09 - He's really good at this times table.
03:11 (laughing)
03:13 - Times table gets you in the mood, doesn't it?
03:16 - I'm just like clever people.
03:19 - I do sometimes feel guilty about going on dates
03:23 whilst Mitch is at home.
03:25 I do feel bad, but I will text him and be like,
03:28 are you okay, is everything fine?
03:31 - I just enjoy the peace, to be honest.
03:32 I can watch whatever I want on the TV.
03:34 - Just watches football, don't you?
03:35 - Yeah, peace is just watch sport.
03:37 - He loves it.
03:38 - Play football manager in peace.
03:39 - He loves it. - He's great.
03:40 - Living his best life.
03:41 - Yeah.
03:42 - Thank you.
03:43 Just on the dating site, just having a little look.
03:48 - Right.
03:49 - With the dating, it's more of just fun.
03:52 I can't catch feelings for these people.
03:55 I can't fall in love with them
03:56 because that's what our marriage is.
03:59 That's our thing.
04:00 We're in love with each other and that's our marriage.
04:03 So this is just fun.
04:05 So I've made that very clear on my dating profile
04:08 that it is just something casual.
04:09 I'm not looking for a relationship or anything like that.
04:12 - I think it would be way more upsetting for me
04:15 to see her walking down the street,
04:17 holding hands with someone else
04:19 rather than having sex with someone else.
04:20 It's different for different people.
04:22 I think some people have that need or desire
04:25 to want to sleep with other people.
04:27 I don't believe it's a human nature
04:29 to just have one partner for the whole of your life.
04:32 Having said that, it's not something
04:33 that I'm particularly fussed about
04:35 and it's not something that I desire at this moment in time.
04:38 - The thought of Mitch dating another woman,
04:42 it's, no.
04:44 (laughing)
04:47 - I mean, why would you?
04:48 You've got me.
04:49 - It's true, yeah.
04:50 You don't go out for a burger
04:51 when you've got steak at home and all that.
04:53 - I do have a sugar daddy.
04:54 He has bought me designer bags.
04:58 He has paid for holidays.
05:01 Whenever I want a takeaway, he pays for it.
05:03 So if I'm out, I will text my sugar daddy
05:06 and he will pay for the day as well
05:09 'cause he likes to pay for the dates.
05:10 - The money side of it doesn't particularly bother me,
05:13 to be honest.
05:13 Our relationship is our relationship
05:15 and that's not gonna change.
05:16 If someone was prepared to pay for all that for me,
05:19 (laughing)
05:20 I wouldn't turn it down.
05:22 - We get so much judgment as a couple
05:25 every day on social media.
05:28 - It's like every half an hour someone says something.
05:31 That ain't a husband, he wants to be a pimp.
05:34 Extreme friend zone.
05:36 - He has a gay face.
05:38 (laughing)
05:40 What's a gay face even look like?
05:42 - Men these days are a disgrace.
05:44 - I think you just gotta have the perspective
05:46 that Twitter isn't the real world
05:48 and that 99% of people just don't care what you get up to.
05:52 - I think I'd much rather do something
05:54 that is controversial to people
05:57 than be these people typing out hate all day.
06:01 Imagine that, spending your day being really nasty
06:04 to people online.
06:05 - It's a really miserable existence to go through.
06:06 - That's really quite tragic, to be honest, isn't it?
06:09 - I mean, we get a lot of trolling as a couple,
06:11 but Alex also gets quite personal ones as well.
06:14 - Even with her pimp's approval,
06:16 I'd rather pick my nose than pick that creature for a date.
06:20 Wow.
06:21 - It's really annoying to see her get the level
06:24 of sort of abuse she gets online.
06:26 - So many people say to me,
06:27 like even other OnlyFans creators,
06:29 that I don't know how you put up with this.
06:31 I've never seen anyone get as much crap as you do.
06:33 But yeah, I am a human being.
06:35 Like some days it is really hard, isn't it?
06:38 - You show me like comments
06:39 and I look at the profile picture
06:41 and it's like a really fat, bald, ugly old man.
06:43 And you think, really?
06:46 People in glass houses should not be throwing stones.
06:48 - I have never, ever in my life ever been trolled
06:53 by a hot, successful, happy person.
06:56 - Doesn't happen.
06:57 But to be fair, it's also people making sensible points.
07:00 Like why are people's preferences
07:02 a thing for society to debate?
07:03 Enough.
07:05 Kind of a point.
07:05 - Bosh.
07:08 - I feel like we have a really strong relationship.
07:09 - Yeah, I think it's, to be honest, it's really rare.
07:12 Like we've known each other for a very long time
07:15 and we've been through so much.
07:19 - Oh!
07:20 (laughing)
07:20 - Like obviously he does my absolute head in sometimes,
07:23 but I couldn't live without you.
07:26 Like I really couldn't.
07:27 I couldn't go through life without him.
07:29 I would say to the people who judge our relationship,
07:32 thank you for giving us an insight
07:35 to how miserable you are in yours.
07:37 - I think just try and open your mind a little bit
07:39 and realize that not everyone's the same
07:41 and that different people
07:42 wanna live their life differently.
07:44 And what makes one person happy or one couple happy
07:47 isn't gonna make everyone happy.
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