Trans man donates his eggs so his sister can have a baby

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A trans man says donating his eggs so his sister can have a baby was the "easiest decision" he’s ever made - despite worrying about feeling "less of a man".   Kenny Ethan Jones, 30, has harvested 13 of his eggs so far and chosen to donate them to sister, Kizzy, 38 - who has struggled for six years to get pregnant.   He originally wanted to undergo the procedure - in which the patient takes medication and has surgery to retrieve their eggs - after transitioning "years ago".   But his gender dysphoria - a sense of unease that someone may have with their gender - was so severe, he needed to prioritise his mental health.   In 2019, after a long conversation with Kizzy about her fertility, he offered to donate his eggs to her - feeling that it was the right thing to do.   Kizzy has an appointment next week at the same hospital Kenny had his retrieval.   The eggs will need to be screened, which will take three months - and Kizzy wants to try and "get going" as soon as possible.

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00:00 I am super nervous right now.

00:04 I called Shizy to help calm me down but...

00:08 I can't believe I'm doing this.

00:13 We're here now.

00:15 I think I'm going to have to come out.

00:17 I'm transgender and I'm harvesting my eggs for my sister.

00:20 You all had questions, so let's answer them.

00:22 Why didn't I harvest my eggs before I transitioned?

00:25 Before I medically transitioned, I was experiencing intense gender dysphoria.

00:30 And so for me, alleviating that became urgent and more important than the idea of having a biological child someday in the future.

00:37 That was the right decision for me and I'm really glad that I did it that way.

00:40 Because had I went into a process that was going to make me more aware of my body at that point in time, it would have broke me.

00:48 Have I become dysphoric as parts of my body that are associated with being female are focused on?

00:53 No. No.

00:57 I think that's a testament to my growth.

01:00 I am totally comfortable in the body that I'm in.

01:03 And the fact that some people will see me as biologically female, that doesn't really bother me.

01:08 At the end of the day, I know who I am and I'm confident in the skin I'm in.

01:11 Did I have to come off testosterone?

01:13 Also no.

01:14 I haven't stopped my testosterone, but I have reduced it.

01:17 I was taking three and a half pumps daily and I dropped down to one a day.

01:20 Did being on testosterone affect my egg count?

01:23 Yes, it did. But in a good way.

01:26 I actually spoke to my doctor about this on our consultation call.

01:29 Obviously, there's little to no research on trans men going through this process.

01:33 So instead, they use the statistics based on cis women who had high levels of testosterone in their body.

01:39 What the research said is that cis women who had high levels of testosterone tend to have more eggs in their egg reserve.

01:45 So actually, being on testosterone has potentially benefited me in this situation.

01:50 Is there anything in this process that surprised me in good or bad ways?

01:54 There's definitely two things that come to mind.

01:56 The first being that I have PCOS, which I've never been diagnosed for,

02:00 but makes sense because I always used to have really painful periods and pass out.

02:04 And the second thing is definitely how the doctors and nurses have treated me throughout this process.

02:09 I feel like my identity has been completely respected,

02:12 no matter what room I've walked into or who I've spoken to.

02:15 I don't know why I'm getting upset by that. I'm going to blame the hormones.

02:19 It's just, it's really special. It's really special.

02:24 I'm just really grateful because I was worried about that.

02:30 All right, I think we should stop there.

02:33 Thank you for watching. Bye for now.

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