Aired (May 14, 2024): Matapos nilang pagkuwentuhan ang buhay pag-ibig ni Gia, napunta sa usapang parenting styles ang diskusyon nina Anne, Jhong, Ogie, at Vhong, kasama si EXpecial Daddy, Daddy Paulo. #GMANetwork
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00:00 Gia, I have a question for Daddy Paolo.
00:03 Because Daddy Paolo, for example, me and Erwan,
00:06 I also have a daughter.
00:07 And we were talking about our parenting.
00:11 Like, we were saying, "I am sure going to be like you guys."
00:16 It's a bit strict, like, "No, you should study first."
00:20 But one thing Erwan also told me,
00:22 "Would you rather she would hide things from us,
00:26 or would you rather she would open up and share everything with us?"
00:30 I said, "Yes, of course."
00:32 It's a very tough thing as a parent.
00:35 Now, would you have changed your decision?
00:39 Still, for me, no.
00:42 Because we still believe,
00:46 because the youth today,
00:47 they say, "The heart is full."
00:50 And I believe, I always remind my children,
00:53 that proximity is stronger than love.
00:58 So, it's just saying,
00:59 sometimes, even if you love one person,
01:01 but because you're always with that person,
01:03 you'll fall for that person, especially when it's physical.
01:06 So, as young as they are, still studying,
01:08 what we're avoiding is accidents
01:11 that can affect their studies, or their future.
01:15 So, if we don't give certain rules,
01:19 it's more open.
01:20 Sometimes, they would open up,
01:21 and even if we say, "Pause or slow down,"
01:25 but because sometimes they would notice,
01:27 "Dad and Mom aren't serious."
01:30 So, we made a point that focus on studies,
01:34 that's our rule.
01:35 After your studies, then...
01:38 Do whatever you want.
01:39 That's why we're here, because it's already 22.
01:40 Yes, it's already 22.
01:42 You're the one who will choose, right?
01:43 It's too long.
01:45 But you, Ogie, as a father,
01:46 because your children are already married,
01:48 was there a time, for example, when Gia,
01:51 who's going to court,
01:52 what was that feeling like?
01:54 Did you feel like you were being forced?
01:56 As a father.
01:57 Maybe it wasn't forced by Daddy Paolo,
02:00 but because you're right,
02:03 no matter how forced you are,
02:05 you'll do it, and you'll do it in a way that your children
02:09 will be a bit arrogant, right?
02:11 They'll rebel.
02:13 Because we were like that too, right?
02:15 So, if you ask me,
02:17 it's okay if they want to force me to do something,
02:21 as long as we're open in communication.
02:23 If you want to hide a bit, that's up to you.
02:25 We can't force you.
02:27 Yes.
02:29 I have a question.
02:30 Because, of course,
02:31 girl dads, but now you also have a boy.
02:35 Chang has a lot of boys.
02:37 Will you be more strict with your children
02:42 if you have a girl, or will you be more chill?
02:46 Because you have a lot of boys.
02:48 Can you court them when they're 13, 14, or...
02:52 Actually, I'm very open with them.
02:56 I tell them to study first, as of now.
03:00 But as much as possible,
03:02 if there are crushes, we'll talk about it.
03:05 But like with Addy, he's 27 now.
03:09 He's 22 or 23 years old when he had a girlfriend.
03:12 Something like that.
03:13 So Kyle is now a baby, 15.
03:16 Seya is 11.
03:18 She knows more about love,
03:20 but her brother is more of a baby.
03:22 So he's just chill.
03:24 But is it okay for you if they have a girlfriend?
03:27 No.
03:29 Still no?
03:30 - Still no. - How many years?
03:31 Even if they're all boys?
03:32 You know,
03:33 still no.
03:34 It hurts, right?
03:35 Yes.
03:36 I don't know if you felt that.
03:38 Yes, I never experienced it with Addy.
03:40 So now, with Kyle and Seya,
03:42 I'm nervous, but I hope they don't get too young.
03:46 Chang, for example, with Addy,
03:49 you're not allowed here in "Expecially For You."
03:51 You'll have to find him a date.
03:53 A date?
03:54 - That's possible. - Because...
03:56 He's 27 now.
03:57 He's a big surfer now.
03:59 What about Seya?
04:00 Seya? No.
04:01 - He's still young. - I'll just ask him to answer.
04:05 But that's really it.
04:06 My prayers are every day,
04:07 I hope they finish their studies first.
04:09 - Studies first. - Yes.
04:12 But, of course,
04:13 like what you said earlier about the hiccups,
04:16 we should really be able to talk to our kids now.
04:19 - It's the foundation. - It's very important
04:21 - that we listen to them. - Yes.
04:23 - Correct. - Especially their emotions
04:25 - or what they're going through. - Correct.
04:26 - Even their problems. - They should appreciate that.
04:28 - They should. - Even their problems,
04:30 - they should say it. - Especially when they break up.
04:31 - Oh, that's it. - Yes.
04:32 - They need to remember. - They need to be there.
04:35 And maybe,
04:36 I'll just share this last time,
04:37 it's very important that they feel that we trust them.
04:40 Yes.
04:41 I love that.
04:42 - So that they'll share with us. - Yes.
04:44 - I love that. - That we trust them.
04:46 One more question.
04:47 So, Barbie is here, right?
04:49 Barbie's daddy is also here.
04:51 And I can see him reacting.
04:53 We want to ask Barbie's daddy,
04:55 that...
04:56 Does daddy have a mic?
04:57 There.
04:57 Why are you guys next to each other?
04:59 - Just kidding. - Just kidding.
05:00 Just kidding.
05:01 - Just kidding. - Just kidding.
05:02 - He's asking in his dream. - Just kidding.
05:04 Are you guys, daddy,
05:07 also dreaming
05:09 that Barbie will chat with you guys?
05:12 If you remember, or something like that.
05:14 It's not like that, because
05:16 I trust Barbie a lot.
05:18 - Oh. - So you guys weren't tight
05:20 when it comes to boyfriends?
05:21 Even until now.
05:22 - Wow. - Wow.
05:24 Barbie, did you hide your relationship ever?
05:27 - No. - Did you ever run away?
05:29 All of my family knows
05:32 about my crushes,
05:35 - Boyfriends. - Boyfriends.
05:36 M.U. Boyfriends.
05:37 So,
05:38 all throughout the process of
05:40 puberty, womanhood,
05:43 they're there to guide me.
05:44 - That's great. - That's why
05:45 I want to ask, is it wrong
05:47 that when you're still studying,
05:51 you can't have a relationship?
05:53 - Is it wrong? - Who are you asking?
05:55 - Daddy Paolo. - You want to ask?
05:57 - Daddy Paolo. - Daddy Paolo.
05:59 - Daddy Paolo. - Daddy Paolo.
06:01 For us,
06:02 for me,
06:03 for us, husband and wife,
06:04 it's not about if it's wrong,
06:06 because we have different rules.
06:07 Like, your house, your family is your kingdom.
06:09 - Yeah. - And you're the king.
06:11 So, whatever rules you want to make there,
06:13 - it's yours. - it's yours.
06:14 But for us, our standing as a couple,
06:16 is, as long as you're studying,
06:18 - you don't have a relationship. - Yeah.
06:20 - And that's the rules that we - And you.
06:23 expect from them to follow.
06:25 And I think,
06:26 for me, that's why we always make them understand.
06:28 - Yeah. - Even when they're open,
06:30 we are open to listen to them.
06:32 And they're open also to their mom,
06:35 that they have a crush, that they're handsome,
06:37 - that they're cute. - Yeah, yeah.
06:38 But,
06:39 that's it. That's the relationship.
06:41 Because once you're there,
06:42 and you could not control yourself,
06:44 - it's okay. - Yes.
06:45 - But you have room for - But there's room for mistakes,
06:48 - if that's the case. - Yeah.
06:49 But at the end of the day,
06:50 Daddy and I,
06:51 we all have our own parenting journey.
06:54 - Yes. - Right? No judgment.
06:56 And it's the job of parents,
06:59 to guide them, to talk to them.
07:01 That's why I want to ask Daddy,
07:02 when did you say that
07:05 about boyfriends,
07:07 about your relationship with Jia,
07:09 how many years ago?
07:10 Well, from the start,
07:13 we're husband and wife,
07:14 we're open to them.
07:15 We,
07:17 some of us, we don't show it,
07:19 when mommy kisses,
07:20 daddy kisses,
07:21 - but we're really open. - Right.
07:23 So they know, they have seen an example
07:25 of how a couple should be.
07:26 Or how a parent should be.
07:29 - Mmm. - So,
07:30 that's when we're open to them.
07:32 That's the only rule,
07:35 - No boyfriend. - No boyfriend.
07:37 - No relationship. - Really?
07:38 - Yeah. - Yeah.
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