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00:00Imagine for a moment that the most powerful tool for a meaningful, fulfilled life isn't something you can buy, earn, or be given by others.
00:08It's already within you, waiting to be discovered and harnessed.
00:13This isn't just a thought experiment. It's a reality grounded in the wisdom of Stoicism,
00:19a philosophy that has guided countless individuals through the ages toward living with purpose, resilience, and tranquility.
00:29The Hidden Treasure
00:31Within Stoicism teaches us that the key to a life well lived isn't found in external accolades or material success,
00:39but in mastering the art of valuing ourselves through the virtues of wisdom, courage, justice, and temperance.
00:47It's a powerful reminder that despite the chaos and challenges of the external world,
00:53we hold within us the unshakable foundation for our well-being and happiness.
00:59In a world where societal expectations and self-doubt often cloud our self-perception,
01:04Stoicism invites us to peel back these layers to uncover timeless principles
01:09that can transform the way we see ourselves and our place in the world.
01:14This journey is about more than just self-improvement.
01:18It's about rediscovering our inherent worth and learning to live in alignment with our deepest values.
01:25Embracing the Stoic Path
01:28If you're ready to unlock the doors to personal freedom, resilience, and fulfillment, you're in the right place.
01:35Let's embark on this adventure together, exploring how the wisdom of Stoicism can illuminate the path to valuing ourselves like never before.
01:45Consider yourself different from the majority.
01:48If you're here, you are an exception.
01:52Now, act like one and don't skip any part of this content.
01:57We've all been guilty of settling at one point or another,
02:01whether it's staying in a draining job, remaining in unfulfilling relationships, or not chasing after our dreams due to fear.
02:09We compromise and tell ourselves this is as good as it gets.
02:13But why do we do that?
02:15Is it fear? Comfort? Maybe it's a bit of both.
02:20The Stoic perspective on worth Stoicism teaches us that our true worth isn't swayed by external circumstances.
02:27Whether you're in a palace or a prison, what truly defines us is not our situation, but how we respond to it.
02:35It's about recognizing that while we may not have control over every aspect of our lives,
02:41we have the ultimate power over our perceptions, judgments, and actions.
02:46When we accept less than we deserve, we're essentially saying that our external circumstances have more power over us than we do.
02:55Stoicism invites us to challenge that notion.
02:58It encourages us to ask ourselves if our situation aligns with our values and if we're responding in a way that reflects our true worth.
03:07If the answer is no, Stoicism empowers us to change our perception, choose our response, and transform our reality.
03:22Remember that your worth isn't determined by your job title, relationship status, or the size of your bank account.
03:30It's determined by your ability to remain true to your values, to act with courage, wisdom, and integrity, no matter the circumstances.
03:38This isn't about blaming ourselves for our situations, but about empowering ourselves to seize the control we do have.
03:46Let's not settle for less. Not because we're entitled or arrogant, but because we recognize our inherent worth.
03:55Let's respond to life's challenges with the strength and resilience that come from knowing who we are and what we stand for.
04:03When we do that, we're not just living, we're thriving in true Stoic fashion.
04:13Stoicism, with its profound understanding of human nature, doesn't encourage us to boast or inflate our egos.
04:21What it does encourage is a fair and honest recognition of our own efforts and virtues.
04:26Acknowledging our achievements isn't about feeding our pride, it's about recognizing the work, discipline, and perseverance it took to get there.
04:36It's about honoring our commitment to our goals and our adherence to our values.
04:41In Stoicism, virtues like wisdom, courage, justice, and temperance are central.
04:48When you achieve something, no matter how big or small, it's often because you've exercised these virtues.
04:55Maybe it took courage to apply for that job, wisdom to navigate challenges along the way, or discipline to organize your life.
05:05When you attribute your success to luck or diminish it as something anyone could do, you're not just undervaluing the outcome, you're undervaluing the virtues you practiced to get there.
05:15So how do we change this mindset? How do we start acknowledging our achievements without tipping into arrogance, the balance of honesty and humility?
05:25The Stoic approach is all about balance and honesty.
05:29It's about saying, yes, I worked hard for this, yes, I faced challenges and overcame them, and yes, this achievement is a reflection of my effort and my virtues.
05:41It's about giving yourself credit where credit is due, not for the sake of your ego, but for the sake of truth.
05:48Think about something you've achieved recently. It doesn't matter how big or small it is.
05:53Reflect on the virtues you practiced to achieve it.
05:57Maybe you showed incredible discipline, took a brave step out of your comfort zone, or used your wisdom to solve a problem.
06:05Whatever it is, take a moment to acknowledge it. Recognize the virtues behind the achievement.
06:11This exercise isn't about patting yourself on the back. It's about seeing the truth of your own character and effort.
06:19Embracing this Stoic practice can transform the way we view our successes and ourselves.
06:25It moves us away from false modesty and towards a genuine appreciation of our strengths and capabilities.
06:33It teaches us that acknowledging our achievements isn't about ego.
06:37It's about recognizing the virtues we've embodied and the hard work we've put in.
06:46It's a common scenario.
06:49Staying late at work to help a colleague, skipping your morning run to make breakfast for your family, or putting your own dreams on hold to support someone else's.
06:59It feels noble, selfless, even heroic at times.
07:04But here's the twist.
07:06Constantly putting others first at the expense of your own well-being can lead to burnout, resentment, and a loss of self.
07:13It's like trying to fill cups from an empty pitcher. Eventually you run out.
07:18Stoicism isn't about being detached or selfish.
07:21In fact, it places great emphasis on virtue and the betterment of society.
07:27However, it also teaches us the critical importance of self-care.
07:31Why?
07:33Because caring for oneself isn't selfish.
07:36It's the foundation of being able to care for others effectively.
07:40Stoicism reminds us that to be of service to others, we must first ensure that we are in a good place ourselves, physically, mentally, and spiritually.
07:50The Dichotomy of Control
07:53Stoicism teaches us about the dichotomy of control, understanding what is within our control and what isn't.
08:01Our own thoughts, beliefs, actions, and self-care are within our control.
08:06The well-being of others, as much as we may wish otherwise, isn't directly under our control.
08:12What we can control, however, is how well-equipped we are to offer help, support, and love to those around us.
08:21And that starts with taking care of ourselves.
08:24When you're well-rested, healthy, and at peace, how much more patient, understanding, and present are you for the people in your life?
08:32How much more effectively can you contribute to their well-being?
08:36This isn't just about physical health.
08:39It's about mental and emotional resilience.
08:42It's about having the inner resources to be compassionate, to offer wise counsel, and to be a source of stability and strength for others.
08:52Striking a Balance
08:55How do we strike this balance?
08:57How do we ensure we're not neglecting our own needs in the process of helping others?
09:03It starts with recognizing that self-care isn't a luxury or an afterthought.
09:08It's a necessity.
09:10It means making time for things that replenish us, whether that's exercise, meditation, reading, or simply spending a few quiet moments alone.
09:20It means setting boundaries and being okay with saying no when we need to.
09:25And it means doing these things not out of self-indulgence, but out of a commitment to being our best selves for the people we care about.
09:34I want to challenge you to think about one way you can prioritize your well-being this week.
09:41Maybe it's committing to a daily walk, carving out time for a hobby you love, or setting boundaries around your work hours.
09:50Whatever it is, remember that this act of self-care isn't just for you.
09:56It's a way of ensuring that when you do show up for others, you're showing up as the best version of yourself.
10:04Embracing compliments and self-worth stoicism teaches us the importance of viewing ourselves objectively.
10:12This means recognizing and acknowledging our strengths just as openly as we acknowledge our areas for improvement.
10:20It's about understanding our value, not in an egotistical way, but in a balanced and fair manner.
10:27Why do we struggle with accepting compliments?
10:31Often it's because we're viewing ourselves through a distorted lens.
10:35We might be focusing too much on our imperfections, or perhaps we're conditioned to believe that acknowledging our strengths somehow makes us arrogant.
10:45But here's a stoic perspective to consider.
10:48Humility is not about denying our strengths, it's about recognizing them in a grounded and realistic way.
10:54It's about seeing ourselves as we truly are, without the embellishments of ego or the shadows of insecurity.
11:07Stoicism teaches us that our worth is not diminished by acknowledging our achievements and strengths.
11:13In fact, accepting compliments graciously is a way to practice self-awareness and objectivity.
11:21It allows us to see the virtues we possess in the efforts we've made, giving us a clearer understanding of our true selves.
11:29When someone compliments us, they're often recognizing something genuine in us, something worth praising.
11:36Dismissing these moments robs us of the opportunity to see ourselves through another's eyes, to understand our impact on the world around us.
11:45How do we get better at accepting compliments?
11:48The next time someone offers you a compliment, take a moment to pause.
11:53Reflect on their words and what it took for you to earn that praise.
11:57Thank them genuinely, and let their words remind you of your own worth and capabilities.
12:08In Stoicism, integrity is about aligning our actions with our values.
12:13It's about living in a way that reflects our principles and virtues.
12:17When we acknowledge our strengths and accept compliments, we're not just boosting our self-esteem, we're reinforcing our integrity.
12:26We're affirming that we are indeed living in alignment with our values and making a positive impact.
12:33Think about the last compliment you received.
12:36Instead of brushing it off, take a moment to reflect on it.
12:41What does it say about your virtues?
12:44How does it align with the values you hold dear?
12:48By doing this, you not only accept the compliment, but also use it as a tool to deepen your understanding of yourself,
12:56and strengthen your resolve to live with integrity, self-worth and the Stoic view of external validation.
13:06One of the key tenets of Stoicism is understanding that our worth does not depend on external validation.
13:13In a society obsessed with likes, followers and approval from others, this can be a revolutionary idea.
13:20Stoicism teaches us that true self-worth comes from within, from our character and virtues, not from the fleeting opinions of others.
13:30Imagine living a life where your sense of self isn't swayed by external praise or criticism.
13:37This doesn't mean we ignore feedback, but we filter it through the lens of our own values and self-awareness.
13:43When we receive compliments, we can appreciate them without letting them define us.
13:48When we receive criticism, we can consider it objectively without letting it destroy our self-esteem.
13:56The inner citadel
13:59The Stoics often refer to the concept of the inner citadel, a metaphor for the strong, resilient part of ourselves that remains untouched by external events.
14:09Building this inner citadel involves cultivating an inner sense of worth that is independent of external circumstances.
14:17It means recognizing that our true value lies in our ability to live virtuously and in alignment with our principles, regardless of what others think.
14:27To build your inner citadel, start by identifying your core values.
14:32Reflect on what truly matters to you and how you want to live your life.
14:36When you receive external validation, such as compliments, let it be a pleasant reminder of your values rather than the foundation of your self-worth.
14:45When you face criticism, use it as an opportunity to reflect and grow, but don't let it undermine your sense of self.
14:54The role of gratitude in valuing ourselves
14:58Gratitude is a powerful practice in Stoicism.
15:02It helps us recognize the good in our lives and appreciate the efforts we and others make.
15:09By focusing on gratitude, we can shift our perspective from what we lack to what we have, including our own strengths and achievements.
15:18When we practice gratitude, we are more likely to see the positive aspects of ourselves and our lives.
15:25This shift in perspective can help us value ourselves more and appreciate the efforts we've made.
15:32Gratitude doesn't just make us happier, it also helps us see our own worth more clearly.
15:38Daily Practices for Building Self-Worth
15:431. Morning Reflection
15:47Start your day with a few moments of reflection.
15:50Think about your values and how you want to embody them throughout the day.
15:55This practice sets a positive tone and reminds you of your inner worth.
16:002. Gratitude Journal
16:03Keep a journal where you write down things you're grateful for each day.
16:08Include your own achievements and strengths.
16:11This practice helps you focus on the positive aspects of yourself and your life.
16:163. Accept Compliments
16:20When someone compliments you, pause and accept it graciously.
16:24Reflect on what it says about your virtues and efforts.
16:28Let it remind you of your worth.
16:304. Set Boundaries
16:33Prioritize your well-being by setting boundaries.
16:36Make time for self-care and activities that replenish you.
16:40Remember that taking care of yourself isn't selfish, it's essential.
16:455. Reflect on Achievements
16:48Regularly take time to reflect on your achievements, big and small.
16:52Recognize the virtues and efforts behind them.
16:55This practice helps you see your progress and value your contributions.
17:006. Overcoming Self-Doubt
17:03Self-doubt is a common barrier to valuing ourselves.
17:07It's the voice that tells us we're not good enough,
17:10that our efforts don't matter, that we don't deserve success or happiness.
17:15Stoicism teaches us to challenge this voice with reason and objectivity.
17:21When self-doubt arises, ask yourself,
17:24Is this thought based on fact or fear?
17:27What virtues have I demonstrated?
17:30What efforts have I made?
17:32By questioning self-doubt and focusing on your virtues and efforts,
17:35you can start to shift your perspective and recognize your worth.
17:427. The Power of Affirmations
17:45Affirmations can be a powerful tool in building self-worth.
17:49They help reprogram our minds to focus on our strengths and potential
17:53rather than our perceived flaws.
17:55Choose affirmations that resonate with your values and virtues.
17:59For example, I am resilient and capable.
18:02I embody wisdom and courage.
18:05Or, I am worthy of success and happiness.
18:09Repeat these affirmations daily, especially when self-doubt arises.
18:14Over time, they can help shift your mindset and reinforce your sense of worth.
18:23Valuing ourselves is a journey, not a destination.
18:27It's about continually exploring and understanding our virtues, efforts, and impact.
18:32It's about living in alignment with our values and recognizing our worth,
18:37regardless of external circumstances.
18:40As you continue on this journey, remember that you're not alone.
18:44Many have walked this path before you, guided by the wisdom of Stoicism.
18:49Use their insights and practices as your compass
18:53and keep moving forward with courage and integrity.
19:02When we value ourselves, it impacts every area of our lives.
19:06We make better decisions, set healthier boundaries, and pursue our goals with confidence.
19:12We build stronger, more authentic relationships,
19:16and contribute more effectively to the world around us.
19:19Valuing ourselves isn't just about feeling good.
19:22It's about living a life of purpose and fulfillment.
19:26Building Resilience Through Adversity
19:31Stoicism teaches us that adversity is an inevitable part of life,
19:36but it's also an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.
19:40When we face challenges, we have the chance to develop resilience
19:45and deepen our understanding of ourselves.
19:48This resilience is a crucial component of valuing ourselves
19:52because it reinforces our belief in our ability to overcome difficulties and emerge stronger.
19:58When adversity strikes, remember that it's not the end, but a part of your journey.
20:07Reflect on past challenges you've overcome and the virtues you demonstrated in those moments.
20:12Use these reflections to remind yourself of your inner strength and resilience.
20:18The Role of Community
20:21While Stoicism emphasizes self-reliance, it also recognizes the importance of community.
20:27Surrounding ourselves with supportive, like-minded individuals
20:31can help us stay true to our values and reinforce our sense of worth.
20:36Seek out relationships that uplift and inspire you and be a source of support for others as well.
20:43By fostering a community of mutual respect and encouragement,
20:47we create an environment where everyone can thrive and value themselves more fully.
20:53Remember, valuing ourselves isn't just an individual pursuit,
20:58it's a collective effort that benefits everyone.
21:02Conclusion
21:04Thriving in True Stoic Fashion
21:07Embracing the wisdom of Stoicism can transform the way we value ourselves.
21:12By acknowledging our achievements, practicing self-care, accepting compliments, and building resilience,
21:18we can cultivate a deep sense of self-worth and live a life of purpose and fulfillment.
21:23Start today by embracing your strengths, acknowledging your achievements,
21:27prioritizing your well-being, and accepting the compliments that come your way.
21:32These practices, grounded in Stoic wisdom, will help you cultivate a deep sense of self-worth
21:38and live a life that's not just about existing but about truly flourishing.
21:44A Stoic call to action now. It's time to put these principles into practice.
21:50Take a moment to reflect on what you've learned and identify one area where you can start valuing yourself more.
21:57Maybe it's acknowledging your achievements more openly,
22:00setting boundaries to prioritize self-care, or accepting compliments with grace.
22:06Whatever it is, commit to making a change today.
22:10Remember, the journey to valuing ourselves is ongoing.
22:14It's about continuously exploring, understanding, and embracing our virtues and worth.
22:22With the wisdom of Stoicism as your guide, you can navigate this journey with confidence and integrity,
22:28knowing that your true worth comes from within.