Adam Roa delivers the feels in a shiver-inducing speech about how we can be ready to receive and nurture the most important relationship in our life.
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00:00 You are who you've been looking for.
00:03 So stop looking for more unless you're looking in a mirror,
00:05 because it's about time for you to see clearly
00:07 that you are who you've been looking for.
00:10 And that empty feeling you got, that hole in your chest,
00:13 you only got that feeling because you think
00:15 you're not blessed with everything you need.
00:17 You see, we live in a consumerist society,
00:21 which means they need you to buy stuff.
00:24 And the easiest way to sell it
00:25 is to tell you you're not enough.
00:28 Buy this car, you'll get girls.
00:31 Buy this bra, you'll get guys.
00:33 And we're seeing it so much
00:36 that we start believing these lies,
00:37 but the truth is, the makeup they're selling
00:40 to make you feel prettier is the same makeup you buy
00:42 to stop feeling shittier about this lie
00:44 they keep telling you that you are not enough.
00:47 (audience cheering)
00:50 And what about the movies we watch, all the shows on TV?
00:54 The more I watch, the more I see,
00:55 I need you to complete me.
00:58 And yes, love is the answer, love is the key,
01:01 but if you can't love yourself, how could you ever love me?
01:04 And loving yourself, what does that even mean?
01:08 Like massages and selfies and that sort of thing?
01:11 Because the more I think about it, the more it feels weird.
01:13 I've always been taught that self-love
01:15 was something to be feared.
01:17 I've been taught that arrogance is bad
01:19 and vanity, it's not good,
01:20 and even my bracelets are telling me to act how Jesus would,
01:22 so what should I do?
01:24 How should I act?
01:28 I'm supposed to love myself, but how do I even do that?
01:31 Well, I got a trick that I picked up from a friend
01:35 who noticed that I was quick to defend her
01:37 when she would say something negative about herself.
01:40 She would say, "I'm so dumb,"
01:42 and I'd say, "You're so brilliant."
01:44 She'd say, "I'm so weak,"
01:45 and I'd say, "You're so resilient."
01:48 And when she said, "I feel ugly,"
01:49 and I said, "You look beautiful,"
01:50 she asked me why I was so dutifully filling up her cup
01:53 constantly and yet treating my own cup so irresponsibly.
01:56 (audience cheering)
01:59 Because when I looked in the mirror,
02:03 my voice was quite clear.
02:04 You're ugly, you're too thin, your hairline's receding,
02:06 you got a pimple on your chin.
02:08 And that was when she gave me a piece of advice
02:10 that changed my life.
02:12 She gave me a hug.
02:14 And she said, "Treat yourself like someone you loved."
02:23 Treat yourself like someone you loved.
02:26 Now I had been standing, but I needed to be sitting
02:29 because I couldn't believe that I had been letting myself
02:31 keep forgetting that I was who I'd been looking for.
02:34 And deep in my core, I knew it was time
02:38 to stop looking for more until I could look through
02:40 all my fear and look into a mirror
02:42 and see clearly that the man looking back at me
02:44 was the only one who can make me happy
02:46 and I am already enough.
02:50 (audience cheering)
02:53 And I am not any more special or unique than you.
02:57 That is why I'm here to speak to you.
02:58 You are already enough.
03:01 And when you start to see that, you will start to be that.
03:05 Your world will get brighter, your load will get lighter,
03:07 and you can see that with life.
03:08 You can be a lover, not a fighter.
03:09 And that life, you deserve it
03:12 because you are worth it.
03:18 And there is no point in letting yourself keep forgetting
03:20 because no matter what you say or do, you are perfect.
03:25 And so today, I hope I leave you
03:28 with a direction correction away from the flaws
03:31 you see in your reflection.
03:32 They aren't flaws to me, they are simply protection
03:34 against all the doubts you have of your perfection.
03:37 (audience cheering)
03:41 So start today.
03:46 Take a good, long look in the mirror and say,
03:48 I am who I've been looking for.
03:52 (audience cheering)
03:56 (gentle music)
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