For in Whitmore’s new ITVX series, Laura Whitmore Investigates, she’s turning her camera on some pretty eye-opening subjects – namely, rough sex, incels and cyber-stalking, and what they say about modern society.With an episode dedicated to each subject, it’s a deep dive into some of the most upsetting stuff on the internet. And as you might expect, it’s a harrowing watch – not least because of the way these trends disproportionately affect women. In a world where Andrew Tate’s videos are watched by primary school-age pupils, and the ‘Fifty Shades Defence’ is used by men to justify killing their partners during sex (arguing the death was as a ‘sex game gone wrong’), violence against women seems to be everywhere.
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00:00 So, now we are in the dungeon area.
00:02 We've got some different equipment here that we can all use.
00:05 So, here we have a spanking bench,
00:07 and this enables you to get onto all fours,
00:09 which is the classic position to be spanking in
00:11 if you're going to be using the buttocks and the back of the legs.
00:14 Would anyone like to try the spanking bench?
00:18 - I'll try. - Yeah?
00:21 Want to give it a go?
00:22 - Just to see how it feels. - Yeah.
00:24 This is really important that actually the position that you're in
00:28 when you are being spanked, you shouldn't be uncomfortable.
00:31 You shouldn't be on your hands and knees thinking,
00:33 "Oh, gosh, my knees really hurt, my joints are hurting,"
00:35 because you're not going to have an enjoyable experience.
00:38 The whole point is to take you out of your head and into your body.
00:41 Right? So, how does that feel?
00:43 - I feel very comfortable. - Yeah?
00:44 Yeah.
00:45 And so, it gives you perfect access to all areas, basically.
00:49 If you want to include anything else,
00:51 you want to add some sensations,
00:53 if you want to add some restraints.
00:55 Do many people have these in their house?
00:57 More than you would expect, yes.
01:00 You can always pass them off as a massage bench or something.
01:03 What are your own views on breath play or choking during sex?
01:09 It's quite a risky thing to play around with.
01:11 We call it edge play,
01:12 because you're taking someone right to the edge.
01:15 I personally don't teach breath play or choking,
01:18 and I know that it's something that we do often see in the media.
01:21 We see it in porn.
01:22 But most of the time, what you're probably seeing is a fantasy choke.
01:26 So, that is literally just a hand around the throat.
01:28 And for some people, that can be more than enough,
01:31 rather than actually having to go into a real choke.
01:34 I think when you tell someone you're on your way to a BDSM workshop...
01:39 I'm not going to lie, my husband's like, "You what?"
01:41 So, there was a lot more talking.
01:44 There was a lot of chat around boundaries.
01:47 I do think, even outside of the BDSM world,
01:51 having conversations when it comes to what you want
01:57 is really interesting and important.
01:59 But this workshop is not what I thought it was going to be.
02:02 No latex anywhere.
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