My BF's In Prison So Other Men Buy Me Gifts | LOVE DON'T JUDGE
SAFFRON was a sugar baby for many years, but ditched the lifestyle when she fell in love with boyfriend Luke. She told Love Don't Judge: "I was used to men buying me really expensive things and gifting me lots. And then we got together and Luke took that role on and he provided everything for me." However, that all changed when Luke was sentenced to time in jail. While her man is behind bars, Saffron has gone back to being a sugar baby. Saffron explained: "While Luke is in jail, he has no choice that I'm a sugar baby. He's in there and I'm out here, and I need to maintain the lifestyle that I'm accustomed to." But not everyone agrees with Saffron's choices and she's dealt with plenty of criticism. Saffron said: "I get backlash from other prison wives because they don't agree with me receiving gifts or money from other men." In this episode, Saffron will give us an insight into her glam sugar baby life and we'll also hear from her friend, CT, and what she thinks about Saffron and Luke's relationship.
Transcript
00:00 This is Saffron. She fell in love with Luke.
00:05 People judge my relationship because I'm a sugar baby and my man's in jail.
00:09 Saffron's choices have left her shunned by her community.
00:12 I get backlash from other prison wives because they don't agree with me receiving gifts and money from other men.
00:18 And since gaining notoriety online, the comments have been brutal.
00:22 What in the council house 39p energy drink is this?
00:27 Now her friend is calling for an intervention.
00:30 I'm hoping to convince her to let go of the attachment that she has with him.
00:35 I met Luke seven years ago. I was working in a strip club in Soho and it all goes to the casino afterwards.
00:44 And Luke was there. I saw him and he saw me and it was love at first sight.
00:49 Before I met Luke, I was a sugar baby and I was used to men buying me really expensive things and gifting me lots.
00:55 And then we got together and Luke took that role on and he provided everything for me.
01:00 When Luke told me he was going to jail, I was frozen. It felt like a shameful thing.
01:05 At the end of the day, prisons exist because people do things wrong.
01:10 This Louis Vuitton duffel bag that Luke got me, which was roughly about £1,700.
01:15 I had lots of different types of Tiffany Julie from Luke, but this one I think is very special
01:20 because it is just one big heart and he has a big heart tattooed on his wrist, which symbolises us.
01:28 And then it's just a bit of Luke always there. Not overly expensive gifts, but sentimental ones.
01:34 In the beginning, me and Luke wrote to each other regularly, probably once a week.
01:41 When I first started receiving the letters, it was really overwhelming and very emotional.
01:45 When someone goes to jail, you think that, oh, well, you must be quite selfish to do things that have put you in this position.
01:52 To be reassured that you are loved, it makes you feel quite safe.
01:55 Hi babe, I know this is all so hard for you right now, but we have to be strong for each other.
02:00 When I'm home, this will all be over and it will be like it never happened.
02:04 Luke has served already a year and a half, so hopefully he'll be out in a year and a half or just under.
02:09 I have cut down my visits with Luke because it is really sad and emotional just to go and see him and go to a prison.
02:16 And I've started TikTok and I started blogging about my journey
02:19 and I get backlash from other prison wives because they don't agree with me receiving gifts and money from other men.
02:26 So when I go there, I'm made to feel uncomfortable and the whole journey is just unpleasant.
02:30 I started sharing my relationship online in June of 2023.
02:34 I actually made one video on TikTok, which was literally going to see Luke in jail.
02:40 And it got to like 4.5 million views.
02:43 And I was like, OK, this is a serious thing that people are really interested in this life.
02:48 People acted really horribly and bad.
02:51 I had to actually take off the comments of that video to be allowed to keep it on my TikTok profile.
02:56 What in the council house 39P energy drink is this?
03:00 Her voice sums it up.
03:02 So people just assume because of my accent that me and Luke are just not worthy of anything.
03:08 Half the reason so many young men are inside.
03:11 It's the fake lifestyle, high maintenance, fake hair, fake tan, fake lashes and Botox nails.
03:18 And then the man has to pay for it all.
03:20 Luke didn't get bothered about any of the comments that were towards him.
03:25 But when I did tell him there was comments like that about myself, he did get very angry.
03:29 I think that the comments are just part of social media.
03:32 So I just have to accept the bad comments.
03:34 The judgment helps me have a voice, whether it be about prison wife or sugar baby.
03:40 It just makes my voice louder.
03:42 Thank you.
03:45 I reckon this one might be a Christmas present from one of the sugar daddies.
03:55 I started being a sugar baby again six months ago.
03:59 Whilst Luke's in jail, he has no choice that I'm a sugar baby.
04:03 He's in there and I'm out here and I need to maintain the lifestyle that I'm accustomed to.
04:09 I am used to just waking up and not having to think about money, not having to worry about money.
04:14 It's for my own financial reassurance.
04:17 Because I always wanted to be sort of a stay at home girlfriend.
04:20 And I always envisioned it would be surrounded by money and wealth and then just not me having to work.
04:27 I mean, they're cute and it's £400 I didn't have to spend on myself.
04:31 He doesn't expect to be shown any of these items, so for all he knows, I could be reselling them all on.
04:38 But I do tend to like things, so I just keep a lot of my stuff.
04:42 Every sugar baby is definitely different.
04:44 I really rely just on financial transactions.
04:48 I barely even talk to these men.
04:50 I have never ever been intimate with any of these guys.
04:53 I have actually only been with my partner Luke.
04:56 I fell into the shipping industry when I was really young.
04:59 Some of the girls in the industry, they introduced me to being a sugar baby and it just went on from there.
05:04 I prefer a married man as a sugar daddy because then there is no hassle.
05:09 He wants to protect his wife, so when you hear from him, it will literally be because he wants to buy you something or give you some money.
05:15 I don't feel bad for the man's partner or children because at the end of the day, it should be up to him to say no and to turn away other women.
05:24 This is a first ever present I got from a sugar daddy.
05:28 Probably £900 then, it's worth a lot more now.
05:32 And I think this is probably what started the want and need to get gifts all the time.
05:38 These are just some of my Christian Naboo orns.
05:42 That pair is probably like £600, this is probably £800.
05:45 The money that I do make from being a sugar baby, I do treat Luke to presents.
05:50 I have bought Luke a Louis Vuitton man bag and a Louis Vuitton pair of trainers so far.
05:56 Luke probably feels demasculated at times because he is so used to gifting himself and me and then it's now coming from another man's pocket.
06:06 Luke can't have a bag in prison so these will all just be wrapped and waiting for when he comes home.
06:13 And what I do is I send him a picture of the bag so he will know what brand he's got.
06:19 I'm going to go shopping now to buy myself something new with some of the cash that one of my sugar daddies gave me.
06:26 So I want to get these items and I'm going to go on my phone and see if I'll be able to get someone to get them for me.
06:32 He's just replied saying 'will do' and sent a love heart.
06:36 Thank you so much, thank you, bye.
06:40 My friend says he is coming over, she's not always been the biggest fan of mine and Luke's relationship.
06:48 She definitely has her opinions.
06:51 I'm hoping to convince her to let go of the attachment that she has with him.
06:56 Now it's time for her to find someone that can show her the love that she needs to get.
07:00 So what did you think when me and Luke first started to date?
07:04 I did love you guys, I'll be real.
07:06 At the beginning?
07:07 At the beginning. At the beginning is very crucial in the sentence.
07:12 Ok, did you ever imagine that I would end up with someone like Luke?
07:16 I don't think anybody did.
07:18 No?
07:19 I'll be real, like not one bit.
07:22 But the way you guys bounce off each other it makes sense.
07:25 Yeah.
07:26 And the way you can call and come back it makes sense.
07:28 You just can't help who you fall in love with.
07:31 And I think that's been the thing that I'm trying to get out, especially on TikTok.
07:35 From your side I understand it fully.
07:37 Like you was young, in love, you've gone through the years and all of that.
07:41 But I feel like my issue with it comes more on his side of it.
07:45 Of like he should be seeing it as I've taken over a lot of this girl I've loved for years of growing up and what not.
07:51 And now I'm in prison, now she's an adult, now she needs to be out living her life and what not.
07:56 Is it fair for me to keep her?
07:59 Because you're basically doing the sentence with him.
08:00 As long as he's in there and your heart's in there with him.
08:03 Do you understand why I have the reservations I do about you and Luke though?
08:08 I do understand it and I do actually believe that there is more friends in the group who probably think the same as you do.
08:17 They just don't want to voice it.
08:19 Ok, well I'm happy that you understand it.
08:21 Like you ain't too far gone.
08:25 I think that we can get through this.
08:27 If Luke's not willing to give up and I'm not willing to give up then we probably can make it through to the end.
08:33 When I first met Luke he just saw me as a person.
08:36 A person who's funny and who's got opinions and not just like what are you going to wear today?
08:41 And that is definitely what I love most about him.
08:43 Our plans together when Luke gets released I think is just to go back to basics.
08:48 Kind of date again.
08:50 I miss the little things with Luke like watching TV at night or going to the cinema with each other.
08:57 I would say to anyone who judges our relationship that I'm sure there's things to judge on your relationship.
09:03 So never judge anyone.
09:05 I'm great, I'm happy. Luke is happy too.
09:08 So just focus on yourself.
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