It's Showtime: Paano ba tayo makakatulong sa pagbabago ng isang tao? (EXpecially For You)

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00:00I don't know if it's true, but when the blood started to flow, it changed.

00:07What?

00:08Because he had a motor accident in 2021.

00:11Then after that accident, he started to change little by little.

00:16Maybe the trauma from that accident has an effect on his behavior.

00:24Yes.

00:25Right?

00:26I still have hope that I can save him, I can raise him, but I really can't.

00:42The problem with us is that we always want people to change right away.

00:47We want to help them change right away.

00:51In reality, the process is not like that.

00:53You can't change.

00:54You need to understand first why he is like that.

00:58The root.

00:59Right?

01:00Where did it come from?

01:01You need to know first why he is like that.

01:05You need to go there and understand.

01:08Once you understand, then you can resolve it.

01:11Where does the pain come from?

01:13It's the same.

01:14You can't stop the bleeding.

01:16Because we don't know what's running through their brains.

01:20They are going through something.

01:21Where did it come from?

01:23We need to start there.

01:25Was it a trauma from the accident that made him feel like,

01:29that's how life is, right?

01:31Anytime, I can die.

01:33So if that's how life is, there's no guarantee that I can die anytime.

01:36I will enjoy it all.

01:38Whatever I have, right?

01:40If it's fun, I'll gamble it all.

01:42If it's fun to be with a friend, I'll be with my friend.

01:45I'll spend all my money, I'll gamble it all.

01:47Where did it come from?

01:49Is that a way for him to escape?

01:52Because he doesn't want to be inside the house?

01:55Is the house messy?

01:57Is that why he wants to be with his friends?

01:59What about me?

02:01What about me?

02:02Where am I?

02:05You also need to know where he is, so you can know where you are.

02:12Because if you want to be with him, where he is,

02:15you also need to know where you are.

02:17Unless it's clear to you that wherever you are, I'm here.

02:22It's up to you when you'll come back, I'm here.

02:26Or if you're not here, sorry,

02:29maybe when you come back, I'll be gone.

02:36Right?

02:37If you want the two of you to be together,

02:39you need to know where he is,

02:41and he also needs to know where you are,

02:44so the two of you can meet.

02:49Because if the two of you are in different places,

02:51you won't meet.

02:53Even if you're next to each other, it's like you're apart.

03:00He needs to understand himself,

03:02and for all those who want to help,

03:05they also need to understand.

03:07But you also need to understand what you're good at.

03:12Right?

03:14You also need to help yourself.

03:16But the reason is right.

03:18What's on your mind is,

03:20this will have a bad effect on me.

03:22Yes.

03:23If you'll be gone from me, or if I will lose you,

03:29that's better than I lose myself.

03:33Yes.

03:35But it took me a long time to decide to leave him.

03:40What's that, Joyce?

03:41Did you ask your ex,

03:43if you, or your relationship, or his friends,

03:46did you choose him?

03:47Yes.

03:48But he always answers me.

03:52But you don't feel it?

03:54No.

03:55Because even with addictions,

03:57it's a therapy.

03:59Yes, all of it.

04:00Right?

04:01Especially in other countries,

04:03because here, they don't talk much about it.

04:05It's just normal.

04:07If you're depressed,

04:08and the next day,

04:09you're like,

04:10I don't want this anymore.

04:11No.

04:12Addiction also becomes a disease.

04:14It becomes a condition.

04:16It's a part of your mental health.

04:18It needs therapy.

04:20And it also needs enough time and understanding.

04:25There's also a support group.

04:26A support group, right?

04:28But in the Philippines,

04:29they don't talk much about it.

04:31The different types of addiction,

04:34and what kind of condition it is.

04:36For them, it's just a vicious cycle.

04:38Anytime, you should leave.

04:39If you're depressed, leave.

04:41But because it's not normal,

04:43or they don't usually talk about it,

04:45they don't really understand it.

04:47And it's also not common for people

04:51to include mental health in their wellness.

04:57Wellness in their general check-up,

05:00dental check-up,

05:02that's it.

05:03Wellness in their thinking,

05:05that's not common in the Philippines.

05:07That's why they should always talk about it

05:09so that they become more normal

05:11and gradually understand it.

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