Revealing documentary about private sexual events at which invited people gather to enjoy group intimacy with games and experimentation.
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00:00You are cordially invited to the social events of the season.
00:04Get comfort.
00:07There's not a bit of room for everyone on the bed.
00:09A very modern, very British
00:12Thank you for coming.
00:14sexual experience
00:16where the dress code is relaxed.
00:17Are you keeping your socks on?
00:19Very relaxed.
00:20Weird.
00:22There will be games.
00:23Welcome to hot clock bingo.
00:27There will be squirty cream.
00:29Everything you need for a good time.
00:32Everyone in?
00:35So don't be shy.
00:39Come along for the ride.
00:41I think everyone's getting along.
00:52With over a million British couples now regularly engaging in group sex,
00:57there are so many options for adventurous newbies to enhance their sex lives.
01:02And if the traditional club isn't the right fit,
01:05there are far more private and exclusive nights on offer.
01:10Yeah, I think this would be quite nice to wear to a party.
01:13Do you think?
01:14I think. Do you not think?
01:16I always end up wearing the same lingerie sets or...
01:20Which is why, because you have so many.
01:22I know.
01:24Jen and Mark are in their early 30s.
01:27They've been together for five years
01:29and are part of a growing number of 30-something swingers.
01:34I know.
01:35A lot of them, they look very nice, but they're not comfortable.
01:38They've got to be practical for swinging, you know this.
01:41It's got to be easy to get on and off.
01:43With two years under their belts,
01:45they are seasoned pros when it comes to the world of sex parties.
01:49Now, for some people, orgies are quite rare to come by.
01:52They usually have three sims or a couple swaps or something,
01:55but me and Mark just love an orgy.
01:57So now, after our, what, fourth orgy together,
02:02my friend sent me this for my birthday.
02:06The Orgy Organiser.
02:07It's a title I'm willing to take.
02:12For this couple, the best sex swap events
02:15are the exclusive invite-only private house parties.
02:19I guess the benefit of the private party
02:21is you get to pick your own list.
02:25You know exactly who's going.
02:27Yeah, and quite often, we'll be invited to a party
02:29and they'll be like,
02:30oh, let us know if there's anyone you think might want to come,
02:33so then friends of friends come along.
02:36And everyone's sort of vetted in their own way then, aren't they?
02:39Because everyone knows each other.
02:41Yeah.
02:42Does that mean it's more likely to end in sex, then?
02:49Well, yeah, I suppose it is more likely to end up in sex.
02:52We've never been to a party in that.
02:54It's hard for us because we usually do end up having sex.
03:02You kind of want...
03:05..probably more space than that, to be honest.
03:08Where would people have sex here? Yeah.
03:12And if you want to ensure you have the best sex party dynamic,
03:15then you could organise one yourself.
03:17And this week, Gem and Mark will be doing just that for the first time.
03:22Wow, that is a big space.
03:25I think you go up the stairs.
03:27Where are you in there?
03:28You should fall off that bed.
03:29It's like a loft bed.
03:31It's certainly not an orgy bed.
03:33It's not.
03:34And with space limited in their own home,
03:36the first job is to find a venue.
03:39This is a nice, big, open living space.
03:43I think this will work.
03:45This looks a bit more sophisticated, a bit more swanky.
03:48Yeah.
03:49I think this is a winner.
03:51Shall we book it?
03:52Book it.
03:59Hi.
04:01Let's do some guest listing.
04:03Who are we going to invite?
04:04Hmm.
04:05Yeah.
04:06She's got big boobs.
04:08Like any good party, it's a party.
04:11Like any good party, it's having just the right guest list
04:13that will make or break their event.
04:16So we met these guys before.
04:18They seemed fun.
04:19Yeah, they were a good laugh, weren't they?
04:21Yeah.
04:22And from what I gather from their social media,
04:25they've been doing quite a bit of swingy meet and lists,
04:29so that could be fun.
04:32Maybe we could bring...
04:33We could ask them if they want to invite someone.
04:35Yeah.
04:36Just because we don't know them that well,
04:37it might be better to have a friend with them.
04:39Or if you bring someone along.
04:40Yeah, or a couple.
04:41Yeah.
04:43It's good to meet new people, isn't it?
04:44Yeah.
04:45Friends of friends.
04:46Who have you decided to invite?
04:48We...
04:49I've gone for...
04:50There's going to be seven of us.
04:52Yeah, I think that's quite intimate.
04:54Yeah, that's a nice number.
04:56Odd numbers generally tend to work as well,
04:59because you don't necessarily want everyone paired off.
05:01It is a swinger thing.
05:02Yeah.
05:03Groups of threes are good.
05:04Groups of fours are good.
05:06Successful party...
05:07Everyone leaves smiling.
05:08Yeah.
05:09Everyone's happy.
05:11And people say,
05:13if you're having another one,
05:14make sure you invite us again.
05:16That would be the sign of a successful night.
05:18Yeah, when's your next night?
05:19Yeah.
05:20I'd also love an orgy.
05:25Top of the guest list for the potential orgy
05:27are relative newbies to the swinger's lifestyle,
05:29Ben and Nicole.
05:31All right, what's for tea?
05:33I'm going to do stir-fry,
05:35salmon stir-fry.
05:36Stir-fry.
05:38Together for eight years,
05:39Ben and Nicole have never attended
05:41a private invite-only sex party before.
05:44Before I met Ben,
05:45I have experienced threesomes,
05:47and I'd asked Ben if he'd ever had one,
05:49and the answer was no.
05:51And I kind of thought,
05:52if we're going to be together forever,
05:54then the least I could do
05:55is let you experience it once or twice.
05:58What a treat.
06:01And I've kind of thought,
06:02well, if she's willing to do that for me,
06:04I started to ask myself,
06:06would I be comfortable with her with another guy?
06:09Initially, I said no,
06:11but then I thought to myself,
06:12well, why is that?
06:14She's okay with me to be with another girl.
06:16It's only fair, isn't it?
06:18It's only fair.
06:22Would you like some?
06:23No, thank you.
06:24I'll peg you with it.
06:25No.
06:26No?
06:27No.
06:28That's a no from Ben.
06:30That's a no from Ben.
06:32Pegging might not be on the menu,
06:34but Nicole and Ben will be stepping into the unknown
06:37when they head to their first orgy.
06:45Since the pandemic,
06:46interest in non-monogamy has skyrocketed,
06:49with millions of Brits of all ages
06:51searching for group sex events.
06:54And there is something on offer
06:55wherever you live
06:56and whatever your interests.
06:59I am Paulina.
07:00I am a co-founder of Temples of Eros here,
07:03and we hold conscious sexuality events.
07:08I'm Margot.
07:09I teach Tantra,
07:10and we're trying to bring more sex positivity
07:13into this world.
07:15Rose petals coming!
07:17Paulina and Margot have established a community
07:20who meet regularly at events called Temple Nights
07:23to connect and explore sexuality
07:25in a safe space,
07:26offering a more spiritual approach
07:28to intimacy based on Tantra.
07:31I had Temple Nights before we started doing them
07:33where I cried
07:34because there's a lot of grief in my system,
07:36and someone next to me was making love,
07:38and that was just utterly beautiful.
07:41Former lovers Paulina and Margot
07:43now have long-term male partners,
07:45but both couples enjoy consensual non-monogamy.
07:50When I made the decision with my husband
07:52that we would try an open relationship,
07:54that felt like a really authentic thing to us at the time.
07:57We felt that a sense of security in our relationship
08:00is no longer tied to sexual exclusivity,
08:02and the moment it got particularly exciting
08:07is when I also discovered
08:09the sacred sexuality scene and Tantra.
08:12And I was like,
08:13oh my God,
08:14I knew as a little girl
08:15when I was dreaming about sex,
08:17but it was so in the world of adults,
08:19so unavailable,
08:20that it's a sacred thing,
08:21it's amazing,
08:22it's magic.
08:23And now I realize that it's actually freaking true.
08:27Tonight, they're hosting their monthly event
08:30at a studio space in East London.
08:33I really look forward to the event,
08:34I think it's going to be a good one,
08:35I have a good feeling in my vagina.
08:39And choosing what to wear
08:40is all part of the planning.
08:44We've creased this outfit,
08:45very important,
08:46because how can we expect people
08:47to get into their sensual, juicy selves
08:49if we're not in our own sensual, juicy selves?
08:51Doesn't make sense, does it?
08:53We provide an opportunity for people
08:54to go and try something edgy,
08:56but in a safe way.
08:57There's absolutely no obligation
08:59to do anything other than just be present.
09:02You can go and have a chat with someone
09:04over hummus and carrot sticks,
09:05you can go and have a cuddle,
09:06or maybe you meet someone
09:08and you just feel really passionate in the moment.
09:1236-year-old Eugenia
09:13is the first timer
09:14to Paulina and Margot's temple night.
09:18I have some,
09:19I don't know,
09:21I have some desires
09:23that I have for tonight,
09:25and it's nice to meet people
09:27who are open-minded
09:29and who have got similar interests.
09:32I would love being worshipped,
09:34like, you know, my body,
09:36my presence,
09:37and admired and loved.
09:39And with somebody
09:41who is the same mindset,
09:43you know, about the sexuality
09:45and the sacredness of sexuality.
09:47So I'm looking forward to
09:49all the juicy action.
09:51I would encourage you
09:52to start moving around the space as well,
09:54and exploring different weird corners
09:56and plants and blankets
09:58and lights and bricks,
10:00and maybe, like,
10:01you want to give a fellow human
10:02a cheeky wink,
10:03a little kind of
10:04divine slutty smile,
10:06because, like,
10:07I'm going to get you later
10:08kind of smile, you know?
10:09Like, you wait just,
10:11you wait for me.
10:13And in contrast
10:14to many of Britain's
10:15swinger and sex clubs,
10:16only complete sobriety
10:18is permitted.
10:21When I first opened
10:22my relationship
10:23and I went to some
10:24swingers' nights,
10:25I kind of saw very quickly
10:26that the Dutch carriage,
10:27you know, alcohol
10:28became a shortcut
10:29to connection.
10:30But that connection
10:31then wasn't really
10:32deep and satisfying.
10:34So what we really
10:35wanted to bring
10:36and show people
10:37that there is
10:38so much beauty
10:39in slowness
10:40and just, like,
10:41mindfully tuning into,
10:43okay, I'm longing
10:44for connection with you.
10:45Teaching people
10:46about consent,
10:47which a lot of events
10:49I've encountered
10:50in the sex-positive scene
10:51don't really offer.
10:54I'm open for a touch
10:55and a kiss.
10:57Yeah, so
10:58not coming to my
11:00knee area.
11:02And then proceed
11:04to all the
11:06juicy touch.
11:11And as givers,
11:12you can ask,
11:13what could make this
11:14even better in this moment?
11:18This kind of event
11:19is for many people
11:20the first opportunity
11:21they have of engaging
11:22with more than one person
11:23at the same time.
11:24And whether that goes
11:25into something
11:26more intimate or not,
11:27you know,
11:28that remains to be seen.
11:34While tantrum
11:35may not be for everyone,
11:36there are more
11:37traditional swingers'
11:38sex clubs
11:39in most UK cities.
11:41And like all
11:42entertainment venues
11:43these days,
11:44they rely on good
11:45online reviews
11:46for their new business.
11:55My name is Rosie
11:56and I am an
11:57open relationship
11:58and swinger
11:59lifestyle coach.
12:01There's no
12:02qualification
12:03that you can get really
12:04to be a swinger
12:05lifestyle expert.
12:06And it is through
12:07life experience
12:08that I
12:09have gained my knowledge.
12:12As well as coaching
12:13newbies to the lifestyle
12:14in all things swinging,
12:15Rosie also travels
12:16across the UK
12:17reviewing sex clubs.
12:20I write from the
12:21perspective of
12:22a first-time couple
12:23so is it suitable
12:24for them?
12:25What does it offer?
12:26Who is it for?
12:27How easy is it to find?
12:28And I very often
12:29in my reviews
12:30I include all those
12:31questions which I had
12:32when I first started.
12:34Is there somewhere
12:35to get changed?
12:36Are you expected
12:37to strip up?
12:38Can you go in your outfit?
12:39Can you get changed later?
12:40Is there parking nearby?
12:41All these things
12:42people want to know
12:43and they're all worries
12:44which go through your mind.
12:47And for you
12:48what makes a really
12:49great club night?
12:50It's not always about
12:51kind of the amount
12:52of sex happening
12:53or the kind of
12:54level of sex.
12:55It's about whether
12:56people are comfortable
12:57in there because
12:58everyone again
12:59is different.
13:00Some people go there
13:01to have a full swap
13:02with a couple.
13:03Other people go
13:04simply to be
13:05surrounded by other
13:06people and talk to them.
13:07So I think if people
13:08are able to
13:09relax,
13:10enjoy whatever
13:11it is they want
13:12then that's a really
13:13good sign that
13:14they're doing
13:15something right.
13:17The next club
13:18on Rosie's hit list
13:19is the oldest
13:20in the UK.
13:24There you go
13:25so you can look
13:26towards me.
13:27Beautiful.
13:28In this position
13:29now we're talking.
13:36Hi, I'm Natalie.
13:37My name's Kerry.
13:38If someone had
13:39told me that
13:40in less than a year
13:41I'd be sat here
13:42on the floor
13:43talking about sex
13:44last night.
13:47Last year
13:48Kerry and Natalie
13:49became the new owners
13:50of the UK's oldest
13:51swinging club
13:52in Manchester.
13:53Delicious.
13:54Delicious darling.
13:56And today
13:57they are shooting
13:58publicity material
13:59for the club's
14:00big 40th birthday bash.
14:02People go
14:03oh going to a
14:04swinging club
14:05oh you're putting
14:06your keys in a bowl
14:07and you've got that
14:08and sometimes
14:09you don't like that.
14:10So you know
14:12what swinging
14:13actually is.
14:14Nice.
14:15There you go.
14:16Perfect.
14:17Are you guys
14:18part of the swimming team?
14:19I'm not.
14:20No.
14:21Not at all.
14:22It's probably a good job
14:23because if you were
14:24you'd probably get
14:25emotional and connected.
14:26I think it's good
14:27that we're not
14:28because we're providing
14:29the service.
14:30And not only that
14:31if I was a swinger
14:32I wouldn't get any work done
14:33I'd never be able
14:34to use all that.
14:35So no definitely not.
14:36You can't mix
14:37business and pleasure.
14:38Actually if you want
14:39to rest your hand
14:40I would.
14:41Yeah come on.
14:42Don't be saying that.
14:43Come on be joking.
14:46We're just providing
14:47a safe environment
14:48for people to have
14:49that little bit of
14:50hedonism in their life.
14:51And not be judged.
14:52And not be judged.
14:53That's the key thing.
14:54Not be judged.
15:01They reopened the venue
15:02aiming to create
15:03a totally inclusive
15:04sex club
15:05where everyone
15:06is welcome.
15:08The club
15:09previously suffered
15:10from a far from
15:11favourable reputation.
15:12Another day
15:13another dollar.
15:14Absolutely.
15:15That's cold isn't it.
15:17It's a challenge
15:18of a lifetime.
15:19You know if you can
15:20take something that's
15:21got such a bad reputation
15:22such a bad stigma
15:23put your own spin on it
15:24turn it around
15:25for something really positive.
15:26And now we've created
15:27an environment
15:28which is inclusive
15:29it's dynamic
15:30we've created
15:31a new family.
15:32Safe space.
15:33The club opens up
15:34seven days a week
15:35from midday until late
15:36which means the upkeep
15:37is constant.
15:39When I first got the keys
15:40to the club
15:41I thought I wanted to bring
15:42old school swinging back
15:43and take it to like
15:44the noughties.
15:48The rubber replenish
15:49is basically where we go
15:50in every single room
15:51playroom, toilet
15:52make sure that all
15:53the condoms are in supply.
15:54Make sure that there's
15:55baby wipes and anti-bacterial stuff.
15:56Yeah.
15:57We're very
15:58very very very strict
15:59on condoms.
16:00The reason we make sure
16:01every room is full
16:02is obviously if people
16:03are starting to play
16:04and there's none there
16:05it's the embarrassment
16:06of coming back
16:07and asking for them.
16:08So the risk is
16:09they may not use them
16:10so we encourage
16:11safe sex always.
16:12So today people
16:13are more inclined
16:14to use them.
16:15Plenty there for today.
16:16Plenty for today.
16:17Cloth and tider.
16:18Oh.
16:19Yeah.
16:22With five rooms
16:23spread over four floors
16:24the club caters to
16:25non-monogamous couples
16:26and saucy singles
16:27craving no-strings sex
16:28with strangers.
16:32The way it works in here
16:33is on the first floor
16:34it's the music
16:35and the pool table
16:36and just one of us
16:37because that's what
16:38old school swinging's about.
16:39You come,
16:40you meet people
16:41and then if you want
16:42to go further
16:43then you ask respectfully.
16:44Play does tend to happen
16:45in the playrooms.
16:49Were you prepared
16:50for some of the stuff
16:51you'd see when you
16:52went in the club?
16:53Absolutely not.
16:54No.
16:55Yeah.
16:56Absolutely not.
16:57I wish brain bleach
16:58and eye bleach existed
16:59but you know
17:00it just becomes second nature.
17:01You don't even realise
17:02that people are walking
17:03around half naked anymore.
17:08This is dedication
17:09this I tell you.
17:10All hands on deck.
17:16Jokes on latex.
17:19Go time.
17:24Preparations are
17:25in full swing
17:26for tonight's
17:27masquerade themed party
17:28to mark the club's
17:2940th anniversary.
17:32That's a decent mask
17:33for someone that.
17:35Welcome.
17:38Your life will change
17:39forever.
17:42We've got
17:43Buckpug Ringo
17:45Kerry's kinky quiz.
17:47Right, you ready?
17:48For?
17:53Oh my god!
17:56How nice is that?
17:57That's beautiful.
17:58That's us though isn't it?
17:59Yeah.
18:00You know when you
18:01looked at that
18:02and was just like
18:03that is us.
18:04It's the same
18:05because of the buns.
18:11I am really
18:12really pleased with them.
18:13Are you supposed
18:14to be chopping food?
18:16Do you think British people
18:17are still quite prudish
18:18in talking about sex?
18:19I think it changes.
18:20Even in the past year
18:21I've seen our
18:22attitudes have changed.
18:23You have the gay village
18:24and that caters
18:25for gays and lesbians
18:26there's nowhere
18:27that caters for swingers.
18:28Swingers are not
18:29big drinkers
18:30and things like that.
18:31They come and they have a brew
18:32and it's more of a community.
18:34I'm making hot pot
18:35for all our members
18:36and guests who are
18:37coming tonight.
18:38Bit of goodness.
18:39Warm the cockles
18:40when you're coming in
18:41because it's quite cold outside.
18:43If their guests
18:44play their cards right
18:45in a few hours
18:46they could be
18:47tucking into more
18:48than just a stew
18:49or a brew.
18:51Yay!
18:52Woo!
18:59I have no clue.
19:02Many of the
19:03growing number of
19:04under 40s
19:05who now engage
19:06regularly in group sex
19:07I know what's wrong.
19:08are searching for
19:09a more intimate
19:10exclusive environment
19:11to play at.
19:13Ben and Nicole
19:14are adult content creators
19:15and eight months ago
19:16they began dipping
19:17their toe into
19:18the world of
19:19couple swapping.
19:21Are you getting
19:22your stuff off?
19:24We've had some
19:25epic times.
19:26Like fun sex
19:27with other people.
19:28Yeah.
19:29Definitely.
19:30Are you keeping
19:31your socks on?
19:33Weird.
19:34Really hard times
19:35that if we weren't
19:36in this lifestyle
19:37we would have
19:38never have experienced.
19:40You sit back
19:41you can have
19:42your legs down.
19:44If you're single
19:45and going to a club
19:46with the intention
19:47of meeting someone
19:48to have sex with
19:49there's always
19:50that awkward bit.
19:51Is that what
19:52they're here for
19:53or not?
19:54Whereas if you go
19:55to a swingers club
19:56you all know
19:57why you're there.
19:58So there's not
19:59that awkwardness
20:00between the two
20:01or like you're all
20:02there for the same thing.
20:04It's just with me
20:05I'm blocking your face.
20:08Are you looking
20:09forward to tonight?
20:10Yeah it'll be alright
20:11won't it?
20:13It should be good.
20:14A good fun.
20:16The couple are
20:17in Manchester
20:18as tonight
20:19they'll be attending
20:20their first ever
20:21private invite only
20:22sex party.
20:24Trying to find
20:25a couple
20:26that we are
20:27both attracted to
20:28is like trying to
20:29find a haystack.
20:30Oh for Christ's sake.
20:31What about these?
20:32There's not much room
20:33for everything in there
20:34is there?
20:35Actually the worrying
20:36thing is I'll just
20:37touch the crotch
20:38and he's a second hand.
20:40Sometimes
20:41we might find
20:42couples that
20:43I think
20:44the man's attractive
20:46but then
20:47he might not
20:48find the female attractive
20:49so we just
20:50we move on
20:51keep searching
20:52but then vice versa
20:53you'll find
20:54like a girl
20:55that's fit
20:56but then I'm
20:57don't find the man fit.
20:58It's really difficult.
21:00Wear that tonight.
21:01Try it on.
21:02And dressing
21:03to impress
21:04is always vital.
21:06You can have a look
21:07under my pouch later
21:08if you like.
21:09I'll be there
21:10more than looking
21:11under your pouch
21:12later.
21:13Hopefully not
21:14this year as well.
21:15Hopefully not this week.
21:16Yeah.
21:22Across town
21:23Jen and Mark
21:24have arrived
21:25at the venue
21:26they chose
21:28There we are.
21:31Wow.
21:33This is cool.
21:36It's massive here.
21:40Yeah it is.
21:41Yeah.
21:42It's spacy innit?
21:43For a
21:44for a town centre
21:45apartment
21:46not too bad.
21:48It's really good.
21:50Loads of space in it.
21:51I think we need to
21:52make some more space.
21:54This has got
21:55sexy vibes.
21:57Yeah.
21:58It's definitely got
21:59sexy party vibes
22:00I think.
22:01Do you agree?
22:02It's very sophisticated.
22:03Sophisticated
22:04party
22:05vibes.
22:06Yeah.
22:07When I think
22:08sexy party vibes
22:09I think neon lights
22:10and
22:11There's fairy lights.
22:12Well there we go.
22:13Sexy party vibes
22:14sorted.
22:16I like it though.
22:17It'll definitely work.
22:18We've got some candles
22:19and stuff
22:20which will look nice.
22:21We could put those
22:22candles out
22:23that might add to it
22:24mightn't it?
22:25Yeah.
22:27No peep show.
22:28Audience.
22:30And in any
22:31sex party planning
22:32might be
22:33too big a bowl.
22:34Safety
22:35is key.
22:36I did bring some
22:37latex free ones
22:38as well.
22:39Oh did you?
22:40Yes.
22:41How many people
22:42do you expect?
22:44Well the thing
22:45with condoms is
22:46you can never have
22:47too many
22:48but also
22:50say
22:52you're swapping
22:53with one guy
22:54you're swapping
22:55with two girls
22:56that's two condoms.
22:57Yeah.
22:58But also he might
22:59swap from one
23:00to the other
23:01from one to the other
23:02that's four condoms.
23:03You might step out
23:04to have a drink of water
23:05that's another one.
23:06Another condom.
23:07So it does add up.
23:08Yeah.
23:09You know
23:10over the course of a night.
23:11We've gone through
23:12quite a few
23:13in one night
23:14haven't we?
23:15Yes we have.
23:16I don't know how many
23:17I brought.
23:18Is this intimidating
23:19for people?
23:20What do I know?
23:21I mean
23:22these people
23:23a lot of them
23:24no
23:25it's not like
23:26they're coming into
23:27a torture rack thing
23:28is it?
23:30There's no food
23:31in a bowl full of condoms.
23:33It's like
23:34Hi we've lured you
23:35into our dinner party.
23:37We thought you were
23:38coming to eat.
23:39Eat me.
23:43Wonderful.
23:44Yeah.
23:45I think that's enough condoms.
23:46Bye guys.
23:48This is the snacks
23:49and this is where
23:50the condoms are.
23:52OK.
23:53We good?
23:54Yeah.
23:55I think so.
24:00As interest in
24:01sex parties has rocketed
24:02there are now
24:03swingers venues
24:04in most UK cities.
24:06But Manchester
24:07is home to
24:08Britain's oldest
24:09sex club.
24:11And tonight
24:12owners Kerry and Natalie
24:13are hosting
24:14a masquerade ball
24:15to mark
24:16the club's
24:1740th anniversary.
24:18So all we need to do
24:19now is get the mask on
24:21We have to go in
24:22with a theme don't we?
24:24Hiya.
24:25Hello.
24:26Hello.
24:27Hi darling.
24:28Rosie Kane
24:29is a sex club
24:30reviewer.
24:31Here to check out
24:32what Kerry and Nat's
24:33place has to offer
24:34her followers.
24:35We do have very
24:36very strict rules
24:37you are safe.
24:38OK we have a strict
24:39no means no policy.
24:40You're very
24:41very well looked after
24:42here.
24:43Everywhere there is
24:44camera'd.
24:45Every gentleman
24:46that comes in
24:47we take their ID
24:48or their number.
24:49So it's just for
24:50your security.
24:51Not that we ever need it
24:52but I do have to
24:53let you know
24:54that as a single lady.
24:55OK.
24:56So let's get you
24:57signed in.
25:01Thank you for coming.
25:04Kerry and Nat
25:05have their own
25:06unique brand of games
25:07to kick the night
25:08off in style.
25:09OK ladies and gentlemen
25:10welcome to
25:11book plug bingo.
25:14First prize
25:15is a beginner's
25:16book plug.
25:17Woo!
25:19So basically we ended
25:20up with 75 packets
25:21of book plugs.
25:22Long story.
25:23Book plug starter kits.
25:24Book plug starter kits.
25:25Beginner,
25:26intermediate
25:27and one that you
25:28don't quite know yet.
25:29Don't want that near you.
25:30OK the next one
25:31on the board list
25:32is two and two
25:33to your docks.
25:3622.
25:39Right we'll give them
25:40away as prizes.
25:41We'll do quiz and stuff.
25:42We decided to play
25:43bingo didn't we?
25:44I said we'll call it
25:45book plug bingo.
25:46And it's been called
25:47that ever since.
25:48We've got six and five.
25:49Sixty five.
25:50I found that
25:51a lot of the clubs
25:52and the swingers
25:53in the North West
25:54are very down to earth.
25:55Very friendly.
25:56Very sociable.
25:57They're the type of
25:58people who are there
25:59for not just the
26:00sex side
26:01but the social as well.
26:04Five and zero
26:05that means 50.
26:13I do believe
26:14they're yours sir.
26:19I don't want to get
26:20out of that.
26:26As you're sort of
26:27walking into the club
26:28what are you looking for?
26:29I'm clocking
26:30the body language
26:31of couples
26:32because very often
26:33you can spot the people
26:34who are there
26:35for their first time.
26:36You can spot the people
26:37who are the regulars
26:38and you can spot
26:39the people who are
26:40more relaxed.
26:41I've come before
26:42as a single person.
26:43OK.
26:45More recently
26:46it's been
26:47with
26:48a
26:49FWB.
26:50OK.
26:51We enjoy
26:52all the elements
26:53of what we do.
26:54It's a really good
26:55indication
26:56of the type
26:57of club that it is
26:58whether they
26:59work to make it
27:00an inclusive space
27:01a safe space
27:02and a place
27:03where people
27:04do want to relax
27:05and they do want
27:06to have sex and enjoy.
27:07Like two guys
27:08cook all night
27:09and you have
27:10a boyhold
27:11confession room
27:12with Dave.
27:13And what's
27:14your most popular
27:15Saturday?
27:16What I loved
27:17about the club
27:18was the fact
27:19that there were
27:20so many different
27:21types of people.
27:22It wasn't just
27:23couples who were there.
27:24There were single
27:25women, single men.
27:26There were also
27:27members of the
27:28trans community
27:29there as well.
27:30Darling!
27:31So that shows
27:32to me that
27:33what they've created
27:34is an inclusive
27:35safe space
27:36for people
27:37who are not
27:38necessarily there
27:39to swap with
27:40other couples
27:41but they were
27:42there because
27:43they felt
27:44accepted there.
27:46Food and good friends
27:47are a lot more
27:48than you think.
27:52Others head off
27:53to the more
27:54private areas.
27:55You can get people
27:56who are 70 year old
27:57men and they've
27:58lost their wives.
27:59You come just for
28:00a brew and a chat
28:01and then you get
28:02to have a little
28:03bit of a pervert couple.
28:04The couple's happy
28:05they're being watched
28:06they're getting a
28:07perv, they have
28:08a brew to go.
28:09But for Rosie
28:10it's time to head off
28:11and write up her review.
28:12I think I would
28:13recommend this club
28:14I would recommend
28:15it for people
28:16who are looking
28:17for a more
28:18sociable club
28:19or a sociable
28:20side to swing in
28:21where there's no
28:22pressure to kind of
28:23do anything
28:24because it is
28:25really about that.
28:30The club is full
28:31and a year into
28:32launching this has
28:33been a great
28:34anniversary night
28:35for Kerry and Nat.
28:38This is a social
28:39club with less
28:40noise and a
28:41bonus at the end
28:42of the night
28:43I'm proud of us
28:44I think we've
28:45come an incredibly
28:46long way
28:47in such a short
28:48space of time
28:49and we've built
28:50something for the
28:51people and the
28:52feedback we're
28:53getting
28:54and everybody
28:55will say
28:56do you know
28:57what I'd like to
28:58enjoy while
28:59we're sitting
29:00and we are
29:01we've earned
29:02it.
29:06250 miles south
29:07in one of London's
29:08hippest East End
29:09neighbourhoods
29:10there is a very
29:11different vibe
29:12at Margot and
29:13Paulina's temple
29:14event.
29:20Remember that
29:21using your breath
29:22sound and movement
29:23helps you to enjoy
29:24pleasure even more.
29:27Whilst there are
29:28no restrictions on
29:29play
29:30I don't have
29:32any no-go zones
29:34but I don't want
29:35nails to touch
29:36my genitals.
29:39A list of do's
29:40and don'ts is
29:42We really pay a lot
29:43of attention to
29:44the authenticity
29:45of our boundaries
29:46our desires.
29:50So move as if
29:51you were having
29:52the best sex of
29:53your life
29:54just tuning in
29:55to what is the
29:56energy now?
29:57What's here now?
29:58What's happening?
30:00There are some
30:01people who have
30:02come to our events
30:03relatively early
30:04on this journey
30:05and so we see
30:06their evolution
30:07over the months
30:08and it's really
30:09freaking amazing
30:10to see them
30:11blossoming into
30:12their power
30:13into their aliveness
30:14into their passion
30:15for life.
30:17That's one of the
30:18reasons I love this
30:19world because
30:20you just don't know
30:21who's in it
30:22and then you might
30:23see someone out
30:24in the vanilla world
30:25and it's like
30:26oh yeah I saw you
30:27last weekend
30:28yeah.
30:29I love it
30:30it's like a little
30:31secret club or
30:32something.
30:38Eugenia has found
30:39someone with a
30:40mutual interest
30:41in her desire
30:42for pleasure
30:43and pain.
30:44This is really
30:45heavy so it's like
30:46it's like very
30:47slightly very deep
30:48but also like
30:49it's very light
30:50so I don't have
30:51to put that much
30:52power.
30:53I'm open to try
30:54this because I
30:55haven't tried this
30:56before.
30:57Okay.
30:58And I'm open
30:59to try this
31:00I have tried
31:01this
31:02oh this is
31:03vicious thing
31:04yeah?
31:05Yeah.
31:06I'm gonna leave
31:07this out.
31:09A lot of people
31:10are kind of
31:11nervous about
31:12coming to an
31:13event like this
31:14because they think
31:15oh I'm there
31:16I need to perform
31:17you know I need
31:18to have a hard on
31:19or I need to be
31:20open to connections
31:21sexual connections
31:22of all sorts
31:23that's totally
31:24not our approach.
31:25You're coming
31:26to be in truth
31:27of what's happening
31:28in your body
31:29in your mind
31:30in the moment
31:31and what may
31:32arise from that
31:33from there
31:34is a beautiful
31:35connection with
31:36someone.
31:37I know that
31:38Helena isn't
31:39joining in
31:40with the
31:41activities
31:42but her
31:43husband
31:44Daniel
31:45is.
31:46I know
31:47they've
31:48connected in
31:49the past
31:50and I'm
31:51super happy
31:52that this
31:53space tonight
31:54has created
31:55an opportunity
31:56for them
31:57to reconnect.
31:58The only
31:59rule that we
32:00have is that
32:01we're totally
32:02transparent with
32:03each other
32:04we don't
32:05hide anything
32:06we trust
32:07each other
32:08and we have
32:09a lot of
32:10freedom
32:11because of that.
32:12I'm just
32:13like delighted
32:14that my
32:15husband is
32:16just experiencing
32:17so many
32:18different
32:19beautiful things
32:20with other
32:21women because
32:22we've been
32:23together for
32:2413 years now
32:25and there's not
32:26going to be
32:27that freshness
32:28and that beauty
32:29that might be
32:30there in the
32:31new connection
32:32in our
32:33connection
32:34so I'm
32:35really excited
32:36that he is
32:37exploring and
32:38tasting life in
32:39so many different
32:40ways including
32:41intimacy with
32:42other women.
32:43Back up north
32:44in Swingers
32:45Jen and Mark
32:46are hosting their
32:47first ever
32:48exclusive
32:49private sex party.
32:50How are you
32:51feeling?
32:52Excited
32:53just waiting
32:54for it all
32:55to happen
32:56really
32:57everyone's
32:58getting it
32:59yeah
33:00can't wait.
33:01I'm
33:02excited
33:03I'm
33:04excited
33:05I'm
33:06pretty much
33:07nervous
33:08we're pretty
33:09much nervous
33:10now
33:11maybe when
33:12we first
33:13started the
33:14world's the air
33:15but you just
33:16kind of get
33:17used to it
33:18I suppose
33:19ready to
33:20eat that
33:21pizza?
33:22yeah me
33:23too
33:24first to
33:25arrive are
33:26couple Zoe
33:27and Matt
33:28and single
33:29girl
33:30Jeeve
33:31hello
33:32I'm
33:33Zoe
33:34and I'm
33:35Jeeve
33:36hello
33:37come in
33:38do you want
33:39to take your
33:40coat
33:41and your
33:42bags
33:43I haven't
33:44met you guys
33:45before
33:46how long
33:47have you
33:48been together
33:49about four
33:50years
33:51lovely
33:52and you
33:53swinging?
33:54yes
33:55yeah
33:56nice
33:57have you
33:58been swinging
33:59right from
34:00the four
34:01years
34:02do you
34:03have space
34:04for unicorn
34:05in your
34:06world
34:07oh
34:08new
34:09arrivals
34:10and last
34:11to arrive
34:12are
34:13Ben
34:14and Nicole
34:15hey
34:16welcome
34:17welcome
34:18nice to
34:19see you
34:21you look
34:22gorgeous
34:23you're
34:24all
34:25do
34:26look at
34:27these
34:28cream
34:29yes
34:30you smell
34:31we don't actually do it that often because the reason we do it it's it's
34:38the initial excitement it feels like the first time with someone new again but we
34:44don't want to do it often because we don't want it to become something that
34:47feels normal because then it would be boring
35:01Talks soon turned to their experiences of the lifestyle
35:06There's a lot more respect in a swingers club I'd say than a normal nightclub
35:10I feel so much more comfortable saying no
35:12I feel respected
35:14in a normal nightclub
35:16someone buys you a drink
35:18you kind of feel a bit obligated
35:20If we went to a normal nightclub
35:22I would always feel like
35:24I'd have to look after Nicole
35:26because the guys are just
35:28I think it does come with experience
35:31I'm definitely much more confident now
35:33two years in than I was
35:35We always say this
35:37Do you not feel like an orgy is less intimidating
35:39than like a threesome?
35:41Yeah
35:43You just take five minutes out
35:45and you don't even notice you're gone
35:47I'm just going to
35:49have a little breather
35:51I'm just going to drink
35:53I'm going to wipe myself down
35:55Everyone seems to be chatting
35:57Good spirits
35:59I'm going to see if they're getting on
36:01Yeah
36:03Time keeps going well
36:05We're going to spice it up a little with the game
36:07Everyone's very chatty
36:09Let's get them playful
36:13I'm sticking along
36:15I fancied them all
36:17I forgot to say that
36:19And after a few rounds of dares
36:21Quick!
36:25Honestly that is so nice
36:27Well the situation
36:31It's time for some clothes to come off
36:33How are we feeling for a little
36:35dress down?
36:37Yes
36:39It's common in sex clubs
36:41and private parties for there to be a
36:43dress down time
36:45So while the men make the space a little
36:47more private
36:49The women change into their lingerie
36:53In preparation for things
36:55to spice up
37:03In London
37:05Paulina and Margot's tantric temple night
37:07is in full swing
37:13While Paulina's husband Daniel
37:15is busy connecting with another guest
37:19BDSM fan Eugenia
37:21is enjoying playing with a new partner
37:25I'm so excited
37:29You can't really experience pleasure fully
37:31unless you feel totally safe in a connection
37:33and unless your body on all levels
37:35says yes to it
37:39You don't know what's coming
37:41and you don't know how hard
37:43it's coming
37:45but when you play with somebody
37:47that you can trust
37:49you know that they don't overstep
37:51the threshold
37:53Having those conversations
37:55before you have any experience with somebody
37:57is so important
38:03Pain is very closely related
38:05to pleasure
38:07and people's experience of it
38:09is very varied
38:11through just exploring and practicing
38:13I've realized that I enjoy it
38:15and I enjoy helping my partners
38:17get more pleasure out of it
38:19It makes me happy too
38:23I'm very grateful for the group tonight
38:25I feel like everybody
38:27showed up in a very genuine way
38:29in a very authentic way
38:33There were quite a few different flavors tonight
38:35because of the energies the people brought
38:37and I really enjoyed that
38:39I just really enjoyed seeing some people being very playful
38:41and very embodied and some people being
38:43maybe a little bit more withdrawn
38:45and that's also beautiful
38:47I think the first basic piece of advice
38:49is don't put any pressure on yourself
38:51You can just go and watch
38:53and that can be your first step
38:55digging your toes in
38:57If you're considering going to an event
38:59join the community first
39:01and the community is very supportive
39:03People are asking questions
39:05What dildo do I buy?
39:07It's beautiful because normally in society
39:09we're just not supposed to
39:11I want to do anal but I'm a bit scared
39:13How do I wash myself?
39:15We're not used to those conversations
39:17unless you're super drunk with your girlfriend
39:19Sharing facial jokes, sharing nudes
39:21seeking each other's advice on matters of
39:23relating, on matters of sex
39:25It's the most natural and beautiful thing
39:27that arises in a human body
39:29Why is it so difficult
39:31for us to talk about it
39:33to share it
39:35to be in this beautiful, innocent expression together
39:37We want to change it
39:39And we will!
39:50Well you three look...
39:52You three look improved
39:54In Manchester
39:56things are hotting up at Jen and Mark's
39:58sex party
40:00For guests Ben and Nicole
40:02this kind of group sex environment
40:04is all new
40:06It's definitely improved our relationship
40:08I think being
40:10auburn with each other
40:12we've learned to be a lot more auburn
40:14I mean the trust's always been there
40:16but even just the
40:19sex side of the relationship
40:21that's got even better
40:23It just feels better
40:25everything about it
40:27I feel a lot closer
40:32What's everyone up for?
40:34What's everyone thinks best way to go?
40:36I mean I've never done an orgy
40:38so I'm well up for that
40:40Orgy it is then
40:42That's that then
40:44I guess we'll have an orgy
40:46No one's saying no
40:48which is a good sign
40:52This is a nice set up
40:54Oh lovely
40:58Get comfort
41:00Might need a bit of room for us
41:02We can make room
41:06I think when it's in real life
41:08in front of people
41:10I think in my head I'm like
41:12right I need to give them a really good show now
41:14Obviously the first time I was nervous
41:16but since then I'm like
41:18I'm going to show them a good time
41:26Has all of this made you more
41:28open with one another
41:30about sharing kind of fantasies
41:32and all that
41:34Yeah definitely
41:36We're definitely more open with the fantasies
41:38We tell each other what we want
41:40and there's no fear
41:42of what the other person would think
41:44Yeah
41:46and then we just see if we can
41:48find it for them
41:50like if he's got a fantasy I'm like
41:52well let's see if we can find it
41:58How's the party going?
42:00Things are going really well
42:02It's gone really well
42:04I've had lots of fun
42:06We've not done anything
42:08with this many people before
42:10but it's new for us
42:16And in here it's gone really well
42:22I want to go back
42:24I want to go back in
42:26I think it's become way more
42:28acceptable especially with younger people
42:30and the more younger people that get into it
42:32it's just going to become more and more normalised
42:34which I think is a good thing
42:36After an hour of action
42:38Jen and Mark come up for air
42:42Hello
42:48How's it going?
42:50How's it going?
42:52I think everyone's getting on
42:54It's kind of connected a bit
42:56I can't tell whether I'm pretty quickly
42:58Great
43:00I think it's going good
43:02Everyone seems very happy
43:04Are we throwing another one then?
43:06I think so
43:08Tomorrow?
43:10Call it a night then?
43:12Not quite yet
43:14Not quite finished yet
43:16Like a little water break
43:18We're back to it
43:20So suddenly small
43:36So sudden
43:38So sudden
43:40So sudden
43:42So sudden
43:44So sudden
43:46So sudden
43:48So sudden
43:50So sudden
43:52So sudden
43:54So sudden
43:56So sudden
43:58So sudden
44:00So sudden
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