YASMIN, Tyquan and Cieara from Atlanta became a throuple after Tyquan was open about cheating on Yasmin with Cieara. Yasmin and Tyquan have been together since 2012. The couple were madly in love, but Yasmin admits that Tyquan had a huge issue with infidelity and cheated on Yasmin several times with different women. However it was different with Cieara, Yasmin said: “When I found out, I was bothered by it, I asked him to stop. And when he didn’t stop I felt it was something more serious and I can look into it." Yasmin decided to invite Cieara into their relationship and arranged the first meeting. The throuple decided to make a go of it as a three and not long after joining the relationship, Cieara fell pregnant with Tyquan’s child. The polyamorous throuple now all live under one roof with eight children between them. They have received huge backlash from their friends and family with people saying: “they must have low self-esteem”. Some of Yasmin’s closest friends couldn’t get their head around it and felt there was a huge lack of respect between the throuple and felt that Cieara was coming between them. The throuple believe “you can miss out of a lot of things if you’re not open minded” and are now happily married.
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00:00 This is Yasmin and Taekwon. They fell in love with...
00:03 Ciara.
00:05 The three of them decided to become a throuple
00:08 after Yasmin caught Taekwon cheating with Ciara.
00:11 Now their relationship has blossomed into a family of 11.
00:14 But not everyone believes they are genuinely happy.
00:17 The majority of them swear that this is like some big...
00:21 How did you feel when you found out that Ciara was more than just my friend?
00:27 How did you feel when you found out that Ciara was more than just your friend?
00:32 I'm the middle man and I'm in the middle right there.
00:34 And they're on two different sides.
00:37 And when they're gone I'm in the whole bed. I get to sleep across.
00:40 We are all romantically involved. Me and Ciara are not sister wives.
00:43 As much as he is my husband physically, she is my wife physically.
00:46 We've been together for... all of us together about...
00:50 7, 8 years.
00:52 Me being super young and being a... I'll say aggressive male at that time.
00:59 I was a cheater is what they call it.
01:01 So that's actually how I met Ciara. Because I was cheating.
01:05 So I met Ciara at work.
01:09 Mind you, I didn't pay him no attention when I first got there.
01:13 I was just walking to the bathroom one day and he so happened to ask me to go get him a juice out the fridge.
01:18 When I came back with the juice, he handed me his phone number.
01:22 She rang my number. Yep.
01:24 It's very smooth.
01:25 So when I found out, of course I was bothered by it and I asked him to stop.
01:31 And when he didn't stop, I felt like maybe it was something more serious and I could look into it.
01:34 Because it's something that I had said that I was open to.
01:37 I'm the one that kind of set up that first meeting.
01:40 How I felt about the poly relationship is that that's the first time I've actually seen it.
01:46 When I got into it, it was a back and forth of trying to be poly but then still having that monogamous mindset.
01:54 I know it happened in the Bible and stuff like that.
01:57 But actually seeing it for myself and being in it, it was a struggle for me.
02:02 I spent a lot of time trying to show her that, "Hey, I'm serious. I do want you here."
02:06 And I'm the one who eventually asked her to move into the house.
02:09 I like the idea of a big family.
02:10 I like this specific dynamic because I feel like more feminine energy does help a household.
02:16 It was the way before people decided it wasn't the way.
02:19 I don't think I really ever held it against him because we were young.
02:24 And I have had my things also.
02:26 Humans are humans who make mistakes, but I can't say that she's a mistake.
02:29 Where we're going is the Legion of Doom is what I like to call it.
02:32 The Dungeon of Destruction.
02:34 No caps to the electric because these are children of the wilderness.
02:37 We have the first ever made, what, one, two, three, four, five bunk beds.
02:43 This wall was all painted black, but they've made two holes in this wall.
02:48 You know the weirdest thing he asked for for Christmas?
02:50 He asked for a--what was it?
02:52 Humidifier.
02:53 A humidifier because it smells like teen spirit up here.
02:55 It's like one of the smartest gifts that I've ever thought for a teen spirit.
02:58 Biologically, I've got my three.
03:00 I've got Tashaun, Taekwon, and I've also got Zion.
03:03 I've got my bonus kids being Jeremiah and Noah.
03:07 As far as getting along, I mean, I think that when it comes to any brotherhood,
03:11 you're going to have your quarrels and your beefs.
03:14 But I think there was a pretty good mesh because I think everybody bounces off each other.
03:18 This is the girls' room.
03:20 Here we have Akira.
03:22 This is Jasmine's daughter, and also mine.
03:25 And this is my oldest, Asia.
03:28 And we have Skylar, me and Taekwon's daughter.
03:32 We've been through almost everything that anybody could imagine
03:34 before we made the right choice to say, "Hey, this is what we're going to do for the rest of our lives."
03:38 With a lot of people finding out about the situation,
03:41 we've actually watched monogamous relationships fall apart, divorces happen, and we're still together.
03:47 So it's kind of like one of those things where y'all have all of these questions and you have these doubts,
03:51 but, you know, we've outlasted some of the people.
03:53 Your relationship.
03:54 Yeah.
03:55 Has it been a ride? For sure.
03:57 Rollercoaster.
03:58 But I like amusement parks.
04:00 I think that the relationship has affected all of the children in some way, shape, form, or fashion.
04:05 The teachers hear certain things like, "What? You got two moms?"
04:07 "You have two moms?"
04:08 "No, y'all got two moms."
04:09 But I think that they understand the situation to be more love, more everything.
04:15 Scrolling down the comments, I'll be honest, man, a majority of them swear that this is just like some big...
04:21 I'm like, "Do you understand that these women have attitudes?"
04:25 You know, "They get mad at me," and that's two attitudes at one time.
04:28 They're normal human beings.
04:29 Like, it's not-- I don't know what these guys think.
04:31 I think they think more of the sexual part of it instead of exactly what we're doing as a whole.
04:38 Like, this is a unit. We have eight kids in this house.
04:41 That is not our main goal.
04:43 When it comes to chores and stuff, because we have a lot of kids and a lot of hands on deck,
04:47 we have a chore list that has everybody's daily chore that they're responsible for.
04:53 In terms of, like, cooking and laundry and stuff, we try to establish rules so that they know how to kind of run a house when they get older.
04:59 Does it always work? No. Not at all.
05:03 She's the peacemaker. Me and him are like the hill raisers.
05:07 I cook sometimes, too.
05:08 My fried chicken was really super good, bro. It was super good.
05:10 I'm a man of many talents. I don't really like to brag too much.
05:15 You see people, "Oh, I can never do that."
05:17 Or like she said, "Oh, they must have low self-esteem."
05:20 And it's like, "Eh."
05:22 I would say some of the biggest challenges are sometimes ego.
05:26 But I feel like that's the same in monogamy.
05:28 Ego, jealousy, all of those things come up.
05:31 We have to learn how to compromise.
05:33 We have to learn how to compromise with each other.
05:35 Because it's three people.
05:36 This is the real answer that they want to know, right?
05:39 The downside to this relationship is having to find out what to eat.
05:42 Oh, yeah. Yeah.
05:44 And we never--you still don't know.
05:45 Imagine going through that with your wife, or you have one wife.
05:47 And you're like, "What do you want to eat?" "I don't care."
05:48 And you say, "I'm going to this place." And they're like, "No, I don't want that."
05:51 Imagine that times two.
05:53 I want to see how my thing is.
05:55 My family thought that she was just my homegirl,
06:03 who I was bringing to family function.
06:05 My mother was open to that. She accepts us for who we are.
06:08 Did I get backlash from other family members? Yes.
06:12 They're like, "What are you doing?"
06:14 They thought I had low self-esteem.
06:16 Low self-esteem? No.
06:18 She's got low self-esteem?
06:20 Yeah, like, no.
06:21 For the most part, my family was very much open.
06:24 My friends, very much open.
06:26 My friends.
06:28 They're like, "We're together."
06:31 Like, where do you fit in?
06:32 Of course people had questions.
06:34 Pretty much for the first year or so, you were just quiet.
06:37 I just kind of saw you just moving.
06:39 And I think it wasn't until later that we actually built a relationship.
06:44 Yeah, it was kind of awkward.
06:47 I'm not going to lie, being around the parents.
06:49 Because this was--I didn't know how they all felt.
06:52 This is my daughter-in-law, and this is my son-in-law.
06:55 I don't care if people give me that look or whatever.
06:57 What? But that's not your business.
07:00 Are we making more babies?
07:02 Personally, I can't have any more, so...
07:06 That would be on you, ma'am.
07:08 Well, you're a troop now, right?
07:10 A trope. A thrope.
07:12 You're a throople.
07:14 She said a troope.
07:15 They work together as a family unit.
07:18 Everybody--they're mom, and this is dad.
07:22 And I like that, and there's no difference.
07:25 If you're going to have an opinion, keep it to yourself.
07:27 You're speaking on someone else's relationship or how they love someone.
07:30 That's none of your business.
07:32 I think the biggest thing that I want people to see when they look at our family
07:37 is do what you want to do.
07:39 Live how you want to live.
07:40 If you want two partners, you want to have a whole bunch of kids, do that.
07:44 And don't let anybody stop you.
07:46 I've learned a lot from both of these women.
07:48 I've learned a lot from all of these children.
07:50 You can miss out on a lot of things by not being over-minded.
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