Aired (April 11, 2024): Hindi naging madali para kay Ashlee ang ipagpatuloy ang araw-araw na buhay niya matapos ang naranasang trauma at hiwalayan nila ni Andrew. Ngunit, ang EX din daw niya mismo ang tumulong sa kanya na maging matapang muli sa buhay!
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00:00 How was the fight?
00:04 Was it enough?
00:05 Let's stop this.
00:06 Because you have a lot of issues, right?
00:08 But what was the final issue?
00:13 That was the point in the music video.
00:14 And also the day I needed him but he's not there.
00:18 What's the clear thing?
00:19 What happened in the music video?
00:20 Did he disappear?
00:21 Why was that the final issue?
00:24 In the music video, he was really jealous.
00:28 He didn't want me to go.
00:31 But I had to pay for it.
00:33 I needed to go because I was helping my family.
00:36 So he didn't want you to go but you persuaded him.
00:39 So you fought.
00:40 Yes.
00:41 Through text? Personal?
00:42 Text.
00:43 What did you say?
00:44 He said he didn't want to go.
00:50 I wanted to go because I was thinking about my family.
00:56 I was the eldest.
00:58 That's what I was thinking about.
01:00 My family and what I would get from the music video.
01:04 But you're studying.
01:06 Yes, I'm a working student.
01:08 So I'm still studying.
01:11 Oh, you're still a working student.
01:12 Because I don't sleep.
01:14 You don't sleep.
01:15 I was hot earlier, now I'm a working student.
01:18 I don't sleep.
01:20 It hurts.
01:21 You're a gen Z.
01:24 I'm in school in the morning and I'm working at night.
01:27 That's a joke.
01:28 So I lost my voice.
01:29 It's okay.
01:30 Yes, mom.
01:31 So you fought.
01:34 You were both full of fights.
01:38 I was the one who was full.
01:40 What did you say?
01:41 Because he should've been there but he wasn't.
01:44 And because he wasn't there, we were the ones who got caught.
01:47 What was that?
01:48 Maybe it was us so he would know.
01:50 Because he didn't know until now, including my parents.
01:53 I have a business with flowers.
01:56 I make ribbon flowers.
02:00 What?
02:01 Ribbon flowers.
02:02 Ribbon flowers.
02:03 I cut it and send it to people.
02:05 So a guy ordered from me.
02:08 I know that guy but he's with my friends.
02:12 But I don't know him.
02:14 He's super close.
02:15 And the guy told me that he'll make the list of people who will order.
02:20 And I told him to just pay in Gcash.
02:25 I don't want to pay in cash because I'm lazy.
02:27 Then he insisted.
02:29 I said, "Okay, I don't have Gcash."
02:31 So I said, "I'll go with my boyfriend, Andrew."
02:36 You'll go to the place where they order?
02:37 Yes.
02:38 You'll go to the place where they order and you'll go with Andrew?
02:40 Yes.
02:41 Okay.
02:42 Because he's a guy.
02:43 So I said, "Come with me."
02:45 Not all guys are guys.
02:46 Our guy is a girl.
02:48 Okay.
02:51 Anyway, you'll go with a guy because he's a guy.
02:54 You'll go with Andrew.
02:57 And then?
02:58 The thing is, he said yes and he'll go with me.
03:01 And then the night came when he didn't go with me because he drank.
03:06 He got drunk.
03:07 Okay.
03:08 I said, "Go home because you'll go with me tomorrow."
03:12 Because I'll go to the place where they order.
03:15 So because he didn't go with you, you got angry?
03:17 Not yet.
03:18 What did you do?
03:19 I went alone because he said, "I feel bad."
03:22 I said, "You feel bad because you drank."
03:25 Then I said, "I'll go alone."
03:28 Then I went downstairs because our house is high in the mountains.
03:35 Then I went down alone to the guy.
03:37 The guy was in the car.
03:39 Then I said, "I'll wait outside."
03:43 I didn't want to go inside his car because it's an issue.
03:47 He has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend.
03:49 Then he said, "Go inside because it's hot outside.
03:53 I don't want the window to be open."
03:55 Then what he did was, because I don't have a mic anymore,
03:59 he got out of the car and opened the door.
04:02 He said, "Go inside, Art."
04:04 Did you kidnap him?
04:05 I didn't kidnap him.
04:07 I was here.
04:08 I can imagine that you opened the car and he let you drive.
04:10 He opened the door for me to go inside.
04:13 Then I met the guy but we weren't close.
04:17 I just went inside because it was so hot outside.
04:19 What did you do to him?
04:21 Did you take his order?
04:22 No. I took his list and his payment.
04:25 Can't you take the list from the window?
04:27 He said he didn't want to.
04:28 He said he would explain the method of the ribbon.
04:32 So, something bad happened.
04:35 Yes.
04:36 Then we talked and he said, "Wait, let's go inside our house."
04:40 I was the one who was going inside because I left my wallet.
04:44 Then he said some bad things.
04:47 I got mad.
04:50 I wanted to leave.
04:52 Then while he was driving, he put his hand on my legs.
04:57 I got mad because I couldn't do anything.
04:59 I was inside the car, walking around, and the door was locked.
05:02 He was asking me to take off my face mask because I didn't wear one.
05:09 I took off my face mask once because I was still breathing.
05:14 He pulled my head towards him so that I could kiss him.
05:18 I was trying to push him to the wall.
05:22 I told him not to do that because I had a boyfriend.
05:24 Even though we were fighting, I was loyal to him.
05:29 What happened next?
05:30 He apologized.
05:33 I told him to take my hand and I would leave.
05:37 And you left.
05:38 Yes, I left.
05:39 That's what happened.
05:40 That's what happened.
05:41 So, you felt like that guy violated you.
05:44 He was rude to you.
05:45 He violated you.
05:47 Yes.
05:48 What was the reason?
05:50 I needed him at that time.
05:53 He should have accompanied me but he didn't.
05:55 If Andrew was with her, she wouldn't have done that.
05:57 That's why I felt bad.
06:00 You said that it wouldn't happen if it wasn't for Andrew.
06:04 It wouldn't happen if he was with me.
06:07 Oh my God, I'm crying.
06:09 I needed him at that time.
06:12 He should have been there to protect me.
06:16 That's what I like about him. He's caring.
06:18 But I didn't feel that caring at that time.
06:22 You felt like you were in danger.
06:23 And at that time, he wasn't there.
06:26 He was drunk.
06:27 That's what happened.
06:30 Because you promised him that you would accompany him.
06:33 But you didn't.
06:35 But that's a new experience.
06:39 After that, how are you now?
06:41 Of course, it's a trauma.
06:43 Yes, it's a trauma.
06:44 How are you healing your trauma?
06:47 I just try to forget it whenever I'm attacked.
06:52 I try to forget it.
06:54 It's hard to forget it.
06:56 But you should tell your parents about it.
06:58 Mommy is crying.
06:59 So they know how to protect you.
07:03 And they know what step you should take after that.
07:07 That's their assignment as parents.
07:12 We shouldn't make them do that.
07:14 But because you didn't tell them, you made them do it.
07:18 But I won't blame you because it's a trauma.
07:20 It's scary. You don't know what you're going to do.
07:23 Yes.
07:24 We can say that you told them, but we don't know how easy it is for a victim like you.
07:29 It's hard to tell them.
07:31 Especially to him.
07:33 Because we're not okay.
07:35 That's how I feel.
07:36 He should ask me what happened to the guy I went to.
07:43 Who should he ask?
07:44 He should ask me what happened when I didn't accompany you.
07:47 I didn't open up to my mom because I was not in the mood to talk to her.
07:52 Who was that person?
07:54 You felt like no one was going to give you protection.
08:00 Yes, no one.
08:02 That's why I thought...
08:04 Mommy, now that you heard what happened to him, what...
08:08 Of course, I was surprised because as a parent, I couldn't protect my son.
08:16 Because he didn't open up to what happened.
08:20 His dad could've been here.
08:22 He could've said, "Dad, come with me."
08:26 It could've been different if he told us that he had to go somewhere without Andrew.
08:34 But he didn't say anything.
08:36 That's what I felt inside.
08:39 That something happened to him that I didn't know.
08:41 Your mom's message is that you can't rely on your boyfriend.
08:46 You should rely on your dad.
08:48 If you want someone to be with you, you need someone to be with you.
08:52 Not just your boyfriend, but your dad should be there.
08:54 He shouldn't think of you as a burden.
08:56 So that he can protect you from those things.
08:59 But you didn't blame him.
09:02 You didn't blame him.
09:04 I'm the type of person that if someone has a problem, even if it's my mom,
09:09 I don't add to it because they've been causing problems for the rest of our lives.
09:13 If I add to it, I'm already 18.
09:16 You know, but we're their problem assignment.
09:21 The kids always say, "I don't want to give them problems anymore."
09:26 No, you need to give them those problems and give them the chance to solve them.
09:31 Because they're their parents.
09:33 There are things that...
09:35 Your assignment as a child is to have children.
09:39 And give your parents the chance to be parents.
09:43 Give them the chance to feel and do those assignments.
09:49 It's not your fault that it happened to you.
09:52 You're the victim.
09:54 But we just talked about how you can run to your parents,
09:58 you can talk to them.
10:00 So that you won't feel that you're alone.
10:04 Because that's the one thing that you shouldn't feel after experiencing it.
10:09 You're not alone.
10:11 You need support.
10:14 And someone will give you support.
10:17 So don't lose your strength.
10:21 And your voice needs to be heard.
10:24 Thank you.
10:26 What can you say after hearing that?
10:30 That if you were there, you might have been able to avoid it.
10:34 That's what it's like.
10:36 I'm fully aware of what happened.
10:40 You know that something like that happened to him?
10:42 No, I'm not with him.
10:44 I thought you were aware of what happened.
10:46 So you were even in the middle of it.
10:48 So what do you mean by you're not with him?
10:50 I know that.
10:52 I know that I'm not with him.
10:55 But he made me feel happy when we were fighting.
10:59 But it didn't sink in because we were talking about hatred.
11:04 I just found out the whole story.
11:07 Like, when he has a problem, he doesn't want to add to it.
11:12 Maybe he just chose to hide it.
11:14 Rather than add to the problem that we were having.
11:17 But did you apologize to him when you woke up?
11:21 You weren't with him.
11:22 You were like, "I'm sorry, I wasn't with you."
11:24 "Because I'm drunk."
11:26 My pride was more viral that time.
11:30 Because you were angry.
11:32 Because of his participation in the music video.
11:34 Yes, I was also upset.
11:36 That's all I felt.
11:41 So I didn't think about apologizing or talking to him nicely.
11:45 But if you know what happened to him,
11:48 to be fair, it's not Ashley's fault.
11:52 It's not Ashley's parents' fault.
11:55 It's not Andrew's fault.
11:57 If there's someone at fault, it's the one who violated you.
12:00 It's your right as a woman, as a person.
12:03 It's her fault. You're the victim here.
12:06 We can feel guilt.
12:09 Mommy can feel guilt.
12:12 Andrew can feel guilt.
12:14 We can feel guilt, but it's not your fault.
12:18 It's Ashley's fault.
12:21 You're the victim here.
12:23 Ashley trusted me.
12:25 After what happened to you,
12:28 how are you now?
12:29 How are you healing?
12:31 Are you healing?
12:33 It's hard.
12:34 About the guy,
12:37 it's like a tattoo.
12:40 Even if you wipe it, it won't come off.
12:42 The touch won't come off.
12:44 For example, I touched him like this.
12:46 Every time I remember,
12:48 I can't wipe it off.
12:51 Because it's there.
12:52 Trauma.
12:53 Yes.
12:54 But you have to do something about that trauma.
12:58 Therapy.
13:00 Counseling.
13:02 You might want to consider those things.
13:05 Because it's hard.
13:07 It can affect you.
13:09 It can affect your view of yourself
13:12 and your view of other people.
13:14 Your view of yourself and your view of other people.
13:17 It can affect you.
13:19 So you have to face it.
13:24 It's an issue you have to face.
13:26 It's good that you're not afraid anymore.
13:28 You're here.
13:30 The new boys will introduce you to them.
13:32 Aren't you afraid of the presence of men you don't know?
13:35 Now, he taught me how to value my worth.
13:42 What are the next steps I should take
13:44 since he left me.
13:46 After I begged him,
13:49 maybe within a month of begging,
13:53 it also sink in to me that
13:56 "You should know your worth.
13:58 You shouldn't be like this. You shouldn't be like that."
14:00 If he introduces me to someone new,
14:03 I know the next step.
14:05 Because I've already gone through it.
14:08 Yes, but it's good that you're not afraid of trauma.
14:11 The simple heartbreak,
14:13 some people say,
14:14 "I don't want to. I'm in so much pain, I don't want to get married."
14:17 "I'm in so much pain, I don't want to get courted."
14:19 "I was fooled by a man, I don't want to be with a man anymore."
14:21 "I'm glad I don't have that."
14:23 I trust my faith in the Lord that He will guide me this time.
14:28 Because in our relationship, I lost my faith in the Lord.
14:32 He's the one who led me.
14:34 I can't go to church anymore.
14:36 I can't do devotion anymore.
14:38 So this time, I know what I'm going to do.
14:41 I know the next step.
14:43 You want this?
14:44 This position that you're in now?
14:46 Yes.
14:47 You'll meet someone who's okay with this?
14:49 Okay. But after this,
14:51 talk to your parents.
14:53 Let them talk to you and help you with what you need to do.
14:58 This doesn't just happen in a chat.
15:01 For your well-being.
15:03 Thank you, Pamel.
15:04 I want to give you a hug.
15:06 It wasn't easy for you to go through this.
15:09 But this child seems brave.
15:12 He seems strong-willed.
15:15 It's important that we see him smiling,
15:17 that he's laughing,
15:18 that he has hope,
15:19 and that he can still see the beauty around him.
15:22 Because he can curse the world.
15:25 I don't want that anymore.
15:26 Everyone's scaring me.
15:27 But he still has hope.
15:31 That even if something like that happened to me,
15:34 there are still men I can trust.
15:37 And I won't lock myself in that.
15:39 I won't mimic them.
15:41 I won't experience the beauty of those moments
15:45 because of this trauma.
15:46 And because your parents support you.
15:49 Yes, I'm thankful to my mom because they're always there.
15:52 My mom's always talking to me like that.
15:53 Every time I have a crush, I'm always flirting with her.
15:57 Every time I have a crush, I'm always flirting with my mom.
15:59 "Mom, do you know that I have a crush on this guy?"
16:01 "Oh, you're so silly."
16:02 My mom's always like that.
16:03 But I always tell my mom,
16:05 "Mom, don't worry. I know what's going on."
16:08 "Because this has already happened."
16:10 "What lessons did I learn from this?"
16:13 But there are many things we can't apply.
16:19 So be brave, be smart, be safe.
16:24 Thank you, Manel.
16:25 Thank you.
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