Kahey Faqeer - Host: Abdul Rauf - Speaker: Syed Sarfaraz Shah - 11 August 2024 - ARY Qtv
Kahey Faqeer - Host: Abdul Rauf - Speaker: Sarfaraz Shah
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An hour for spiritual education where our Speaker Sarfaraz A Shah will highlight the importance of Islamic teaching in our day today life and how we can balance it. As these days our young generation is going so far from these teachings but in this hour, we will give answers to those questions which are rising in their minds.
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An hour for spiritual education where our Speaker Sarfaraz A Shah will highlight the importance of Islamic teaching in our day today life and how we can balance it. As these days our young generation is going so far from these teachings but in this hour, we will give answers to those questions which are rising in their minds.
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00:00Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim, Assalamu Alaikum,
00:15I welcome you to the program, Kaif Faqeer.
00:19We have with us, as always, Syed Sahib Fahad Zaman Shah Sahib,
00:22who guides us, and we put your questions in front of him,
00:27and I always tell you to listen to him carefully, and try to follow him as well.
00:32And do give us your feedback, do send us your questions,
00:35and suggest topics, and if you have any questions regarding your personal life,
00:41we will answer them for you.
00:43So, Shah Sahib, Assalamu Alaikum.
00:44Walaikum Assalam.
00:45There was an incident, and I would like to talk about that incident,
00:49and many other aspects of our society come to the fore.
00:54A 15-16 year old boy, took his father's car and left,
00:59and he was hit by a car in the middle of the road,
01:02and six people died in that accident.
01:04This has gone viral on social media as well.
01:08Such children, who don't listen to their parents,
01:13and the car also hit them in a fit of anger, deliberately.
01:17So, what can be done about this?
01:19Should our police stop him, should the parents stop him,
01:25should the children be made to understand, what should be done?
01:28Personally, my own opinion is that his major responsibility is with the police,
01:44and the rest of the responsibility is with his parents.
01:50In the past, whenever we used to talk, we used to give the example of a motorway.
02:01I have been using a motorway since it was made.
02:06We had an IG, Mr. Zia-ul-Hassan.
02:10He was an IG of motorways for a while.
02:15The disciplined traffic on the motorways during his time,
02:21was never seen again.
02:24At that time, as far as I know,
02:29the judges and the commissioners were in power.
02:33At that time, you could only use the top lane for overtaking.
02:42If you used it for a little longer duration, then you were fined.
02:47You did not give a proper indication in lane shifting, then you were fined.
02:54You were fined for using a mobile phone.
02:59Gradually, it has become that on the motorway,
03:03only one thing is considered a crime, and that is over-speeding.
03:09Rest, no matter what you do, no one asks about the motorway.
03:14It is very unsafe.
03:16Likewise, in the city, the situation here was bad for a long time.
03:23This happens when the workers are certain that no one will ask about them.
03:35They will not be checked.
03:39When a functionary fears that he will be checked,
03:49he does his duty properly.
03:55You can see, in the city,
04:00you can park your car and check the documents.
04:08Approximately 70% of the people will be those who do not have a driving license,
04:13but they are driving very safely.
04:16No one will ask about them.
04:19So, one aspect of ours that is left behind,
04:26is that wherever we are standing,
04:30everything is happening in front of our eyes.
04:34Even now, they have rounded up 3,500 or something, I do not remember the exact number.
04:41They have rounded up underage drivers.
04:46Why did this happen only after the deaths of six people?
04:49Why did it not happen before that?
04:53And the lack of a license.
04:57In the past, when we started driving cars and motorcycles,
05:07driving a vehicle without a license was a heinous crime.
05:16It was in the 60s. At that time, you had to pay a fine of Rs. 200.
05:21Rs. 200 was a very big amount at that time.
05:28You had to pay a fine of Rs. 200, or a fine of six months.
05:33But now, 70% of the people do not have a license.
05:38We have not been able to do this much so far.
05:42I do not know the statistics, but I am relying on the statistics that I have read.
05:5170% of accidents involve motorcycles.
06:00And the main reason for this is that we do not tell the traffic rules to the new drivers.
06:09They do not have any training.
06:12And we have not been able to install a side mirror on a motorcycle.
06:16When I was young, even though motorcycles were not 70cc,
06:24they were big motorcycles.
06:26Every motorcycle that came to the market had two side view mirrors installed.
06:33The result of this was that we knew what was happening to my left and right.
06:45The result was that it was safe driving,
06:49and unless we made a big mistake in driving, there was no accident.
06:58If someone makes a small mistake on a motorcycle and installs a side view mirror,
07:08it results in a big accident.
07:12Six people lost their lives.
07:15It was a big tragedy.
07:18They were all from the same family.
07:20There were children as well.
07:22The interview of Sabra, who is from the same family,
07:25has been very saddening.
07:28Now, the child kept driving.
07:34Neither the parents nor the law enforcement agencies checked.
07:40So, both should be asked,
07:44that the child made a mistake, it is absolutely correct.
07:48The question is, where were you?
07:53Until you do not bring this into every matter,
07:56we will catch you.
07:58I mentioned this in one of your programs,
08:02that according to the Hadith,
08:07the one who takes bribes and the one who gives bribes are both hell.
08:13This is a big punishment for both.
08:16In our society, we only catch the one who takes bribes.
08:20We never check the one who gives, nor do we condemn.
08:27The result is that things do not come under control.
08:33Similarly, there is another crime, I will not go into the details of it.
08:37In that, both are equally punished.
08:41But we amend them within that.
08:47So, if you are really serious about stopping things,
08:55the parents and the people on duty,
09:01they should be checked first.
09:05How did you do this negligence?
09:09After that, it is the turn of the child who committed the crime.
09:13Mr. Shah, we have to stop here for a short break.
09:17We will come back after the break.
09:19Welcome back, Mr. Shah.
09:21When you are out on the streets,
09:25it feels like you have come home safely.
09:29You are very lucky.
09:31A new thing has come,
09:33a motorbike, a van type,
09:37a three-wheeler,
09:39there is no registration on it,
09:41no number is written on it.
09:43I don't think anyone has such a document,
09:47but they are walking on the streets.
09:49In a wrong way,
09:51there is no one to stop them.
09:55Enforcement of law,
09:57and respect for law,
09:59these two things,
10:01as I was saying in one of your programs,
10:05there is a need for this.
10:07Economy is very important,
10:09there is no doubt about it.
10:11It should be emphasized.
10:13But this is more important than that.
10:18Our transformation into a nation.
10:22When we create that thing,
10:26then such things,
10:28and you go back,
10:30from today,
10:3455 years,
10:3660 years ago,
10:38these things were there,
10:40but very little.
10:42At that time,
10:44while opposing the law,
10:46a person was afraid
10:48that he would be caught.
10:50This was not the case.
10:54So, all these things
10:56were there in our time,
10:58which gradually disappeared.
11:00We should ponder
11:02on those reasons.
11:06Now, you see,
11:08we idealize
11:10Hazrat Umar,
11:12may Allah be pleased with him,
11:14and very rightly so.
11:18Because he deserves it.
11:20We should be proud of him,
11:22and we should idealize him.
11:24He has a right.
11:28A judge,
11:30a judge,
11:32was immediately fired
11:34from his job,
11:36on the spot,
11:38because
11:40he stood up
11:42in respect.
11:48Then, you see,
11:50Hazrat Umar, may Allah be pleased with him,
11:52in other cases as well,
11:54he
11:58never touched the leaves
12:00of a tree
12:02and treated the roots.
12:04He never punished
12:06the lower level
12:08functionaries.
12:11He punished
12:13the higher level
12:15functionaries.
12:17The result of this was
12:19that
12:21Hazrat Umar, may Allah be pleased with him,
12:23a little over ten years,
12:25our golden period
12:27came to an end.
12:29It was such a powerful
12:31rule.
12:33We have left it.
12:37So, instead of
12:39watering the plants,
12:41we should treat the roots.
12:45The one who is supervising
12:47these things,
12:49he has shown
12:51his weakness
12:53in supervising.
12:55The result is that
12:57things have gone bad.
12:59We have heard from our elders
13:01that,
13:03based on our experience,
13:05a person who
13:07respects God is successful,
13:09but in the 20th century,
13:11a person has
13:13reached the level of heaven,
13:15but his morals have deteriorated.
13:17Please explain
13:19about this.
13:21It is a very simple thing.
13:25It is by chance,
13:27by chance.
13:31What is the mechanism
13:33of this by chance?
13:35Please see
13:37so that you understand the point.
13:39The point should not
13:41even be a proverb.
13:45It should not even be a quotation.
13:51When a person meets you,
13:53all of us
13:55should see this.
13:57Whenever a person
13:59meets us,
14:01who do we like
14:04and for whom
14:06do we develop liking?
14:08For that person
14:10who is very respectful,
14:12very well-mannered,
14:14well-behaved,
14:16he creates
14:18a liking
14:20in our hearts.
14:22When a liking
14:24is created for him,
14:26we happily
14:28do his work.
14:30Similarly,
14:32when a person
14:34is respectful,
14:36he creates
14:38a liking
14:40in the heart
14:42of the teacher,
14:44in the heart
14:46of the parents,
14:48in the heart
14:50of the relatives.
14:52The way
14:54he is taught
14:56is by heart
14:58because
15:00when he gets attention,
15:04then
15:06he learns more.
15:08This is the
15:10mechanism of it.
15:12And this thing
15:14which was right centuries ago,
15:16is still
15:18right.
15:20For example,
15:22when we go for an interview,
15:24the more
15:26well-behaved
15:28the person is,
15:30the more respectful he is.
15:32Not overly respectful,
15:34that is
15:36counterproductive.
15:38But
15:40reasonably respectful
15:42and well-behaved.
15:46Many of his
15:48shortcomings
15:50are ignored by the interviewer
15:52just because
15:54a liking is developed for him.
15:56He gets
15:58the same reward
16:00that he gets a job.
16:02This thing
16:04is very beneficial
16:06in every field of life.
16:08If
16:10we can explain
16:12this to people
16:14in a way
16:16that how beneficial
16:18it is for you,
16:20then I think
16:22it will be implemented.
16:24Another question is
16:26that I travel very little.
16:28And
16:30I have a friend who
16:32talks a lot.
16:34He talks a lot.
16:36In my life,
16:38I have always achieved
16:40the highest number
16:42in my educational career.
16:44But when we go for jobs,
16:46he is preferred,
16:48and I lag behind.
16:50I mean,
16:52your friend
16:54who talks a lot,
16:58he is not successful
17:00because he talks a lot.
17:02Because
17:04talking a lot
17:06is not a virtue,
17:08it is a shortcoming.
17:10Talking less
17:12is a great virtue.
17:14And
17:16in his life,
17:18he has asked
17:20a lot of questions.
17:22Please note that
17:24when I
17:26come to him,
17:28I talk a lot.
17:30For the first
17:322-4-5 minutes,
17:34his attention will be on him.
17:36After that,
17:38he will be lost in his thoughts.
17:40He will not be able to hear what he is saying.
17:42Because people get annoyed.
17:44Similarly,
17:46a person who talks a lot in a gathering,
17:48people's attention
17:50is not on him.
17:52A person who talks less,
17:54when he opens his mouth to speak,
17:56everyone becomes attentive.
17:58People get annoyed
18:00when people talk a lot.
18:02It is not a virtue to talk a lot.
18:04It is a shortcoming.
18:06The thing
18:08on which he is successful,
18:12he is knowledgeable
18:14in the art of conversation.
18:16It means
18:18that
18:20he will be able to
18:22say what he wants
18:26in a pleasant
18:28and pleasant
18:30manner.
18:32He will be able to
18:34express
18:36his opinion
18:38in a pleasant
18:40manner.
18:42This attracts
18:44people.
18:46This attracts people
18:48when there is a lot of discussion.
18:50Now,
18:52there was a person
18:54who
18:56wanted to say
18:58that
19:00you are agreeing with
19:02everything I am saying.
19:04This means that
19:06you don't want to do anything.
19:08Instead of this,
19:10he would have said
19:12that this means
19:14that you don't want to do anything.
19:16He narrated a very interesting story.
19:18He said that
19:20a person
19:22had gone to the grain market
19:24to buy wheat.
19:26He asked a shopkeeper
19:28about the price of wheat.
19:30He said that
19:32the price of wheat
19:34in the grain market
19:36is 5 kg.
19:38He said that
19:40he will give you 10 rupees
19:42for wheat.
19:44He went to the next shopkeeper
19:46and said that he will give him
19:4812 rupees for wheat.
19:50A shopkeeper
19:52told him the highest price.
19:54He took off his shirt
19:56and put it on his shoulder.
19:58He said that
20:00he will give him 5 rupees
20:02for wheat.
20:04He weighed the wheat
20:06and used a ring
20:08that weighed 5 kg.
20:10He did not say that
20:12he used
20:14a ring
20:16that weighed 3 kg.
20:18He used
20:20a ring
20:22that weighed 4 kg
20:24instead of 5 kg.
20:26He weighed the wheat
20:28and used
20:30a ring
20:32that weighed 5 kg.
20:34Instead of putting the ring
20:36on his shoulder,
20:38he took off his shirt
20:40and put it on his shoulder.
20:42He took off his shirt
20:44and put it on his shoulder.
20:46He said that
20:48he told him
20:50the highest price.
20:52He did not reduce it.
20:54He said that
20:56he weighed the wheat
20:58and used a ring
21:00that weighed 5 kg.
21:02He used a ring
21:04that weighed 5 kg instead of 5 kg.
21:06He said that he did not reduce it.
21:08He did not reduce it.
21:10He replied that
21:12he does not want to sell it to anyone.
21:14He said that
21:16he did not want to sell it to anyone.
21:18He said that
21:20he would have refused
21:22if he had to pay me.
21:24He conveyed his purpose
21:26beautifully.
21:28He conveyed his purpose
21:30beautifully.
21:32This means that you don't have to do anything.
21:34Hmm.
21:35So when a person's desire is so vast,
21:38then he conveys that thing so beautifully.
21:44And then it becomes more prominent in our eyes.
21:50People like that.
21:52That in a very pleasant way,
21:54he conveys the thing with a smile.
21:58We have to stop here.
22:00We will come back after the break.
22:03Yes, welcome back.
22:05This is a question.
22:06It says that it appears to us that
22:09the people who are ungrateful to God,
22:12they get involved in many other immoral activities.
22:18Is it that in one aspect of life,
22:21the person who is immoral or ungrateful,
22:24then in every aspect,
22:26that person does not prove to be a good person.
22:56The people who are ungrateful to God,
23:00God gives them more blessings.
23:03And those who are not grateful to God,
23:07blessings are taken away from them.
23:10So when a person is fed up with the reference of blessings,
23:15then to live his life,
23:18he should do something that should not be done morally.
23:24That is a possibility.
23:27But the direct result of this will not come out.
23:31But this is a very wrong thing.
23:35You should be grateful to God
23:40and blessings will be taken away from you.
23:44You should be kind to the people of God.
23:50God will be kind to you.
23:52You should make others a part of the sustenance of God.
23:58God will increase your sustenance.
24:01These are testable things.
24:03These are not bookish things.
24:05Many people have tried this,
24:10that the person who says that
24:13his sustenance is not increased,
24:17I am very troubled by this.
24:21Whenever he meets his sisters,
24:27even if they are multi-billionaires,
24:30if he gives them something,
24:32then see how the sustenance is increased.
24:36Many people have tried this.
24:40God opens the door of sustenance for them.
24:46When a person has the sustenance of blessings,
24:51then he does not go towards such things.
24:56As Hazrat Ali Karmadzad said,
25:00poverty leads a person to disbelief.
25:05So, the poverty of blessings compels a person
25:12to go towards something that he does not like.
25:18Shahnaz, I have asked a question.
25:20This is from Mr. Abrar.
25:22He says that we have seen that
25:25in the earlier times,
25:27teachers used to focus a lot on morals and culture.
25:31And the parents who have lost their children,
25:36the reason for that is that
25:38the teachers have reduced their role.
25:41They just come to the classes,
25:43teach and leave.
25:45So, is it the responsibility of the parents
25:49to fill this gap?
25:53A person has 24 hours in a day.
26:01A child spends a maximum of 5 hours in school.
26:06He spends the remaining 19 hours at home.
26:12Will he have a maximum of 5 hours of influence
26:16on a person's life?
26:18Or will he have a maximum of 19 hours?
26:21There was a time when teachers used to focus
26:26not only on education but also on morals.
26:30They used to train their students.
26:34It was a very good thing.
26:36But primarily,
26:38essentially it is the duty of the parents
26:41that they do not have time
26:43to train their children.
26:45The result is that
26:47by getting their children into a good school,
26:50they think that they have become great.
26:53This is not the case.
26:55So, the training of the children
26:58should essentially be at home.
27:01The parents should focus on their training.
27:04But the teachers should also
27:06go back to the old system
27:08and focus on education.
27:13I am not unduly defending the teachers.
27:21There has been a change in the society.
27:25The teachers are also a part of this society.
27:28There has been a change there as well.
27:31So, why should we single out a class?
27:35We should not single out.
27:38The major responsibility,
27:41the major part of the responsibility
27:44should be shouldered by them.
27:47It is their responsibility
27:49to find time for their children
27:51and train them.
27:53We do not do that as parents.
27:57I remembered one of my teachers.
28:00There are many teachers
28:02who I remember very well.
28:04One of them was Mr. Mukhtar.
28:06This is about the St. Maud School.
28:08We used to play hockey
28:10in the free period after class.
28:13There was a sports period.
28:15He used to play hockey with us.
28:18After playing hockey,
28:20when it was time for prayer,
28:24he used to say,
28:25I played hockey with you,
28:27now come and play with me.
28:29So, we used to go with him
28:31to pray and play happily.
28:33Personal examples,
28:35I have seen,
28:36play a very important role.
28:38No doubt.
28:39No doubt.
28:40But I will talk to you again
28:42that a child spends
28:4419 hours a day at home.
28:46The personal examples
28:48that are set there,
28:50it is a natural process
28:52that children idealize their parents.
28:55The person who idealizes them,
28:57follows them.
28:59So, it is a major responsibility
29:01on the parents
29:03to set a personal example
29:06for their children.
29:09I often say in your programs
29:12and in other places
29:14that whatever we want
29:16to make our child,
29:18the parents should become
29:20like that and come in front of them.
29:23Yes.
29:24The child will automatically
29:26become like that.
29:28Yes.
29:29You emphasize it again and again
29:31and I think it becomes
29:33more important for us
29:35to say this.
29:36We talked a lot about the gap.
29:38We did programs many times
29:40about the communication gap.
29:42So, the fundamental difference
29:44that has come is that
29:46parents do not talk to their children.
29:50When we talk,
29:52there is a shortcoming.
29:54Yes.
29:57There is the Sunnah of Allah
29:59and His Prophet,
30:01peace and blessings of Allah be upon him.
30:04And you,
30:05peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
30:08have advised us
30:10to get down to the mental level
30:12of our addressees
30:14and talk to them.
30:16Or in simple words,
30:18talk according to the mental level
30:20of your addressees.
30:22And Allah,
30:26His Divine Word,
30:28the Holy Quran
30:30or the books that came before it,
30:33when we study them,
30:35we come to know that
30:37the time when that book was sent,
30:40the content of that book
30:42and the language
30:44in that book
30:47is according to the mental level
30:49of the people of that time.
30:52Similarly, you, peace and blessings of Allah be upon you,
30:55used to talk according to the mental level
30:57of your addressees.
30:59We make a mistake here
31:01that when we are talking to a child,
31:04we do not get down to his mental level
31:07and talk to him.
31:09We talk to our level.
31:12So, the result is that
31:14it becomes difficult for the child
31:16to follow it.
31:18If we get down to the mental level
31:20of the child
31:22and then talk to him,
31:24he will understand very quickly.
31:27Okay.
31:28Shahzad, thank you very much.
31:30Thank you very much.
31:31The time for the program is ending now.
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31:37in your service in the next program.
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