GenNowVoice: New Year Vibes

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00:00 (upbeat music)

00:02 - Hello everyone, welcome to our show,

00:20 Jen, now. - Voice.

00:21 - So I hope you started your new year

00:23 with your loved one as I did.

00:25 And in the beginning of the year,

00:27 I hope you guys are ready to rock 2023.

00:32 So you guys, welcome to the show again.

00:36 - Firstly, I just wanna comment how we look, yo.

00:39 (laughing)

00:40 - What is with the blazers, you guys?

00:43 That is the memo.

00:44 - And the red, and the blue, and the black, I don't know.

00:48 So you guys, I want you to start by telling me

00:51 like three words that define 2022 for you guys.

00:57 - Ladies first.

00:58 - No, I'll let you go first this time.

01:01 - Okay, fast, confusing.

01:06 Then lastly, I'd want to add something good.

01:14 So I'd go for progressive.

01:17 - Nice. - Confusing.

01:19 - Yo, did you notice how the year just went?

01:23 - Oh, for you, it went just like this.

01:25 - For me, it was slowly, slowly, like slowly.

01:29 - Were you in a relationship?

01:30 - No. - Oh, that's why.

01:31 (slapping)

01:32 - Oh. (laughing)

01:35 Ouch.

01:35 - Oh, see for me, I think it was fast.

01:42 I do agree with that.

01:43 'Cause somehow I was in January,

01:45 and then I was in September.

01:46 I do not know how that happened.

01:48 It was very busy, and I did not have time for myself.

01:54 But however, there was a lot of fun.

01:57 So yeah, this was basically my favorite year.

02:01 I've always wanted to be,

02:02 like the age I am now has always been like my go-to age.

02:06 Like I'm so.

02:07 - Yeah, we know, we know.

02:08 - Right? (laughing)

02:11 Okay, no, no, you guys can't do that.

02:13 - So as for me, I would say it was challenging.

02:20 It was a year of me discovering myself

02:24 and accepting that I haven't figured out

02:28 that there's still things I need to know.

02:30 Accepting, yeah. - Yeah.

02:33 - Accepting.

02:34 - I like how you have raised that up.

02:36 Because you know, now and again,

02:38 I'm always telling people that it's difficult

02:42 to actually date a girl who's below 27.

02:48 Most of the girls like 27 going backwards

02:51 are actually trying to discover themselves.

02:54 So you'll find out that,

02:55 let's say you start a family with a girl who's like 25,

02:58 you might be heading for disaster.

03:00 'Cause this person will discover themself

03:02 maybe when they're like 28, 29, 30,

03:05 and they then realize, I don't even want this man.

03:08 - Oh.

03:09 Wow.

03:11 - It's so much to say. - Now that's cutting to the--

03:14 - Okay, I'm sorry.

03:14 - I'm sorry.

03:15 - It's cutting to the--

03:17 - Okay, I'm sorry.

03:18 But it also is reflected by the rise in divorces in Africa.

03:23 It's even worse because marriage is a concept

03:26 we took from the Western world.

03:28 We now want to skip the,

03:29 where it come from, we call it lobola.

03:33 Where we're now hearing that governments

03:36 are trying to scratch the pain of dowry.

03:39 Yo, that is who we are.

03:42 I would wanna say that is exactly who we are.

03:44 That is how our initial marriage procedure was like.

03:48 Anyway, it's a story for another day.

03:51 - So you're going to get married when you're 27?

03:55 - 30.

03:56 - 30, and then she's 27?

03:57 - She must be around that age, yeah.

03:59 I also don't believe in that,

04:00 marry a girl who's way younger than you.

04:04 I mean, what do you think I'll do dating a,

04:07 back home we call them, I'm a 2K.

04:09 2001, 2000, boom.

04:11 (claps)

04:13 - Oh Lord.

04:13 - Okay, so I would say for me it was,

04:17 I had to accept that.

04:20 At the beginning was like,

04:22 I have to get things on, I have to be in control.

04:27 I'm a planner normally, I'm a planner.

04:29 So I have this plan, so this year I'll be like this,

04:32 this, this, this.

04:34 But now, like in 2022, I learned to let go,

04:37 things I have no control over,

04:39 and learn that you're still figuring out.

04:42 You're not there yet.

04:44 You, I mean, you are still learning.

04:48 Yeah, so for me it's that.

04:50 So you guys are,

04:52 that this culture of new year resolution,

04:56 where you set like goals.

04:58 - I can't even stand.

05:00 - You can't?

05:01 - I can't.

05:02 - Really?

05:03 Oh my God.

05:04 - I don't mess with that.

05:05 I don't.

05:06 - Okay, why?

05:07 - First off, okay, I have, I'm still healing.

05:10 So I don't even call it.

05:12 - You're healing from what?

05:13 - Wait.

05:14 - Okay, I'm sorry.

05:15 - From 2022, I'm prepared to see.

05:17 It's like a whole, but like,

05:19 I don't even call it like a new year.

05:21 I just call it a new season because there is so,

05:24 for me, there is so much pressure

05:25 that comes with saying a new year.

05:27 That sounds like it's, like I have to get this done,

05:30 and I have to get this done, and I have to,

05:32 because age, because what, because what, because what.

05:34 But like, when I call it a season, I'm good.

05:37 It helps me just, it helps me ease the anxiety,

05:42 and I just, I'm like, this is a season for this,

05:45 and this is a season for this.

05:47 This was my season for healing and loving me and my family,

05:52 and just growing up enough to be able to communicate

05:58 with one person and another, and just,

06:01 yeah, it was a season of love and communication, healing.

06:05 So yeah, but when it comes to resolutions,

06:09 I feel like sometimes we hurt ourselves

06:12 depending on how harsh, how harsh,

06:15 and how so demanding we get to ourselves.

06:19 So when it comes to that, for me, I would say,

06:21 I write, if I'm trying to write a resolution,

06:26 I will be so kind, like as though someone said

06:29 you should write as if you're writing to a child.

06:32 So as nice and as kind, with nice words,

06:36 hey, gorgeous, I'm like, bro, you're flirting with yourself.

06:40 Yes, I agree.

06:42 Like, hey, gorgeous, if you don't get it done,

06:44 you still tried.

06:45 This year's resolution was to stay alive, I'm out here.

06:49 - Oh, God.

06:50 - So that's enough for me.

06:52 - Wow.

06:53 - So yeah.

06:54 - How about you?

06:55 - Me?

06:56 Firstly, I think I said this in one of the previous episodes

07:03 where I said I've seen things like

07:06 being in a serious relationship,

07:09 and then in December last year,

07:12 you'd see being in a serious relationship with money,

07:16 save 100K francs, and then you see two zeros,

07:21 now they're canceled.

07:22 Now it says save 10,000 francs.

07:25 Yo, new year resolutions, they're good to have, no lie.

07:30 But there's something called realism

07:32 as we are operating during the rest of the year,

07:36 whereby it's key to make sure that,

07:39 first, assess yourself as a person.

07:41 My sister normally says that

07:44 you should affirm yourself, actually.

07:46 So if you set new year resolutions,

07:50 also set daily targets you have to do.

07:54 Like, I wanna be honest,

07:55 I talk to myself every day before I sleep.

07:57 Clinton, what did you do?

08:00 You have a resolution this year to do A, B, C, D.

08:04 So what did you do to feed into that goal?

08:07 But I don't set huge unrealistic ones.

08:11 And I normally don't,

08:13 I actually set a new year resolution,

08:17 not resolutions.

08:18 - Ah. - Why?

08:19 - Just one, life begins at 40.

08:21 I'm a couple of years away, not couple,

08:25 I'm actually-- - Way what?

08:27 - I'm very much way below 40.

08:32 So-- - Life begins at 40?

08:34 - Yeah, life begins at 40.

08:35 - I thought I heard it wrong.

08:36 - No, life actually begins at 40.

08:38 The big four zero is a place where you do,

08:41 so I think when I actually then reach 40,

08:43 I would have practiced enough to set two, three major ones.

08:47 I think what I would say from a personal reflection

08:50 would be you need to work on yourself as an individual.

08:54 If you're a professional, set a new year resolution

08:56 to say, okay, my career by this time

08:58 is supposed to have reached here,

09:00 I need to do this.

09:01 Not these, start a business,

09:04 and then later on you say business plan.

09:06 Honestly, it does not work.

09:09 - Yes. - Yeah.

09:10 - So what was your resolution this year?

09:12 - For 2022? - Yeah.

09:16 - My resolution for 2022 was to actually establish

09:19 my career in a different country.

09:21 - Ooh. - Well.

09:24 - Ooh, nice one. - Here we are.

09:26 - Nice one. - You succeeded.

09:28 - Nice one. - But to be honest,

09:29 last year, I think it started shaping up around October,

09:34 and it was after things had went down.

09:36 So that's why I'm saying it's very hurtful,

09:39 'cause I would want to actually say there's a moment

09:42 when I fell into depression,

09:44 because the amount of pressure

09:46 that you'll be giving on yourself,

09:48 because remember, you're not forced

09:50 to make these resolutions, it's on you.

09:53 So when you set it, you're in a certain mojo or mindset

09:58 that tells you if you do this, you have failed,

10:01 not anybody else, you have failed yourself.

10:04 - Yeah. - That's too much pressure

10:05 to handle. - Exactly.

10:06 - It's crazy.

10:07 - You guys, let me tell you, last year was the year

10:11 I established a good friendship with my dad,

10:16 where he's my best friend.

10:19 - Girls and their dads, okay.

10:22 - I would, no, seriously. - Sorry, sorry.

10:24 - Seriously, I needed it, I needed it,

10:27 'cause normally-- - Daddy issues?

10:30 - No, I didn't have daddy issues.

10:31 - Ooh! - No!

10:32 - Daddy! - No, no, no, no,

10:35 definitely no, definitely no.

10:36 - I bet you had a lot of zaddies.

10:38 - Yeah, zaddies. - No, I didn't say zaddies,

10:40 I said, "Daddy, my brother."

10:43 So here's the thing, last year,

10:46 I struggled so much with myself,

10:49 not outside, within myself, the inner me.

10:52 It was conflicting.

10:54 I got anxieties.

10:58 I would have anxiety attack in the middle of something,

11:01 'cause I put a pressure on myself,

11:04 and I started to become my own self-enemy.

11:07 - Exactly.

11:09 - And I had nowhere to talk, 'cause I would feel,

11:13 I'm being judged with my friend,

11:15 or I would feel like they would not understand me,

11:18 then that's when I ran to my dad.

11:21 And he was the best mentor I've ever had

11:26 like throughout my life.

11:29 - Wow. - 'Cause he was with me

11:31 step by step, to be here, like alive,

11:34 I will tell you, it's 'cause of my dad.

11:36 - Wow. - That's kinda cute.

11:38 - Thanks, dad.

11:39 Thanks, dad. - Like her enough.

11:41 - Thanks, dad. - We love you.

11:42 - We love him, we love him. - Exactly.

11:50 - You know, young people, this is generation, now, voices.

11:55 So as we said, resolutions,

11:58 it's key to understand that they're for you.

12:01 - Yes. - Not the next person.

12:02 - Yes. - Okay, go next to mine.

12:05 My new year resolution.

12:07 Yo, I need to end the year with at least double figures

12:14 in my bank account.

12:15 - Money, money, money, money.

12:18 - Yeah, let's be honest.

12:20 - I wish I brought my wallet.

12:22 I brought my wallet.

12:24 - Money, money, money, money.

12:25 I'm a frank guy.

12:26 Did I get that right?

12:28 - Yes. - Yay.

12:29 So, you know, I've actually realized

12:35 that one of the hardest conversations our parents

12:39 did not have with us growing up as men

12:40 is in as much as you work hard, you're loving,

12:44 you're caring, yo, in a marriage, money makes things tick.

12:48 - Yes, we agree. - We can agree.

12:53 - Yes. - We can agree.

12:54 - Yes, 100%. - 100%.

12:56 - No matter how you tell me,

12:58 ah, love is enough, love is never enough.

13:00 - We don't eat love in this house.

13:01 What are you talking about? - Love is never enough.

13:03 - Exactly, so, yeah. - There's other factors.

13:06 - There are.

13:07 - So, you know, when you see me, you know, spending,

13:09 buying new things, just tell me, yo, you need to stop that.

13:12 Put that money in the bank.

13:14 - Okay. - I mean,

13:15 that kind of relationship though, that's goals.

13:18 - True. - Right.

13:18 - It is goals, that's goals. - Right.

13:19 - How about you?

13:21 - My God, I really have not figured it out.

13:24 So, I guess-- - It's okay too.

13:26 - For me, it's, I have no idea.

13:30 I haven't really had time to process what's going,

13:36 like what just happened.

13:38 It was like last year I was in a blink of an eye

13:42 and I realized that I forgot to mourn things from like 2021.

13:47 And then in the middle of 2022, they haunted me.

13:51 And now I'm still like, okay, so we're dealing,

13:53 we're still there, like we're moving on.

13:56 So that for me is basically where we're at

13:59 and I'm just, I'm so okay with that.

14:01 I think that's a good thing for me.

14:03 - Okay.

14:04 - The last thing would be basically to learn another skill.

14:09 I wanna learn another skill.

14:10 I wanna learn how to play one random instrument

14:14 because I wanna, like one traditional one, not a drum.

14:18 No, not a drum.

14:20 (drumming)

14:21 There is the string one.

14:23 What is it called?

14:25 The one with strings.

14:27 - Inanga?

14:27 - Yes, that one.

14:28 I wanna learn how to play that one.

14:29 That would be so nice.

14:30 Inanga.

14:31 - Inanga.

14:32 - Don't say it wrong.

14:33 If you say it wrong, it's something else.

14:35 - Let's not go there.

14:36 - So, you guys, thank you.

14:41 - You're welcome.

14:42 - So basically all of you,

14:46 I hope you are going to be happy for this new year.

14:51 - True.

14:53 - Genuinely happy.

14:54 Because last year we lost many people due to suicide.

14:59 - Oh, depression?

15:00 - Yes, so I want, don't put on a face that you're happy.

15:05 Be happy, genuinely happy, and that's what I wish for you.

15:09 And tell us your new year's resolution.

15:12 And thank you all.

15:14 - True.

15:15 - Continue to watch our show.

15:16 - Thank you.

15:17 - Ciao.

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