Empower Your Career, Control Your Emotions || Acharya Prashant (2022)

Acharya Prashant

~~~~~  Video Information:  NIT-Silchar, 22.02.2022, Rishikesh, India  Context: ~ What work to choose in life? ~ Should one seek social validation while choosing work? ~ How important is money while choosing work? ~ Why do we often underestimate the circumstances?   Music Credits: Milind Date  ~~~~~~~~~~~~~  #acharyaprashant

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00:00 Hello, my name is Kali. I'm doing the M.Tech from an IT center. So my question from you

00:09 is how can I keep my career ahead of my emotions? Like I'm a very emotional person. I get disturbed

00:16 with little things. Whenever I'm having argument with my loved ones, I just get disturbed and

00:24 I kept on thinking about those things only and I can't study and it hampers my study

00:30 a lot. So how can I keep my career ahead of my all these feelings?

00:45 It's not that we have loved ones. We love to be disturbed. Would our loved ones mean

00:58 anything to us if they don't disturb us and we don't disturb them? Think of this, if our

01:07 loved ones stop disturbing us, probably the relationship would disappear. Is the relationship

01:19 itself not founded on the premise of giving each other the right to invade the personal

01:30 space of the other? If you want for example, the other's time and the other is saying,

01:43 you know, right now I'm occupied with something important. Maybe you will exempt him or her

01:50 a couple of times, but after that you will enjoy disturbing. Otherwise you will feel

01:58 you mean nothing to that person. Similarly the other person wants to have the right to

02:07 freely move about and litter in your inner space. That is what you call as disturbance,

02:19 right? Emotions we are born with and especially being a woman in the biological scheme of

02:33 things, emotions are powerful. The thing is, what do these emotions want to do to you?

02:52 Where are these emotions coming from? This same body that is the source of all emotions,

03:08 what does it really want? Is your nose really very interested in having a career? Right?

03:21 The emotion is coming from the nose, the emotion is coming from the eyes, the ears, the skin,

03:37 all parts of the body and I'm not even naming the brain right now. The entire body gives

03:46 rise to emotions. What does the body want? You have a woman's body, what does it want?

04:00 And we share our bodies with animals, what do bodies want? Do the bodies want the woman

04:08 to have a career? Do the bodies want the woman to have knowledge and wisdom? Is your nose

04:17 annoyed if you do not study? Do your eyebrows feel offended if you do not clear an exam?

04:31 Everything happens. The skin continues to glow even if you are an extremely ignorant

04:40 person. In fact, it has been seen that the skin of ignorant persons glows much more brightly

04:53 than those who are a little less ignorant. Does the skin care for knowledge, career,

05:04 consciousness? No. Now, the relationships, are our relationships coming from wisdom and

05:16 consciousness or are the relationships themselves coming from the body? Don't be in a hurry

05:23 to answer. I just want you to consider it. So, the body manifests itself in the relationships.

05:42 How do we choose friends? We choose the kind of friends that support our mental patterns.

05:53 We choose friends whose company allows a rush of dopamine to the brain. So, you are not

06:01 choosing friends. It is the body, the brain that is choosing friends. How do we choose

06:09 partners? We choose partners based on their intellectual depth and spiritual wisdom. We

06:18 may claim so, it sounds honorable. But the fact is that the body has its own ways. And

06:30 the first proof is that a woman likes to choose a man and a man likes to choose a woman. If

06:38 we were looking only for intellect and depth, why would gender be a concern? But the gender

06:48 is the first thing. So, the relationship itself is founded on the body. Now, see where we

06:55 are coming. The relationship is the body. And what you want is wisdom and consciousness.

07:11 Now, why will these two go together? Why will your relationships be conducive to your career

07:20 or to your real growth? You have an exam tomorrow. You know that you have an exam tomorrow. Does

07:34 the body still not want to fall asleep? Have you not experienced this? That even if you

07:44 know that something very important is to be done, yet the body starts acting lazy and

07:49 sleepy. Have you not experienced this? Yeah, I have experienced this. Right. So, the body

07:55 has no respect for the real things in life. The body has respect only for its biological

08:03 construction and the body is biologically constructed just to have fun of all kinds

08:09 in life. Eat, sleep, be merry, repeat. You could say food, sex, sleep, repeat. That's

08:24 all that is there to this body. And if our relationships are coming from the body, then

08:35 know very well that your relationships will not be aligned with your intellectual pursuits,

08:45 including your career choices. Do you feel I am beating around the bush? Probably I am.

08:58 Or am I coming to a point? No, you are coming to a point. All right. All this disturbance

09:12 that you experience, heavy emotionality, quick to cry, these things happen and they happen

09:23 a little more with women. They are just the conspiracies of this body against your real

09:33 purpose in life. So, be very, very watchful. You are not born just to be a servant to your

09:47 body and emotions are just bodily. Do not give too much respect to your emotions. Wisdom

10:01 and discretion is one thing and emotionality is a totally different thing. Getting it?

10:10 If you start living your life founded on emotions, you won't go very far. You would go only

10:20 in the direction of your bodily constitution. That's where your biological life wants to

10:27 take you. And the places where your biological life intends to take you are not very glorious

10:35 or dignified places. Do not let those things happen to you. Emotions will continue because

10:45 your body will continue. So, what can you do? Do not patronize your emotions. Do not

10:54 energize your emotions. When emotions rise, do not say these are my emotions. Say these

11:02 are the body's emotions. Fight against these emotions. Whenever these emotional disturbances

11:13 arise, do not say, "Oh, what can I do? This has happened, that had happened. Now I am

11:21 feeling disturbed. Somebody has come and disturbed me." Say, "I know where the disturbance

11:26 is coming from and I do not want to side with it. Let the disturbance be there. I will still

11:33 continue to do what is right." Are you getting it? All your life…

11:42 Ignoring our emotions, it's a very difficult thing.

11:48 Yes, it is difficult, but it's worth it. Because if you do not ignore them, they will

11:56 be all over you. And always remember, the emotions are not yours. The emotions belong

12:04 to the body. And the body is not a very glorious thing. You are a conscious human being. Your

12:18 purpose in life is to gain heights of consciousness, of wisdom, of freedom. And the body wants

12:27 no wisdom, no freedom. And I am saying, especially in the case of the woman, the body can militate

12:38 very strongly against the purposes of the consciousness. So you have to be even more

12:46 alert. And if you can be alert, the results are worth it.

12:54 So, this happens with women only? No, no, it happens with everybody. It happens

13:02 with everybody. But the thing is that you look at our societal structure. You look at

13:10 the way everything is designed to affect a girl child in a way that makes her more body-centric.

13:21 And you look at how Prakriti, physical nature, has chosen the woman as her preferred equipment

13:31 for her continuation. When you look at the reproductive cycle, it affects the woman far

13:39 more deeply and for a much longer duration than it affects the man. So, in that sense,

13:50 the woman has to be more cautious. Both the man and the woman are offsprings of Prakriti.

14:00 Therefore, they both are vulnerable to the chains of Prakriti. But woman has some additional

14:16 forces acting against her. And therefore, she has to be extra cautious. But that also

14:26 means that her victory tastes sweeter. That also means that when she succeeds, the success

14:39 means even more. And it is not much important to ask who is at a greater risk. The more

14:54 relevant question to ask is, would you be alright if you do not achieve your real nature?

15:06 Maybe the odds are a little more against you. But the inner urge to be liberated is the

15:18 same in all human beings, irrespective of their gender. So, will you be at peace if

15:27 you remain a hostage to your body? Tell me. So, that is the question to ask. Do not ask

15:39 how easy or difficult is it for me compared to a man. Because the thing is not relative.

15:47 The thing is not comparative. Maybe it's a bit more difficult for a woman. So, what?

15:55 It's worth it. If it's worth it, then we will fight it out. Right? We will fight it

16:04 out. See, you are thirsty, the other one too is thirsty. Would you look at the other's

16:14 thirst and say, well, you know, he's more thirsty than me. So, I feel satisfied. Will

16:24 that help you? No. You have to quench your own thirst. You have to fight your own battles.

16:31 And the battles deserve to be fought and are possible to be won. That's what matters.

16:39 Right?

16:43 [Music]

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