What Women Want ~ Sadia Khan Dating Expert

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Dating expert, Sadia Khan, says women respect men they cannot manipulate. Women are always testing if they can manipulate men. Sadia is a relationship coach who has dedicated her social presence to helping individuals and couples navigate the complexities of modern relationships. Her passion for helping people build fulfilling and lasting connections has guided her on this meaningful journey.  Sadia holds a BSc in Psychology, Master's in Education and Developmental psychology, Qualified Teachers Status, Diplomas in Psychotherapy, Advanced CBT, Psychoanalysis, and Inner Child Healing. Her academic training and extensive practical experience allow her to offer well-rounded and evidence-based guidance.   #psychology #dating #relationships

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00:00 What do you want? What do you want?

00:04 It's not that simple.

00:05 What do you want?

00:07 What do you want?

00:11 If Ryan Gosling can't figure it out, then the rest of us don't stand a chance.

00:15 But that's all changed, gentlemen.

00:18 Prime Time's found a woman who speaks for all women and tells us what they want.

00:22 Women find boundaries very attractive. They pretend that they don't.

00:26 They'll say, "You can't tell me what to do. I'm my own woman. Dunno this, that and the other."

00:30 But there's something so attractive about a man who's not a people pleaser.

00:33 So, women like a firm hand.

00:36 Do women like nice guys or bad boys?

00:39 They lack a lot of masculinity.

00:42 And what they do is they blame the fact that they're so nice as to why they can't get women.

00:46 But it's not about being nice. It's about a lack of masculinity.

00:49 Oh, interesting. Nice guys do finish last.

00:52 So what about players?

00:55 I think celibacy, especially on a man, is so unbelievably attractive.

00:59 Because what it means is that he is not accessible and available to everybody.

01:04 Now I'm a little confused. They don't want a nice guy, but they don't want a player either?

01:08 So the woman we're listening to is dating coach, Sadia Khan.

01:13 She doesn't just give men advice. She speaks to women too. Listen.

01:16 We've created a generation of narcissistic women.

01:20 And what's happened is the rise of social media and the rise of online dating and the rise of feminism

01:26 has taught women that they are not to blame for any poor choices.

01:29 So if you want to be a sex worker, it's great.

01:31 If you want to post bikini pictures online, it's fine.

01:33 And every internal reflection is seen as gaslighting yourself.

01:37 So they've even got terms for internal reflection to prevent it happening.

01:41 That comment, by the way, got her thrown off Instagram.

01:45 They said she was being anti-sex worker.

01:49 But she's not banned from primetime. Dating expert, Sadia Khan is here with me.

01:53 Sadia, explain when you say women want men to establish boundaries.

01:59 I think what I meant by that is men and women, because we live in a society now

02:05 where we're not really looking to create a healthy home.

02:08 We're looking to see the most we can get out of each other.

02:11 But women are still designed to be protected by men.

02:16 The only way we define a man that is able to protect us is one that has high self-esteem.

02:20 Men with low self-esteem make terrible life decisions.

02:24 They are unable to predict threats in the environment.

02:28 They can't control their emotions.

02:30 They are easily manipulated by women.

02:32 And the main thing is they have no willingness to walk away

02:35 when they are being manipulated or being badly treated.

02:38 And as a result, we've created a culture of women who just marry

02:42 because they want a good alimony.

02:45 They want to make sure that the prenup favors them.

02:46 So in this day and age where it's so easy to have the upper hand over men as a woman,

02:52 it's so easy to post pictures and be flown out across the country by a billionaire.

02:57 It's so easy to marry and divorce and then stop him from seeing the children.

03:01 The only thing that will make us truly respect a man is if he has high self-esteem,

03:06 high enough for him to select wisely and not be manipulated and pushed into a corner

03:13 by a woman simply because he's attracted to her.

03:15 And that's what I think the fundamental core value that we've now no longer find in men anymore.

03:20 And it doesn't help. The laws don't help.

03:22 But essentially I think that's what most women are looking for.

03:25 You can be rich, you can be tall or short, you can be funny or not funny,

03:29 but if you are easy to manipulate and you have low self-esteem

03:33 and you can never walk away from a woman,

03:35 we essentially see you as less powerful and less attractive.

03:40 So you're saying Greg Gutfeld, who is short and rich and funny,

03:44 can get any woman he wants, but if he is lacking self-esteem, it's trouble.

03:51 Absolutely. Because you can be rich, tall, short, it doesn't actually matter.

03:56 If she knows that you're super intelligent at work, you're a CEO,

04:00 you've got a bunch of employees, but all she has to do is wear the right outfit

04:05 and then you're able to take her shopping and fly her out

04:08 and let her do whatever she wants with your credit card

04:10 without earning any of those privileges, you immediately become somebody she can't respect.

04:14 So, Saadi, what you're saying is we can't let you guys control us.

04:19 Absolutely.

04:21 But you guys are designed to control us.

04:23 I'm sorry?

04:25 Aren't you guys designed to control us? Don't you always try to control us?

04:29 We just shouldn't let you?

04:31 We are designed to test you.

04:33 Oh, test us.

04:35 We are designed to test you.

04:37 So, I believe what women are actually designed to do is to test to see if you let us take the driving seat.

04:43 What we truly want is a man that we don't want to take the driving seat from and he doesn't let us.

04:48 Because women are always going to try and control a man.

04:51 That's what they're always going to do.

04:53 But the moment they can control him, they lose desire and respect for him

04:56 because he no longer is seen as masculine.

04:58 So, we test you and only the ones that we know we can't manipulate and can't control

05:03 are the ones that we'll submit to.

05:06 I thought there was going to be a test.

05:07 Nadia, before we let you go, the social media situation, you were telling women it's a mess.

05:16 Can you just elaborate on that for us?

05:19 I think social media has made sure that women are perpetual victims.

05:24 And the only way to get out of this victimhood is that you use men for your own selfish desires.

05:31 They are not there to create a home with.

05:33 They are no longer your partner.

05:35 Instead, they are either a bank that you just take all his money from

05:39 or they're somebody that you don't get too close to, you don't attach to.

05:42 They're essentially the enemy.

05:44 And I think it works both ways around.

05:46 I think men have also been manipulated into thinking women are the enemies.

05:48 So, both are going into relationships with the desire to win this game rather than actually create a home.

05:55 So, I think social media has destroyed expectations.

05:58 For men, it's created high expectations in terms of appearance and sexual performance.

06:03 It's created really high expectations in terms of financial investment.

06:05 So, now you'll get a simple girl expecting to be taken on a private jet,

06:10 which is just unsustainable and narcissistic.

06:14 Yeah, tell me about it. You should see the cost of these jets these days.

06:17 Thank you so much, Sadia.

06:20 You have really enlightened me.

06:23 I did not know you guys were testing us this whole time, but that was very important information.

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