DEZY is an influencer, singer and model who has been with her boyfriend Chxpo for three years. The couple faced a lot of judgment from the start of their relationship because Chxpo, a rapper and creative director is polyamorous, while she remains monogamous. Dezy explained: "People think it's weird that he dates other girls, but I don't date other guys. Sometimes Chxpo doesn't tell me when he dates other girls." Chxpo added: "When I first met Dezy, I had my wife and two girlfriends. She was a part of the polyamorous relationship, but we had our own thing. Everybody broke up with each other and we were just together. Then she got pregnant, and I didn't really have the time to entertain other women." When asked why she was accepting of Chxpo being poly, Dezy said: "It's really hard. I guess I just say I'm okay [with it] because he is my number one, my baby's father, so I do have to deal with it. I don't want to change him, but I do at the same time. I want him all to myself. But it takes baby steps. So we'll see." Speaking on the difficulties of being with someone who is polyamorous, she said: "I don't like when other people post him as a boyfriend. My friends were very like, girl, like, what are you doing?" Soon into their romance, the pair made content together for social media, which led to a backlash to their arrangement in the comment section. Chxpo said: "On the internet people always say the dumbest s***." Dezy explained: "A lot of people would comment, you're too pretty for him. This guy is always with twenty different girls. Red flag."
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00:00My name is Desi.
00:01I'm Chapo.
00:02I'm a monogamous, but my boyfriend is polyamorous.
00:05When I first met Desi, I had my wife, two girlfriends.
00:09I don't like when other people post him as a boyfriend.
00:13I feel, like, disrespected.
00:15My friends, they were very, like,
00:16girl, like, what are you doing?
00:18And they got some s*** to say.
00:20I don't really give a s***.
00:21I feel like it kind of affects her in a bad way.
00:24I just wonder how she deals with it, honestly,
00:26because if it were me, I would have already crashed out.
00:30On the internet, people always say the dumbest s***.
00:33This guy is always with 20 different girls.
00:37Red flag.
00:38Desi, I'd like you to ask Chapo if he's seeing any girls.
00:43Bruh.
00:44You're not supposed to be talking to her.
00:46I know.
00:47Hi, my name is Desi, and this is my partner, Chapo,
00:50and he is polynamorous.
00:51Wait, did I say that right?
00:53Polynamorous.
00:55Polyamorous.
00:56People think it's weird that he dates other girls,
00:59but I don't date other guys.
01:02I'm Mexican, so I like making a lot of Mexican dishes.
01:06But today is more just something simple.
01:09We met at a Young Thug video shoot.
01:11I was trying to be, like, mysterious and cool
01:13and just, like, pop up, you feel me?
01:15It was, like, fast.
01:16Like, he just asked for, like, my Instagram, and boom.
01:21When I first met Desi, I had my wife.
01:23She had a girlfriend that we were dating together,
01:26and then I also had another girlfriend.
01:28She was a part of the polyamorous relationship,
01:32but it was, we had our own thing.
01:33But everybody kind of broke up with each other.
01:36We was just together.
01:37Then she got pregnant,
01:41didn't really have the time to entertain other women.
01:44Like, not gonna lie, I had girls that I kept in touch with.
01:46Why are you okay with Chapo being poly when you're not?
01:53Well, it's really hard, I guess.
01:58I guess I'd just say I'm okay because he is, you know,
02:01my number one.
02:04He is my baby father.
02:08I do have to deal with it.
02:10I don't want to change him, but I do at the same time.
02:13It takes, you know, baby steps and stuff like that,
02:16so we'll see.
02:19Desi, I'd like you to ask Chapo
02:21if he's seeing any girls at this moment.
02:23Oh, God, this is the part where I'm gonna strangle him.
02:27Yes.
02:28Really?
02:29Yeah.
02:30And you're not talking to that one girl, right?
02:33No.
02:34You know who I'm talking about.
02:35Yes, I am.
02:37Bruh!
02:39You're not supposed to be talking to her.
02:40I know.
02:41Okay, well, that has to, like, stop happening
02:45because I already told you you should cut ties with her.
02:48I am. I'm working on it.
02:50No, it's not, I'm working on it.
02:52It's, yes, I am.
02:55Yes, I am.
02:57It takes time.
02:58I feel, like, disrespected.
03:01Sometimes I just find out,
03:04and that, to me, I don't like
03:08because I feel like when you're in poly relationships,
03:11you're supposed to tell your partner everything.
03:13How's it feel being with somebody
03:15who allows you to be poly?
03:17It's just a little bit more difficult navigating
03:19because she's monogamous,
03:21whereas when you're dating somebody who's poly,
03:23it's not as much animosity.
03:26She might get mad about that.
03:28I didn't tell her I was poly.
03:29It was more like she found out, she knew,
03:32because we traded Instagrams.
03:34You can see the type of person that I am.
03:36I don't like when other people post him as a boyfriend.
03:41Just seeing that out of the blue
03:43gets me really, like, irritated and upset.
03:46When we went public with our relationship,
03:48probably before we were in a relationship,
03:50just because she was so pretty, I just wanted to show her off.
03:55Let's back up.
03:57Oh.
03:59Just fit check.
04:00I have been doing TikTok since 2020.
04:04I get bad comments more because I'm poly.
04:07It's always, like, some personal things.
04:09We'd always get, like,
04:11this guy is always with 20 different girls.
04:14People would comment and say, like,
04:16oh, you're too pretty for him.
04:18Oh, what are you doing with him?
04:20Please find a better man.
04:22Very backwards.
04:23Why does he have so many videos with other girls?
04:26Red flag.
04:27The Internet is just, you know, it's just a cesspool.
04:31My friends, they were very, like,
04:33girl, like, what are you doing?
04:34They got s*** to say.
04:36They got their opinions.
04:37I don't really give a s***.
04:38One of our good friends, Leanna,
04:40she's gonna be coming over today.
04:42She's honestly, like, one of my besties,
04:45so, like, I'll be, like, venting to her a lot.
04:47So, I just know she has some good things to say.
04:51Oh, we like her that much.
04:53I'm not sure where you're liking me that much, so.
04:55I feel like it kind of affects her in a bad way.
04:58Every woman wants to have a traditional relationship.
05:01It depends on the girl that he does it with.
05:03Like, she's really picky.
05:05He can't bring no, like, s*** around.
05:08She's gonna be like, uh-uh, I'm not doing it.
05:11I don't care. I don't like her.
05:13Not just gonna have, like, a s*** or something with anybody.
05:17Sometimes I just wonder how, like,
05:19she does it or deals with it honestly,
05:21because if it were me, I would have already crashed out.
05:24So, are you guys gonna, like, still be poly
05:27when you get old and stuff?
05:30I don't want to.
05:31I'm just gonna want to be, like, more chilled out.
05:34I'm, like, an opportunist.
05:36It's not something that it's like,
05:37oh, I plan on doing this my whole life,
05:39but it's, like, if I was an old man
05:42and some hot young lady wanted to watch a movie with me,
05:49then I might watch a movie with her.
05:51But I'd rather watch the movie with her and her.
05:54At the end of the day, no woman wants to share her manhood.
05:57So, you think it's fair, like, to Desi?
05:59I would say, like, yes and no.
06:01I would say it's fair because she came into the relationship
06:04when I was married.
06:05I never tricked her into thinking that things
06:08would change the way she wants them to.
06:11But I would say it's unfair when it's, like,
06:13she finds out s*** that I don't tell her.
06:17I do feel like she deserves better,
06:18but I work on s*** and I'm pretty good at evolving.
06:25I mean, it does make me happy, you know,
06:30that he's willing to do that
06:31because some guys will really just not care.
06:34So, I'm thankful for that.
06:36Even though Choppa was a cheater,
06:38he never left Desi, though.
06:40Well, it's only been a few weeks.
06:43But, like, I would say.
06:47Don't say that!
06:48That's it.
06:51I'm just joking.
06:52I don't think anything bad about you guys
06:54because I've actually been through, like,
06:56worse relationships.
06:57But I've been through some crazy relationships.
07:01What I love most about him is he's a very sweet person.
07:06He tells me he loves me maybe 100 times a day.
07:10Why wouldn't it work?
07:11You know, when you love somebody, it's going to work.
07:14She's a wonderful mother.
07:15I'm very irresponsible.
07:17I'm very childish, and she's very mature.
07:20We're, like, kind of, like, opposites.
07:22I worship the devil. She worships Jesus.
07:25That's a joke.
07:26I feel like a lot of opposite relationships,
07:28they go perfectly together because they're different.
07:31It's like a grilled cheese.
07:34And she's also, like, I'm very nice and she's very mean.
07:38No, that's not true.
07:39I don't mind that he's poly because I love him.