Girl, keep career ahead of emotions || Acharya Prashant, with NIT-Silchar (2022)

Acharya Prashant

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00:00Hello Acharyaji. My name is Kali. I am doing M.Tech from MIT Central. So my question from

00:10you is how can I keep my career ahead of my emotions? Like I am a very emotional person.

00:17I get disturbed with little things. Whenever I am having argument with my loved ones, I

00:24just get disturbed and I keep on thinking about those things only and I can't study.

00:30And it hampers my study a lot. So how can I keep my career ahead of all these feelings?

00:37It's not that we have loved ones. We love to be disturbed. Would our loved ones mean

01:04anything to us if they don't disturb us and we don't disturb them? Think of this. If our

01:13loved ones stop disturbing us, probably the relationship would disappear. Is the relationship

01:25not founded on the premise of giving each other the right to invade the personal space of the

01:36other? If you want, for example, the other's time and the other is saying, you know, right now I

01:49am occupied with something important. Maybe you will exempt him or her a couple of times,

01:57but after that you will enjoy disturbing. Otherwise you will feel you mean nothing

02:04to that person. Similarly, the other person wants to have the right to freely move about

02:15and litter in your inner space. That is what you call as disturbance. Emotions we are born with,

02:32and especially being a woman, in the biological scheme of things, emotions are powerful. The

02:48thing is, what do these emotions want to do to you? Where are these emotions coming from? This

03:04same body that is the source of all emotions, what does it really want? Is your nose really

03:19very interested in having a career? The emotion is coming from the nose. The emotion is coming

03:34from the eyes, the ears, the skin, all parts of the body. And I am not even naming the

03:47brain right now. The entire body gives rise to emotions. What does the body want? You

03:59have a woman's body, what does it want? When we share our bodies with animals, what

04:08do bodies want? Do the bodies want the woman to have a career? Do the bodies want the woman

04:17to have knowledge and wisdom? Is your nose annoyed if you do not study? Do your eyebrows

04:30feel offended if you do not clear an exam? Nothing happens. The skin continues to glow

04:43even if you are an extremely ignorant person. In fact, it has been seen that the skin of

04:52ignorant persons glows much more brightly than those who are little less ignorant. Does

05:04the skin care for knowledge, career, consciousness? No. Now, the relationships, are the relationships

05:20coming from wisdom and consciousness or are the relationships themselves coming from the

05:25body? Don't be in a hurry to answer. I just want you to consider it. So, the body manifests

05:41itself in the relationships. How do we choose friends? We choose the kind of friends that

05:54support our mental patterns. We choose friends whose company allows a rush of dopamine to

06:04the brain. So, you are not choosing friends. It's the body, the brain that is choosing

06:11friends. How do we choose partners? We choose partners based on their intellectual depth

06:21and spiritual wisdom. We may claim so, it sounds honorable, but the fact is that the

06:29body has its own ways and the first proof is that a woman likes to choose a man and

06:40a man likes to choose a woman. If we were looking only for intellect and depth, why

06:48would gender be a concern? But the gender is the first thing. So, the relationship itself

06:57is founded on the body. Now, see where we are coming. The relationship is the body and

07:11what you want is wisdom and consciousness. Now, why will these two go together? Why will

07:22your relationships be conducive to your career or to your real growth? You have an exam tomorrow.

07:37You know that you have an exam tomorrow. Does the body still not want to fall asleep?

07:46Have you not experienced this? That even if you know that something very important is

07:52to be done, yet the body starts acting lazy and sleepy. Have you not experienced this?

07:57Yeah, I have experienced this. So, the body has no respect for the real things in life.

08:06The body has respect only for its biological construction and the body is biologically

08:11constructed just to have fun of all kinds in life, eat, sleep, be merry, repeat. You

08:24could say, food, sex, sleep, repeat. That's all that is there to this body. And if our

08:35relationships are coming from the body, then know very well that your relationships will

08:45not be aligned with your intellectual pursuits, including your career choices.

09:00Do you feel I am beating around the bush? Probably I am. Or am I coming to a point?

09:07No, you are coming to a point.

09:17All this disturbance that you experience, heavy emotionality, quick to cry, these things

09:25happen and they happen a little more with women. They are just the conspiracies of this

09:35body against your real purpose in life. So, be very very watchful. You are not born just

09:51to be a servant to your body and emotions are just bodily. Do not give too much respect

10:02to your emotions. Wisdom and discretion is one thing and emotionality is a totally different thing.

10:12Getting it? If you start living your life founded on emotions, you won't go very far.

10:25You would go only in the direction of your bodily constitution. That's where your biological

10:32life wants to take you. And the places where your biological life intends to take you are

10:39not very glorious or dignified places. Do not let those things happen to you. Emotions

10:50will continue because your body will continue. So, what can you do? Do not patronize your

10:57emotions. Do not energize your emotions. When emotions rise, do not say these are my emotions.

11:07Say these are the body's emotions. Fight against these emotions. Whenever these emotional

11:18disturbances arise, do not say, oh, what can I do? This has happened, that had happened.

11:27Now I am feeling disturbed. Somebody has come and disturbed me. Say, I know where the disturbance

11:32is coming from and I do not want to side with it. Let the disturbance be there. I will still

11:39continue to do what is right. Are you getting it? All your life, yes, yes. Ignoring our

11:51emotions, it's very difficult thing. Yes, it is difficult, but it's worth it. Because

11:59if you do not ignore them, they will be all over you. And always remember, the emotions

12:08are not yours. The emotions belong to the body and the body is not a very glorious thing.

12:20You are a conscious human being. Your purpose in life is to gain heights of consciousness,

12:30of wisdom, of freedom. And the body wants no wisdom, no freedom. And I am saying, especially

12:40in the case of the woman, the body can militate very strongly against the purposes of the

12:48consciousness. So, you have to be even more alert. And if you can be alert, the results

12:57are worth it. So, this happens with women only? No, no, it happens with everybody.

13:08It happens with everybody. But the thing is that you look at our societal structure. You

13:15look at the way everything is designed to affect a girl child in a way that makes her

13:24more body-centric. And you look at how Prakriti, physical nature, has chosen the woman as her

13:35preferred equipment for her continuation. When you look at the reproductive cycle, it

13:43affects the woman far more deeply and for a much longer duration than it affects the

13:51man. So, in that sense, the woman has to be more cautious. Both the man and the woman

14:03are offsprings of Prakriti. Therefore, they both are vulnerable to the chains of Prakriti.

14:18But woman has some additional forces acting against her. And therefore, she has to be

14:30extra cautious. But that also means that her victory tastes sweeter. That also means

14:41that when she succeeds, the success means even more. And it's not much important to

14:56ask who is at a greater risk. The more relevant question to ask is, would you be all right

15:05if you do not achieve your real nature? Maybe the odds are a little more against you. But

15:19the inner urge to be liberated is the same in all human beings, irrespective of their gender. So,

15:31will you be at peace if you remain a hostage to your body? Tell me. So, that's the question to

15:43ask. Do not ask how easy or difficult is it for me compared to a man? Because the thing is not

15:52relative, the thing is not comparative. Maybe it's a bit more difficult for a woman. So, what? It's

16:01worth it. If it's worth it, then we will fight it out. We will fight it out. See, you are thirsty,

16:14the other one too is thirsty. Would you look at the other's thirst and say, well, you know,

16:21he's more thirsty than me. So, I feel satisfied. Will that help you? You have to quench your own

16:33thirst, you have to fight your own battles, and the battles deserve to be fought and are

16:40possible to be won. That's what matters. Yes. Right?

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