Credit: SWNS / Kenna Bethany
A woman often has multiple partners at once but insists non-monogamy isn't an excuse to cheat.
Kenna Bethany, 26, says the idea of being with just one person for the rest of her life "doesn't appeal" to her and some people "aren't built for being monogamous".
Instead she believes in having multiple partners and has dated multiple people at once throughout her adult life by being upfront and honest with them from the get go.
Kenna claims a common misconception is that non-monogamy is primarily a sexual thing - but insists it's "not a free for all".
A woman often has multiple partners at once but insists non-monogamy isn't an excuse to cheat.
Kenna Bethany, 26, says the idea of being with just one person for the rest of her life "doesn't appeal" to her and some people "aren't built for being monogamous".
Instead she believes in having multiple partners and has dated multiple people at once throughout her adult life by being upfront and honest with them from the get go.
Kenna claims a common misconception is that non-monogamy is primarily a sexual thing - but insists it's "not a free for all".
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00:00Would you be monogamous for the right person? No.
00:02Do you think you'll always be non-monogamous? Yes.
00:05What is non-monogamy? A lot of people use the term polyamory, which I also use
00:10occasionally, but for me, for my own personal definition,
00:13I've always thought of polyamory as being multiple
00:17romantic partners, as opposed to my non-monogamy, in which I would probably
00:21have one romantic relationship, which I've
00:24prioritised above all others, but I am not monogamous
00:28to that person, i.e. I might see other people. If that's not your cup of tea, I'll
00:31have already lost you at this point, but I will go on.
00:33When did I realise I was non-monogamous? I knew that I was not comfortable in a
00:37monogamous relationship when I had my first one, when I was 14.
00:40Just didn't feel like it was right. I first started moving
00:43non-monogamously when I was about 15, 16. I was seeing
00:47two boys in my year at school and I just told both of them I was,
00:51I'm also seeing him, is that okay? I do think that my neurodivergence
00:53potentially contributes to my relationship with relationships because
00:57I don't perceive the social norm as having to be the correct move.
01:07The way in which it's worked for my own relationships is that me and my partner,
01:12we come up with a list of what we call parameters, this has always been the case
01:15in my relationships, of things that we are comfortable with
01:17the other person doing, things that we're not comfortable with the other person
01:19doing, and these are constantly to be revisited or amended if things aren't
01:23working.
01:28Do I find it difficult to find other non-monogamous or poly people today?
01:32Yes, I do. Don't you get jealous? Yes, I do get jealous.
01:36If I'm emotionally attached, of course I can get jealous and I
01:39very much do, unfortunately. Generally what it is, is that they are
01:43missing, like having one of their needs met, so if it's like, oh I'm jealous that
01:48you're off with such and such, is it that I need more attention? Is it that I need
01:51more reassurance? Is it that I need more compliments?
01:53Or more of your time? Or more physical touch? It's a need that's not being met.
02:02Would you be monogamous for the right person? No. Do you think you'll always be
02:06non-monogamous? Yes.