90 Day Fiancé Loren on Her ‘Mommy Makeover’ Surgery That Alexei DIDN'T Want Her to Do
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00:00 Y'all have been together for 10 years, so congratulations on your journey.
00:03 Of course, we love watching it play out.
00:05 You recently had a milestone of having three under three, which is wild.
00:09 You crossed that milestone.
00:10 Your oldest is now four.
00:13 So how would you describe today's life?
00:16 What's life like today?
00:17 Well, yeah, it's still crazy.
00:18 I guess he turned four, but it didn't change anything.
00:22 It's so crazy.
00:23 You have to keep understanding things now.
00:26 He has long conversations with you, and you're like, "Wait, what?
00:29 How did you remember?
00:30 What?"
00:31 It's wild.
00:32 What are you enjoying most about your journey in fatherhood, Alex?
00:36 I guess everything.
00:37 I mean, it's tiring, but just having them around, growing my best friends.
00:44 Well, I have my best friends.
00:45 Sorry.
00:46 Thank you.
00:47 We were just talking about it earlier.
00:48 That's why I felt bad.
00:49 She was like, "I'm growing my new best friends.
00:50 Sorry, babe.
00:51 You're out."
00:52 I was just the vessel.
00:53 That's it.
00:54 Oh, no.
00:55 You can't kick your wife into the curb.
00:56 Too cute.
00:57 What's the latest milestone for the little ones?
01:03 Ari is starting to talk.
01:04 Ari is starting to talk.
01:06 And she is feisty.
01:07 Oh, my goodness.
01:08 Where did she get her feist from?
01:11 I can't imagine who.
01:12 Me neither.
01:13 Yeah, I guess they're so little, and there's so many milestones every second with each
01:19 one of them that I can't even think about what's latest for who, right?
01:24 I know.
01:25 If you lift something super heavy or you lift your baby off the ground, you can pop
01:29 a suture, and so we have to go back into surgery and repair the...
01:32 No lifting for sure.
01:35 The recovery really is six to eight weeks, like not before.
01:39 Right, yeah.
01:40 So, we see play out in this season of "90 Day Fiancé," the process of your mommy makeover.
01:46 You're looking great, mama.
01:47 Thank you.
01:48 How are you feeling?
01:49 I'm feeling great.
01:50 I really am.
01:51 I'm happy, and I'm accepting everything.
01:55 It's a journey.
01:56 It's a mental journey, though, for sure.
01:58 How so?
01:59 Listen, surgery is a very lonely experience, so you'll see it unfold.
02:05 Me, just lashing out.
02:08 Uh-oh.
02:09 Were you on the receiving end of that, Alex?
02:11 Yes, I had to be on the receiving end of that a few times.
02:14 It's a mentally lonely thing if you don't know anybody who's had the same thing as you.
02:19 Like if people who have a cavity and they've never done it, you ask somebody, "Well, what
02:24 is it like?"
02:25 You can't just ask somebody, "What is it like to have an entire mommy makeover?"
02:28 Because not a lot of people do it all at once or at all.
02:32 So, I can't talk to him and be like, "Is this how I'm supposed to feel?"
02:37 You know, it's wild.
02:38 So tell us what all the mommy makeover entailed, because you call it a natural mommy makeover.
02:43 Basically, I did a fat transfer.
02:46 I used my natural fat and did a fat transfer into my breast.
02:51 Oh, my gosh.
02:52 I did the 360, so I did a tummy tuck.
02:56 And then I did a 360 lipo, so I did lipo from my chin, my arms, upper back, lower back,
03:02 and my thighs.
03:03 And I put all that natural stuff here.
03:06 So hence the natural mommy makeover.
03:09 Yes.
03:10 After the fact, you must have just felt like you had been beaten up.
03:13 The first week, I was okay because I was still-
03:18 First week, the first day, you were okay?
03:19 I thought I could run a marathon.
03:21 I was like, "Woo!"
03:22 Yeah, it was funny.
03:23 And then it caught up to me.
03:24 The first day after the surgery, I was like, "Oh, my God.
03:28 You're moving and everything."
03:30 But then-
03:31 Because I think because I had three C-sections, I thought mentally, I was like, "Listen,
03:34 if I had C-sections, I can get up.
03:37 It's fine."
03:38 No.
03:39 It's not a C-section.
03:40 It's much more than a C-section.
03:41 She was in bed for like two weeks, probably.
03:45 And you couldn't pick up your little ones for quite some time.
03:47 For months.
03:48 That is wild.
03:49 And then you were-
03:51 I was struggling.
03:52 I can only imagine.
03:53 And then there were things that, I mean, not to get too grotesque or intimate-
03:57 There was some gross stuff.
03:58 Yeah.
03:59 But you have a lot of fluid that has to be-
04:00 I need to take care of me.
04:01 There's a lot of fluid buildup during and after the surgery.
04:04 So we want all that fluid to drain out.
04:07 The drains are basically these little tubes that we put in the space where we do the tummy
04:12 tuck.
04:13 And you'll have to do the maintenance on it.
04:14 So you just have to empty them every four to six hours and keep a record of how much
04:20 you're emptying them.
04:21 And then we'll take them out after one week.
04:24 After one week.
04:25 And he's still with me.
04:26 But he saw three babies be delivered.
04:28 So I'm, you know, he was my medic.
04:31 Yeah, you really were her medic.
04:33 Yeah.
04:34 Stay-at-home nurse.
04:35 But just without staying at home.
04:36 Yeah.
04:37 With going to work and coming back to be a nurse.
04:40 Now I mean, everyone it seems, Lauren, from your friends to your mother to even Alex,
04:46 no one seemed to be a fan of this mommy makeover that you were dead set on doing.
04:51 I mean, no one wanted you to electively go under the knife.
04:54 So how much did you weigh their opinions before going into this procedure?
04:59 It didn't.
05:00 Nothing could change your mind?
05:02 Alex, he can get to me if he wants to, but he knew how important this was for me.
05:07 And usually I let people convince me and persuade me, but for whatever reason, this I was so
05:14 dead set on for years.
05:16 It wasn't like a one month thing.
05:18 Like I was talking about it for years.
05:20 Wow.
05:21 You want a mommy makeover?
05:22 Oh, yes.
05:23 Like a full, "Oh, hello, hello, goodbye."
05:26 Yeah?
05:27 I mean, I tried to talk her out of it, but once I knew that it's, you know, it's going
05:33 to happen.
05:34 No change in mama's mind.
05:35 Not in this, yeah.
05:36 I mean, I can usually change my mind, though, but not in this.
05:38 I feel like she was doing so well before, like after the third baby and before the surgery
05:44 with all her, you know, changes in lifestyle and working out and eating and all of that.
05:50 And she was progressing so well that I felt like she should just keep going with that
05:54 without the surgery.
05:55 But I knew she set on it, so then I just gave in with that.
05:59 Yeah.
06:00 One of your biggest concerns was the recovery process.
06:02 And, I mean, obviously so because of everything that you were, your body was going through,
06:07 but also the house full of kids.
06:10 I don't know if I'm ready.
06:11 Hearing all of this information kind of stresses me out, honestly.
06:15 So how do you feel like you navigated that?
06:17 Taking care of the fort?
06:18 Right.
06:19 I think I did pretty good.
06:20 I mean, I was struggling.
06:21 I was tired.
06:22 I didn't have any time.
06:23 It was hard.
06:24 Was it as difficult as you anticipated?
06:25 Probably.
06:26 Yeah.
06:27 I knew it was going to be hard.
06:31 Would you make a vow?
06:32 Yeah.
06:33 I would.
06:34 I mean, you handled everything down at the house.
06:35 I didn't think I was a bad patient.
06:36 Fine.
06:37 I didn't think I was a bad patient.
06:38 Says the patient.
06:39 We're not going to go back there.
06:40 We're here now.
06:41 I think I was a good patient.
06:42 No, he was amazing.
06:43 I could not have asked for better support.
06:49 I could not have changed dreams and did what he did.
06:52 I would have been like, done for yourself.
06:53 Yeah.
06:54 And what about with him taking care of the kids since you were unable to?
06:56 Oh, no.
06:57 He's amazing.
06:58 He's the best dad and they admire him and worship him and abba, abba, abba.
07:03 He can do no wrong.
07:04 So I wasn't worried.
07:05 I always took care of the kids.
07:07 It's not like something new.
07:08 It's just now I had to take care of them all the time without a break.
07:11 I changed diapers and bathed them and feed them and do everything regardless.
07:16 Right?
07:17 Yes, and you did such a great job.
07:18 Because I see you shaking.
07:19 I'm not trying to stir anything up here.
07:20 You're questioning something over there.
07:21 You did great.
07:22 That's awesome.
07:23 It's just usually we have our turns.
07:29 Right, exactly.
07:30 I'm still on diaper duty since the surgery and since I'm recovering.
07:34 You knew you were going to pay for this, right?
07:38 Of course, naturally.
07:39 Lauren, what would you say to mamas out there, to women out there that are struggling with
07:43 body image issues and thinking maybe this is a procedure that I might like to try out
07:48 myself?
07:49 So I have body dysmorphia.
07:52 It's not a secret.
07:53 I've been open about it.
07:54 I talk about it more this season.
07:56 You'll see.
07:57 It's definitely a struggle.
07:59 You just have to know what you want.
08:01 If you want to go through with the surgery, do it for yourself and just have no regrets
08:06 with it.
08:07 I have no regrets doing it.
08:08 I know it wasn't easy, but I'm really happy and have a good support system.
08:14 That's so important.
08:17 Does it make you want to do any more procedures?
08:21 I mean, you can always touch up.
08:24 A little bit of pressure, but honey, you look great.
08:28 You really do.
08:29 Thank you.
08:30 Thank you.
08:31 I'm getting there.
08:32 Again, body dysmorphia, I'm accepting my body.
08:34 I feel good, but it's a process.
08:37 It's a journey.
08:38 I'm sure it always will be, but just try to know that and own that.
08:43 You both have said that you are done having kids.
08:45 Now is this mommy makeover a way to solidify the fact that mama's done?
08:50 She's putting her foot down?
08:51 Or might there be a chance that you could expand the family in the future?
08:55 There's always a possibility.
08:58 Pausing you there a little bit.
09:00 Because I miss it.
09:02 He said, "Oh, you're going to have baby fever."
09:05 I'm like, "No, I'm not.
09:06 Don't worry."
09:07 He's right.
09:08 I freaking have baby fever, but do I really want to go back?
09:12 Forget about the surgery, right?
09:13 I can always get it redone, but do I want to go backwards?
09:17 I don't know.
09:20 Never say never.
09:21 Never say never.
09:22 Yeah, but that's the max.
09:23 That's where we are.
09:24 Never say never, but I'm more than that.
09:27 I'm never.
09:28 What is your stance now on potentially moving to Israel?
09:31 That's the storyline that we've seen play out with you all over the years.
09:34 Of course, Warren's parents are not for it at all.
09:37 I'm not for it.
09:40 Period.
09:41 Why?
09:42 Nothing you can say will change my mind.
09:44 We've seen that play out as well.
09:46 We've got the war going on in Israel.
09:49 What is your stance on what that move could look like, when that could happen, if it's
09:53 still a possibility?
09:54 I can only imagine what your mom has shared with you now that Israel is in a state of
09:59 war.
10:01 We don't talk about it.
10:02 My mom and I, we don't really talk about the move.
10:05 I don't think they realize that it's something we still want to do.
10:12 We talk about it, and it's definitely a goal of ours.
10:16 Obviously, there's a war right now, so we're not going to move at this moment.
10:23 That was also not the plan, honestly.
10:25 We tried to rush it, but we always had a plan to move there when the youngest is at least
10:31 three or four years old, not when she was just born.
10:35 It's still the plan.
10:37 With everything going on in there, hopefully it will only make things better for the future
10:43 and safer, and there will be some better resolution to what was going on for many years.
10:50 Maybe it will only make things better for us to move there and safer for the future
10:55 and for a long time.
10:56 Right now, it's not good.
10:57 I know.
10:58 I hope that your family and friends stay safe.
11:03 We wish you luck on that decision and that journey, if that's something that you two
11:07 and the family decide to do.
11:09 Thank you.
11:10 Thank you.
11:11 We've got to talk Big Ed.
11:12 I know he is not one of your favorites on Naughty Day.
11:15 Ed canceled our wedding without even telling me.
11:18 What was your reaction when you heard the news and you've seen that play out?
11:22 What was your reaction?
11:23 I just don't understand it.
11:27 I don't know.
11:28 We...
11:29 Yeah, it's crazy to call it off without letting you know.
11:34 What?
11:35 Are you in touch with Liz at all or no?
11:39 We don't really talk to a lot of people from it.
11:41 We try and stay away.
11:42 We keep to ourselves.
11:45 You know, we live our normal life.
11:46 Yeah.
11:47 But is there one particular storyline with someone else, another couple that you're like,
11:51 "Oh, this is intriguing."
11:52 I kind of like following along occasionally.
11:54 I like Emily and Kobe because they're kind of in a similar situation as us, right?
11:59 I just think that we're like the most relatable to them.
12:01 Like, they have a good relationship with her parents.
12:03 They watch their kids.
12:04 Like, I just think that they're having a third baby.
12:07 We have three, so we get it.
12:10 How long do you foresee y'all's story playing out on "Hundeday Fiance?"
12:14 We've seen it now almost 10 years.
12:15 We'll talk at like season 20.
12:19 I want to be...
12:20 We're going to be on 20 out of 18 seasons, okay?
12:21 Incredible.
12:22 20 out of 18 seasons.
12:23 Alex, what do you think?
12:24 I mean, I don't know.
12:25 Well, I'm not having babies to say on "Hundeday Fiance."
12:26 Yeah, no, no babies.
12:27 I don't know.
12:28 I guess as long as they want, but yeah, I never imagined they will be still here 10
12:39 years after shooting "Happily Ever After."
12:42 I know, and people are so fascinated with your lives.
12:45 Could you have ever even imagined that?
12:47 No.
12:48 I don't think we still understand it.
12:50 Like, people come up to us and they're like, "Can we say hi?"
12:54 "Yes, of course."
12:55 Like, we're so normal.
12:56 We're like, "Yes."
12:57 Like, I don't know.
12:58 We try not to get caught up in it because we don't want it to change us.
13:04 We don't want it to affect our relationship, our kids, anything.
13:07 Like, that's it.
13:09 Yeah, because relationships got to come first.
13:11 Yeah.
13:12 Yeah.
13:13 Yeah.
13:13 Yeah.
13:14 Yeah.
13:14 Yeah.
13:15 Yeah.
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