"We got married and combined our surnames to make up a new one - it reflects our love of beer"

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A couple combined their surnames after getting married to create a new made up last name - to capture their love of beer.

Jessica, 30 - whose maiden name is Shryock - “assumed” she would change her name when she married and wanted to have the same name as her future children.

But when she married Zev - who grew up with the surname Steinberg - they decided to go for a new blended name.

He never thought he’d change his name but was on board with Jessica’s idea.

They decided to mash together their surnames to become Mr and Mrs Steinrock - inspired by their love of beer.

A stein is a traditional beer glass most commonly seen in Germany.

Jessica, an intimacy coordinator, from Champaign, Illinois, US, said: “I grew up assuming I would have to change my name.

“My parents divorced but my mum kept my dad’s name.

“Even when she remarried my stepdad, she hyphenated with my biological dad’s name.

“When we were 18 she changed it to just his, but it made me think that if we have kids – I want to have the same last name as them.

“I was searching through the internet and I saw the idea to combine names.

“I thought that’s interesting and made a huge list of potentials.

“I think Steinrock was the only one Zev liked."

She added: “We said it a bunch.

“It really started to feel like ours.

“It felt like an authentic mash up.

“The word Stein means stone – so essentially our surname is ‘rock rock’.

“It means a beer stein too and we love beer.

“We got married at a brewery.”

Zev, a professor of acting at the University of Illinois, said: “I never assumed I’d change my name.

“At first it was really hard for me.

“But then the idea of combining names to make a new one reflects what we are trying to do.

“I love our name now.”

Jessica and Zev met in November 2015 while Jessica was studying for her masters at the University of Illinois where Zev was lecturing.

The pair tied the knot in 2018 and decided to combine their names to create a new surname.

She said it felt “strange” to “lose” her name and didn’t like the idea of hyphenating.

Jessica said: “It’s a personal decision.

“I made a huge list of potentials – looking at anagrams.

“The idea really started to grow on me.”

Jessica came up with Steinrock – and the pair settled for the name after saying it over and over.

The couple said some of their family and friends were resistant to their choice of surname at first but have since got used to it.

Jessica said: “My grandpa said ‘nah, I don’t like it’ and then just moved on.

“People see things you should and shouldn’t do.

“Just because that’s the way things have always been done it doesn’t mean that’s the only way to do it.”

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00:00 My husband and I both changed our last names when we got married.
00:02 We actually combined our names to create a brand new last name.
00:05 His name was Steinberg, my name was Sherock, and now we are the Steinrocks!
00:09 And yes, I know that means rock rock.
00:10 A lot of people are really curious about this when they find out, so here's why we did it.
00:13 The idea originally came from me.
00:15 I felt very conflicted about what to do with my last name when we got married.
00:19 Like many people that grow up as women, I had just kind of assumed that I would take
00:22 the name of my husband when I got married.
00:24 As I got older, I felt more and more conflicted about that.
00:27 I didn't really like the idea of just giving up a piece of my identity, but it was also
00:30 important to me that we had the same last name.
00:33 My parents were divorced, which meant we traveled a lot, and having the same last name as your
00:36 kids was so important to my mother.
00:39 And was also important to airport security!
00:41 So even when she remarried, she chose to keep our name and hyphenated with my stepdad's name.
00:45 My husband and I did think about hyphenating, but the Sherock Steinbergs is a mouthful.
00:48 We played around with a lot of different iterations of our name, like anagram spellings, and if
00:52 we hadn't gone with Steinrocks, maybe we would have been the Sherbergs.
00:55 Now, my husband did offer to take my name, but at the end of the day, it felt like we
00:59 were losing the piece of his family that I really wanted to keep.
01:02 Ultimately, this choice made the most sense for us.
01:05 This weekend is our five year anniversary, and I gotta say, it was one of the best decisions
01:09 of my life.
01:10 It really feels like we started something new.
01:12 We started our own branch together, combining family trees, rather than one person moving
01:16 to the other.
01:17 I really love my name, and I love that I got to choose it.
01:19 Let me know if you've done something like this, or you've heard of someone who's done
01:22 something like this.
01:23 Would you consider doing it?
01:24 Let me know what you think!
01:25 My husband and I both changed our last names when we got married, combining a part of his
01:28 with a part of mine to a whole new last name.
01:31 And I keep getting comments like this one, terrified about the genealogy.
01:33 I didn't even think about that.
01:35 'Cause it's not like we haven't been tracing family trees using things other than names
01:39 for the last hundred years.
01:41 Truly, I don't understand what the panic is about.
01:43 Companies like 23andMe and Ancestry.com have been doing perfectly fine without relying
01:48 on last names.
01:49 People have been changing their names for a really long time.
01:52 No one panics about second or third marriages.
01:54 Or adoptions.
01:55 But I think we all really know why people are upset.
01:58 Anytime you challenge a well-established system, especially one that uplifts patriarchy, you're
02:01 gonna have people that wanna poke holes in it.
02:04 And I'm just not about that anymore.
02:05 And frankly, I don't care that much about future genealogy or historians.
02:10 My happiness with my partner right now is more important than any of that.
02:14 Anyway, if you're thinking about combining your name with your partner's name, I had
02:17 a great experience with it.
02:18 And I'm also pretty good at finding new name combinations, so if you're stuck about what
02:22 your new name could be, drop them below and I'll give it a shot.
02:24 K, thanks, bye!

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