#LuisManzano Celebrates the Joy of Being A Dad & Opens Up About The Unseen Burdens of Fatherhood l PopRica l Smart Parenting
Celebrate Father's Day with #LuisManzano on PopRica as he talks about the joys and challenges of fatherhood. He also opens up about the invaluable influence of his own parents on his approach to parenting.
Don't miss this touching episode filled with insights and Luis Manzano's trademark wit! #SmartParentingXLuisManzano #SPFathersDay #FathersDay
Celebrate Father's Day with #LuisManzano on PopRica as he talks about the joys and challenges of fatherhood. He also opens up about the invaluable influence of his own parents on his approach to parenting.
Don't miss this touching episode filled with insights and Luis Manzano's trademark wit! #SmartParentingXLuisManzano #SPFathersDay #FathersDay
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00:00I used to think that this is the only thing that's going to be expensive.
00:03Milk, that's all.
00:05Diaper, that's all.
00:07Until you notice that these are a bit big.
00:10Okay, next month, I'll have to accept more rackets.
00:20Hi SBFam!
00:21Welcome to another episode of PopRika.
00:24Now, it's June and it's the month of the men in our home.
00:27Our dads, tatay, spapas, and I'm very excited to be reunited with one of,
00:32you know, he's been my friend from before pa, 19 couple of months.
00:36Yes.
00:37Let's not be too formal, but now he is a proud girl dad to one-year-old Rosie,
00:42none other than Mr. Luis Manzano.
00:45Ikasama jan, nice to see you again.
00:47When he called me Karics, I was like,
00:49Oh my God, someone knows my past life here.
00:52At, magkasama ba kami nag-workout dati sa The Spa, sa QC, sa May Libby.
00:57How dated is that?
00:58Diba? So talaga namang, we go way back talaga.
01:02And I'm proud of you.
01:03I'm very very proud of you.
01:04Thank you so much.
01:05We're happy naman with the people that we've become, no?
01:08I think so.
01:09I'm very happy with the person you've become, ako.
01:11Ikaw?
01:12Parang mali, mga ginagawa ako sa buhay.
01:15No, but the fact that we're having this conversation,
01:17I'd like to say that I made some pretty great choices in life.
01:20I mean, we've made bad choices,
01:22but then also we have to congratulate ourselves
01:25every now and then naman for the good ones.
01:27Which is, like now you're a dad,
01:29and I want to ask you, what I'm very curious about is,
01:32I have two boys.
01:33Okay.
01:33And you know, to enter the world of boys is like,
01:36Oh, ganito pala kayo.
01:38Perfect.
01:39Ganyan.
01:40You have a girl!
01:41Yes.
01:41So how does it feel like to be a girl dad?
01:44Bagyat sa pa siya.
01:45So, kumbaga, a long way to go.
01:48Right.
01:48So many more days, months, years of learning.
01:51Sabi ko nga, hindi ko pa na-imagine yung darating siya sa harap ko,
01:55may papakilala ng nangdiligaw sa kanya,
01:57o hindi kaya darating na may papakilala ng boyfriend.
02:00Pero sinabi ko naman sa kanya,
02:01ay nabanggit ko rin to sa dating interview,
02:04naglagay na rin naman ako ng rules sa bahay.
02:06I have to be very firm.
02:07Peanut, pag napanood mo to,
02:08I apologize, but I have to be very firm sa bahay.
02:12Hindi ako tatanggap ng mangdiligaw sa ba.
02:15Unless, si Goongway Razon Tan ang mga apelido na na.
02:22Kung gano'n man, paso kayo.
02:24Pagtitimpla ko pa kayo ng kape.
02:25Oh, okay.
02:26Anyone else, malabunang-bunong.
02:28Okay.
02:29Sorry, Peanut.
02:30Talaga, medyo strict ala sa papa mo.
02:32I can't imagine the day na may papakilala.
02:35Kahit suitor lang, kahit hindi pa sinasagot or anything.
02:38Hindi ko pa ma-imagine.
02:39So I was gonna ask about your parenting style.
02:41Kasi sabi nila, yung mga millennial dads daw.
02:44And I kind of feel it.
02:45Mas involved daw than the previous generations.
02:48I guess it's also because we have more information.
02:51Alam mo yun.
02:52And I'm grateful for that.
02:53Do you think that your parenting style is a more involved one?
02:58What would you describe it?
02:59As involved as I can be.
03:02But for example, di ba?
03:03It all depends on your householding kasi.
03:05Yeah.
03:05Di ba?
03:06Like for example, ako, medyo mas marami akong trabaho kay HowHow.
03:09So it's very understandable if ako yung mas nasa nabas ng bahay.
03:13But every time na sa bahay ako, ang goal namin is pagkagising,
03:17it's either she brings peanut to me or peanut muna lambingan.
03:21Kasi peanut has her own room.
03:23Hindi pa kami nagco-co-sleep kasi I'm a very light sleeper.
03:27As in konting galaw lang, ano na ako, dilat na ako, gising na ako.
03:32And you know, a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do.
03:34Or a provider's gotta do what a provider's gotta do.
03:36So may sarili siyang kwarto ever since.
03:38Ever since.
03:39Tapos 86 ang bodyguards niya.
03:41Nakaikot kami sa kwarto na yun.
03:43Kasi, wala man naman.
03:44Okay pala yung nakuubos yung pera mo.
03:45Yeah, yaman yung toys.
03:47Yung nga, wala kami makain ngayon e.
03:49Puro pang bodyguard ang pera ko.
03:50At least dilata kayo sa bahay.
03:52Pero marami namang bodyguards.
03:54Mga dilata ko, tinanggal ko yung balat para surprise ang kain na namin e.
03:57Wow, grabe.
03:59It's exciting.
04:00Para game show para.
04:01Dilata man.
04:02Exciting parin.
04:03Nagigit mo yung balat.
04:04Hindi mo ala, ala tayo ngayong gabi.
04:05Ito kaya.
04:07Ganda yung parenting style.
04:08Very exciting.
04:09Di ba?
04:10So pagkagising, it's peanut time.
04:12Then siguro I'll sneak in a workout.
04:15Pag naka-workout, if I have work, I go to work.
04:18Tapos pagkabalik, o kung wala work, peanut time.
04:21So as much as I can do.
04:22Without forgetting about the things I have to do din naman.
04:25Either for the family or for myself.
04:27Right.
04:27So you're, actually we're all learning that.
04:31Not really balance, but to have an integrated kind of life.
04:34But I was gonna ask you, ano ba kayo ni Jesse?
04:38Ano ba kayo relaxed parenting?
04:40Ano ba strict parenting?
04:42May moments kayo eh.
04:44I'm sure it's like any parent, may moment ka na magiging relaxed ka.
04:47But then again, pagano as a parent magiging strict.
04:49Kita mo, bilistan ganon ko.
04:51Kita mo, bilistan.
04:52Nakuran ba yun?
04:54But just like sa mommy ko before.
04:56Si mommy kasi, ano yun eh.
04:59OA.
05:00OA.
05:01OA, exag, hypochondria.
05:03Yes.
05:04Ganun.
05:05So as an observer sa kapatid ko.
05:08And kahit ako, being the receiving end.
05:11Na, parang klabi naman to.
05:13O, o, o.
05:14Anong nangyayari sa'yo mommy?
05:15Bakit ka ganyan?
05:16But now I understand.
05:17I know.
05:18Now I get it.
05:19So that one you understand.
05:20Anong sasabi mo sa sarili mo na, okay, nagiget ka na si mama.
05:24Ano pa yung mga ganun na consensus?
05:24Si mommy, pagkunwari may isa sa amin dati na may sakit.
05:27Pagkunwari naga thousand temperatures.
05:30True.
05:30Pagkunwari 37.2.
05:32O, o.
05:33Kunwari yung isa, yung isa pagtenga naman.
05:35O, o.
05:35Ganun yun.
05:36So sabi ko dati, akong o, o, o.
05:38Okay na yung isa.
05:39Yung first time nagkasakit si Peanut, true na, ganun na ginagawa ko.
05:42O, o.
05:43Habi siguro ni Peanut ang o, o, o.
05:46O, o, nang papa ko.
05:48But then you understand.
05:48Sino ba sa o, o, o sa inyo ni Jessie?
05:50Bako.
05:51Ako.
05:52That's so cute.
05:53Ako, ako, o, o.
05:54Nakataon kasi, it was a very challenging few days for me.
05:59First time nagkasakit si Peanut.
06:00Very first time.
06:01She had a fever, very slight cold.
06:04Nagka-COVID si Jessie.
06:06O, nagsasabay.
06:06Sabay ito ha.
06:07O, o.
06:08So, buti na lang yung bahay ko, 92 ang kwarto.
06:10O, o.
06:11Ang ganda nung ano, quarantine, o.
06:13Nagpakuha ko ng tubig sa kasambahay, nawala siya, two weeks.
06:17Oh my God.
06:17Tinawagan mo nalang, denied mo nalang.
06:19Wala, wala nag-signal palano sa gear.
06:20Sabi, e-Google, e-Google map mo walang signal, sir.
06:23So it was so difficult as a, as a, as a husband, as a father.
06:26Nandito ako sa guest room.
06:28See how, how may COVID.
06:29At, at si Peanut, syempre if anything were to happen, God forbid.
06:33Hindi naman siya pwede lumapit.
06:34Because it might make things worse for Peanut.
06:36Right, o, o.
06:36Di ba, baka may sakit na nga, baka magka-COVID.
06:38O, o.
06:39Wala, na-challenge yung pagiging OA ko dun.
06:43Asawan na nga, anak pa.
06:44Sabay, sabay.
06:45Tinong na todo pa lahat.
06:46Oh my gosh.
06:46Well, welcome to the life of parents.
06:49I think it's something that we have to get used to, no?
06:52When they get sick.
06:52And also, the fact that you always remember your parents.
06:56Di ba?
06:57There's a reference, e.
06:58There's a, there's a reference.
06:59Now we understand them.
07:00Now we understand.
07:02Have they, like, influenced your parenting style also?
07:04Siguro unconsciously.
07:05Okay.
07:06We've always been a very, uh, malambing family.
07:09You are.
07:10Yes, yes.
07:10We've always been a very malambing family.
07:12We're very affectionate.
07:13We're very vocal.
07:14Obviously, I love you, Lucky.
07:16Di ba?
07:16So, uh, so same thing.
07:18In fact, bagong, bagong panganak pa si Peanut.
07:20The first month or two.
07:21Whenever ilalabas namin sa vlog.
07:22Yung mga nagko-comment, bakit I love you, nang I love you si Luis?
07:26Peanut, I love you.
07:29So parang, don't na realize na, oo nga, no?
07:32Always, I love you, Peanut.
07:33I love you, anak, always.
07:34So yun nakita ko, my dad and I, we hug, uh, we kiss.
07:38Si Tito Ralph din naman.
07:39You can see how intense his, uh, love is for Peanut.
07:43So it was never something na siguro I consciously got from mommy, from daddy, from Tito Ralph.
07:48It was more of, that's the environment I grew up in.
07:50So yun automatically napapasa ko kay Peanut.
07:53You know that, um, Maria Montessori said something that, you know, children incarnate
07:58whatever their environment is.
08:00And I guess that's what you did.
08:01Like it's, you grew up in such a loving, malambing na environment.
08:05And you just became that malambing person up to your children.
08:10But I was gonna ask you also, ano yung, so she's just one and six, right?
08:15Are there things that you're already imagining in the future na parang,
08:18I can't wait to do this?
08:20Because when my kids were very small, sabi ko,
08:23excited na excited ako yung nagagawa kami ng mga activities together.
08:27Sinasabi nila na, kumbaga, it's sort of a given na ang boy, mas mapapalapit sa mama.
08:33Na ang girl, mas mapapalapit sa daddy, parang sinasabi nila na gano'n.
08:38Pero syempre na she's very young, mas mama pa talaga sya.
08:40Para sabi nila, just wait.
08:43Sabi nila after siguro, mga pag two years na sya, ikaw na talaga ang hahanapin niya.
08:48So I can't wait for that to happen.
08:50Ako yung, for example, if there's a stranger sa bahay,
08:53automatic, kunwari ko yung bagong hindi ko pakilala ni Peanut,
08:56tuturo niya si Jessie.
08:57Right.
08:58Mama, mama.
08:59Parang sinasabi niya na, that's my mom, that's my mom.
09:02Stranger, danger, that's my mom.
09:03So I can't wait na ako yung unang-unang papasok sa isip niya na,
09:07Papa, papa, sya magbabayad ng gasulo, si papa, papa.
09:12Iba pala yung pagdamagasal.
09:14Pa, sino yung pumasok?
09:15Ah, yung papa po po yun.
09:17Yung magbabayad ng gasulo, si papa.
09:19I can't wait na ako yung unang-unang niyang maiisip at yung unang-unang tatakbuhan.
09:24Already, as early as now, I know she's small,
09:26but, you know, to be a girl is different, definitely, from being a boy.
09:30Are there mindsets that you're already trying to instill in her as early as now,
09:35na parang you're a strong girl?
09:37That's a given, ah.
09:37That's a, that's a given sa akin na you can be anything you want.
09:41Diba, you're a strong girl.
09:43Pero, one thing, and parang iba itong sinasabi,
09:46for, you know, people my age, makamana na dyan.
09:49It was, it was an old movie, if you remember, Father of the Bride.
09:53Yes, yes, of course.
09:54Steve Martin.
09:55So, obviously, the story, yung unika-iha niya,
09:57eventually, kailangan niya ipamigay, diba, for marriage.
10:02But there was something he said in the end, na this is just me,
10:04ipagkakaintindi ko.
10:05He said something na parang, you know, at one point in life,
10:09you would have to let your children go into the world.
10:12Okay, you will have to let them experience the good and the bad.
10:15And para sa akin, niniwala ako na lahat tayo nagkamali na at one point,
10:21lahat na mga anak natin magkakamali pa rin at one point.
10:23But, you always hope and pray that you raise them well enough,
10:28na yun ang babalik kanila.
10:30Yung core na yun, napagpapalaki,
10:32na kahit mapalagiran sila ng whatever temptation, day in and day out,
10:37they will always fall back on how you raised them.
10:39That's what I want to instill sa kanila.
10:41Na just that innate goodness, na meron silang fall back,
10:46just in case things get a bit too loud or too noisy.
10:49Well, one, you're such an open-minded dad.
10:51Kasi ang hirap din to say na hindi pwede yung lahat, diba?
10:54Your child is untouchable.
10:56That's not true.
10:57It's not realistic.
10:59I like what you said because it tells me that,
11:02you know, I'm not in control of everything as a parent,
11:05but at least this I can give,
11:07and this my child can fall back to kung meron man mangyaro sa kanya.
11:12Such a nice thing.
11:13I'm so excited.
11:14Basta you should hope that you get to plant that seed as a parent.
11:18What's your biggest fear as a dad?
11:20The reality of not being able to provide.
11:23Oh.
11:24Para sa akin, hindi ko kailangan magbigay ng sobrang rangyang buhay.
11:28It's not me, it's not Jessie, and it's not something for Peanut.
11:32We just want to be comfortable.
11:34Na happy kami, happy mga tao sa paligid, na nakahay naman kami.
11:39I guess that's the biggest fear para sa akin.
11:41One, especially na bata pa si Peanut.
11:44Two, is lumaki si Peanut na hindi siya magiging blessing sa ibang tao,
11:48whatever that entails.
11:49Nakasabi ko naman for you to be a blessing to other people,
11:51a common misconception,
11:52people always believe that it's always monetary.
11:55Na kailangan for you to be a blessing, kailangan palagi ko nagbigay.
11:58Right.
11:58Para hindi blessing yan, na tulungan ako niyan,
12:00lukas nang bigay, you know what I mean?
12:02When you say be a blessing, you just make life easier for so many people.
12:06Yun yung fear ko na hindi ma-instill kay Peanut as a father.
12:10Whether it be nagpapatawa siya,
12:12nagpapagang siya ng buhay ng tao,
12:14or she shows compassion,
12:17yun yung fear ko na hindi ko ma-bigay sa kanya yan.
12:20But I'd like to think that she has such a good environment,
12:23kay Jessie,
12:25kay mommy,
12:26kay daddy,
12:26kay Tito Ralph,
12:27na they have the best hearts.
12:29Right.
12:29So if ever man na ako mismo ay kapusin sa department na iyon,
12:34andahaning pwede magapas sa kanya to really be a blessing.
12:38I love your answer.
12:39Kasi parang it's just so realistic.
12:41That's one.
12:43And also how you showed us the heart of a dad.
12:45Kasi pag nanay ka, kahit na like say for us,
12:49we're double income naman na household,
12:51but I don't feel that pressure like what you said not to provide.
12:55I think really it falls,
12:57it depends, maybe not for all,
12:59but largely I think in the Philippines,
13:01ganun yung pag-iisip na paglalaki ka,
13:03ikaw yung provider.
13:04And that's such a huge stressor in your life, right?
13:07Oo naman, oo naman.
13:09Ako akala ko lang dati na napaka,
13:12kaya may baby,
13:13ah ito lang yung magiging gastus and milk,
13:15yun lang.
13:16Diaper, yun lang.
13:18Hanggang sa papatsin mo yung mga,
13:21parang medyo malaki to.
13:22Okay.
13:23So salodabon,
13:23medyo kina ako tumanggap ng mga racket.
13:25Ayun ah.
13:27Okay.
13:28Yung mga hindi mo tatanggapin before.
13:30Hindi ko naman kinatanggap to dati,
13:32pero sige pwede ako sa araw na yan.
13:34So para sa akin,
13:35a provider has to do what a provider has to do.
13:37Right.
13:38I know what you mean.
13:39But it's a very refreshing thing to hear,
13:41especially when you are so used to a world
13:44that celebrates just moms.
13:46Yes.
13:46Kasi yung mga dads,
13:47meron din yan.
13:48Hindi lang talaga,
13:50hindi lang.
13:50Hindi lang sanay yung Pinoy kasi
13:52na naglalabas ng ganong klaseng sa loobin ang mga dadi.
13:54Kasi kailangan palagi matatag.
13:56Di ba nga,
13:56may rule,
13:58di ba,
13:58na men aren't supposed to cry.
14:00Cry, correct.
14:01I'm pretty sure all the SP dads
14:03are going to be very happy now.
14:05Oh, someone said it!
14:06Oh, di ba?
14:07Medyo, it's quite a load on one's shoulders.
14:12How about Jesse pala?
14:13Paano kayo nagbe-make time na mag-asawa for each other?
14:16There has to be effort talaga
14:18to still have those date nights.
14:20Medyo nahihirapan kami at this point
14:21na gawusapan namin
14:22should we go on a couple trip
14:24na kami dalawa lang.
14:25Pero siguro sa age ni Peter,
14:26kasi ang hirap ang ending.
14:28Mag-ano lang kami,
14:29baby come the whole time,
14:30mag-CCPV,
14:32o mag-facetime,
14:33ganyan kami.
14:34So parang it's quite difficult
14:37to do that.
14:37Pero hindi namin kailangan limutan.
14:39Even the small gestures for each other,
14:41I think that that says a lot
14:44in terms of keeping our relationship
14:47the way it was
14:48and hopefully will always be.
14:49Ako, we have our own path as a married couple.
14:52We have our own path as parents
14:54and we have our own individual paths.
14:56But we will never forget our path din naman
14:58as a couple.
15:00Correct.
15:00That's so good
15:01that you don't forget the other relationship
15:03in your life
15:03just because you became a parent.
15:06If there's one life lesson
15:08that you want Rosie to have,
15:10what is that?
15:11This sounds weird,
15:12pero this is one thing
15:13na I hope she gets in life
15:16because she's born
15:18in a very comfortable environment.
15:20Right.
15:20I want her to learn
15:22na there's a real world.
15:23Okay, and second,
15:25yung real world na yon,
15:26kahit iba kinalakihan mo,
15:27pantay-pantay pa rin kayong lahat.
15:30Very good.
15:30Yung gusto ko ma-realize ni Peanut talaga.
15:33And I think that's a very aware thing
15:35to say from someone like you.
15:37Yeah, parang,
15:38because if you're aware of those things,
15:40then babalik ako lang kanina,
15:41then you can easily be a blessing
15:42to so many people.
15:43Of course.
15:43Starts with that awareness.
15:45And it's so hard to be detached
15:47and so proud of.
15:48Yeah.
15:48Di ba, na parang everybody else
15:50is reading the same thing
15:51and you, you're just being
15:52your privileged self.
15:53Yeah.
15:53I guess you know this also
15:55because you grew up
15:56in a privileged home, di ba?
15:58But I guess your parents also,
15:59if anything,
16:00your mom was able to raise you
16:02in such a way that you're,
16:03kasi kahit kailan naman,
16:04kahit nung bata pa tayo,
16:05you're very maanay,
16:06makisama sa ibang tao.
16:08I never felt like you were
16:09high above than everybody else.
16:11I hope Peanut gets that from you.
16:13Thank you.
16:14Thank you very much.
16:14Thank you, Luis.
16:15Thank you.
16:16Super, super happy to talk to you.
16:17This is great.
16:18Thank you.
16:19Uh, nasanong ko lang nga.
16:21Oh, ano, ano.
16:22Tapos sa'yo, di ba?
16:23Tapos sa'yo.
16:23Kaliwaan, babaya.
16:26Guys, naghihirap na to.
16:27Bayarin, bayarin niyo to.
16:29Naghihirap niya siya, provider e.
16:30Tinaparegan ko nga kayo sa provider kanina.
16:32Tapos, di ba kani,
16:33pambihirang buhay to.
16:35Thank you.
16:36Thank you.
16:36Thank you, everyone.
16:37We love you and we thank you very much.
16:39And thank you, everyone,
16:40for watching Paprika.
16:42That was such an awesome episode.
16:44I hope natuto kayong lahat,
16:47kahit na maraming kalokohan.
16:50Pero yung totoo,
16:51maraming ring malalalim
16:52na tagos sa puso
16:54ang shinner sa atin si Luis.
16:55So thank you so much.
16:56Thank you.