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00:00 Pastor, I don't care what you say, I can get me a man.
00:03 I'm saying it again, it's a bit polemical, but stop me when I'm lying.
00:07 I didn't say a brother who will bend me.
00:10 I said a brother who will bend the knee.
00:14 There's a difference between bending me.
00:17 Look at them laughing on the camera because they know I'm telling the truth.
00:20 Hey, what's up everybody?
00:21 Welcome back to Dr. R.A.
00:23 Vernon TV.
00:24 I'm on tour talking to singles all across the country and I'm loving it.
00:29 If you heard about the One Night Stand singles tour coming to a city near you, it's right
00:34 there.
00:35 Go to our website, onenightstandtour.com.
00:38 Tell your pastor, tell whoever, book us.
00:40 We love to come.
00:41 I've been saying unapologetically that what civil rights was to Dr. King, marriage is
00:47 to me.
00:49 Family is to me.
00:50 What civil rights was to Dr. King, once I settle that, family is to me.
00:55 What civil rights was to Dr. King, family is to me.
01:00 I'm on a crusade to make sure that single people pick right or stay by themselves.
01:07 I'm saying it again, it's a Vernonism.
01:09 It's better to be alone than married wrong.
01:14 Here's what's going on.
01:15 How do I figure out how to date or who to date?
01:18 The reality is there's not much in the Bible, if anything at all, about how to date.
01:25 Dating, uh-oh, is not biblical.
01:29 Marriage is biblical.
01:31 Dating is not biblical.
01:33 You'll find nothing in scripture, Judeo-Christian text, that talks about pick her up, chivalry,
01:42 this is how you walk up on her, this is what you should look for.
01:46 It's just not there.
01:48 So then what do we do with that?
01:50 We use, watch this, practicality, Holy Spirit revelation, and sort of biblically-based thought.
01:58 That's my call.
01:59 The Lord has graced me with the ability to help people work through relationships.
02:04 So if you've been married and you're going through some laborious, arduous, difficult
02:09 stuff, that's kind of what God has graced me to talk about.
02:13 Those of you who are looking for somebody, want to be married, God gave me a new book.
02:19 I'm so excited about it, the Dr. R.A.
02:21 Vernon, 10 Rules of Dating.
02:23 Watch this, the rules have changed.
02:26 Post-pandemic, social media, Instagram, the rules have changed.
02:31 I'm dating myself.
02:33 I go back in the day when a brother carried a little black book, walked up on a girl,
02:38 actually talked to her in person, kind of checked her out.
02:41 If she was your type, you'd ask her, "Can I have your number?"
02:44 If she said yes, you take out your little black book and write her number down in your
02:50 black book.
02:51 If you're not like my age, you're laughing right now.
02:53 This is pre-cell phone, pre-all of that.
02:56 How do we go from that to hit me up in the DM?
03:00 How do we go from that to swipe on Tinder, we meet in a hotel, do what we do, I'm out,
03:06 you out, if we'll never see each other again, cool.
03:09 I'm telling you, the rules have changed.
03:12 So I've been saying that this is not for unchurched people who care nothing about Jesus.
03:18 I just did something that kind of went crazy on my Instagram about Lil Nas and this guy
03:24 who was just messing with communion and putting himself on a cross.
03:27 And I confronted him publicly because I want to see him come to Christ.
03:31 And thousands of people were like, "Wow," because I had to say something.
03:35 The point I'm making is I'm with God.
03:37 And so when you offend God, it offends me.
03:41 Some people watching this, you're not with God.
03:44 If you're not with Jesus, let me just give you some advice.
03:47 If you're not a Christian, okay, this is going to be polemical right away.
03:51 If you're not a Christian, if you don't believe in Jesus, then why marry anybody?
03:57 I think it's actually quite stupid.
03:58 Just sleep with everybody.
03:59 Sleep with everybody you can.
04:01 You go into hell anyway.
04:03 God doesn't matter to you.
04:04 His agenda doesn't matter to you.
04:07 Why forgive anybody?
04:08 If you go into hell, I tell people, "Go right.
04:11 Go crazy."
04:12 But to those of you who really believe that there is a God and that what He says matters,
04:18 that sleeping with just anybody is wrong, this is who this teaching is for.
04:23 You don't have to be a preacher or anything like that, but if you believe that God's heart
04:26 matters, then this teaching should matter to you.
04:29 Talking about dating, there's nothing in the Bible that talks about dating.
04:34 Nothing.
04:35 So this is why I wrote a book on it.
04:37 This is why I have a heart for it.
04:39 This is why God has called me, because you've got millions of people who want to be with
04:44 somebody.
04:45 A bunch of you watching right now, both male and female, and you want to be with somebody
04:50 in a godly way, I want to talk about it, because Genesis 2, verse 24 says, "This explains why
04:55 a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united
05:03 into one."
05:04 Watch this.
05:05 "A man leaves his father and mother and joined to his wife."
05:10 Now, we've got to go all the way to the New Testament, and the New Testament, 1 Corinthians
05:14 7, verses 1 and 2 says this, "Now regarding the question you ask in your letter, yes,
05:19 it is good to abstain from sexual relations, but because there is so much sexual immorality,
05:25 each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband."
05:32 That's about the most you're going to get on dating.
05:34 Now what does that mean?
05:36 Because there are women watching me thinking, particularly black women, easier said than
05:41 done.
05:42 Each husband should have his own wife, each wife should have her own husband, each man
05:46 should have his own, each woman.
05:48 Okay, it's like, okay, if it was that easy, I'd be married now.
05:51 I've been saying this, the majority of women watching this tonight, black women particularly,
05:56 have never been proposed to by a man.
06:00 Stop me when I'm lying.
06:01 The majority of women watching me have never been proposed to by a man.
06:07 Brother got on his knee, had a ring ready, ready to commit his whole life to you.
06:13 Most of you watching me, that has never happened.
06:15 There's some divorced people watching, but the majority of you have never been proposed
06:19 to.
06:20 It's always like, "Pastor, I don't care what you say.
06:23 I can get me a man."
06:24 I'm saying it again, it's a bit polemical, but stop me when I'm lying.
06:29 I didn't say a brother who will bend me.
06:32 I said a brother who will bend the knee.
06:36 There's a difference between bending me, look at them laughing on the camera because they
06:41 know I'm telling the truth, and bending the knee.
06:44 Come on now, you cute, you got a cute shape.
06:46 Okay, whatever.
06:48 Brothers want to get down, that's different than proposing to me.
06:52 So then what do we do about that?
06:55 What's going on here?
06:56 We've talked about the disparage in numbers regarding black men who are available with
07:04 Jesus and a job.
07:05 Not really a whole lot of them.
07:07 We've talked about that, we'll get back to that in a moment.
07:09 What do we see?
07:10 We see in the Bible arranged marriages, arranged marriages.
07:16 Even in Genesis 24, some of you remember Abraham is talking to his son, watch this, and he's
07:22 telling his son, "I don't want you hooking up with these Canaanite sisters, they crazy.
07:27 So I'm going to send one of my assistants back to the place of God to find you a good
07:31 woman."
07:33 Man goes and sees Rebecca, Rebecca like fine as she could be, Rebecca godly, brother like
07:38 this would be a good hookup for Isaac.
07:42 Comes back, tells Abraham, boom, it's kind of arranged.
07:45 Isaac sees Rebecca.
07:48 People laugh and like, okay, what?
07:52 It's an arranged marriage.
07:53 Does the Bible say all marriages have to be arranged?
07:56 No, but the Bible speaks to arranged marriages.
07:59 There's nothing in scripture that says marriages have to be arranged.
08:03 What are we looking for?
08:04 I keep teaching people this when you watch me, biblical principle.
08:08 I see a principle.
08:09 I got my son here, two of my children have married well, and my son, my baby boy, he'll
08:16 be next, and then my baby daughter, I want her to get married.
08:19 Yeah, I want her to get married.
08:21 More than I want her to get four or five degrees, I want her to get married.
08:24 I do.
08:25 If God says it, unless she's called to be monastic and be a nun, she's probably going
08:30 to make, at some point going to make love to her brother.
08:33 She already like boys, so she's 13 and I'm hearing her, you know, it's what it is.
08:37 It's like, come on, I'm glad she like boys.
08:40 I'm not biting my tongue one bit.
08:42 And so it's going to happen.
08:45 So it's like, I'd rather her meet her husband early.
08:48 I'm old school, 21, 22, 23, whatever, go on and go through life with him, have their challenges
08:55 together, have all their babies together, not have some crazy body count.
09:01 By the time she's 30, because she's trying to get three degrees, but in the meantime,
09:06 she didn't had 10, 15, 30 brothers.
09:08 I saw something the other day that blew my mind.
09:12 The average woman, 23, watch this, has now had more sex and sexual partners than a woman,
09:20 53.
09:21 Let me try that again.
09:23 The average woman, 23, has now had more sexual partners than women, 53, because women my
09:30 age, even back in the 80s, 90s, you will look down upon for just letting brothers run through
09:37 you.
09:38 All right.
09:39 That's the culture.
09:40 That wasn't good.
09:41 A lady should still have some sort of character about herself.
09:44 Now the antithesis is true.
09:47 They're teaching that the more men you've had, the more sexually liberated you are.
09:51 It's just real with cell phones and I'll hook up with you at the hotel and let's do what
09:55 we do and be gone.
09:56 We don't have to know each other.
09:58 That's the world now.
09:59 That's the culture.
10:00 Is that what you want for your babies and your grandbabies?
10:03 Does anybody think that's healthy for your soul, your body, or your heart?
10:07 You can't think that, but that's true.
10:08 Let me say it one more time.
10:09 The average person now, 23, has had more sexual partners than their mother, 53.
10:19 I don't agree with that.
10:20 So I think that parents like me and those of you who have grandchildren should have
10:26 something to say to your children, to your grandchildren about how to date, about who
10:33 to look for, about what to do, about why not have this large body count where you in therapy
10:40 and comparing your future husband to all these bros that's been ran through you and this
10:46 one was good at this and this one was good at that.
10:49 Now you all messed up and no one woman can satisfy you because you've had five in one
10:54 week and sometimes two at the same time.
10:57 Now your precious wife can't keep up with all of that.
11:01 I'm on a crusade to help somebody.
11:04 I won't help everybody, but if I help somebody—you know what's happening?
11:07 This is why I tell pastors to hang around.
11:10 I'm running into people during this tour who are telling me, "I read your first book,
11:16 The Ten Rules of Dating, and it changed my life.
11:19 I read it when I was 17.
11:21 First man made love to me was my husband."
11:25 I'm running into bros who say, "Man, before I read your book, I'm talking about my first
11:29 book, so I'm reading the second one.
11:31 I've written this book twice.
11:32 I'm writing it for the third time."
11:33 As they're on the screens, the Dr. R.A.
11:35 Vernon, Ten Rules of Dating, by the time you're watching this, maybe it's dropped.
11:39 We're dropping it soon.
11:41 It hasn't dropped yet if you're watching today, but if you're watching this a month from now,
11:45 find it.
11:46 The Dr. R.A.
11:47 Vernon, Ten Rules of Dating, the rules have changed.
11:50 Because what's really more important in life other than Jesus—and please stop me when
11:55 I'm lying—than who you hook up with.
11:58 Yeah, stop me when I'm lying.
12:00 Other than Jesus, somebody please tell me, a man who's been married now going on three
12:05 decades, I can't think of nothing more important than my girl and I, and laying next to her
12:11 every night and loving, making love to her, and sharing my heart with and my pains with
12:18 and raising our babies together, and now grandbabies together.
12:21 I call her sexy grandma.
12:23 Here we are with two grandbabies born two months apart, and we still making love like
12:28 crazy, laughing like crazy, traveling, doing ministry, making money.
12:33 I want that—watch this—for everybody who's called to it.
12:37 I'm going to make you trip here.
12:40 And for those who are not called to it, I want you to stay alone and honor God before
12:47 you hook up with somebody that changes your life.
12:49 Every married person I know that married the wrong person would just about do anything
12:55 to be single again.
12:57 Yeah, it's like, it's a trip.
12:59 And I said this on a Sunday.
13:01 It's bad when the only reason we're married is so the kids won't be in therapy and we
13:08 won't hurt Christ.
13:09 Let me try that again.
13:11 The only reason we still married is so that we won't hurt Christ and the kids won't be
13:17 in therapy.
13:18 That's a long life.
13:20 And so those of you that are married, I'm coming with some teaching.
13:23 Don't worry about it because we have to make adjustments.
13:26 And by the way, don't give up on your marriage.
13:28 I've seen God turn marriages around.
13:30 That's just not tonight's assignment.
13:31 But you keep watching because this is for your children, your grandchildren.
13:35 Let me say this again.
13:37 Marriages were arranged.
13:38 Dr. Vernon, are you against arranged marriages?
13:43 Let's split the difference.
13:44 I'm not so much saying now in the 21st century that I'm trying to have my dad pick my wife
13:50 or my mother pick my husband.
13:54 But there's a principle and the principle is at some point once you think they're the
13:59 truth, once you look at her and think, told my son this, yeah, I can make love to her
14:04 the rest of my life.
14:05 Yeah, she got everything I need physically.
14:08 That's real for men.
14:09 I'm not backing off of that.
14:10 It's in my book.
14:11 What are your non-negotiables?
14:13 You got to read it.
14:14 I don't care what people think.
14:15 This is what I do.
14:16 And if I can change or save one brother from hooking up with a sister who don't have what
14:22 he need in the bed physically and now he looking at Instagram all day wishing his wife had
14:30 what the Instagram girl got when he could have married that.
14:33 And by the way, I'm not talking about no particular size.
14:36 I'm not superficial.
14:38 There's some beautiful brothers who want a slim girl.
14:41 I mean that slim trim, not a whole lot of nothing hanging nowhere.
14:45 He just likes that athletic.
14:47 Then get that.
14:49 The other brothers, you know, you're a junkyard dog.
14:52 Praise God.
14:54 Don't try not to laugh.
14:55 You know, you feel about to fall out.
14:57 You know, you like the junk.
14:59 You're a junkyard dog.
15:00 Praise God.
15:01 It needs to be junky.
15:04 Enough said.
15:06 Get what you like.
15:08 Here's what I'm saying.
15:09 I tell my baby boy and all of them, is that number one, is she what you like?
15:14 Have you talked to her?
15:15 Does she stimulate you cognitively?
15:19 More than any of that, do she love Jesus?
15:22 Because we're a Jesus family.
15:23 Is she going to be offended by your, you know, your father being a pastor and the fact that
15:28 you love Christ?
15:29 Is she going to have something?
15:30 Well, he going to have something.
15:31 Let's have real conversation.
15:32 You have to talk about your family's context.
15:34 Well, once you know that, and man, you can't stop talking to him on the phone.
15:38 You just love her.
15:39 You like her.
15:40 You like him.
15:41 This is real.
15:42 Like this is real.
15:43 I just like it.
15:45 It's time to bring him to the crib.
15:48 Yeah.
15:49 Bring that person to meet us because we got something to do with this.
15:55 Let me pause parenthetically.
15:57 That's if you like your family.
16:00 Because some people, the family has been so messed up.
16:03 You trying to get you somebody and get the heck away from them the rest of your life.
16:07 It was so dysfunctional, right?
16:08 It's like, no, mom, how you going to help me pick anything?
16:11 Dad, y'all two don't even like each other.
16:14 My house is hell.
16:15 I just want to turn 18 and be gone.
16:17 That's a whole nother podcast that we could discuss.
16:21 But to those of you who actually like your siblings, you like your parents, you guys
16:25 laugh, holidays are important.
16:27 You actually want to be together on important days.
16:31 Then who you invite into you guys life matter because they can throw off your whole family
16:37 chemistry because she a trip.
16:39 Somebody watching me can't stand your sister-in-law.
16:43 Somebody watching me, you know, your brother-in-law, you know, didn't mess around on your sister
16:47 so much she always crying.
16:48 And so there's tension where there used to be joy.
16:52 Okay, some messy sister-in-law or whoever, your brother pick, she a trip, her family
16:58 don't like you.
16:59 And it's just tension.
17:01 So now everybody got to do this fake smiling and it's just tension in the house.
17:04 The Vernon family, we trying to avoid that.
17:07 Don't forgive me if I'm wrong, but I think I'm right.
17:09 Our family is close as we can be.
17:12 We travel every holiday we together and we ain't trying to have nobody come in our life.
17:18 That's like a trip.
17:19 Now that doesn't mean we're trying to regulate what you do.
17:21 I don't get in their business.
17:23 They have been babies now.
17:25 I don't ask no questions unless they ask me.
17:28 We're big on privacy, but we're close.
17:32 Arranged, let your parents, somebody you trust, pastor ain't got that, bring them to church.
17:41 Kind of let somebody discern him or her.
17:43 I do believe that.
17:45 You know why?
17:46 I'm running out of time because, okay, matter of fact, I'm going to say that, but I will
17:51 say this, you in love, we not.
17:55 I said that a few sentences ago.
17:57 You know why you should let somebody else meet people?
17:59 Because you in love, we not.
18:01 We can still see clearly you in love.
18:03 We not in love yet.
18:05 And so we've even done things where we let, once it got really real, come on, travel with
18:10 us.
18:11 We made sure rooms were separate and all that.
18:12 Come on, go with us.
18:14 We need to see you during some downtime and how you are.
18:17 You're shivery when you don't think we watching you.
18:21 This is a big decision for our daughter, for our son, and for you.
18:26 So I say that to say that I am not against arranged marriages in the sense, let somebody
18:34 help you discern.
18:35 I had them cracking up.
18:36 Grandma, you better use her wisdom.
18:39 Your grandma kept her man.
18:41 Yeah, grandma has some sense of what to pick.
18:43 So I wouldn't just rule that out.
18:46 All right.
18:47 So that's enough of that.
18:49 Here's what I want to get to now, because the practice of arranged marriages was even
18:54 relevant in America until the 1900s.
18:56 Some people don't know that.
18:58 Even today in some Orthodox Jewish and Islamic faiths and Hindu families, arranged marriages
19:06 are observed.
19:07 And some of those marriages, you ready for this?
19:09 They actually last longer than persons who didn't get advice.
19:13 So since there's nothing about dating in the Bible, let me give you something practical.
19:17 Find somebody, number one, again, that you're attracted to spiritually, emotionally, all
19:22 of that, physically, particularly men, physically, and then let somebody meet them.
19:29 Now one of the things I talk about in my book, and I'm going to run out of time here, but
19:32 that's okay.
19:33 We're going to keep talking about this.
19:34 It's my calling.
19:35 And it's not just for hits and likes, it's for people who need it.
19:39 And by the way, I'm coming to a city near you, one nightstandtour.com, pastors that
19:44 are watching.
19:45 I got so much that I'm not even giving you because I say a bunch of it during the tour.
19:50 And I want to just throw it all the way here and use it all up because some of the good
19:54 stuff I have to say, you just have to be in person and hear me.
19:56 And it's in the book.
19:57 But I do want to give you this.
19:58 One of the things I discuss in the book is directional dating, directional dating.
20:03 And no one talks about this because it's not biblical.
20:05 Let me just say this again.
20:07 Abraham, in Genesis 24, says to Isaac, "Don't hook up with these Canaanite sisters," watch
20:14 this, "'cause you'll be dating down.
20:17 And I'm the father of the faithful, and I ain't trying to see my son date down."
20:22 So we're going to go to some quality sisters, and this is where they find Rebecca.
20:27 And Rebecca and Isaac hook up.
20:30 I need to say something to some of you.
20:32 Know what direction you're dating in.
20:34 Yeah, don't be so pressed that you date down in every area, like directional dating, directional
20:44 dating.
20:45 I'm not going to laugh, and I'm as new money as money get.
20:48 I'm new money.
20:49 And I don't have as much as I want, but I got more than most of what I come from.
20:54 And so I'm new.
20:56 And so I'm realizing that when you lead thousands of people, and the reality is, have some influence
21:05 and tried to make some good decisions with resources, and now persons who just come into
21:11 Vernon family now, man, we should at least be thoughtful of, "Okay, we've worked to make
21:17 this name something."
21:19 And so what direction are we dating in?
21:21 I mean, what does her family look like?
21:24 What does his family look like?
21:26 I'm not talking about having as much as us.
21:28 I'm talking about at least in some ways, are you dating up spiritually?
21:32 Are you dating up?
21:33 Is he more spiritual than you?
21:36 In what way is she better than you?
21:39 Or are you dating down in every direction, spiritually, relationally, her family's toxic,
21:47 financially?
21:48 Is there anything that she brings to the table other than she's cute?
21:52 And cute is important, but is there anything else?
21:54 Is there anything else that he brings to the table?
21:57 So I'm teaching people across the country, know what direction you're dating in.
22:04 What things are important to you?
22:06 What attributes do you need?
22:08 And just let somebody, and here's what I want to say finally.
22:13 I'm begging people too, and this is what I'll get to in another podcast, but let me just
22:17 close with this.
22:20 In this process, the scripture says something, and this is the last scripture I can give
22:24 you, but I just want to give it to you.
22:25 First Corinthians 6 verse 18, "Run from sexual sin."
22:31 No other sin is so clearly, no other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does.
22:37 Let me give you First Corinthians 7 before I read that.
22:40 Let me give you this.
22:41 "Now regarding the question you asked me, yes, it's good to abstain from sexual relations,
22:46 but because there is so much sexual immorality, because there is so much sexual immorality,
22:53 each man should have his own wife, each woman should have her own husband."
22:57 And then First Corinthians 6 verse 18, "Look at me, everybody, look at me."
23:01 Read this with me, it's right there on the screen.
23:03 "Run from sexual sin."
23:04 It doesn't say pray about it.
23:05 "Run from sexual sin."
23:07 Okay, you kill me.
23:09 Sin is sin.
23:10 Some people lie, some people steal, some people are jealous.
23:16 Don't make one sin bigger than the other.
23:18 You need to read your Bible.
23:20 Look what it says.
23:21 No other sin, no other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does.
23:30 For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.
23:34 Why am I saying this?
23:35 You're getting raw stuff.
23:36 I'm not playing any more games.
23:38 I told our team, my wife, either I'm doing it or I'm not.
23:41 I have no time to waste.
23:42 I got a whole lot of beautiful members that depend on me.
23:45 I got five children.
23:47 I got a lot going on.
23:48 So if I'm going to sit down and do this, it has to be from here.
23:52 It has to be God.
23:53 And God told me to tell you, hear me, because it hit me something I've never said.
24:00 I don't know how much sense it makes not to make love to somebody before you marry them
24:06 logically.
24:07 I don't.
24:08 It's real.
24:09 It's like, okay, so I'm going to marry you.
24:13 I don't even know if I like you in the bed.
24:15 And now here we are married and I find out that you, I mean, I can't take that chance.
24:21 Dr. Vernon, why would you teach somebody that?
24:23 You ready?
24:25 Because the Bible does.
24:28 I'm done overthinking what scripture says.
24:32 God is smarter than you and I.
24:34 And even though the world tells us, try it before you buy it.
24:37 I said something at church the other Sunday.
24:39 I don't think they caught it.
24:40 I'm done when I tell you this.
24:42 And that's this.
24:45 Adam was the best Eve ever had.
24:47 I don't care what you say.
24:51 Adam was the best Eve ever had.
24:53 The problem is we didn't have too many Adams.
24:59 And so now it's like we compare in Adams.
25:03 You see what I'm trying to tell you?
25:05 The Bible says run from sexual immorality.
25:09 The Bible says to avoid fornication.
25:12 Now I gave our church something I'm going to give you.
25:15 I'm going to end with it.
25:16 We may even name this Bible cast.
25:18 This is this.
25:20 When you turned out, you can't think.
25:25 When you're turned out, you can't think.
25:28 You can't think properly when a man, particularly women watching this, has made you feel a certain
25:34 way in the bed.
25:36 If a man has made you feel a certain way in the bed, you're not going to be able to think
25:40 clearly.
25:41 You're not going to make proper decisions.
25:42 Some of you that are married or been married know what I'm talking about.
25:46 You found out that all you had in common was that good bedroom stuff.
25:51 And then when life started, you saw you weren't thinking clearly.
25:56 Paul says run from sexual sin.
25:59 No other sin messes with your body and your mind and your emotions like this one.
26:08 Okay, come on.
26:09 Tell a lie that's bad.
26:10 We can come up with all kinds of sins.
26:11 We all sin sometimes.
26:13 But the Bible says don't nothing do you like that soul type thing.
26:18 So I'm trying to beg singles.
26:20 Spoiler alert.
26:21 The last rule in my book is don't have sex.
26:24 Same as the other two books have been.
26:26 Don't have sex because once you do that, you can't think.
26:31 If that sex is good, you're going to forgive stuff you shouldn't forgive.
26:35 If that sex is good, you're going to look past stuff you shouldn't look past.
26:39 If that sex is good, you're going to pay bills he made.
26:43 He's going to be laughing while you're doing it, telling his friends, "She's paying all
26:46 my bills.
26:47 She's letting me stay there.
26:49 She let me do a whole lot of stuff."
26:50 You're going to forget he's not the best daddy for your daughter because that sex is good
26:55 and it becomes like crack to some people.
26:58 And I'm telling you as crazy as it sounds, keep the physical out of it.
27:04 God knew what he was doing.
27:05 I'm stopping.
27:06 I could go all day.
27:08 I'm picking this up next week.
27:09 We just going to keep talking about it.
27:10 I'm on tour.
27:12 You better tell somebody.
27:14 And guess what?
27:15 I haven't even given you the tour material.
27:17 Wait till you see me in person.
27:19 Coming to a city near you is right there on the screen.
27:21 The one night stand tour.com.
27:25 Tell everybody you know.
27:26 Invite every single.
27:27 You may have to catch a bus to get to a city close to you.
27:31 Carpool.
27:32 Do what you guys got to do.
27:33 Go to our schedule.
27:34 I'm trying to come every place.
27:36 I'm headed to Sacramento.
27:38 I'm headed overseas to the Bahamas, Freeport, Nassau.
27:44 You name it.
27:45 I'm coming, man.
27:46 All across America.
27:48 My wife released me.
27:50 God told me, honestly, this is to call this on my life.
27:54 To help singles pick right.
27:56 Watch this.
27:57 And to help singles who are alone to be satisfied and not make a move you're going to regret
28:05 just to get company.
28:06 I'm done.
28:07 I'm going to make this up next time I see you.
28:09 I can't wait to see you in a city near you.
28:12 It's on the screens.
28:13 Come on.
28:14 Be a blessing.
28:15 Help us.
28:16 And if you feel like this was good, come on.
28:19 Support us.
28:20 Support us.
28:21 I told some place I was preaching.
28:22 I was in Jacksonville, Florida at a women's conference.
28:25 And I told them, just give an offering tonight because this was good.
28:29 Yeah.
28:30 I don't have to promise you anything.
28:32 Sow into something that blessed your life.
28:34 If I said something, if you didn't fall asleep, you know, you pay for Dave Chappelle comedy
28:40 show.
28:41 If he was funny, you're not walking out mad.
28:43 You pay money for some concert and the singing was good.
28:46 You were entertained.
28:47 You don't get in the car and say, I can't believe you were blessed.
28:50 Treat church like that.
28:51 Your local church.
28:52 Tithe and give 10% because that church blesses your life every week.
28:57 You know what you should give?
28:59 Remember this.
29:00 Always give where you eat.
29:02 If you eat spiritually, then so make an exchange with that.
29:06 That's not money games.
29:08 That's just integrity.
29:09 Yeah.
29:10 The waitress is good.
29:11 I'm tipping her behind more than she's been tipped probably all day.
29:15 Food is good.
29:16 I'm listen, how much that was good for my girl and I say the same thing I'm saying to
29:22 you.
29:23 If this blesses you, then become a supporter.
29:24 Can somebody do a $50 gift tonight or today?
29:26 Whenever you're watching $20 gift, help me keep doing ministry.
29:31 I like to write checks more than I like to receive checks.
29:34 So help my wife and I to continue to be a blessing to people is what we do.
29:39 We'll keep giving you this good content, helping to change your life.
29:43 Invite somebody to watch next week.
29:44 We're going to keep going.
29:46 I'm on tour.
29:47 It's the one night stand.
29:50 Tell everybody married and single.
29:52 Keep your eye right now on Dr. Averin and TV father.
29:55 Thank you for this word tonight.
29:57 Today, whenever they're watching, laying in their beds in the car, wherever they may be.
30:01 Thank you God.
30:02 Give us relevant, Holy Spirit led teaching experientially, practically, biblically, theologically.
30:08 Let it be sound, but yeah, Lord, let it be practical that they can use it, apply it to
30:14 their lives.
30:15 Bless us now until we meet again in Jesus name.
30:18 Make sure you know Christ as your personal savior.
30:21 I'll see you next time.
30:22 Take care now.
30:22 Take care now.
30:22 (upbeat music)