• 2 years ago
“Some of us have a hero complex. It exhausts you.” Vivek Oberoi gave his two cents on dating and relationships.

🎥 : Anas Bukhash أنس بوخش
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00:00just met this international model I'm having fun it's four days of you know
00:07just a non-committal relationship I was trying to tell her let's get up let's go
00:11I'm really hungry let's go eat something but I couldn't remember her name
00:30the bad breakups the really toxic relationships teach you your patterns
00:37teach you what you should stay away from what you have a complex with like I
00:44discovered that somewhere some of us have a hero complex where we want to
00:49come in as this knight in shining armor and say I will take care of this for you
00:52it could be lovely in the beginning but eventually you start to to get tired it
00:59exhausts you each of us if you look at all your relationships and look at your
01:02choices you'd be like oh I'm doing something again and again I'm repeating
01:06something you gotta stay away from that that's your Achilles heel you gotta know
01:11that I've had some great relationships where the theory of reason season and
01:15lifetime applies so I believe that every romance every relationship in your life
01:22comes in either for a reason or a season or a lifetime you just gotta know which
01:28one is which do I would a skeptical person who has a certain lifestyle when
01:33it comes to romance what makes it switch I'm an all-or-nothing guy right and
01:38problem with all-or-nothing guys is that or all-or-nothing people guys and girls
01:42both is you give so much you just pour yourself in there's no filter there's no
01:48stages there's no holding back if it's love it's unfettered it's out there
01:55love with all your heart so when you get hurt you get hurt that much harder and I
02:03think the path that a lot of people choose to not get hurt again is to try
02:09and not be who they are and try and be superficial and say oh if I don't get
02:13deep it's not gonna hurt so let me just mess around let me set the tone to just
02:19mess around it started out as a phenomenal fun role because it was
02:23suddenly light there was no intensity there was no stress there was no
02:27commitment it was amazing in the beginning it was awesome I tried always
02:33to be a gentleman never to hurt anybody it was funny because in the serious
02:37relationships there was so much pain and drama and in all the casual ones we stay
02:41as friends in fact a lot of my casual girlfriends came for my wedding but then
02:45I remember Goa 2009 31st December just met this international model I'm having
02:58fun it's four days of you know just a non-committal relationship I was trying
03:04to tell her let's get up let's go I'm really hungry let's go eat something I
03:07couldn't remember her name I've been with this person for four days we've
03:11been romantically involved and I don't remember the name oh my god scared the
03:17hell out of me it's like who am I becoming what is this I got up took a
03:23shower changed up walked straight on to the beach I'm standing on the beach
03:28looking at the ocean I feel so alone I feel so low tears start rolling down my
03:34eyes I walk into the ocean and I'm just like talking to the ocean I just take
03:40this away whatever this is that I'm feeling just take this around I'm done
03:43with this I went back it's very nice to the girl and I was like done I have to
03:49make space for something real if I don't empty out the meaningless stuff the fun
03:57nothing real is gonna come I start there on the 1st of January and on the 4th of
04:03July 2010 six months ish later I meet Priyanka the universe just says okay
04:10you're ready here's something real