What is emotional attachment? || Acharya Prashant, with youth (2014)

Acharya Prashant

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00:00 Is emotional attachment so powerful? Why does it have such deep effect? What is attachment?

00:16 The answer is when your unconscious nature prevails without you knowing anything of it.

00:36 Attachment is nothing but the movement of our material nature. Yes, we are talking about

00:44 emotional attachment. So look at an iron piece and a magnet. The iron piece attracts the

00:56 magnet, the magnet attracts the iron piece, both move towards each other. Does any of

01:04 them have any idea of what is happening? Does any of them have any idea what is happening?

01:13 Imagine if you leave an iron piece and a magnet together for a long time, do you know what

01:20 will happen? Do you know what will happen? They will get actually attached to each other.

01:29 Diffusion of molecules from one solid surface to the other will take place. You all know

01:35 of gaseous diffusion, right? You leave oxygen and nitrogen together, what happens to them?

01:40 They mix. We also know of liquid diffusion. But are you aware that solids also diffuse

01:49 into each other? Have you seen very old cars or bikes there? Do we have a mechanical batch

01:59 here? If you want to operate upon an old nut bolt, you can't open it. If you have a vehicle,

02:11 let's say a bike that is now 20 years old or let's say 12 years old and if there is

02:18 a nut that has not been opened since a long time and now you want to open it, you can't

02:24 open it because the two pieces, the nut and the bolt have now become one. Solid diffusion

02:33 takes place. Now you have only one option, cut it. You can't open it. And that happens

02:39 not with the same metal, not only with the same metal, but even with different metals.

02:45 You keep nickel and chromium together and they will become one at the surface. They

02:50 will just join. This is attachment. Attachment requires two things. One closeness in space.

03:02 Second, lot of time, space and time. Space and time are also the variables in which the

03:10 human mind lives. Space and time. The world is nothing but space and time. So closeness

03:18 in space and length in time is what gives you attachment. Attachment is only that.

03:25 Bring sodium and water together and what do the atoms do? They get attached to each other

03:37 and you get NaOH. Does sodium know what is happening? Did sodium even desire that this

03:46 must happen? Does water know what is happening? But still this is happening because they have

03:52 been brought together. Space. You don't bring them together, nothing will happen. That is

03:59 the truth of attachment. Whenever you are together with somebody, anybody over a long

04:05 period of time, you will get attached. It may just be a dog. It may even be a cricket

04:12 bat. It may just be a wall. Experiments have been done in which kids who were born were

04:21 made to stay close to a particular wall for long periods of time. Whatever they did, they

04:27 had to do in the vicinity of that wall. Want to play? Play close to that wall. Eat? Eat

04:32 close to that wall. Sleep close to that wall. Never go too far away from that wall. And

04:39 the kid started growing very attached to that wall. So much so, you'd be deeply surprised

04:46 that when somebody would hit the wall, the kid would feel as if he had been hit. The

04:54 same center in his brain would get activated. That gets activated when somebody hits you.

05:01 You know, when you are hit, one portion of your brain gets lighted up. The neurons there,

05:06 there is extra electrical activity and you can have sensors that can judge that activity.

05:14 It was surprisingly found that the same area, the same neurons, the same kind of electrical

05:20 activity started happening in the child's mind when the wall was hit. So whether you

05:25 hit the child or whether you hit the wall, the same area in the brain is getting lighted

05:30 up. That is attachment. Space and time. If you have been staying close to a few people

05:40 since a long time, you will get very attached to them. That is not at all love. That is

05:45 just the action of space and time. Do not confuse that with love. That is also the basis

05:51 of arranged marriage. Bring any two people together, one man and one woman. Let there

06:01 be no love between them. But if they stay together for 10 years, they will become so

06:06 habituated to each other that they will start saying we love each other. There is never

06:10 any love. Just habit. Attachment, attachment. Long periods got attached. No love in this.

06:21 Just iron and magnet. Male hormone and female hormone. Chemicals. There is no consciousness

06:30 in attachment. Attachment is totally dead. Very, very dead. Attachment is not at all

06:38 love. Love is a very, very conscious thing. Very conscious and attachment is very dead.

06:48 Love and attachment are opposites. If you are attached to something, kindly be aware

06:56 you do not love. In love there is freedom, not attachment. And attachment is the opposite

07:03 of freedom. When you are attached to something, you do not want to let it go away. Would you

07:07 want to let it go away? If I'm attached to something, I would always wish that the thing

07:12 is here. Now this thing wants to fly off, but I'll not let it fly off. Because I am

07:18 attached to it. Love is never self-centered. Attachment is always self-centered. Love cares

07:28 for the other. Attachment cares only for itself. Love is not dependency. Attachment is great

07:36 dependency. It's your age. It's your age. There is a hormonal boil. If you feel attracted

07:53 towards a person and later on if you feel attached, kindly do not become too serious

07:58 about the whole thing. It is just chemicals. And if those chemicals are removed from your

08:04 body, all the attachment will disappear. All the attachment will go. Remember, love is

08:09 not chemicals. You insert any chemical or you remove any chemical, love will not be

08:16 affected, but attachment will surely be affected. Attraction will be affected. If all the males

08:26 are given an extra shot of testosterone, they will start feeling super attracted towards

08:31 women. If all the women are given an extra shot of the female hormone, they will start

08:43 feeling super attracted towards men. This is just iron and magnet stuff, sodium and

08:48 water. Don't take it too seriously. Know what is happening. Just chemicals. And if you remove

08:59 those chemicals, nothing remains. Gone. Gone. Ask yourself. What is it? Just a chemical

09:11 mechanical process or a conscious thing? Love is conscious. Love is not chemicals. Love

09:20 understands. Attachment never understands.

09:43 (ethereal music)

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