RHOC's Jennifer Pedranti Talks Adjustments to Living With Ryan, Is Still
Struggling to Coparent With Ex
Struggling to Coparent With Ex
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00:00So, was your ex supposed to be paying those monthly payments and you were just unaware of what was going on?
00:06Yeah, so he paid our rent, he paid everything.
00:09We had talked like, okay, the job, if I get the job, I was going to contribute.
00:15And the job was Bravo, but we hadn't had contracts yet.
00:18So, I was like, of course, if I do that, then I will totally help with rent or expenses or whatever we had talked about.
00:27And so, at that time, our arrangement was truly I had a debit card.
00:31And it's like, if I need gas, I text him, can you move money?
00:34I need groceries, can you move money?
00:36And so, I don't know if people understand.
00:38It was not a situation where I was sitting on all this money and just being like, I'm going to go get my hair done.
00:43It was not like that.
00:44You assumed the funds were there.
00:45Yes.
00:46And then you were like, oh my God, what am I going to do with myself and all these kids?
00:50And the owner of the home was like, it was right around Christmas.
00:54Sure.
00:55And so, we were having a conversation.
00:56And she said, look, get through Christmas.
00:58I know you and the kids.
00:59And I said, thank you so much for that.
01:01And then it was right around New Year's that we were all, my dad, Ryan, what are we going to do?
01:07How much has not been paid?
01:09And then rent was due on the 5th.
01:12And I was sitting there going, this is what we owe.
01:14And I owe another $12,000.
01:16And I asked the owner, I said, what if I get these kids and I out before the 5th?
01:19And she's like, okay, don't worry about it.
01:21And I moved in four days.
01:22Sure.
01:23And we went to Ryan's.
01:24And how was that then?
01:25Still there?
01:26It was an adjustment.
01:27We're still there.
01:28And it's amazing now.
01:29It was an adjustment period.
01:30For Ryan, for me, even though we were almost four years in, we're blending a big family
01:34and animals and all the things.
01:36And so, Ryan is very structured.
01:38And I learned I was very, like, I did everything for the kids.
01:42And so, Ryan's made me a little more structured.
01:44I've made Ryan a little more loose.
01:46And we are totally settling in now.
01:48But I would be lying if I said there wasn't a time period.
01:50We all needed to, like, settle into what we felt in the beginning was Ryan's home.
01:54But now we feel like we're all home.
01:56Did it ever put a strain on the relationship at all?
01:58Yeah.
01:59He had to have some mom talks with me.
02:01And that, like, it's like, you're not going to talk to him as a mom.
02:04You're not going to talk to me as a mom.
02:06And then when I let it sink in, like, you know, why are the kids not helping with the trash?
02:10Why am I picking up everyone's laundry?
02:12There's so many people in this house.
02:14Little things where I'm like, you know what?
02:16You just made my life so much easier.
02:17So much easier.
02:19Good.
02:20And things are settled with your ex now, right?
02:22Now.
02:23Divorce was final on the 11th.
02:24Okay.
02:25And I just keep saying I hope now we move forward.
02:28Sure.
02:29Are you happy with how everything turned out?
02:32I'm happy that that tie is now not between us.
02:37And, you know, it kept Ryan and I tied to it.
02:39It kept Will and I tied to one another.
02:42And I know he's so happy.
02:44And I know he and his girlfriend, wife, I know they want to move forward.
02:48They want to do the same.
02:49And so, peace, right?
02:51Peace.
02:52Yeah.
02:53I'm just ready for peace.
02:54Co-parenting peace, too?
02:55I need co-parenting peace.
02:56We are not.
02:57You're not there.
02:58Yeah.
02:59But they say, I feel like every time, you know, you talk to people and they say that
03:02it's bad, you know, time heals everything.
03:04And hopefully.
03:05I hear that, too.
03:06Yeah.
03:07And I so hope that.
03:08It's weird.
03:09I know this is an odd statement to make.
03:10It's like he still feels like family to me.
03:12Sure, yeah.
03:13And my family was Will's family.
03:15And my family still loves him, too.
03:17And we would embrace.
03:18I mean, his girlfriend was a friend of mine.
03:21I've known her for so long.
03:22So it's like, come on.
03:23Let's like.
03:24Get on the same page.
03:25Get on the same page.