Never Had A Boyfriend? You Need To Hear This...
Have you never had a boyfriend? Does it feel like you’ve pulled the short straw when it comes to love? I’m going to tell you exactly WHY you’re chronically single and what you need to do to improve your love life right now, regardless of your age, looks or station in life.
Hi, I’m Amy North, author of the Devotion System. I’ve helped so many women find the love life they want. But what if you have little to no experience with men? Well the truth is, I can help you most of all. In fact, this is one of the easier romantic problems to solve. Keep watching and I’ll explain.
First off, you need to know that the problem isn’t that you’re not desirable to men or that you’re incapable of finding love. The problem is entirely about your mindset.
Oftentimes when women come to me with this problem, they feel lost and without hope. They feel like they’re unloveable and that no man ever wants them. These women say that if they ever do connect with a guy then they either get too nervous, drive him away somehow, or he turns out to be just using them for sex. Any of this sound familiar?
Answer me this, if you met a man who talked this way would you want to be with him? Of course not. So how can we expect men to want us when we’re putting out such negative energy? Even if you’re keeping this stuff to yourself, if you feel this way then it’s bound to show up subconsciously in the way you talk and act. This unconscious bias against yourself is a bigger barrier to your happiness than anything else.
I’ll tell you some facts and ideas that will help you reframe how you look at your singleness and put you on a path towards self acceptance and love.
First off, I mentioned that many of my clients come to me with this exact problem. You know how I can tell these women apart from women who are happily in relationships or even married? The truth is… I can’t. I’ve been doing this for a long time and the truth is that there isn’t a huge difference between women who get boyfriends and those who don’t. This is because love, like in all things, largely comes down to chance. This can be a scary thing to accept but when you realize how much of life is random and unknowable, you’ll start to realize that the fact that you haven’t had a boyfriend yet isn’t some scarlet letter, it’s just how things happened to shake out. This means that you’re as likely to find love next as anyone else. In fact, you’re overdue for it.
Another reason that your love life is lacking is simply because you’re more selective than other women. While many say this holds you back, it can actually be an indicator of greater romantic satisfaction in the long term. Women who are more picky tend to have more successful, long-lasting relationships. This is because they’re not willing to date just any man who comes along. They want a strong connection, similar values, and a compatible lifestyle. Don’t lower your standards to fulfill some arbitrary social milestone.
Hi, I’m Amy North, author of the Devotion System. I’ve helped so many women find the love life they want. But what if you have little to no experience with men? Well the truth is, I can help you most of all. In fact, this is one of the easier romantic problems to solve. Keep watching and I’ll explain.
First off, you need to know that the problem isn’t that you’re not desirable to men or that you’re incapable of finding love. The problem is entirely about your mindset.
Oftentimes when women come to me with this problem, they feel lost and without hope. They feel like they’re unloveable and that no man ever wants them. These women say that if they ever do connect with a guy then they either get too nervous, drive him away somehow, or he turns out to be just using them for sex. Any of this sound familiar?
Answer me this, if you met a man who talked this way would you want to be with him? Of course not. So how can we expect men to want us when we’re putting out such negative energy? Even if you’re keeping this stuff to yourself, if you feel this way then it’s bound to show up subconsciously in the way you talk and act. This unconscious bias against yourself is a bigger barrier to your happiness than anything else.
I’ll tell you some facts and ideas that will help you reframe how you look at your singleness and put you on a path towards self acceptance and love.
First off, I mentioned that many of my clients come to me with this exact problem. You know how I can tell these women apart from women who are happily in relationships or even married? The truth is… I can’t. I’ve been doing this for a long time and the truth is that there isn’t a huge difference between women who get boyfriends and those who don’t. This is because love, like in all things, largely comes down to chance. This can be a scary thing to accept but when you realize how much of life is random and unknowable, you’ll start to realize that the fact that you haven’t had a boyfriend yet isn’t some scarlet letter, it’s just how things happened to shake out. This means that you’re as likely to find love next as anyone else. In fact, you’re overdue for it.
Another reason that your love life is lacking is simply because you’re more selective than other women. While many say this holds you back, it can actually be an indicator of greater romantic satisfaction in the long term. Women who are more picky tend to have more successful, long-lasting relationships. This is because they’re not willing to date just any man who comes along. They want a strong connection, similar values, and a compatible lifestyle. Don’t lower your standards to fulfill some arbitrary social milestone.