‘Healed’ Crystal Hefner Is Happier Than Ever With New Boyfriend James Ward
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00:00I wasn't necessarily looking for it, but I've done a lot of healing that was very necessary
00:08since the mansion.
00:10I really didn't know what it was like to be in a healthy relationship.
00:17Sometimes it feels foreign, but I believe that as long as you keep working on it, your
00:25brain kind of rewires itself and you can be in a really happy, healthy, healed place.
00:33I'm forever a work in progress, but yeah, I think it's good.
00:40I think that it feels very peaceful.
00:43It feels very protective and safe, and I think it's really important for men and women to
00:51feel very safe.
00:54And because we were set up through friends, I thought, okay, this is somebody that I could
00:57trust.
00:58This is somebody I can meet.
00:59So the first time I met him was at my farm.
01:03He came over to the farm and yeah, he was just right off the bat, just first off, super
01:09handsome.
01:10And second, he was really playful and just, I have waterfalls at the farm and streams
01:16and he kind of just was playing around in them and a tree had fallen into one of the
01:20waterfalls and it has a little pool at the bottom and he's like, oh, do you have a machete?
01:26I'm like, yeah, I do.
01:27And he gets in there and he like cuts up the tree and takes it out for me.
01:31I'm like, this is cool.
01:33Like that is so awesome because typical, like LA people will be like, oh, I'll call someone
01:39to help us.
01:40Yeah.
01:41And then one night he pulled out some fish and he's like, oh, do you eat fish?
01:48I just caught this.
01:49I don't know, with his bare hands or something in the ocean, I'm like, wow, that's amazing.
01:56So yeah, I think there's something about somebody that feels very mature and manly and can take
02:06care of you and it's been refreshing to see.
02:10And he has a dog and the way he cares for his dog is so adorable and yeah, I was explaining
02:17to my friends, like, wow, like I was trying to explain that the way, the way I feel and
02:23they're like, oh, you sound like a real man.
02:26So Crystal does everything with intention.
02:29There isn't anything that she does that's just casual or just like by accident.
02:35My life, because I live on a tiny island and have for the last 14 years, my life is very
02:41simple by comparison.
02:43I love the ocean and I've been taking people out and teach them, teaching them about the
02:46ocean for the last 10 years.
02:48It's been, you know, every day, basically the same thing.
02:52And because I feel like that's sort of what I was tailor made to do.
02:55It's been really easy for me to settle very comfortably into that groove.
02:58I'm good at what I do in the very small things that I do.
03:01I'm good at those things.
03:03And it's been really neat to meet Crystal and realize like she's sort of forcibly pushed me out
03:09of my comfort groove and like forced me to sort of lean into the other talents that I have that
03:15I've been ignoring for a long time.
03:17And so I think another big reason why my connection with her has been so special is because the
03:22time that we spend together, rather than being performatory or extractive, everything that
03:30we're doing, performative or extractive, everything that we're doing together is just sort of exaggerating
03:36each other's natural talents, which has been a really good feeling.
03:40And so, you know, I'm 41 and I feel like all of the best is still yet to come.
03:49And it's crazy to be, you know, more than half of what we're supposed to live on this
03:52earth and be like, oh, I'm confident that like the best things are still yet to come.
03:57There aren't very many things that she's not exceptional at.
04:01You know, it'd be one thing if somebody is really pretty and you're like, oh, you're
04:03pretty, but then they're vapid or they're, you know, they're callous or they're careless.
04:08And the thing about Crystal is that she's smarter than most of the people she's in a
04:11room with.
04:12And then she's also, you know, obviously she's stunningly beautiful, but more than that,
04:17there hasn't been a moment where I haven't felt looked after, I haven't felt cared for
04:20and like everything that she does, she does with me in mind, which is a very peculiar
04:26thing for somebody that's never had that before.
04:29So it's really nice to be around someone that's always thinking of you and always placing
04:32you as a priority.
04:34I live on a tiny little island in the middle of nowhere.
04:37And you know, everybody has a, everybody has a past, everybody has a history.
04:42And you know, the reality is that I'm so disconnected from that world.
04:46Like I could be, and again, this probably sounds like nails on a chalkboard to somebody
04:51who is in the public sphere and you do deal with people that aren't, you know, the celebrities
04:55or whatever.
04:57I couldn't be bothered, you know, the whole, that whole side of things, it's, it's a part
05:02of this world that I, you know, it's like space, like it's arbitrary and it's out there
05:06and I see it when I look for it, I can see space.
05:08But like the reality is, is that it's like way up there and it's very cold and dark and
05:12not part of my regular life.
05:13And that's kind of how I feel about like that whole world.
05:16It's like, you know, she came from a place that was very dissimilar to her, but because
05:23she's so good at it, so adept at being what she needs to be in it in any moment, like
05:28she's able to navigate that side of this world too.
05:30But the part of her that I see in the part of her that I like, isn't that like, that
05:33isn't the world that, that she and I connect in.
05:36And even though that's part of her past, it's definitely, I don't see it as being a big
05:40part of our future.
05:41The reality is, is that, you know, we're all, we're all aware of our, of our surroundings,
05:46but the reality is, is that she's gone through so much, she's done so much work to heal from
05:51that.
05:52I feel like it's, it's been a big point of, point of pride for me to like, to nourish and
05:58encourage the next chapter, as opposed to like really thinking or dwelling on the past.
06:03And so, you know, I'm happy to leave that chapter as a profound, but closed chapter,
06:08if that makes sense.