"I would want my partner to accept me as that." Ananya Panday opened up about her relationships in this interview.
📹: Raj Shamani
📹: Raj Shamani
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00:00I don't like people who can't commit. I would say the idea of romance is someone who listens to me.
00:05I think like people who like act a certain way with you in private, but then in public, they don't act the same way.
00:10I think that's also not nice.
00:14Have you ever been in any relationship where you've compromised yourself?
00:17We all have, no? A little bit been in those kind of relationships.
00:19You talk about you, no? But what do you mean everyone?
00:21I'm sure. I mean, I've seen around that, you know, people have been and even I've been in a relationship.
00:25I have been in a relationship. I'm sure. Well, I have changed myself a lot, but not to the point that so much bad has happened.
00:33You know, I've realized that maybe I'm not being myself. So this isn't the best situation for me.
00:38Then what have you changed about yourself when you were and then the hindsight now you realize?
00:41Maybe I'm like, I'll pretend like I want to watch this movie as small as possible.
00:48And I only do what my partner likes in terms of, I'll only eat this kind of food.
00:53I'll only go to these kinds of places. I won't go out as much because my partner likes staying at home.
00:57So things like that.
00:59You've done that?
00:59I've done that. But now I wouldn't. And I would want my partner to accept me as that.
01:04And I would accept my partner for whatever they are.
01:06I would say the idea of romance is someone who listens to me.
01:09Like if I had said something that, you know, I like this a lot, as small as I saw a bracelet.
01:17And two months later, my partner's like, Oh, I remember that you liked this, so I got it for you.
01:22Or like, for example, I'm saying something that this happened in my day.
01:25And then they remember and they listen and they're like,
01:26It was good about this meeting. What happened? What happened with that?
01:31Remembering small, small things is very important. And just listening.
01:34You know, sometimes I don't always need a solution.
01:37Sometimes I just need my partner to listen to me.
01:40And you stick by what you said you would.
01:43Yeah. Yeah. That's how you win trust.
01:45Yeah. Just by being honest.
01:46Even if you make a mistake, but you're honest about it.
01:48For me, that's important.
01:50You know, I don't want to find out something and not feel nice.
01:53I think just honesty for me is also very important.
01:56Like what do you think are the three red flags in a man?
01:58Gaslighting, I would say. Disloyalty.
02:00And not even just in terms of like the big things, but even smaller things like just like
02:06not acknowledging your partner in public.
02:08Like I'm not saying that's cheating or something, but just not giving them that respect.
02:13So like disloyalty and disrespect.
02:16And another red flag would be ego.
02:23Like not being able to see your partner succeed.
02:25To find someone who can accept you for this job or you're in this public life and you're just like
02:31out there so much and you're...
02:34Their ego comes in.
02:35Yeah. And like they may not be able to see their partner like, you know...
02:39Bigger than them.
02:40Bigger than them.
02:41And it doesn't necessarily have to be bigger than them.
02:43And they could be excelling like in their own way or in their field and what they do.
02:48But our lives are just so hyped up and so public.
02:50Like everything just seems so much bigger.
02:52I don't like people who can't commit.
02:54And also I think like people who like act a certain way with you in private, but then in public,
02:59they don't act the same way.
03:00I think that's also not nice.