It's Showtime: Anak na galing sa broken family, na-trauma! (August 16, 2024) (Part 3/4)
Aired (August 16, 2024): Sa murang edad ay nagkaroon ng trauma at anxiety si Ron dahil sa biglaang pagkakahiwalay ng kanyang ina at ama.
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Transcript
00:00It's hard, isn't it?
00:01Yeah.
00:02That kind of situation. You didn't become friends, did you?
00:05We're just civilians.
00:06Yes.
00:07Why did Michelle and you become friends? How was that?
00:11Their dynamics are different.
00:12Right?
00:13Because some people don't get over the reunion and friendship.
00:19Because, I don't know if I'm right, but as I see you and Michelle, you're like friends.
00:23Yes.
00:24Even Michelle and Regine, they're like friends.
00:26Yeah, they see each other, they get along.
00:28Yes, even their children.
00:30Even in the picture, they're happy together, they're smiling.
00:33Yes.
00:34How was that?
00:35It didn't happen right away.
00:38Of course, we went through pain.
00:41But because Michelle and I talked, we said to each other,
00:44you know, life is short.
00:47If we fight, our children's future won't be good.
00:52So let's be friends, right?
00:55Who offered friendship? You or her?
00:57It was just the two of us.
00:59Then we got along.
01:00You know, maybe it wasn't really our time to get along.
01:05Because we were still young.
01:07After that, it was like we became brothers.
01:10In the end, we became friends.
01:13Now, Regine and Michelle, I had nothing to do with them.
01:16I was just blessed with two beautiful, wonderful women
01:22who accepted each other.
01:26Right?
01:27And I remember, I have a story.
01:30When Regine was about to go, Michelle told me,
01:33come on, you're embarrassing Regine here in Australia.
01:37Let her go so we can all meet.
01:41So when Regine got there, she said,
01:44I'm sorry, said Regine.
01:47Michelle said, no, we're family.
01:53Wow.
01:54So they're the two extraordinary people.
01:59Extraordinary.
02:00They're really different.
02:01Great.
02:01Unforgivable.
02:02So strong.
02:04So strong, right?
02:05Great.
02:06Forgiveness, love.
02:08Acceptance.
02:09Yeah.
02:11Because you forgave the person, that's one.
02:13But you accepted her to be part of your life again and family.
02:17That's also different, right?
02:21The woman I saw.
02:22Yes, ma'am.
02:23Yes, but there was a time when I saw their baby.
02:29I gave birth to their baby.
02:30Aww.
02:32And I saw her for the first time, the woman.
02:35When was that, son?
02:36Last year, ma'am.
02:38Is that how big the baby is?
02:39No.
02:40How old is their baby?
02:42One year old?
02:43Wow.
02:44One year old.
02:45I gave birth to her.
02:46I gave birth to her.
02:47It's good that she gave birth to you.
02:48How did you get the baby?
02:49Of course, you talked to her.
02:52Aww.
02:57That's great.
02:58When I told my friends,
03:00they were more angry than I was.
03:05They said, you can do that.
03:07It's over, right?
03:08Yeah.
03:09You're already there.
03:10Acceptance.
03:11Acceptance.
03:12Then grief.
03:13Then anger.
03:15You know why you can do it?
03:17Because you can go back to being a good person.
03:20Because you're a good person.
03:21You can be yourself.
03:23Because you're really good.
03:25It's easy.
03:26It's easier to be yourself, right?
03:28Yes, sir.
03:29And it's better if you don't have anything in your chest.
03:33True.
03:34Especially with the baby.
03:35You didn't do anything.
03:36You didn't fight.
03:37Some people, when they get separated,
03:40they don't want to show their children to their spouse.
03:43They'll ruin their spouse, their child,
03:45so they'll hate them all.
03:46That's what I didn't do.
03:48Nice.
03:49What I'm saying is,
03:50if it's your father's fault,
03:52it's not your fault.
03:53If he's not a good husband to me,
03:55he's a good father to you.
03:56I always tell him,
03:58don't get mad at your father.
04:00Sometimes he gets mad,
04:01but I tell him,
04:02don't get mad at your father.
04:04No matter what happens,
04:05he's your father.
04:06You won't be able to live without him.
04:09But let's show the child that they can feel it.
04:12Yes.
04:13That they can feel the sadness or anger.
04:17There's a process, right?
04:18Yes.
04:19Because they need to feel it too.
04:22Because even if he's not the husband,
04:25their father did something for them.
04:28Right?
04:29When he left,
04:30not only did my mother lose her husband,
04:32I lost my father too.
04:33Yes.
04:34He was with me at home.
04:35So there's a process.
04:37It had an effect on him.
04:40He had anxiety.
04:43Yes.
04:44There were many times
04:48when he couldn't breathe.
04:50He said,
04:51his father didn't experience that.
04:53That's what happened.
04:54That's why I was so mad at him.
04:57Because if you didn't give my son
04:59the broken family,
05:01I told him,
05:02this wouldn't happen to him.
05:04I told him,
05:05what was he attacking?
05:08He said,
05:09Mommy, Mommy,
05:10I can't breathe.
05:15I took him to the hospital early in the morning.
05:18There were just the two of us.
05:21When we got to the hospital,
05:23he suddenly got better.
05:25I was working.
05:28I didn't know that...
05:29When I was in the office,
05:31I knew that he was going to school.
05:33Because I was giving him food.
05:35But he didn't go to school for a long time.
05:38Because he was scared
05:40that when he went out,
05:42something would happen to him.
05:44That's how he felt.
05:45He was traumatized.
05:47Traumatized, right?
05:48Traumatized.
05:49How did you deal with it?
05:51Your trauma?
05:52How was your trauma?
05:53Was it a process?
05:55How are you now, Ron?
05:57Now, I'm okay.
05:59I can cope up with what happened.
06:03But,
06:05it won't go away.
06:07It will stay with me for the rest of my life.
06:10That's why...
06:11I'm just thinking...
06:15I'll continue.
06:16To my mom, to me,
06:18and to myself as well.
06:21You're good, Ron.
06:23It's hard.
06:24It's so hard.
06:26We all have trauma.
06:29No one...
06:31It's a good thing I don't have trauma.
06:33We all have trauma.
06:34We should know if we're traumatized.
06:37We should acknowledge our trauma
06:39and learn how to deal with it.
06:44Right?
06:45How do we face these traumas?
06:47What are the effects of these traumas?
06:52We should process it.
06:53At least, he knows.
06:55As you grow older, you'll understand
06:57how you'll face these traumas.
06:59How will you overcome them?
07:01How will you deal with them?
07:03How will you deal with them?
07:06How will you overcome them?
07:08But we're happy you're okay now.
07:10Yes.
07:11That's what I've been holding on to
07:13since my mom's separate cell.
07:16I joined groups.
07:19I served in church.
07:21That's where I spent most of my time.
07:24Because at that time,
07:26as Memevice said,
07:28I didn't want to go home
07:30because it was chaotic.
07:32There was always fighting.
07:34There was always shouting.
07:36When I saw where they were fighting,
07:38I felt like screaming.
07:40You'll remember.
07:42That's why I forced myself
07:44to serve the Lord.
07:46Yeah.
07:47That's nice.
07:48And I hope that the wounds you got
07:52from your experiences inside the house,
07:55I hope they won't become scars
08:00so that you'll be a bad father in the future.
08:04Yes.
08:05I promise that I'll be a good husband
08:08and I'll be a good son.
08:10My mom also taught me
08:12not to let yourself be the cause
08:14of your family's destruction.
08:16Yes.
08:17Don't force them.
08:19Don't force them.
08:21Yes, God.
08:22Because it's generational trauma, right?
08:24Yes.
08:25It comes and goes.
08:27When we were kids,
08:29we saw how our parents
08:31would fight and shout at each other.
08:35We didn't like that.
08:37Yes.
08:38But we didn't notice that
08:40when we grew up and had a relationship,
08:42we were also like that.
08:44Yes.
08:45We didn't notice that when we had a relationship
08:47and had a child,
08:48we were also like that.
08:49Yes.
08:50That's how we talked to our husband.
08:52We would shout at each other.
08:54We would curse at each other.
08:55Yes.
08:56Right?
08:57That's how we used to be.
08:59But we didn't like that.
09:00But we didn't notice that.
09:01We absorbed that.
09:02And our friends at home
09:04also saw that.
09:05And they also...
09:06It changed again.
09:07It changed.
09:08It became a habit.
09:10Yes.
09:11It's a cycle.
09:12That's why my siblings and I,
09:14when we fight,
09:15we would suddenly be quiet.
09:17It's like how we used to be.
09:21We were like that at home.
09:24We saw how our siblings
09:26used to fight with each other.
09:28We didn't like that.
09:30And now, we're also like that.
09:32And we would just shout at each other.
09:34Yes.
09:35We don't like that.
09:36The awareness that
09:37if we don't like that,
09:39we shouldn't be like that.
09:41True.
09:42That's the sad reality.
09:44Sometimes, it takes a long time to realize.
09:46That's why there should be a conscious effort
09:48to break the cycle.
09:50But I can see that Ron is a beautiful man.
09:52Yes.
09:53A loving man.
09:54He's a beautiful soul.
09:55Yes.
09:56It's like he reminds me of Adi.
09:58Yes.
09:59Same size.
10:00Same hair.
10:01Yes.
10:02Sweet.
10:03Sweet.
10:04Sweet giant.
10:05It's like that.
10:06It's like he pushed his mom.
10:09Yes.
10:10He's like,
10:11Mom, you deserve it.
10:13It's so cute, right?
10:14That's so cute.
10:16What do you miss the most
10:17when you're dating?
10:18When you're in a relationship?
10:20What do you miss the most?
10:25Why do you want to experience it again?
10:27You'll eat out.
10:29That's it.
10:32Why not?
10:33Why not experience it again?
10:35You deserve a second chance.
10:38It won't affect his mom, Ron.
10:40That's true.
10:41If he wants to eat out again.
10:43Yes.
10:44If there's an occasion,
10:45he'll give you flowers, chocolate.
10:46Correct.
10:48What else?
10:50My ex-husband,
10:51on Valentine's Day,
10:52he thought I was eating chocolate.
10:54Really?
10:55There's nothing wrong
10:57to experience that again.
10:59The feeling.
11:00And we support her, right?
11:01Yes.
11:03Support her.
11:05So, are you excited?
11:07Yes.
11:08Let's start the search.
11:09Let's go.
11:10Yes.
11:11Nana Rosana,
11:12it's time to meet our search.
11:13Searching number one, reveal.
11:23Hey.
11:26Madam Pibong.
11:31I'm Luis Santiago,
11:3453 years old.
11:36I'm the security guard
11:38of Marikina City.
11:40Marikina.
11:42Security guard.
11:44Security guard.
11:47Have you been a security guard for a long time, sir?
11:49Yes.
11:50It's been 7 years.
11:517 years.
11:52How is your job?
11:54It's okay.
11:56Do you have a wife or not yet?
11:58Not yet.
12:00But I have a child.
12:05How many children does she have?
12:06Just one.
12:08She's 18 years old.
12:10Is she with her mother or not?
12:12No.
12:14Because when she got pregnant,
12:19we moved to the province.
12:21I didn't agree
12:23because at that time,
12:25I was the breadwinner.
12:31My father was sick.
12:33He was bedridden.
12:34That's why I didn't agree.
12:36I just wanted to talk to her
12:38so that we can understand each other.
12:40But she moved.
12:43So, she brought your child?
12:46Yes.
12:47So, she brought your child to the province?
12:49Yes.
12:50Is she still not with you?
12:51Not yet.
12:52But when she was 9 years old,
12:54she showed me pictures of her child.
12:56She was on the phone.
12:58Do you visit her even once?
13:00I want to visit her.
13:02I told her that even if I go,
13:04she doesn't want to.
13:06She just wants to come out here
13:08because her husband doesn't want that.
13:13Did she talk on the phone?
13:15Yes.
13:16Did you see each other on video call?
13:17Yes, on video call.
13:19Did you say I love you to each other?
13:21Yes, a lot.
13:23Because, of course,
13:25when you see each other,
13:27even if it's just through video call,
13:31it feels different.
13:33Do you look forward to meeting her in person?
13:36Yes, I do.
13:37She said that she still doesn't want to be pregnant.
13:40How important is it for you
13:42to meet her in person?
13:44It's very important to me
13:50because I want to hug her.
13:57I want her to feel
14:01the love that I'm going to give her
14:04even if she says that I'm not good enough.
14:08But that's all.
14:10I just want to hug her
14:13so that we can be together
14:15even if it's just for one occasion.
14:19Actually, I always tell her
14:21that I hope that I can be with her
14:23during Christmas
14:25so that my family can see
14:27that she can be with me.
14:29Thank you very much for sharing your story.
14:31You're very brave, Father Louie.
14:37Do you have a pick-up line?
14:39Yes, I do.
14:40What is it? Tell us.
14:43Are you a mango?
14:44Why?
14:45Because my love for you
14:48is from a mango.
14:54Thank you very much, Sir Louie.
14:56Thank you, Sir Louie.
14:58Here's the searching number 2.
15:00Reveal!
15:07What's up, Maglang people!
15:12I'm Gilbert D. Tayag.
15:14I'm 51 years old.
15:16I'm the balladeer and math teacher
15:18of Trece Martire City, Cavite.
15:21Here's the next one.
15:22Does Father Gilbert have a pick-up line?
15:24Do you have a pick-up line, Father Gilbert?
15:27What is it again?
15:28Do you have a pick-up line?
15:29Yes, I do.
15:30Do you have a pick-up line?
15:33Yes, I do.
15:34Yes, I do.
15:36He's just making it clear.
15:39Go, Father.
15:41Ma'am Rosana, do you have a pick-up line?
15:44Why?
15:45Because you're beautiful in every angle.
15:52Searching number 3.
15:54Reveal!
16:04Father doesn't have a balance.
16:06He doesn't have a balance.
16:08He doesn't have a balance.
16:10He doesn't have a balance.
16:11What's up, Maglang people!
16:13I'm Eugene Kong.
16:14I'm 50 years old.
16:15I'm the Chinese interpreter of Binondo, Manila.
16:19You're an interpreter.
16:20How do you do that?
16:21Where do you do that?
16:22In court?
16:23Where do you use it?
16:24Where do you use it?
16:25When there's an interview.
16:26Business meetings.
16:29Conferences.
16:32For example,
16:33Okay, I get it.
16:34I want this product.
16:36What is the Chinese version?
16:38I like this product.
16:42I like this product.
16:45I like this product.
16:47I like this product.
16:50I like the Philippine sea.
16:54That's it!
16:56I like the Philippine sea.
16:59I like the Pogo Pogo Pogo Pogo.
17:03He's not there!
17:05So you know it!
17:07What dialect is that?
17:09Mandarin
17:11Mandarin Chinese is the most
17:13universal in Chinese
17:15What about Foukian?
17:17Foukian is just our dialect
17:19Dialect
17:21Ah, okay
17:23But Yujin, are you really Chinese?
17:25Or you're learning a language
17:27that you can interpret?
17:29I'm pure Chinese
17:31I'm Filipino
17:33Born in the Philippines
17:35and I'm learning to interpret
17:37Do you have a pick-up line for Rosanna?
17:39Rosanna, you're like the rain
17:41Why?
17:43It's hard to avoid and
17:45I can't stop loving you
17:47It's hard to avoid and
17:49I can't stop loving you
17:51Ron, what can you say
17:53to the three boys in front of you?
17:55Who do you think
17:57will suit mommy?
17:59Actually, they're all kind
18:01But to you, they're all passers-by
18:03Yes, they're all passers-by
18:05Passers-by
18:07I hope you'll talk to them
18:09Good luck to you, Sir Luis, Sir Gilbert
18:11and Sir Yujin
18:13Have a good afternoon
18:15Look there
18:17If you're given a choice
18:19will you choose to date
18:21a single and childless person?
18:23Look there
18:25Don't be too fast
18:27Look there
18:29than someone like me
18:31who has children
18:33and why?
18:35Sir Luis, will you choose to date
18:37a single and childless person?
18:39For me, because
18:41at my age
18:43I don't have the right
18:45to
18:47decide if I have a child
18:49or what
18:51It's not a problem
18:53if I have a child
18:55With permission, of course
18:57It's happy
18:59if your child has permission
19:01they're willing
19:03to date you again
19:05and that's it
19:07Thank you
19:09Sir Gilbert
19:11For me, if I have to choose
19:13maybe
19:15I prefer someone with a child
19:17For me, because
19:19it's more challenging
19:21if you'll court someone with a child
19:23because
19:25she has a child
19:27if you'll court her, you'll court her child
19:29So, if you'll love her
19:31her child
19:33you'll love her more
19:35like a real child
19:37So, if you'll prove that
19:39to the woman
19:41you're courting
19:43if
19:45you'll agree with her child
19:47and you'll really love her
19:49when she'll feel
19:51the ending will be
19:53she'll love you more
19:55So, you'll court
19:57the child
19:59What if
20:01the child answered you first?
20:03It's better
20:07Thank you
20:09Sir Eugene, if you have a choice
20:11Rosanna is single
20:13or Rosanna has children
20:15who do you prefer to date?
20:17In my own opinion
20:19Of course, the single is the best
20:21but
20:23even if she has children
20:25as long as she'll accept me
20:27and I'll accept her child
20:29her children will agree
20:31maybe
20:33our other relatives will agree
20:35So, both ways
20:37Thank you
20:39Nanay Rosanna, who will you give
20:41the green flag?
20:43They have
20:45the same
20:47They have the same answer
20:49that they'll accept the child
20:51But I felt the number 2
20:53because
20:55it's important to me
20:57that she'll court my child
20:59that she'll love my child
21:01Okay
21:03Do you approve Ron or not?
21:05You have a different answer
21:07Yes, we have the same answer
21:09Yes, number 2
21:11Congrats Gil, you'll have the green flag
21:13Next question
21:17If you grew up alone
21:19does it mean
21:21that you failed
21:23in love?
21:27If you grew up alone without a relationship?
21:29Yes
21:31If you grew up alone, does it mean
21:33that you failed in love?
21:35We'll start with number 3
21:37Sir Yu Chin
21:39No
21:41because
21:43I prioritized my career
21:45compared to love
21:49Sir Louie
21:51Number 1
21:53No
21:55I don't think I failed
21:57because I have my own
21:59reasons why
22:01I didn't get a case
22:05my love
22:07or why my relationship failed
22:09It's because
22:11I have an important reason
22:13that's why I prioritized it
22:15Thank you
22:17Sir Gilbert, number 2
22:19For me, because
22:21we can't judge that
22:23a woman or a child
22:25grew up unsuccessfully
22:27because first of all,
22:29it's her career
22:31and second,
22:33most of the time
22:35she doesn't want to leave her mother
22:37especially if there's no one to take care of her
22:39so of course
22:41she's afraid
22:43that something bad
22:45might happen to her mother
22:47that's why she'll choose
22:49to fix her career
22:51and take care of her mother
22:53for the rest of her life
22:55Who told you that
22:57your mother is sick?
22:59Just an example
23:01Why do you choose
23:03your mother?
23:05Just kidding
23:07Maybe it's just a coincidence
23:09Ron,
23:11if you had to push someone
23:13to your mother, who would it be?
23:15Number 2
23:17Sir Gilbert, why?
23:19Because
23:21first of all,
23:23it's not just
23:25her mother
23:27she's willing to hug
23:29the people she loves
23:33Mother Rosana
23:35Did you hear what
23:37Ron said?
23:39It's like he chose Gilbert
23:41for you
23:43but of course, you have your own decisions
23:45Who will you give the green flag to?
23:49Okay, let's give Gilbert a chance
23:51Gilbert?
23:53So Gilbert has two
23:55Gilbert is your date
23:57Number 2
23:59The search for
24:01Mother Rosana is over
24:03Mother Rosana,
24:05here are the searches
24:07Number 1
24:09Please introduce yourself
24:15Hello
24:17Thank you
24:19Even if you didn't choose me, it's okay
24:21You're lucky
24:23because Sir Gilbert
24:25is kind
24:27Good luck
24:29Thank you
24:31Here's another search
24:33Please introduce yourself
24:35Number 3
24:45I hope you succeed
24:47in your love with Gilbert
24:49Thank you
24:51Thank you, Sir Eugene
24:57Before we
24:59meet Mother Rosana
25:01and Sir Gilbert
25:03Ron has a message for his mother
25:09Mother
25:11No matter what
25:13you choose
25:15we love you so much
25:17and
25:19we just want
25:21if we can be happy
25:23in our love lives
25:25I hope you can see
25:27the care
25:29of those who will
25:31take care of you
25:33those who won't leave you
25:35those who will be faithful to you
25:37until you grow old
25:39Mother Rosana
25:41what do you want to say to Ron?
25:47Son
25:49Thank you to both of you
25:51because
25:53even though I lost your father
25:55I felt that
25:57you love me
25:59I'm so thankful because
26:01you grew up
26:03to be kind
26:05even though I wasn't lucky
26:07with your fathers
26:09I'm lucky
26:11to have you as my children
26:13That's all
26:15Love you
26:17Thank you
26:19Thank you
26:21Thank you
26:23Thank you
26:25Thank you
26:27Ron, what do you want to say to Gilbert?
26:31The piano is out of tune
26:33He heard it, right?
26:35It's out of tune
26:37Junie is crying
26:39Even though I wasn't lucky with my father
26:41I'm lucky with the piano beside me
26:43Ron?
26:45Ron, yes?
26:47Mr. Gilbert
26:53Even though
26:55you have
26:57an impossibility
26:59take care of your mother
27:03Don't let her
27:05get hurt
27:07because
27:09she's the only one
27:11our mother is the only one
27:13who can
27:17take care of her
27:19no matter what
27:21Thank you, Ron
27:23Mr. Gilbert
27:25take care of your mother
27:27Rosanna
27:41You
27:43You
27:45You
27:47You
27:49You
27:51You
27:53You
27:55You
27:57You
27:59You
28:01You
28:03You
28:05You
28:07You