Mom Pauleen Luna on what worries her about daughter Tali's future | PEP Exclusives - video Dailymotion

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Pauleen Luna is enjoying every bit of being a mom now after giving birth to her and husband Vic Sotto's second child, Thia Marceline or Mochi.   She shared with PEP.ph (Philippine Entertainment Portal) in this PEP Exclusives Mother's Day interview how much she enjoys taking care of Mochi and seeing how her firstborn Talitha Maria or Tali reacts to being the big sister.   She also shared how she and Vic take care of their kids and each other and why they have such a successful relationship.   But Pauleen also told PEP.ph what worries her about Tali's future and how she has been preparing her for this.   Watch this PEP Exclusives Mother's Day interview to learn more about Pauleen and Vic's way of parenting.   #pauleenluna #mothersday #pepexclusives   Interview: Nikko Tuazon Video & Edit: Rommel R. Llanes Music: "World Song desde Mexico" by Cumbia Deli, "Cabo Road Trip" by Cumbia Deli, "Correle Carna" by Cumbia Deli, "Sunset Dream" by Cheel, "Two Hearts" by Track Tribe  Subscribe to our YouTube channel! https://www.youtube.com/@pep_tv  Know the latest in showbiz at http://www.pep.ph  Follow us!  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pepalerts/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PEPalerts  Twitter: https://twitter.com/pepalerts  Visit our DailyMotion channel! https://www.dailymotion.com/PEPalerts  Join us on Viber: https://bit.ly/PEPonViber  Watch us on Kumu: pep.ph

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00:00 Because you'll feel sorry for them.

00:01 They have so much hatred in their hearts.

00:03 I mean, for you to go out of your way to say something bad about someone,

00:07 or to create something bad about someone,

00:10 your heart is filled with hatred, right?

00:12 Or negativity, or you lack love.

00:16 Motherhood for me is very fulfilling.

00:28 It's a priceless job.

00:30 You give so much, but you receive more.

00:35 You receive more from your children.

00:39 For me, it's irreplaceable.

00:41 We were just talking about it.

00:43 I miss working.

00:44 I really miss my co-workers.

00:46 But I can't replace my career as a mother.

00:54 I really love being a mom because

00:57 I had a purpose in this world when I became a mom.

01:01 Maybe, the word "confident" isn't enough.

01:12 I'm just less anxious this time.

01:15 Because, of course, I already went through it.

01:18 I'm more aware somehow when it comes to handling a newborn.

01:22 And this is our last baby.

01:26 So, whatever it is I'm going through in this season in my life,

01:31 I'm really enjoying it.

01:33 Even if it's hard, I'm enjoying it.

01:34 Because that might be the last time that I'll go through it.

01:38 So, yeah, I'm not confident, but I'm more relaxed this time.

01:44 My biggest challenge was adjusting my firstborn to my secondborn.

01:54 Because Tali was alone and an only child for six long years.

01:59 So, our world really revolved around Tali.

02:05 She had 100% of our time, our attention.

02:08 So, when we had Mochi,

02:11 it was hard for us to adjust.

02:14 Because she was looking for me.

02:16 And of course, I have to tend to the baby.

02:19 So, it was a long explanation.

02:24 It took a while then, but now I think she's adjusted.

02:28 Actually, she was the one who wanted a sister.

02:31 She was the one who was praying from the very beginning that she wanted a sister.

02:35 The name Mochi came before the baby.

02:37 Because of her, she wanted Baby Mochi.

02:41 So, when she was praying for a baby sister,

02:45 she was really praying for Baby Mochi.

02:49 But I guess it's different because when you just pray for it

02:53 versus when it's already there,

02:54 when it's already there, of course, she'll divide the time.

02:58 Even though as much as I try to give her a lot of time,

03:04 especially at the very beginning,

03:07 a big chunk of my time went to the baby.

03:11 It's just a repeated reminder that God has blessed us with another baby, with a sister.

03:19 Right now, she's helpless.

03:22 She cannot do anything without mommy.

03:23 I was like that with you also.

03:26 Because sometimes she would ask me, "Why do you let me do this on my own?"

03:31 I said, "Oh, because I trained you to do it.

03:34 I trained you to do that on your own so that you can be independent.

03:41 Don't worry, I will teach Mochi too."

03:43 Things like that.

03:44 I'm giving her an example so that she can understand that she went through that too.

03:51 And one day, they'll play with each other.

03:55 They'll play with each other.

03:57 Actually, I felt sorry for her one time because she said,

03:59 "I want to buy this book.

04:02 I want to read this book for my sister."

04:04 "But she wouldn't understand, mom."

04:08 She said, "I want to read to her, but she wouldn't understand."

04:13 Or sometimes, "I want to play this with her, but she doesn't want to play with me."

04:17 So God, it's not that she doesn't want to play with you.

04:19 She doesn't know how to play yet.

04:21 Things like that.

04:22 We really do discipline each other.

04:30 Old school and gentle parenting.

04:35 Because I really believe that parenting now is very, very different from how our parents

04:43 were with us before.

04:45 Because before, if you did something wrong, they'd just tell you to go home and that's it.

04:50 There's no explanation.

04:51 I don't know.

04:53 Maybe for me, because I have the capacity to explain to my child what the situation is

05:00 and what the consequences of the action are, I really try to explain.

05:06 Because I believe that to be able to have a good and open relationship, it's a two-way

05:14 street.

05:15 You know, she will respect me, but I need to respect her too.

05:18 She will open up to me, but I need to open up to her too.

05:21 But it's just a coincidence.

05:23 It's not too much.

05:25 Because actually, it's hard because there's a fine line between being a good parent and

05:31 being your child's friend.

05:33 Because if there's too much, it's hard too.

05:36 I believe that these kids, they need to be heard.

05:43 They need to be vocal in what they're feeling.

05:46 And as parents, you should listen.

05:49 You shouldn't be defensive.

05:50 I want them to run to me when there's trouble.

05:55 I don't want them to get scared to come to me when there's trouble.

05:59 That's why I mentioned earlier, this is a safe space.

06:03 No matter what you're going through, no matter what you want or have a problem with, you

06:09 can come to me and tell me.

06:12 But if you need to discipline, you really need to discipline.

06:16 Because I don't want to have an entitled child.

06:18 Especially, if you can get everything.

06:21 But we really make it a point that you need to discipline the right one.

06:26 That she's not always obedient.

06:29 Or if she wants something, not all the time, she'll give it to you.

06:32 Even if she can give it to you.

06:34 But she has to learn that she can't have everything all the time.

06:40 So if you need to discipline, you really need to discipline.

06:45 If you need to remove your iPad.

06:54 I think that's a struggle for all moms now.

07:00 Actually, with her, she loves books.

07:03 She also loves her iPad.

07:06 So we're not that strict with gadgets because her other side, she also loves drawing, reading.

07:15 If you see her room, we have a mini library.

07:19 She loves books.

07:20 We've been reading her since she was a kid.

07:23 I think she started reading at three.

07:25 She started to read books early.

07:29 At first, it was just sight reading.

07:32 She was just familiar with the word.

07:35 And then eventually, she started reading.

07:37 I won't even take credit for her reading skills because I didn't teach her.

07:43 I just read and read and she got it.

07:47 So I guess, it's a balance.

07:48 Now, if it's not like that, just iPad, we might be a bit strict.

07:53 But since we can see that she likes both, then it's okay.

07:58 Right now, social media.

08:05 Because social media is so big on kids these days.

08:10 It's hard not to give because you might get caught.

08:18 But it's also hard to just let it go.

08:21 We can see that there's a trend in children, how they get affected.

08:29 So I think that's my fear.

08:31 That the point has come where she'll join social media

08:37 and she'll be affected by things that shouldn't affect her.

08:41 That's why we're conscious of her.

08:46 We want her to realize the real things.

08:50 Like your family.

08:51 Your family is always here for you.

08:55 The important comments are from your family and friends.

08:59 Now, the comments of other people, it should not matter that much.

09:03 Things like that.

09:04 It's like we're just talking to her now.

09:06 Because we don't know how big social media is when she's a teenager.

09:13 If it's just now, it really affects the lives of other people.

09:19 I'm a mom.

09:24 I mean, it's automatic.

09:27 But then after a while, I realized that

09:31 maybe when I was a new mom, I was a bit triggered.

09:34 But then after a while, I realized that these people have nothing better to do.

09:39 We are filled with love.

09:44 We are happy.

09:46 We have peace in our family.

09:48 That's where I'll focus.

09:50 Now, I'm not laughing anymore.

09:53 Because you'll feel sorry for them.

09:55 They have so much hatred in their hearts.

09:57 I mean, for you to go out of your way to say something bad about someone

10:01 or to create something bad about someone,

10:04 your heart is filled with hatred, right?

10:06 Or negativity.

10:08 Or you lack love.

10:10 So you won't notice them.

10:12 I might be older.

10:19 Maybe I'm older.

10:20 She can still follow me on Instagram.

10:22 It's funny because

10:24 her dream is to become a YouTuber.

10:26 Like Tali.

10:28 The one who does unboxing videos.

10:30 Or the one who does commentators on Roblox.

10:36 That's a thing.

10:38 They do Roblox and then someone narrates.

10:40 Directly.

10:42 She said, "Mom, how can I be a YouTuber?

10:44 I don't have YouTube in my iPad."

10:46 She only has YouTube Kids.

10:50 So as much as we can,

10:52 we really try to control her exposure on social media.

10:56 As much as we can.

10:58 I mean, her on social media.

11:00 Truth be told, I'm having a hard time.

11:06 Because, of course,

11:08 I remember Tali

11:10 and my second born.

11:12 But my husband is very, very supportive.

11:14 He knows how long we've waited

11:18 to have another baby.

11:20 We're very open to each other.

11:24 We don't get suspicious.

11:26 Or we don't get suspicious.

11:28 When we want something,

11:30 we really say it up front to each other.

11:32 So if we have something to discuss,

11:36 we'll just say it directly.

11:38 We don't have a hard time

11:42 about why he's not giving me time.

11:44 Or what.

11:46 If he wants more time with me, he'll say it.

11:48 Or if I want more time with him,

11:50 we'll tell each other.

11:52 We're a very easy couple.

11:54 Sometimes, we'll visit him in Itbulaga.

11:56 Or tomorrow,

11:58 I'm bringing him.

12:00 We don't have a driver, so I'll drive him.

12:02 I'll also follow him.

12:04 Small pockets of time

12:06 are important for us.

12:14 But I really don't give him much responsibility anymore.

12:18 Because he works really hard.

12:20 Most of the time,

12:22 he's not home from morning to night.

12:24 And then, do I have to take care of him?

12:26 No, it's just me.

12:28 But he's hands-on in the sense that

12:30 he knows everything that happens with our kids.

12:34 When it comes to decision-making,

12:36 he's still the last say.

12:38 When it comes to our children,

12:40 he's updated on everything.

12:42 He's a good guy.

12:44 When he has time,

12:46 he really makes time for his children.

12:48 But as for the responsibilities,

12:50 I don't give him much.

12:52 As a matter of fact,

12:54 we're sleep training our second baby

12:58 in her room.

13:00 I feel sorry for Vic because he's so tired

13:02 and I'm still giving him a massage.

13:04 So I'm the only one who gets massaged.

13:06 I'm the one who's moving around.

13:08 That's how it is.

13:10 Honestly,

13:16 respect is very important for me.

13:18 I always,

13:20 I'm not bragging,

13:22 but I'm always so proud of how my husband respects me.

13:24 He respects me like an equal.

13:26 He respects me like I'm his age.

13:30 We don't have a superior because he's older than me.

13:32 My opinions,

13:34 my decisions,

13:36 they matter as much as his.

13:38 One thing that I appreciate

13:40 about our relationship is that we're very vocal.

13:42 We say I love you all the time.

13:44 We thank each other.

13:46 We never forget to say thank you.

13:48 We do not forget to say sorry.

13:50 Or we're not ashamed to say sorry.

13:52 And I really appreciate that.

13:54 I appreciated that when we got married.

13:56 That we got married in a house.

13:58 That those words are very important.

14:00 That you don't get mad at each other.

14:02 That you don't neglect your partner.

14:04 If you did something,

14:06 he will really say thank you.

14:08 Or if you did something wrong,

14:10 he will really say sorry.

14:12 In that way, you're seen.

14:14 And you are valued and appreciated.

14:16 We're very equal.

14:18 But when it comes to little things,

14:20 like where we're going to eat,

14:22 or what brand of chair we're going to buy,

14:24 that's my thing.

14:26 The little things.

14:28 I'm not a big fan of small things.

14:30 But when it comes to big decisions,

14:32 life decisions,

14:34 I really leave it up to him.

14:36 Because I trust him.

14:38 I trust that he has the right decision for us.

14:42 So, that's our dynamics.

14:44 I trust that he has the right decision for us.

14:50 So, that's our dynamics.

14:52 That's our dynamics.

14:54 That's what it's like.

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