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Aired (August 16, 2024): Ibinahagi ni Ogie Alcasid ang family dynamics ng kanyang pamilya kay Regine at sa dati niyang asawa na si Michelle.
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00:00It's hard, right?
00:01Yeah.
00:02That kind of situation.
00:03You didn't become friends, right?
00:05We're just civilians.
00:07Why did Michelle and you become friends?
00:10How did that happen?
00:11Their dynamics are different.
00:12Right?
00:13Because some people don't cross the line between being friends and being allies.
00:19I don't know if I'm right, but as I see you and Michelle, you're like friends.
00:23Yes.
00:24Even Michelle and Regine, they're like friends.
00:26Yeah, they see each other, they eat together.
00:28Yeah, even their children.
00:30Even in the picture, they're happy together.
00:32They're smiling.
00:33Yeah.
00:34How did that happen?
00:35It didn't happen right away.
00:38Of course, we went through pain.
00:41But because Michelle and I talked, we said to each other,
00:44you know, life is short.
00:47If we fight, our children's status won't be good.
00:52So let's be friends, right?
00:55Who offered friendship?
00:56You or her?
00:57The two of us.
00:58That's nice.
00:59Then we agreed.
01:00You know, maybe it wasn't really our time to be friends.
01:04We were still young.
01:06After that, we were like siblings.
01:09In the end, we just became friends.
01:12Now, Regine and Michelle, I had nothing to do with them.
01:16I was just blessed with two beautiful, wonderful women who accepted each other.
01:25You know?
01:26And I remember, I have a story.
01:29When Regine was about to leave, Michelle told me,
01:32come on, you're embarrassing Regine here in Australia.
01:37Let her go so we can all meet.
01:40So when Regine got there, she said,
01:44I'm sorry, said Regine.
01:46Michelle said, no, we're family.
01:51Wow.
01:53So they're the two extraordinary people.
01:58Extraordinary.
01:59They're really different.
02:00Amazing.
02:01Forgiveness.
02:02So strong.
02:03So strong.
02:04Amazing.
02:05Forgiveness.
02:06Love.
02:07Acceptance.
02:08Yeah.
02:10Because you forgave the person, that's one.
02:12But you accepted them to be part of your life again and family.
02:16That's different.
02:17That's different.
02:20Did you see the girl?
02:22Yes.
02:23Yes, but there was a time when I saw their baby.
02:28I carried their baby.
02:30Aww.
02:31And I saw her for the first time, the girl.
02:35When did you give birth?
02:36Last year.
02:37Was the baby that big?
02:39No.
02:40How old was the baby?
02:41Was the baby one year old?
02:43One year old.
02:44I carried it.
02:45You carried it?
02:46Yes.
02:47How did you carry the baby?
02:48Of course, you talked to her.
02:51Hi baby.
02:52Aww.
02:53I'm sincere.
02:54Aww.
02:55She's angry.
02:56When I told my friends, they were even angrier than me.
03:05They said, can you do that?
03:07It's over, right?
03:08It's over.
03:09You're still there.
03:10Acceptance.
03:11Acceptance.
03:12Strong.
03:13The grief is over.
03:14The anger is over.
03:15You can do it.
03:16Do you know why you can do it?
03:18Because you can go back to being a good person.
03:21Because you're a good person.
03:22You can be yourself.
03:23Because you're really good.
03:25It's easy.
03:26It's easier to be yourself, right?
03:28Yes.
03:29And it's better if you don't have anything in your heart.
03:33True.
03:34Right?
03:35Especially with the baby.
03:36You didn't do anything.
03:37Yes.
03:38You didn't know.
03:39Isn't it different?
03:40When you're separated, you're caught.
03:41You don't want to show your children to your wife.
03:44Yes.
03:45You don't want to show your children to your wife.
03:46Yes.
03:47So that they'll all be happy.
03:48That's what I didn't do.
03:49Nice.
03:50What I said was, if it's your father's fault, it's not your fault.
03:53If he's not a good husband to me, he's a good father to you.
03:56I always tell him, don't get mad at your father.
04:00Sometimes he gets mad, but what I tell him is, don't get mad at your father.
04:04No matter what happens, he's your father.
04:06You won't be able to live without him.
04:09But let's let our children feel that.
04:12Yes.
04:13So that they'll feel bad or angry.
04:17There's a process.
04:18Right?
04:19Because they also need to feel that.
04:22Because even if he's not the husband, their father did something for them.
04:28Right?
04:29When he left, it's not just my mother who lost her husband.
04:32I also lost my father.
04:33Yes.
04:34Who was with me at home.
04:36So there's also a background.
04:37But it had an effect on him.
04:40He had anxiety.
04:43Yes.
04:44There were many times when he couldn't breathe.
04:50He said that he didn't experience what happened to his father.
04:54That's why I was so angry with him.
04:57Because if you didn't give my son the broken family,
05:01I told him that this wouldn't happen to him.
05:04I told him, what did you attack him with?
05:08He said, mommy, mommy, I can't breathe.
05:17I took him to the hospital early in the morning.
05:20There were just the two of us.
05:23When we got to the hospital, he suddenly got better.
05:26I was working.
05:29I didn't know that...
05:31When I was in the office, I knew that he was in school.
05:35Because I was giving him a pillow.
05:37But he didn't go to school for a long time.
05:40Because he was afraid that if he went out, something would happen to him.
05:46That's how he felt.
05:48It's like he had a trauma.
05:49The trauma, right?
05:50The trauma.
05:51How did you deal with it, your trauma?
05:54How was your trauma?
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