Pamilya muna bago sarili? | Share Ko Lang
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Pampito sa sampung magkakapatid ang gurong si Danieca Goc-ong o mas kilala sa social media na si Teacher DanVibes. Dahil siya lang ang nakapagtapos ng pag-aaral sa kanilang magkakapatid, inako niya ang responsibilidad ng pagiging breadwinner sa kanilang pamilya.
May oras pa kaya magka-love life ang breadwinner na katulad niya? Alamin sa kwentuhan nila ni Doc Anna sa #ShareKoLang!
Pampito sa sampung magkakapatid ang gurong si Danieca Goc-ong o mas kilala sa social media na si Teacher DanVibes. Dahil siya lang ang nakapagtapos ng pag-aaral sa kanilang magkakapatid, inako niya ang responsibilidad ng pagiging breadwinner sa kanilang pamilya.
May oras pa kaya magka-love life ang breadwinner na katulad niya? Alamin sa kwentuhan nila ni Doc Anna sa #ShareKoLang!
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00:00 Good morning, take your seats.
00:01 For those who don't know, I'm new to rebanding and my earrings are expensive.
00:05 So don't stress me out.
00:06 Gustok!
00:08 The key must be emphasized.
00:09 K-K-Okay.
00:11 Gustok!
00:12 Kunang bumitaw!
00:15 The fading of must be applied.
00:18 Giliw!
00:21 [Screaming]
00:48 [Music]
00:53 Hello, Kapuso!
00:54 I'm Dr. Anna Tuazon, your storytelling psychologist at SHAREKOLA.
00:59 We asked you how hard it is to be a breadwinner.
01:04 We'll talk to your "shinner" along with the viral singing teacher,
01:09 Danieka Gokong, also known as Dan Vibes.
01:13 Hello, Teacher Dan!
01:15 Hello, Doc!
01:17 Some people already know the story of your life.
01:22 And one of them is being a breadwinner.
01:24 There are many, right?
01:25 Breadwinner, teacher, viral personality, vlogger, content creator.
01:32 So where did you really start?
01:35 So actually, I was teaching before the pandemic, Ma'am.
01:39 And then when I lost my job,
01:42 I was given the opportunity to get to know you because I was a videographer.
01:48 And then before I started doing tutorials,
01:51 because I lost my job, I really needed to find a job.
01:56 So when I started making videos, it was just for fun.
01:59 And then later on, I didn't think I would be trending or relatable,
02:05 especially to teachers.
02:07 You're still a teacher in your videos, but it's fun.
02:11 Did you do it on purpose?
02:13 Was it natural or exaggerated?
02:16 Actually, Ma'am, I was given a subject called MAPE.
02:21 Because I'm an elementary teacher,
02:23 so my voice isn't that good.
02:25 I'll just do my best, Ma'am.
02:28 I gave it my all to learn.
02:30 It's a good thing that my students are in grade 1 and 2.
02:33 They don't know that I'm going to sneeze.
02:35 That's the power of confidence.
02:40 We just fought, Ma'am.
02:42 And then I was able to rock the music, Ma'am.
02:45 You said that you didn't start because you wanted to be famous.
02:49 You just started because you needed to sing.
02:52 You needed to teach children songs.
02:56 And prior to that, you really needed to earn and support your family.
03:02 Now, I heard that you have 10 siblings.
03:08 Is that right?
03:09 Yes, Ma'am.
03:11 How is the life of a family that big?
03:15 It's hard, Ma'am.
03:16 Sometimes, you can't help but say that you get insecure.
03:21 Because they have things that they can't give or provide to you,
03:26 to your parents, right?
03:27 So I told myself that soon,
03:29 when I finish college, I want to help my parents.
03:34 So, I ended up having 10 siblings.
03:38 I became a teacher.
03:40 I became a professional teacher.
03:43 We call it a first-generation college student.
03:47 Meaning, you didn't set a path for yourself.
03:52 You said that you're the first in your family.
03:56 So, what helped you?
03:58 I told myself that I need to study well.
04:02 So, that's the time that I applied for scholarships.
04:07 I worked every summer job.
04:10 I even gave my mom P300.
04:14 It was so hard.
04:15 And when I told my mom that I want to study,
04:19 she said that I'm very ambitious.
04:21 I told her that I'm in pain and it's hard.
04:26 She asked me why I'm still assuming.
04:28 It came to a point that I borrowed money for my uniform.
04:32 Because my mom said that she didn't want it.
04:34 She said that I should give it to you.
04:37 That's what you wanted.
04:39 But she didn't see that I have a lot of possibilities to study.
04:44 Even in my first year of college,
04:46 I told her that I have the support.
04:49 And in my fourth year, she cried because she was thankful.
04:53 Because I told her that if I stopped or didn't believe in myself,
04:57 I wouldn't be a teacher.
05:00 Why do you want to be a teacher and teach others?
05:03 Because my teachers took care of me.
05:10 They gave me food and clothes.
05:14 I saw the dedication of the teachers for us.
05:17 Because we are a lot in one classroom.
05:20 I saw the teacher's profession.
05:22 I saw how she handles a lot of things.
05:24 I want to be like my teacher.
05:26 To give inspiration.
05:28 That's what I see in my teachers.
05:30 I'm sure that they want to support your family.
05:34 But they don't know how to start.
05:38 How did you experience that?
05:40 You said that you want to help your parents.
05:42 But you want to be a teacher.
05:44 It's not a big amount of money.
05:45 It's a lot of money to be a teacher.
05:46 It's only 300 pesos.
05:49 Even if we are a teacher.
05:51 I need to do a tutorial after class.
05:54 After the tutorial, I will push the entertainment.
06:00 I accept 500 pesos and 300 pesos.
06:03 I will give it to my mom.
06:05 I will keep 100 pesos.
06:07 I will keep it for my passport.
06:09 I will keep it as a reward for myself.
06:11 I will keep it as a souvenir.
06:12 That's my happiness during the time.
06:14 I will give it to my mom.
06:16 I know that I have a lot of siblings who are studying.
06:20 I will give it to my mom as a reward.
06:24 Is there a pressure?
06:26 Because you are the one who finished it.
06:28 You have a professional.
06:30 You have a license.
06:31 I'm sure that you have a lot of pressure.
06:33 I hope that your barangay celebrates.
06:35 Did you have a TARP?
06:37 Yes, ma'am.
06:39 I was the only one who edited it.
06:41 My dad put it on the road.
06:43 So that people will know that someone finished it.
06:47 So, the pressure is there.
06:50 Sometimes, I cry when I'm tired.
06:52 But tomorrow, I will fight.
06:55 Because everything happens for a reason.
06:57 The Lord said that if you are given by the Lord, you can do it.
07:03 That's my motto in life.
07:05 I will cry and rest.
07:07 Tomorrow, I will fight again.
07:09 Do you have a time that you feel like,
07:11 "Wait, I'm having a hard time.
07:13 I can't get what I want."
07:15 Do you have a time that you lost your balance?
07:18 Yes, ma'am.
07:20 Before I was in the peak of my career,
07:25 I was in the first time that I became a boom.
07:27 I had a lot of interviews.
07:29 I joined a lot of shows.
07:31 So, I started a house for my family.
07:36 That's my goal.
07:37 Because we will live in a house, ma'am.
07:39 And our life is hard during that time.
07:41 So, I said that I need to finish this.
07:43 But there came a point that I was in pain.
07:47 Because I was stressed.
07:49 And then, I was happy but at the same time,
07:53 I felt like I need to rest.
07:55 Because I was pressured.
07:57 "Ma'am, you need to do this."
07:59 "Ma'am, my siblings call you this and that."
08:01 So, I said that I have to face whatever they want.
08:09 So, that was the first time that I cried to the highest level.
08:13 Because I was having a hard time.
08:15 Because we are important and we are human.
08:18 We have limitations.
08:19 We get tired and we need to rest and sleep.
08:23 But usually, when we are breadwinners,
08:27 all our savings and income goes to our parents.
08:31 You said that you take care of them.
08:33 Even the house.
08:34 How about having a love life?
08:36 How did you have a love life, Teacher Dan?
08:38 How did you manage to do that?
08:40 Because other breadwinners,
08:42 they don't have time for that.
08:45 Actually, during the pandemic,
08:47 when my account was hacked,
08:49 she helped me.
08:50 So, right after,
08:52 she was the one who visited us.
08:56 She saw the intention that she really likes me.
08:59 She was like, "Ma'am, is that so?"
09:00 So, she managed to do that.
09:03 As of now, even though I'm married,
09:06 it was easy to transition.
09:09 Almost 100% support,
09:12 breadwinner in your family.
09:14 From there,
09:16 you need to prioritize yourself.
09:20 The adjustments were so much, Ma'am.
09:22 Since I got pregnant,
09:23 we were still thinking that
09:25 we should still be there.
09:27 So, everything was okay.
09:28 So, that's where we fought between us.
09:31 Sometimes,
09:32 she said, "You need to think about this and that."
09:36 I understood that for a long time, Ma'am.
09:39 I was still there.
09:40 I was still there in my past.
09:42 It was like that.
09:43 But now, it's easier.
09:46 At the same time,
09:47 they can adjust.
09:49 Sometimes,
09:50 I can't deny.
09:52 I can't say no.
09:54 I should give everything.
09:55 Maybe they can say,
09:57 "I changed. I started this."
10:00 Now, I know how to say,
10:02 "This is how it is.
10:04 You don't have to do anything now."
10:06 So, I can adjust.
10:08 But it's not 100%, Ma'am.
10:10 I still have my pride.
10:13 So, at some point,
10:15 you were thinking,
10:17 "Wait, why is all the pressure on me?"
10:19 I was thinking about that, Ma'am.
10:21 I was thinking.
10:22 Do you know, Ma'am?
10:23 My other siblings also said,
10:26 "This is all I have.
10:28 I don't have anything."
10:29 It's like that.
10:30 It's like that all the time.
10:32 I'm the one who's struggling.
10:34 I said, "We need to contribute."
10:36 This and that.
10:37 They said, "We're just at home."
10:40 It's like that.
10:41 So, I really tried to stop them.
10:44 We'll fight.
10:45 I just tried to stop them.
10:48 I tried to stop them.
10:49 I don't want to fight.
10:53 It's like they forgot
10:55 everything you did.
10:56 Or they don't go to the contest
10:58 and they're like,
10:59 "Wait, this one's pregnant.
11:01 She has a family.
11:02 She has her own expenses."
11:05 And that's it.
11:07 Because you're taking care of your parents.
11:09 It doesn't mean that all of the children
11:11 are your children.
11:13 Maybe they're your grandchildren.
11:14 You should take care of them.
11:16 At that point,
11:17 you'll learn.
11:18 As in.
11:19 As in, Doc.
11:20 We really adjusted.
11:23 We're firm.
11:24 It's a good thing that my husband is there
11:28 to give all of his time.
11:31 Sometimes, the doctor told me
11:34 not to stress the baby too much.
11:37 So, it's a good thing
11:40 that there are programs like this
11:41 to share so they can see.
11:43 We asked the participants
11:45 if they're really struggling
11:48 as a breadwinner.
11:50 One of the participants said,
11:52 "You can do anything.
11:54 You just need to give what your family needs.
11:56 You'll be happy if they're happy."
11:59 And another participant said,
12:01 "You should prioritize your family
12:03 before yourself."
12:04 I'm sure you can relate to this.
12:06 The happiness you feel
12:07 when you see,
12:08 "I made them a house.
12:10 I taught them.
12:12 My siblings."
12:14 What are the joys?
12:16 Because earlier,
12:17 it was like, "Okay, responsibility.
12:18 Be a breadwinner."
12:19 What are the joys of being a breadwinner?
12:22 Even if you're not with them,
12:24 as long as you see them happy,
12:26 that's what you feel.
12:28 So, there's a reward
12:30 when you're a breadwinner.
12:32 Especially when you see
12:34 that they're having fun,
12:35 they're enjoying.
12:36 What's the most memorable outing
12:39 that you gave them?
12:41 On my birthday,
12:42 we went to the pool,
12:44 to the resort,
12:46 and they swam.
12:47 I didn't have the chance to swim with them.
12:49 We're all family.
12:51 We're all adults.
12:52 We have kids and grandchildren.
12:54 So, I brought them there.
12:56 They were so happy.
12:58 I saw that they really didn't want
13:00 to swim in the water.
13:02 It was crazy.
13:03 What were the things you sacrificed
13:05 or put aside first
13:08 because your family
13:09 needs your resources first?
13:11 Actually, the clothes
13:13 that I wanted.
13:15 The lipstick that was expensive.
13:18 Pesos 300 is very expensive for me.
13:20 I couldn't afford to buy it.
13:22 Even if I'm hosting,
13:24 I have to buy it again and again.
13:25 I even went to the market.
13:27 Pesos 500 and 700 are expensive.
13:29 It's too expensive.
13:30 So, I gave it to my mom.
13:33 If I saw someone at the market
13:35 for Pesos 25,
13:37 I was okay with it.
13:39 I could still save money.
13:41 I even bought rice, electricity,
13:46 and my sister's medicine
13:48 for her skin.
13:50 My mom told me that
13:53 I won't have money tomorrow.
13:56 I heard that it's really hard.
13:58 You have to support yourself.
14:00 That's how I really felt.
14:05 Some of our listeners
14:07 talked about the loss of childhood.
14:11 That's why I said,
14:12 "Teacher Dan, you're still lucky."
14:14 Right?
14:15 You were able to stop
14:17 your love life and family life
14:19 before you became 40.
14:21 Right?
14:22 Because some people,
14:23 as Nernia said,
14:25 you're forced to mature
14:28 and think about them first
14:29 before yourself.
14:31 And as Issa said,
14:32 you don't remember
14:34 how you felt when you were 20, 21, 22, 23.
14:38 You felt like you were 50.
14:40 You're old.
14:42 You don't remember how you felt
14:44 when you were young,
14:45 when you were young and hardworking.
14:48 I told you, "Teacher Dan, you're still lucky."
14:52 You're lucky.
14:53 You had space.
14:56 I think that's the mistake
14:57 of other breadwinners.
14:59 It's okay if they don't have love.
15:01 They don't have love for their children
15:03 and their family.
15:04 But if that's what breadwinners want,
15:08 let's not be selfish
15:10 and not be selfish to ourselves.
15:12 Right?
15:13 We should love each other.
15:16 We should take care of each other.
15:17 Right?
15:18 You're right, Teacher Dan.
15:19 You're the one who's taking care of us.
15:22 Because you're the one who's taking care of us.
15:24 Actually, when I was teaching,
15:26 I never looked at the love life
15:28 because I was really busy.
15:31 It was like a pandemic, Mom.
15:33 We had time to explore something new.
15:36 I was just very happy.
15:38 I saw that I was 27 years old
15:41 and I was turning 30.
15:43 It was really hard.
15:44 Our baby was still too young.
15:46 We were getting old.
15:48 We didn't have a source of income.
15:49 I thought, "This is already the right time."
15:52 I thought,
15:54 "Maybe it's time for me to choose also myself."
15:57 I was able to decide that.
16:00 That's very important.
16:03 Because some people feel that
16:04 when they choose themselves
16:06 or their own happiness,
16:08 especially when it comes to a love life,
16:11 having a boyfriend, having a wife,
16:14 some people feel guilty.
16:17 Have you ever felt guilty?
16:18 When you go out,
16:20 I'm sure you spend a lot on dates.
16:23 Yes, Doc.
16:24 As in, I really have that.
16:26 I really hope that you go home
16:28 and love your family.
16:30 I know this is a big help to them.
16:32 But sometimes I say,
16:33 "I'm not experienced in this."
16:36 I have that.
16:37 I'm just comforting myself.
16:40 Sometimes we feel sad,
16:42 but we need to be happy.
16:43 Isn't that right, Doc?
16:44 You can't read that from a breadwinner.
16:47 That's true.
16:48 So, no matter how much you love your parents,
16:50 our families,
16:52 you also need to love yourself.
16:55 And if you're determined to have a good life,
16:58 you should also be determined to have a good life.
17:01 A good life for you
17:02 and for your child.
17:04 Now, when it comes to,
17:06 because you're a mother with a baby,
17:09 do you think,
17:11 will you eventually allow your child
17:14 to be a breadwinner
17:16 when you and your husband are old?
17:20 It depends on him, Ma'am.
17:21 When we're done with our obligations,
17:23 we're okay.
17:24 If he's naughty,
17:25 what do you call it?
17:26 Naughty and naughty.
17:27 What do you call it?
17:28 It's a joy, Ma'am.
17:29 Yes, as long as we're naughty to ourselves.
17:31 But if he helps us,
17:33 that's really a good thing.
17:35 We should be thankful for that.
17:37 But we won't push him.
17:38 "When you grow up,
17:39 when you graduate,
17:40 help us."
17:41 Or something like that.
17:42 That's a big no-no.
17:44 Because the child will be pressured.
17:45 He won't be happy with his life.
17:48 He'll just work because of us.
17:51 I don't want that.
17:52 So, just continue with whatever you want in life.
17:55 As long as we're here.
17:57 What advice or words of encouragement
18:00 can you give to young breadwinners?
18:03 First of all,
18:04 I salute you for your hard work.
18:09 You're very determined.
18:11 My advice to you is
18:13 to forget about yourself.
18:15 There's no problem in helping.
18:17 Just rest and get tired.
18:19 Then, go back to work.
18:20 Just enjoy your life.
18:25 If you have someone you like,
18:27 push that person.
18:29 It doesn't mean that
18:31 you have to give everything to them.
18:36 Remember,
18:37 when you grow up,
18:39 you'll have your own family.
18:41 You and your family
18:42 will have your own family.
18:47 So, you have to understand yourself.
18:50 Breadwinners are very determined.
18:53 You're the one they rely on.
18:57 You're the source of stability
18:59 in your family.
19:00 Now, make sure that
19:02 you're also a human being.
19:04 There are times when you're tired
19:07 and you need to rest.
19:08 Or you're having a hard time.
19:10 So, don't be stubborn.
19:13 Ask for help from your family.
19:16 Even if they can't give you money,
19:19 they can still give you support.
19:22 So, Teacher Dan,
19:24 my wish is that
19:26 you can ask for help
19:29 or support from your family.
19:32 Ask them to help you
19:33 when you're having a hard time.
19:35 Sometimes,
19:36 we think of breadwinners
19:37 as superheroes.
19:39 Like Super Mommy.
19:41 So, sometimes,
19:42 we need to remind them
19:43 that they're also human beings.
19:45 We have needs,
19:46 we have weaknesses,
19:47 and sometimes,
19:48 we're having a hard time.
19:50 It doesn't mean that
19:52 we're being mean to each other.
19:55 It also doesn't mean that
19:57 we're resentful
19:58 because we're happy
19:59 and we're happy to give help.
20:02 And help is help.
20:04 That's what a good family is.
20:06 A family that helps each other.
20:08 Thank you again, Teacher Dan.
20:10 Thank you so much.
20:12 I'm sure our breadwinners
20:13 have learned a lot from you.
20:17 And at least,
20:18 you didn't lose your love for each other.
20:21 Even though you have a lot of responsibilities.
20:25 And my goodness,
20:26 enjoy your time with your baby.
20:29 Enjoy.
20:30 And when the time comes,
20:31 I hope you can be a teacher again.
20:34 Yes, soon.
20:37 Okay, thank you.
20:38 Thank you so much, Doc.
20:41 If you have something to talk about,
20:43 just leave a comment below.
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20:46 sharecolang@gmailnews.tv
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