Lisa and Brian from Season 2 of “The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On” opened up about their surprise pregnancy and how it affected their relationship after leaving the Netflix show. Antonio and Roxanne also spoke to Narcity's Asymina Kantorowicz about how they felt during the proposal and their overall experience on the show.
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00:00And that's where my suspicion kicked in.
00:02And so I literally was in my hotel room
00:05and was like, I don't feel right.
00:07Hi, I'm Esmina with Narcity.
00:09How are you both doing today?
00:10Hey, good.
00:12Nice to meet you.
00:13Lisa, I'm going to start with you.
00:15First off, congratulations on the baby news.
00:18I know it happened a while ago for you,
00:19but for me, it just happened.
00:22So, you know, when Nick Lachey mentioned you were pregnant,
00:26like, my jaw dropped because this has never
00:28happened on the show before.
00:30Well, tell me, you know, what happened?
00:33Did you have any suspicions before you found out?
00:36You know, when did you find out?
00:38How did that happen?
00:39I had no suspicions prior to coming on to the show
00:42because obviously our lady days were supposed to be
00:47actually the first week while filming.
00:49Clearly, mine's did not come.
00:51And that's where my suspicion kicked in.
00:54And so I literally was in my hotel room
00:57and was like, I don't feel right.
00:59You know, I feel like I'm acting normal.
01:02I feel overly emotional about things.
01:04So I took a pregnancy test and here it is.
01:08Yeah, and when you told Brian,
01:10obviously a bit of shock there,
01:13how has your relationship been affected by, you know,
01:16the baby and the show and just the overall experience?
01:21I will say, like, initially after leaving the show,
01:24we were in like a weird place.
01:26Obviously it took a lot of work, but that's it.
01:30It took work, you know,
01:32two people who were intentionally intentional
01:34about working on the relationship and we were that.
01:36And so now we are in a really great space.
01:39And Roxanne, moving on to you, going into the proposal,
01:42you said yourself that you weren't sure
01:44what you were going to say.
01:45You would, you know, see in that moment,
01:47what made you, because you were very adamant
01:49that you weren't ready to get married to Antonio
01:51from the start, but what made you say yes?
01:55My gut, I always go with my gut.
01:56I think through the whole season,
01:57what I did is go with my gut with everything with Alex,
02:01with our fallout through the season,
02:06to the moment I said yes to Antonio,
02:08I feel like a woman's gut is the most important thing
02:12you should listen to.
02:13And I was like, I'm not going to make a decision
02:15until I see him and he asks,
02:17and whatever I feel in my stomach
02:18is what I'm going to go with.
02:20Cause I did not know.
02:21And this is a question for both of you.
02:24How has going on the ultimatum sort of maybe affected
02:28or helped you understand what you're looking for
02:30in a partner and just what you need yourself need as well?
02:34I think for me going on here,
02:36it just made me more aware of what I wanted for sure,
02:42what things I'm willing to deal with
02:43and not willing to deal with in regards to my partner.
02:46And that has helped us because before we never verbalized
02:50like flat out, like what we like, don't like
02:53versus, you know, after the show is like,
02:56now we are verbalizing, like, I don't like this.
02:59I don't like this.
03:00And that helps your relationship move so much smoother.
03:05And I kind of took that for myself too,
03:07of like, okay, for myself,
03:09what do I want for myself out of life?
03:11And, you know, having that come to realization
03:15even after the show.
03:16So that's ways that it has helped us.
03:19Real quick, I was just going to say,
03:21when you're looking for a partner,
03:22for me, it was take out everything you think should be
03:26with a partner and just go with what your heart is saying
03:29and your mind, it goes back to the gut.
03:31You know, I had, for me, it was take out the checklist
03:35and with Antonio, it was, he is all these things
03:37that I need and want.
03:39And I thought Alex would have maybe
03:42been all those things truly.
03:44I mean, I was, you probably saw,
03:45I was super excited to be with the dude.
03:48I was.
03:49And sometimes you just got to forget
03:51about everyone else's feelings
03:53and what everyone else wants for you.
03:55Just go with what you want for yourself.
03:57That's it.
03:58Brian, I'm going to start with you.
04:00So I want to go back to that conversation
04:03that you were having with Lisa.
04:05You know, walk me through that.
04:07Was the first time you found out actually on camera,
04:09you know, what was going through your mind
04:10when you found out?
04:12Yeah, that was truly the first time that I found out.
04:14As you can see my face,
04:16it was much of a surprise to me, right?
04:18I didn't know if she was, if it was a joke or not,
04:21but, you know, like I said,
04:22I knew she wouldn't play around like that.
04:24But, you know, immediately within the first few seconds,
04:28I had to make the decision on whether or not,
04:31you know, this is something that I was willing to accept
04:34and move forward with.
04:35But I knew, you know, instantly that she is someone
04:39that if anyone that I would want to kind of bring a child
04:42into this world with.
04:43And I think, you know, ultimately we had to make
04:46that decision and that was the one that was best for us.
04:49And you mentioned that, you know,
04:50a baby would obviously complicate things.
04:52You had just gone through a lot, you know,
04:55how did the baby impact your relationship
04:57and just overall, you know, everything?
05:01Yeah, I think the thought of it was like conflicting,
05:07right?
05:08Because it's like, there's no way we just went through
05:10this whole experience of the time that we did.
05:14And there's been, you know, ups and downs, right?
05:16As you can see, and thinking that it's gonna be easier
05:20moving forward.
05:21I think it was actually the opposite.
05:24Well, not the opposite of easy.
05:25It was actually the opposite of what I thought.
05:27You know, afterwards things got easier
05:30because we kind of looked at it from a clear mind, right?
05:33Being out of the experience at this time to say that like,
05:36you know, all right, we're gonna focus on the baby,
05:39but we're gonna also focus on fixing ourselves,
05:43working on our communication,
05:45and just working on that trust within each other.
05:48And it's worked out, it's been going well.
05:49And Antonio, moving to you and your experience on the show,
05:53you know, going back to having to make that choice
05:57on who to choose for the trial marriage.
06:00You know, obviously that's a tense situation.
06:02I can only imagine how uncomfortable it is
06:04hearing your partner talk about how amazing someone else is.
06:08What was going through your mind
06:09and what was that experience like having Roxanne,
06:12you know, choose Alex?
06:14I knew she was gonna pick him all along.
06:16I just knew it.
06:17I knew what she was looking for.
06:19And he was pretty much like the polar opposite
06:23of where I was at, at that point in my life.
06:25You know, successful business owner.
06:27I mean, more than once he'd already sold
06:29one of his own businesses
06:30and he was doing his own thing again.
06:32And he had this, you know, lifetime of experience
06:35that she really related with.
06:36And it was the, I was trying to, you know,
06:41gain that sort of skillset as we got onto the show
06:46and throughout the show and since after the show.
06:50So I was pretty scared.
06:52I was pretty dang scared when I saw
06:55that she had chosen officially and it all became real.
06:58And then going to the proposal,
07:01you seemed somewhat surprised when she said yes.
07:04What was going through your mind then
07:05and how has the whole experience
07:08impacted your relationship moving forward?
07:10Yeah, I mean, it's like,
07:13I can almost really only liken it
07:15to like when a cop's driving behind you.
07:17You may not be doing anything wrong
07:18and you know what the outcome is going to be.
07:20But in that moment, you're like, oh crap.
07:22Like what's going to happen?
07:24And I think that's kind of what was splayed all over my face.
07:27And not to mention that the first words out of her mouth
07:29after I'd said, will you marry me?
07:30Were, I just want you to be happy.
07:33So like, I don't know what that meant.
07:35Like, especially the moment I was like,
07:37so you're saying without you, I'm going to be happy
07:40or what are you saying?
07:41So, it was nerve wracking for sure.
07:45Since she has said yes, you know,
07:48and even before this, before all of this,
07:50and I've never been more sure that Roxanne is the person
07:52that I was supposed to spend the rest of my life with.
07:54And that has since just been confirmed tenfold.
07:57So life is good.
07:59I've moved so far in the direction
08:02that I've been wanting to move in.
08:04I've become a business owner.
08:06Things are going really well.
08:07And I just, the future is something
08:09I've never been more excited for.
08:11Well, congratulations on the business
08:13and on the engagement.
08:14And just my final question is, you know,
08:17any regrets from the ultimatum going on the show?
08:19You know, having that ultimatum,
08:21either giving it or receiving it.
08:24What are your thoughts on that?
08:26No regrets.
08:27I mean, like the term I think James and I coined
08:30was high stakes therapy.
08:33And I learned a lot about myself.
08:36It forced me to really hold myself much more accountable.
08:39So I think I'm a better person for it.
08:42I think my relationship is stronger for it.
08:43And I don't regret a thing.
08:46Yeah, likewise.
08:46I would say the same.
08:48Definitely on the accountability part,
08:49I definitely learned a lot about myself,
08:52like really quickly too.
08:54And kind of had to kind of make that decision
08:56of whether or not I was gonna continue being stubborn
08:58within my own right,
08:59or like I was gonna be the person for Lisa.
09:03Well, thank you so much
09:04for taking the time to speak with me.
09:06It was a pleasure speaking with you both
09:07and I hope you have a great day.
09:09Thank you so much.
09:10Take care.