90 Day Fiancé UK S02E04
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00:00 [MUSIC PLAYING]
00:03 I'm flying around the world to marry
00:05 a man that I've never met.
00:08 I've never felt so comfortable with someone in my life.
00:11 I love her to bits.
00:13 You're just meant to be.
00:15 Met this woman from Kazakhstan that would look to marry her.
00:18 She's lovely.
00:18 I would do anything for this man.
00:25 Three weeks and we'll be officially married.
00:27 [MUSIC PLAYING]
00:29 [LAUGHTER]
00:31 [MUSIC PLAYING]
00:34 [SIREN]
00:36 How do I know that you're even the person you say you are?
00:39 If you don't trust me, [BLEEP] off.
00:42 You and Jose, it's weird.
00:44 I'm not comfortable with it.
00:46 We ain't going to kidnap you.
00:48 That doesn't worry me.
00:49 It should.
00:51 I really need to know if you've had sex with prostitutes.
00:55 [MUSIC PLAYING]
00:58 I will marry her.
00:59 There she is, gorgeous.
01:02 It takes a certain kind of person to be OK with it.
01:05 We don't know Ali and Jose Tamu.
01:07 Anything could happen to our valuables.
01:09 It's my family.
01:10 You can talk shit about my family.
01:11 [MUSIC PLAYING]
01:14 She could be classed as quite high maintenance.
01:16 I always like nice things.
01:18 It's money.
01:19 That's all she wants you for.
01:21 In Turkey, the men are king.
01:23 You being out there on your own, it freaks me out.
01:26 Why don't you trust me?
01:28 This is your fault.
01:29 How is it [BLEEP] my fault?
01:33 I love you, UK.
01:36 [DING]
01:37 [LAUGHTER]
01:39 [MUSIC PLAYING]
01:42 Hello, my name's Louise.
01:49 I'm 39 years old.
01:53 I post pictures on social media for body positivity
01:57 and to show that there is beauty in everyone.
02:01 [MUSIC PLAYING]
02:03 And when I'm not doing that, I'm a meme.
02:07 I live in Gloucester just with me and my son.
02:11 He's 20.
02:13 Hey, Edger.
02:14 You all right?
02:15 Oh, thank you.
02:16 Yeah, you all right?
02:17 I had Jesse when I was young.
02:19 I was 18.
02:20 And he was one of the best things that I've ever done.
02:23 And it's always just been me and Jesse.
02:26 You don't really do much, do you?
02:28 I do.
02:29 You're not any better.
02:30 You sit in your bed--
02:31 Yeah.
02:32 --eating food.
02:33 You just-- he works.
02:34 Oh, me.
02:37 I do like the way my relationship with my mum is.
02:39 Oh, that's nice, Joe.
02:41 It's--
02:41 [MUSIC PLAYING]
02:47 I think as a single mum, your kids always come first.
02:52 But because I'm doing everything by myself,
02:54 then I don't really get a lot of time to myself.
02:57 But that's fine.
03:00 I haven't actually really been on a date or done anything.
03:03 I literally haven't done that.
03:07 I'm a very affectionate person.
03:09 So for me not to be able to give and receive affection,
03:11 I think anybody will get lonely.
03:13 [MUSIC PLAYING]
03:18 I met Jose on social media.
03:21 [MUSIC PLAYING]
03:25 Sorry, I shouldn't start smiling.
03:27 You've got problems when you say Jose.
03:29 I just think about that fluff ball.
03:30 [LAUGHS]
03:31 [MUSIC PLAYING]
03:35 I absolutely spammed the shit out of his pictures,
03:40 telling him he was really nice looking, really handsome.
03:43 And then I think it was a Saturday night,
03:44 and I was sat at home.
03:47 And I had a glass of wine, and I had a message.
03:49 He was like, should we do a video call?
03:51 And I was like, oh, I don't know.
03:53 And then I had another glass of wine,
03:54 and I was like, yeah, go on then.
03:56 And then ever since, we've been on a video call for 11 months.
04:00 [MUSIC PLAYING]
04:03 I think a lot of people think that I am slightly crazy.
04:07 I am sometimes in shock myself that I'm
04:11 in a relationship with somebody that lives
04:13 halfway across the world in Colombia.
04:15 Sometimes I wake up, and I think,
04:17 what the [BLEEP] am I doing?
04:19 [MUSIC PLAYING]
04:25 Jose is a musician and a rapper.
04:28 [MUSIC PLAYING]
04:33 Jose's music's good.
04:34 I like his music.
04:36 It's different.
04:37 [MUSIC PLAYING]
04:40 And in his last couple of tracks,
04:42 he's also put my nickname, Chicken.
04:44 (SINGING) I love you, Chicken.
04:48 So it's quite funny.
04:49 It's nice.
04:50 [LAUGHS]
04:50 (SINGING) I love you, Chicken.
04:54 I don't think a lot of people are
04:56 going to realize what that actually is until they find out
04:59 that I am the Chicken.
05:01 [LAUGHS]
05:02 [MUSIC PLAYING]
05:06 I can honestly say it wasn't love at first sight.
05:09 When I met him, I wasn't sure what his intentions were.
05:14 On social media, there are a lot of men
05:17 that talk to you in certain ways for you
05:20 to try and send things to them.
05:22 I wasn't sure if he just wanted a picture of my lady bits.
05:25 So-- [LAUGHS]
05:27 I really wasn't sure if he just wanted me to send him
05:30 naughty pictures, which I haven't.
05:33 I did not expect for this relationship to happen.
05:38 Jose?
05:39 How long have we been talking?
05:43 Is it a long time?
05:45 Is it a long time we've been talking on the phone?
05:47 I know you don't understand.
05:51 Jose can't speak English.
05:53 So a lot of the times, we use translator
05:59 app to speak to each other.
06:01 Check your text, please.
06:02 And then as time has gone on, he would
06:07 build up his language slightly, which is still not very good.
06:11 I love you, JK.
06:12 What I like about Jose is he makes me laugh.
06:20 He's very kind and considerate.
06:23 He has really good manners.
06:24 I think that's really important.
06:26 And he's always making sure that I'm OK.
06:29 He tries to be as supportive as possible.
06:33 Love you, too.
06:34 Even though he's in a completely different country,
06:37 we are always together on the phone.
06:40 I think the longest we've been on the phone
06:42 is maybe about 16 or 17 hours straight on video call.
06:47 I put my phone up on the table, and we'll eat dinner together.
06:50 Do you want some food?
06:50 Everything you would do as a normal couple,
06:59 but through a small screen.
07:01 And people are now thinking, wow,
07:04 this lady is in a relationship with somebody
07:07 that she's never met.
07:08 She spends all her time on the phone,
07:10 drives all of her family mad.
07:13 Want to say hello?
07:13 No, I'm all right, thanks.
07:15 Bye.
07:19 Bye.
07:21 Jose's always on the phone.
07:23 Yeah, but Jose's my family as well.
07:25 That's why he's on the phone all the time.
07:27 I was never mad.
07:28 Because if it was the other way around,
07:30 then you would be on the phone all the time.
07:32 I wouldn't have a problem with it.
07:33 No, I wouldn't, because I wouldn't be in this situation
07:35 in the first place.
07:36 But you might be one day.
07:37 No.
07:38 Things change.
07:40 Things change.
07:42 They do change.
07:42 No.
07:43 OK.
07:45 The distance between me and Jose is now quite unbearable.
07:49 We want to be together as a family,
07:52 and I want a life with him here.
07:54 Me and Jose have had two failed visas in the past.
07:59 So hopefully in two weeks, I will be rushing to Colombia
08:05 to get married to a man that I've never met.
08:08 I might get all that way to Colombia,
08:10 and we both might not like each other.
08:13 So it is all or nothing.
08:16 We have to really push it to the limit.
08:27 You and Jose, it's weird.
08:30 It's weird.
08:31 I'm not comfortable with it.
08:32 A lot of people are skeptical about my relationship
08:36 with Jose.
08:37 But out of everybody, Jesse really is the most concerned.
08:40 Mum, you can't even talk English.
08:44 You can't do the job.
08:45 He's practicing.
08:45 Yeah, did you not hear him yesterday?
08:46 Yeah.
08:47 Do you know, listen, Jesse was going,
08:49 I will make you tea, coffee, honey, like that.
08:52 No, it was really sweet.
08:54 He was really trying.
08:56 My mum dating someone that far away is crazy, man.
09:00 It's like, it just doesn't make sense.
09:03 You can live your life without taking risks,
09:05 and you will never know what could have happened.
09:07 When I come back, Jess, I'm going to be married.
09:09 Yeah, I know you will be.
09:11 And you have to realize as well, I'm not just going to be,
09:13 oh, you all right, mate?
09:15 To me, he is my family as well.
09:17 To me, he isn't.
09:20 Are you going to be staying in a hotel when you go over there,
09:22 or what?
09:23 He's booked us into his friend's apartment.
09:27 He says it's fine there.
09:29 It's got a pool.
09:29 And I said, OK, that's fine.
09:31 That doesn't mean anything.
09:32 So now we're staying in the apartment that he picked.
09:34 Oh, I thought you were staying in a hotel.
09:37 He's saying that we're going to be safe.
09:38 He's saying he's going to protect me.
09:40 No, that's not how it works.
09:42 Especially when you're going over to meet someone
09:44 you've never met.
09:46 She says that she knows him because she's
09:48 been on the phone.
09:49 She doesn't-- just being on the phone
09:51 doesn't mean you know someone.
09:53 Well, the place that we're staying at, I think,
09:54 is his friend's apartment.
09:56 Again, someone you've never met.
09:58 No, I know there.
09:59 That's two people now.
10:00 There's going to be multiple more around you, isn't there?
10:02 Yeah, I know there will be.
10:03 I know there is.
10:05 I really thought Jesse would have took
10:06 that better than what he did.
10:08 I could tell he's just not happy with what's going on at all.
10:12 You're going to a random country,
10:14 some random guy you've never met before.
10:16 We can't fly over to Colombia in an hour and a half
10:19 when you message us.
10:21 You're on your own over there, completely.
10:23 Have you ever seen someone full glam in a nice dress wearing
10:42 unicorn slippers, water in the garden?
10:43 Only in Devon.
10:49 I'm Shane.
10:49 I'm 26, and I live in Devon.
10:51 Good girl.
10:55 Come on, then.
10:56 I'm a hairdresser and makeup artist.
10:58 I've been a hairdresser for eight years now.
11:02 I literally live in a tiny little surfing village.
11:06 This area is just perfect.
11:07 Wait, darling.
11:08 Come on.
11:09 Love this area.
11:10 What do you want?
11:15 What do you want?
11:17 What did you do?
11:18 You're excited.
11:19 I live at home with my mom.
11:21 I absolutely love her.
11:22 She's my rock.
11:23 I'm going to take the girls out shortly.
11:26 Can you take them out later on this afternoon
11:28 when you're back?
11:29 Yeah, no problem.
11:31 I think I noticed Shane had a very strong feminine side when
11:36 he was around about two-year-old.
11:38 He lethally took out one of my camisole tops and put it on
11:42 and made a little dance around for me.
11:45 And I felt this is quite strange.
11:47 Since I was three, I've always known
11:53 that I was born in the wrong body
11:55 and I should have been born a girl.
11:56 And I identify as trans and binary.
12:00 I don't feel like 100% gal.
12:03 I don't feel like a boy.
12:04 I feel like I'm floating somewhere in the middle.
12:06 I have my tomboy days.
12:07 And I have my days where I don't put any makeup on
12:09 and I've got my hair up in a bun and wearing my trackies.
12:12 But I definitely don't feel like a boy.
12:16 A lot of my friends that I've known since I was a kid
12:19 still refer to me as he.
12:20 That doesn't bother me at all.
12:22 To me, pronouns really don't matter.
12:24 As long as you are nice and respectful
12:27 and you're not disrespectful with things
12:29 and you're not calling me anything derogatory,
12:31 then I really don't care what you refer to me as.
12:34 Nice.
12:35 Not bad.
12:36 Put that in there.
12:41 That's Matt's top and he must have sprayed it as much
12:44 as he could with his aftershave.
12:46 And I literally can't sleep without it.
12:47 It's quite cringey.
12:50 I met Matt in Turkey.
12:52 I went out to be with my sister while she was having surgery
12:55 done.
12:56 I put myself into a hotel for the night.
12:59 I thought, you know what, I'm going to open a date nap
13:03 and see if there's anyone about.
13:05 And then he messaged me.
13:08 We started messaging and we got on like a house on fire.
13:12 And then later on that afternoon,
13:14 he messaged me saying, surprise, babe,
13:15 I'm going to come and see you.
13:16 And I said, oh, amazing.
13:19 I didn't realize how far away he was.
13:22 When he got to me, he said he was 320 kilometers away.
13:27 And it cost him like 400 pounds to come and see me.
13:30 I thought, oh my god, how lovely is that?
13:32 So we had a couple of drinks.
13:36 And literally, I've never felt so comfortable with someone
13:40 so quickly.
13:41 I felt like I'd known him for years.
13:42 And it just progressed from there.
13:44 I've got like my little selfie stick
13:50 there for when we fall asleep on FaceTime to each other.
13:53 And it's cute because in the morning,
13:55 we're still on the phone to each other.
13:56 So I wake him up and I'm like, Matt, Matt, wake up.
13:59 But one of the rules now is that I've got to mute myself
14:02 because he can't stand my snoring.
14:05 He's like, babe, why you snore like pig?
14:07 Why you snore like pig?
14:10 Like, normally, it's the guy that snores.
14:12 And oh, god, honestly, my snoring is powerful.
14:17 I think it's just the snoring he'll get used to.
14:19 Well, I hope he gets used to it.
14:20 Otherwise, he'll have to buy earplugs.
14:21 But I just can't sleep without him.
14:25 I've been on this planet for 26 years now.
14:27 And nobody and no one has come close to how Matt makes me
14:31 feel.
14:33 We can spend easily 12 hours, sometimes 16 hours a day
14:38 on the phone.
14:39 Hello.
14:40 Hello, baby.
14:41 You miss me?
14:43 Of course.
14:45 If you not love me, big problem.
14:48 I just love Matt's personality, his quirky ways,
14:52 his kind, caring side.
14:54 I love his vulnerability and just how he makes me feel.
14:58 You eating chicken today?
14:59 [CLUCKING]
15:02 Every day, you're eating chicken.
15:04 It just does my head in that we're 2,000 miles away
15:07 from each other.
15:08 This is the longest time since me and Matt
15:10 have met that we've spent away from each other.
15:13 It honestly feels like three years we've been apart.
15:15 How many days we got left until I'm coming to Turkey?
15:19 20.
15:20 You looking forward to seeing me?
15:22 You excited?
15:23 More, more, more.
15:24 More, more, more.
15:25 More, more, more, more, more, more.
15:28 I'm excited to see you.
15:29 Been too long.
15:31 I've told him as soon as I see him in the airport,
15:33 I'm probably going to cry my eyes out.
15:35 I've started to learn a bit of Turkish.
15:37 [SPEAKING TURKISH]
15:39 How much?
15:40 Too much.
15:41 I miss you too much.
15:42 Love you too much.
15:44 Just thinking.
15:45 I don't know from what kind of--
15:46 If you not think I love you, you stupid, stupid, stupid.
15:50 [LAUGHING]
15:52 Hello, to bed.
15:53 OK, speak to you later.
15:54 [SPEAKING TURKISH]
15:56 [SPEAKING TURKISH]
15:57 Bye.
15:57 Bye, bitch.
15:58 Bye.
16:00 [LAUGHING]
16:03 Aw.
16:04 [LAUGHING]
16:06 He makes me laugh.
16:08 Little shit.
16:09 [LAUGHING]
16:11 I've never been a big believer in love at first sight.
16:15 I just didn't think it would happen.
16:16 I definitely didn't think it would happen to me.
16:20 I'm so intent on getting back to the UK.
16:23 LGBT rights just aren't the same in Turkey.
16:26 People that are LGBT still suffer from prejudice.
16:32 I just want us to have a nice, happy life and safe life
16:35 together.
16:36 [MUSIC PLAYING]
16:46 Is this seat taken?
16:54 Hi, I'm Michael.
16:55 I'm 36.
16:56 I live in Clacton-on-Sea.
16:59 It's a seaside town, and it's nice in the summer.
17:03 I'm a mobile search technician.
17:05 Long story short, I deal with shit every day.
17:07 [LAUGHING]
17:11 I like this car.
17:12 Quick, nippy, lovely gearbox, seven-speed automatic.
17:17 Quite a tick magnet.
17:18 [LAUGHING]
17:20 I was a busy boy in my past.
17:23 I've dated a lot of women in Clacton.
17:25 If you look at my phone, probably like yellow pages.
17:29 Purring like a kitten.
17:31 I've been in love, but none of them have worked out.
17:35 I think the main reason I wanted to look internationally
17:40 is because I hadn't had much luck locally.
17:44 I wasn't expecting to fall in love with someone I met online.
17:48 I just thought I'd give it a go and see how things went.
17:50 [MUSIC PLAYING]
17:54 Marcy's from Kenya.
17:58 I love her to bits.
18:00 She's beautiful, caring, hardworking,
18:04 and she's got a good nyash.
18:06 I mean ass.
18:07 When I first started talking to Marcy,
18:12 I thought she could have been a man.
18:15 You hear these scammers sitting behind a computer
18:18 and messaging people, and I think
18:20 I ended up video calling her to actually see
18:22 that she was, in fact, a girl.
18:26 We met about 18 months ago online.
18:28 The plan is to get married in Kenya, and then once we do,
18:32 Marcy's going to come and stay with me for a couple of years
18:35 until we can save up and buy a house
18:37 so we can start a life together.
18:38 [MUSIC PLAYING]
18:42 I'm meeting up with my mates tonight to have a curry.
18:49 I think they're a bit dubious about our relationship
18:52 with Marcy.
18:52 Hi, James.
18:53 Hi, mate.
18:54 How's it going?
18:55 I'm doing great.
18:56 How are you?
18:56 Yeah, not bad.
18:58 Oh.
18:59 Know what you're having yet?
19:00 I just got here, mate.
19:01 I know.
19:01 You didn't have your pre-plans.
19:03 You decided?
19:04 He's having chicken nuggets and chips.
19:06 Chicken nuggets and chips?
19:07 Yeah, I'm going for the spiciest thing on the menu, OK?
19:09 [LAUGHTER]
19:12 How's it all going?
19:13 Still going good?
19:14 Yeah, it's going really well.
19:15 How long have you known each other now?
19:17 About a year, I think.
19:19 Oh, yeah.
19:19 What's the end goal?
19:20 Kind of, she'll move over here with you and--
19:23 Yeah.
19:24 Oh, yeah.
19:26 When Mike first told me that he met someone online--
19:29 Thank you.
19:30 --your first thought was always, like,
19:32 the horror stories that you hear about people,
19:33 and it's the money or something like that.
19:36 Is that not even in the back of your mind at all?
19:38 Think that she could be after you for your money
19:40 or to move over here?
19:41 I don't want your money.
19:43 I think James is in Nick's doubts of,
19:45 mainly, can I trust her?
19:47 And has she got any ulterior motive in being with me?
19:51 They don't know Marty like I do.
19:52 They should give her the benefit of the doubt
19:54 before making accusations.
19:56 Are you, like, a bit wary?
20:01 Like, I don't know--
20:02 Wary?
20:03 Yeah, like, send me some money.
20:05 [LAUGHTER]
20:09 Mike's one of your best mates.
20:11 People come to the different countries to live there,
20:14 come for financial gain.
20:15 We've been seeing each other and everything.
20:17 Next step is, like, I don't know,
20:19 like getting married, I think.
20:21 It pisses me off when people doubt me
20:28 and Marty's relationship because in the end of the day,
20:30 they don't know what they're talking about.
20:33 You don't go in with a negative thought,
20:35 but do you not think, what would happen
20:37 if it doesn't work out, you know?
20:39 It's our life, our new life together.
20:43 I wasn't born yesterday.
20:44 [MUSIC PLAYING]
20:47 Hi, mum.
21:01 Hi, you're new.
21:02 You all right?
21:03 Yeah, I'm fine.
21:05 I know my mum is really worried about me going to Colombia
21:09 to meet Jose, but I'm really hoping
21:12 that I can change her mind.
21:14 So it's real then, this is it then?
21:16 Yeah.
21:17 I don't want you to be upset or, you know,
21:20 but I don't know him.
21:21 And I'm concerned because I'm your mum.
21:23 If I look at him, I know I really
21:30 do love him by looking at him.
21:32 But you're not a young girl anymore.
21:34 You're a grown woman with grown up children of your own.
21:38 You're going all the way to Colombia,
21:40 and if you go and get married, your family are not
21:42 going to be there with you.
21:43 So I can't really do anything about that.
21:49 It will be hard.
21:51 Hopefully, eventually, he'll be able to come here
21:54 because that's what I really want.
21:55 And when he comes here, everyone's going to grill him.
21:58 Oh, yeah, I'll be first in line.
22:00 Trust me.
22:02 What if they don't let him in?
22:04 Then I'll have to move to Colombia.
22:06 I might not let you.
22:09 He's younger than you.
22:10 He's got this glamorous life at the moment,
22:13 but he may not have that when he comes here.
22:15 And he might have to do a normal, everyday job.
22:18 My mum is concerned that Jose's just coming
22:21 here for his music career.
22:22 This is the real world, and in the real world,
22:27 we have to earn a living.
22:29 And if he wants to come and live in this country,
22:31 then he's going to have to find a job like normal people
22:34 and work to get a wage to pay the bills.
22:38 I just want to be with someone that loves the way I love.
22:41 I did not expect to be 39 years old, divorced,
22:46 and then end up in a relationship with someone
22:49 online for nearly a year that lives in Colombia.
22:52 I just don't want you to be disappointed.
22:56 I am worried about the fact that she has
22:59 this dream of how it will be.
23:03 I wish that she met someone in the normal way, in the club
23:06 or in a pub, but I can only just hope that she's safe
23:11 and that she's happy.
23:12 So you're just taking a chance?
23:14 Yes, I'm just going to take a chance.
23:15 I do understand where my mum is coming from,
23:18 but I will do what I want.
23:20 I am a grown woman, and I will go to Colombia and marry Jose.
23:24 [MUSIC PLAYING]
23:27 My name is Jose Francisco Lopez Artila.
23:46 I am from Colombia.
23:52 I am a rapper and influencer.
23:55 [SPEAKING SPANISH]
23:59 Music is my life.
24:00 It's very important to me.
24:02 I want the world to hear my music.
24:05 Style is important to me.
24:13 I am different.
24:15 It's good.
24:17 It's good.
24:20 It's good.
24:20 It's good.
24:21 My music videos, sexy girl.
24:31 You say it's bad.
24:32 [LAUGHS]
24:35 Luis, she is very yellow.
24:38 [LAUGHS]
24:40 Sexy girl.
24:41 [LAUGHS]
24:45 [MUSIC PLAYING]
24:49 So are you excited about me going away this time?
25:05 Yes.
25:07 You should have the house to yourself for, what,
25:09 nearly six weeks?
25:12 It's not long now until I go and see Matt in Turkey.
25:15 I'm literally counting down the days.
25:18 So what are your thoughts on Matt from when you first
25:21 started speaking to him to what are your opinions of him now?
25:25 I like Matt.
25:26 I think he's lovely.
25:27 There's only one thing I ever really wanted in life,
25:30 and that was for Shane to be happy.
25:33 Aw.
25:34 [LAUGHS]
25:36 Are you going to cry now?
25:37 No, I've got lashes on.
25:40 Well, I've got used to the way he speaks now.
25:43 I found that a little bit difficult at first
25:45 because I couldn't quite understand him.
25:46 Yeah.
25:48 He usually seems extremely happy, and he's cheeky,
25:52 politely cheeky, if you know what I mean.
25:54 Yeah.
25:55 And that's nice.
25:56 A lot of the ladies like that, a little bit of cheek
25:58 from a handsome young man.
26:00 Yeah.
26:01 [MUSIC PLAYING]
26:04, Hi.
26:13 I'm Matt.
26:14 I'm 28 years old.
26:16 I'm bubbly.
26:18 I'm cheeky.
26:20 I'm fun.
26:20 [MUSIC PLAYING]
26:23 I'm living in Istanbul.
26:24 I was born in Istanbul.
26:26 I'm Baba.
26:27 For her car, this way I make money.
26:30 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
26:34 I like Turkey because this is my country.
26:37 I have 85 million people.
26:42 I like making good time.
26:47 I like everything.
26:48 [MUSIC PLAYING]
26:51 [MUSIC PLAYING]
26:54 I'm LGBT, bisexual.
26:57 My girlfriend, same LGBT.
27:01 Before Shane, my life was very fast, very, very fast.
27:08 In my life, I have more partner.
27:11 One day, I have four partner.
27:15 Maybe that's good.
27:16 It costs too much.
27:18 All the time calling people, it's like, buddy,
27:24 I need just one partner this life.
27:27 [MUSIC PLAYING]
27:32 After meeting Shane, we spent five days together.
27:37 We make good time.
27:41 I like Shane's eyes.
27:43 I like Shane's smell.
27:46 I like Shane's hand.
27:50 I like Shane because Shane is chunky.
27:53 We have plan for living in England.
27:57 We have dreams for tomorrow.
28:01 I'm safe with Shane.
28:03 [MUSIC PLAYING]
28:07 [MUSIC PLAYING]
28:14 I'm meeting up with my best friend, Grace.
28:22 We're going to have a pint and a catch up.
28:25 Hello.
28:25 Hello.
28:26 You all right?
28:27 Yeah, you?
28:28 Yeah, good, thank you.
28:29 I got your pint in.
28:29 Thank you very much.
28:31 You're looking very lovely today.
28:32 Thank you.
28:33 Me and Grace have been friends for maybe 15 years.
28:36 She's always got my best interests at heart.
28:39 But sometimes, those best interests, we clash over.
28:42 I'm not saying she doesn't like me,
28:44 but there are a lot of what she calls red flags.
28:47 Cheers, I'm high.
28:49 How's life treating you anyway?
28:50 Yeah, not too bad, not too bad.
28:51 I'm going back in 19 days.
28:53 Counting down the days now, so I'm so excited.
28:55 Yeah, I bet.
28:56 What are your thoughts at the moment?
28:58 I like him.
28:58 Obviously, I've got my worries.
29:00 Yeah.
29:01 Which I'm going to have.
29:02 Don't think he's going to cope in the UK at all.
29:05 You don't?
29:05 No, because when you go there, you're
29:08 very much like, yes sir, no sir.
29:10 Whereas here, you're going to have to fuck off, aren't you?
29:13 You're not going to have it.
29:15 100%.
29:16 I definitely think there is going to be a bit of a switch.
29:18 Yeah, you don't like something, you
29:20 apologize straight away, which you never
29:22 would have done for anyone, ever.
29:24 I do try and please him, and I try not to escalate things.
29:27 Yeah.
29:28 When we're in Turkey, he tells me, you need to listen to me,
29:31 you need to respect me.
29:33 Yeah, I don't like that.
29:34 That's pushy.
29:35 But I think that's a culture thing.
29:36 I think in Turkey, the men are king.
29:39 Yeah.
29:39 And he says that to me.
29:40 He's like, I'm king.
29:41 I'm the king.
29:42 And I'm like, well, what about me?
29:44 And I'm like, I'm not a fucking peasant.
29:45 If you're the king, I'm the queen.
29:47 And he said, yeah, but I'm king.
29:48 So it's always that he's--
29:50 Yeah, step above.
29:52 And I'm hoping when he comes to England,
29:53 maybe he'll chill out a little bit.
29:55 I don't expect him to change overnight, like change his ways.
29:58 He's been stuck in his ways for so long.
30:02 But he's the only person I've ever in my life let push me.
30:05 How you feeling about all the religion side of it?
30:09 His mom, especially, is very religious.
30:12 I'm really nervous about going back to Turkey.
30:15 I'm just really scared that the secret of me
30:18 might come out, because nobody knows that I was born a boy.
30:21 I don't know how his family might react
30:23 or how things might pan out.
30:26 One thing I'm concerned about is obviously same-sex marriage
30:29 isn't accepted.
30:30 Being trans and non-binary, being anything other
30:34 than straight, it's not something
30:36 that's accepted, really.
30:40 That's what freaks me out about when you go there.
30:43 I'm not scared.
30:43 I've still got those concerns.
30:45 Of course I have.
30:46 I think it'd be stupid not to have those concerns.
30:48 Is he not worried about people finding out as well?
30:51 I think it's just his parents.
30:52 And he's just said, we'll just cross that bridge
30:55 when we get to it.
30:56 I worry massively about Shane being out there,
30:58 being the person he is.
31:00 If he gets caught out, what's going to happen to him?
31:03 Is he going to get hurt?
31:05 Is he going to get sent to prison?
31:07 How are people going to react to him?
31:09 I'm just so concerned for you.
31:13 You being out there on your own freaks me out.
31:17 [MUSIC PLAYING]
31:20 How are you, babe?
31:37 Good.
31:38 Me and Marcie started talking about 18 months ago.
31:41 It took a while for the feelings to grow.
31:43 But we've been together probably a year now,
31:45 and it's the best thing ever.
31:47 I missed your face.
31:48 I'll be looking forward to seeing you soon, hopefully.
31:53 Fingers crossed.
31:54 I think Marcie's excited to come to England with me
31:59 to start a family and a life together.
32:01 Have you got a new nose ring?
32:05 It looks good.
32:16 [LAUGHTER]
32:18 I love you.
32:18 Bye, bye, bye.
32:22 I love being a dad.
32:28 It gives me a purpose in life.
32:30 Kennedy is 10, and I love him to bits,
32:32 and I'd do anything for him.
32:34 Do you fancy fish and chips, mate?
32:35 Yeah, why not?
32:38 Everyone knows I'm Michael.
32:40 This is Kennedy.
32:40 Hi.
32:41 Sit here, Ken.
32:42 All right?
32:43 We're going well, don't we, Ken?
32:44 Yeah, we're good.
32:45 All right?
32:45 Best buddies.
32:46 Best buddies.
32:48 All right, lads, a little wrap and chips.
32:49 Oh, thank you.
32:50 Oh, thank you.
32:51 There we go.
32:52 Enjoy, gents.
32:53 Cheers.
32:54 Thank you.
32:55 My dad's the best dad in the world.
32:57 He does everything, and he tries really hard.
33:01 What's a different Marcie would like?
33:04 I know she likes chips.
33:06 Does she?
33:06 Yeah.
33:07 You think she'll like a Savoy?
33:09 Savoy?
33:11 No.
33:13 Why not?
33:15 I feel happy for him that he's found someone
33:17 that he likes and loves.
33:19 Say if Marcie came over here, what
33:21 do you think she would cook for us, like to see, to try?
33:26 Probably, like, rice and stew with garlic.
33:30 Oh, I want to try it with garlic.
33:32 What is it?
33:34 Doughy bun thing with not much flavor.
33:39 Well, Marcie brings love to my dad and makes my dad smile.
33:44 I'm Marcie.
33:56 I'm from Kenya, Nairobi.
33:58 I'm 28 years old.
33:59 We live in a one-flat room.
34:09 I share my bed with my sister.
34:12 This is my bedroom.
34:12 I was born in a village, like in a small town.
34:19 But when I came to Nairobi, everything's changed.
34:25 Hello.
34:35 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
34:38 I love being in the city.
34:40 There's some kind of freedom.
34:42 You can do what you want.
34:44 You can get what you want.
34:45 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
34:48 I'm sociable.
34:50 Any day, I'm out there partying with my girls.
34:52 Marco is my boyfriend right now.
35:04 And I met him online.
35:06 He got me this February 14, 2022, for my Valentine.
35:14 It was a flower, flowers with some card.
35:17 I was on this date inside.
35:19 I was just bored in the house, doing nothing.
35:23 The only thing that I wanted was just--
35:25 someone just entertain me.
35:28 So I called myself Kai.
35:33 There's a card written Kai, my fake name.
35:36 I wrote a message.
35:39 And I used to send it to a million people.
35:42 Just send it, click and send, click and send, click and send.
35:46 Every night, I was just changing.
35:47 So one night, I changed my location to UK.
35:51 And that night, I started talking to Michael.
35:54 He got me this.
35:55 It's a bracelet, charm bracelet.
35:58 Michael is generous.
35:59 He got me a chain.
36:02 Got me this t-shirt, too.
36:05 Treats me like a queen that I am.
36:08 The guy loves me so much.
36:09 Hello.
36:16 Hi, you are back.
36:17 Yeah, how are you?
36:19 Are you excited?
36:20 Well, excited, yeah.
36:21 Yeah?
36:23 I want to move to the UK.
36:25 We can know what life holds for us then, from there.
36:31 I'll be seeing you soon.
36:32 Goodbye.
36:33 Bye bye.
36:37 It's not long now before I get to go to Colombia.
36:55 And I get to meet Jose.
36:57 And I'm so excited.
36:59 How can I help you today?
37:01 I'm going to meet my partner.
37:03 And I just wanted to find something sexy but comfortable
37:06 at the same time.
37:08 Because I haven't ever really met him before.
37:10 Oh, this is going to be a one-off.
37:13 Well, no, hopefully not a one-off.
37:14 Being together in person is going to be so
37:17 different from a video call.
37:19 I actually get to touch him, have relations with him,
37:22 and be romantic.
37:23 I normally like longer, more intimate conversations.
37:26 I normally like longer nightwear.
37:29 Yes.
37:30 And always like a nice robe or something like that.
37:32 I don't mind colors.
37:33 It's just as long as I feel comfortable at the same time.
37:35 So let me go and find you something.
37:37 Oh, thank you.
37:39 I have a few medical conditions.
37:42 One of the biggest ones is something called fibromyalgia.
37:45 I get really sharp needle pains in the back of my legs.
37:50 It's really not very comfortable.
37:52 We've spoke to each other online for a long time.
37:55 But I do worry that he might look and think,
37:58 oh, you know, she's big.
38:00 But she knows I'm big.
38:01 But to actually see me in person,
38:03 you know, I'm a plus-size person.
38:05 I'm not slim.
38:06 So I think that part of me feels nervous.
38:11 I would like to look nice and sexy for Jose.
38:16 Right, I've brought you something up
38:17 that I think you might like.
38:18 Oh, thank you.
38:19 Appreciate that.
38:20 I really do want to look nice for Jose.
38:23 A lot of his music videos are full of sexy women
38:25 with no clothes on.
38:27 And there is a big part of me that worries
38:29 he won't find me attractive.
38:31 Hi, Louise.
38:32 How are you getting on?
38:32 The color's fabulous on you.
38:34 Do you like it?
38:34 Yeah, I do.
38:35 I definitely do.
38:36 Do you like it?
38:36 It's a lovely hot color.
38:37 It's great.
38:38 You think he will like it?
38:39 I think he'll love it.
38:40 He will certainly find it attractive.
38:46 With you in it.
38:47 Oh, you're just sweet.
38:50 You're just sweet.
38:52 [MUSIC PLAYING]
38:56 Everybody's always, what are you doing?
39:01 Why are you doing this?
39:02 I don't think you should be going to Columbia.
39:04 Today, my friend Ange is meeting me.
39:07 I want to get some advice on things.
39:09 Hi, Louise.
39:10 How are you?
39:10 Is your all right?
39:11 Yeah, I'm not too bad.
39:12 How are you?
39:12 I'm all right, thank you.
39:15 It's good to see you.
39:16 It's been a minute.
39:17 I know.
39:18 I know.
39:18 I've got something to tell you.
39:20 OK.
39:20 I did mention before that I was speaking to Jose.
39:24 Yeah.
39:25 How old?
39:26 He's 27 or 28.
39:29 I know, and I'm not used to younger guys, am I?
39:32 Don't laugh.
39:33 It's not funny.
39:34 Mr. Toy Boy.
39:35 No, and I'm not used to that.
39:37 Yeah.
39:38 We're going to get married.
39:39 Pardon?
39:40 We're going to get married.
39:42 Right.
39:43 But it's in Columbia.
39:45 Pardon?
39:45 Oh, my God, Louise.
39:47 I know.
39:47 But the thing is, Ange, is if I don't try,
39:49 I'm not going to know, am I?
39:51 You haven't even met each other yet.
39:52 How do you really know it's going to work out, you know?
39:55 I don't know.
39:56 I'm just going by my heart and what I feel.
40:00 He obviously hasn't got a visa.
40:01 No, he hasn't.
40:02 So is this just for him?
40:05 Is this just going to be an opportunity for him
40:07 to get a green card?
40:08 I'm sure that's probably the way that it'll come across.
40:12 But until I go and meet him, I'm not going to know, am I?
40:16 Why does everybody think it's always about a visa?
40:19 Everybody always thinks the worst.
40:22 So your safety, like you've never met him before,
40:27 that's what I'm worried about.
40:28 You sure he ain't going to kidnap you?
40:30 That doesn't worry me.
40:32 Yeah?
40:32 It should.
40:35 I don't understand how anybody can just
40:38 meet somebody online and then just say in how many days
40:41 they're going to get married.
40:43 I think it's bizarre.
40:46 So another thing as well is we spoke about children.
40:50 Pardon?
40:50 Yeah.
40:51 I told him I would have one.
40:53 I've lied to him and said two.
40:54 So when I actually see him in person, I know it's bad.
40:57 I'll say one.
40:58 So you're going to try for a baby straight away then?
41:00 Well, he's asked me to take my coelight before I
41:03 go to Columbia.
41:04 So when we can get there, we can try and have a baby.
41:07 This is a lot.
41:09 No, I know.
41:09 This is a lot, Lou.
41:11 I mean, you don't even know him.
41:13 I understand it's a shock for everybody
41:15 that I'm going to have a baby with Jose.
41:17 But people in love have babies.
41:20 Do you think by him saying this to you,
41:22 this is going to be a way for him to strengthen his visa?
41:26 I didn't think of it in that way.
41:27 I was just thinking of it because he just
41:30 said how much he wants a baby.
41:32 Yeah.
41:33 And that even though we haven't met each other,
41:36 that he loves me and wants to spend
41:38 the rest of his life with me.
41:40 And you believe him?
41:42 Yeah.
41:43 [MUSIC PLAYING]
41:46 Oh, Liv.
41:49 [MUSIC PLAYING]
41:52 Everybody in my family and my friends,
41:56 they really can't get over what I'm doing.
41:58 And they're in shock.
41:59 I really hope when I come home and I'm
42:02 married that I have family and friends to come back to.
42:07 I'm really worried.
42:09 I'm doing this all by myself.
42:11 And I know a lot of people wouldn't take that risk.
42:14 But I will.
42:15 And I'm going to take that risk because I want to be with Jose.
42:18 [MUSIC PLAYING]
42:21 [MUSIC PLAYING]
42:27 It's time to pack to go to Turkey.
42:40 I'm so excited.
42:42 But I'm a little bit nervous about what to wear.
42:45 My family are religious and conservative.
42:47 And that's not really me.
42:50 I'm not used to covering up.
42:51 It's not something I've ever had to do.
42:54 I want to be respectful to Turkish culture
42:56 and their beliefs.
42:57 [MUSIC PLAYING]
43:01 Hm, questionable.
43:04 No.
43:06 This is a little dress that he bought me before I
43:08 came out the second time.
43:10 So it's like a little off-the-shoulder thing.
43:12 So he likes me wearing this.
43:13 But when I'm out and about with Matt,
43:16 I like to wear this a certain way.
43:18 But Matt likes me to wear it a different way
43:21 because he doesn't want me to get stared at or people
43:24 to get the wrong impression.
43:25 But I like to wear it like this.
43:29 So I've even like-- sometimes I'll have a bra on.
43:31 Sometimes I won't.
43:32 And obviously, my bra straps are showing.
43:34 For him, he doesn't like that.
43:35 He doesn't like that my bra is on show or things like that.
43:40 Or especially if I've not got a bra on,
43:41 you can see my nipples through it.
43:43 Whenever I'm walking down the road,
43:44 he's always pulling it up and put it on my shoulder.
43:46 So this is how I'd sort of wear it.
43:48 [MUSIC PLAYING]
43:51 Oh, I better pack this.
43:53 This came in very handy last time,
43:57 just in case he wants to take me to a mosque or something.
44:00 I'll have something to cover my hair with.
44:02 I only wore it for two hours max.
44:05 I was two hours for respect, really.
44:08 I'm going to pack this, and then I can wash it.
44:11 And then before I leave, he can spray it down again.
44:15 Or I'll get him to wear it for a couple of days in the evening.
44:19 So at least it'll smell like him again.
44:21 But it's all becoming real now.
44:25 I'm absolutely terrified going to Turkey.
44:28 Only Matt and his two sisters, Ajin and Hamel,
44:31 know that I was born a boy and that I'm not a true girl.
44:35 His family don't know.
44:37 And I'm terrified that the secret
44:39 might out when I'm there, which I really don't want to happen.
44:43 So this is what I could do with Matt.
44:45 I'm not used to carrying my own bags.
44:47 And now that they're, like, dead heavy,
44:52 I need my strong little Turkish man to help me.
44:55 Right.
44:56 [MUSIC PLAYING]
45:00 [MUSIC PLAYING]
45:03 Today, I have a meeting with my sister, Emel.
45:19 I'm very close to my sister, Emel.
45:26 I trust her feeling about me and Shane.
45:30 My family thinking she is Shane.
45:52 But if maybe one day my family know Shane,
46:01 normally, man.
46:03 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
46:06 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
46:08 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
46:09 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
46:12 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
46:13 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
46:15 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
46:16 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
46:18 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
46:19 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
46:21 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
46:22 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
46:24 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
46:53 Of course, I like my home country.
46:56 But I'm LGBT, bisexual.
46:59 Shane, same LGBT.
47:01 I can't make him waiting.
47:05 That's why I don't like.
47:06 [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH]
47:08 [MUSIC PLAYING]
47:22 [MUSIC PLAYING]
47:26 Hey, beautiful.
47:43 Me and Marcie are planning to get married in Kenya.
47:45 And then once we do, I want her to come and live with me
47:48 so we can start a family and a future together.
47:51 Yeah, yeah.
47:52 Yeah, I'm not too bad.
47:53 I'm out working, delivering food,
47:55 just trying to earn some extra pennies for the wedding,
47:58 you know?
47:59 [LAUGHS]
47:59 Yeah.
48:03 We're having a big wedding, and the bills are just stacking up.
48:06 Flights, accommodation, it's just getting out of control.
48:12 My day job ain't going to cut it,
48:14 so I'm having to do a second job delivering food just
48:17 to be able to pay for it all.
48:18 [MUSIC PLAYING]
48:21 Hello.
48:42 How are you?
48:43 Hi.
48:44 How are you?
48:45 I'm good.
48:45 Good.
48:46 OK, nice.
48:47 Thank you.
48:48 You look good.
48:49 How have you been?
48:49 We're planning to get married, but there
48:59 is, like, a few issues, of course, about the money.
49:02 Because every time it's money, money, money.
49:04 Everything just need money.
49:06 So--
49:07 Oh, that's him.
49:09 He looks good.
49:11 Oh my gosh.
49:11 Those are so many tattoos.
49:13 He looks like a bad boy.
49:14 He's all--
49:15 [MUSIC PLAYING]
49:16 He's crushing.
49:16 Oh my goodness.
49:17 You know, when I went to that online dating site,
49:27 I had a different--
49:28 [LAUGHTER]
49:30 Oh my goodness.
49:31 For me, getting someone to marry me through a dating site,
49:42 something that I've never imagined, it's crazy.
49:45 You're actually dropping everything--
49:46 Yeah, I know.
49:47 --and going to stay there, literally your whole life.
49:50 Let's just wait and see if it happens, if it clicks,
49:53 if it does not.
49:54 OK, goodbye.
49:55 Go look for someone else.
49:57 Yeah.
49:57 [MUSIC PLAYING]
50:01 [MUSIC PLAYING]
50:04 All right, mate?
50:19 All right, mate.
50:20 Nothing bad.
50:23 How's things?
50:24 Yeah, going quite well, actually.
50:26 How about you?
50:27 Bit of a serious chat.
50:28 What's happened?
50:29 You all right?
50:30 Yeah, so obviously we went out for a curry the other night.
50:33 Yeah, good curry.
50:34 That was, to be fair.
50:35 Yeah, it was, yeah.
50:35 Spoke about obviously Marcie and stuff like that.
50:37 Mm-hmm.
50:38 And I thought, given the situation of it,
50:43 done a bit of research.
50:45 I found this on a website.
50:56 Marcie Cameto is a co-spaced swindler with Chunky Sana.
51:01 Taking off his.
51:08 That's her, all right.
51:09 She's swindling.
51:14 According to this, yeah, she is.
51:16 [MUSIC PLAYING]
51:19 [MUSIC PLAYING]
51:29 I think I'm getting married.
51:30 [APPLAUSE]
51:34 [MUSIC PLAYING]
51:35 He is literally the love of my life.
51:37 All right, baby.
51:38 I have a surprise for you.
51:41 Obviously, he's very handsome.
51:43 Right, a ladies' man, I get a lot of attention.
51:46 I've got my wedding dress.
51:47 I have my hen do.
51:49 We're all in Mexico.
51:50 This is like my happy ever after.
51:52 You know I can't drink.
51:54 Are you fucking serious?
51:57 You're 7,000 miles away.
51:58 How do I know what your name is?
52:00 Get your passport out.
52:00 I'm not going to prove shit.
52:02 Am I going to go to Kenya and come back swindled?
52:05 Would you like to see the marriage certificate?
52:07 They're going to send him back.
52:10 My worst fear is you get murdered over there,
52:13 and you never come back.
52:15 I'm having tequila.
52:16 I'm going to throw up.
52:18 I don't know if I know him well enough.
52:20 Jealousy won't be tolerated.
52:22 It takes a certain kind of person to be OK with it.
52:26 Chomping her breasts into somebody's face
52:28 might remind me to another profession.
52:30 I did get a message that Jose had maybe been messing
52:34 around with prostitutes.
52:38 I like to know that I've got all my belongings.
52:40 She feels like she can't trust them.
52:42 I'm very upset.
52:44 See how disrespectful you are?
52:45 Can you hear yourself?
52:46 Maybe it's OK in Turkey.
52:48 Careful of your voice.
52:49 If this is what it's going to be like, then I don't know.
52:52 Look at him.
52:56 He's still in there enjoying himself.
52:58 Maybe we're not actually supposed
53:00 to be in this relationship.
53:01 [GRUNTS]
53:04 Why do I keep fucking crying?
53:06 [CRYING]
53:08 Oh, it's so exciting.
53:09 I don't know whether I'm making the right decision.
53:12 It stood me up.
53:13 That's the biggest embarrassment
53:15 to the whole village.
53:17 Yeah, it was definitely a rivalry with my daughter.
53:19 She is spoiled, disrespectful, and ungrateful child.
53:25 Nothing happened.
53:25 It's all right for you to be touchy-feely with other girls.
53:28 Bit of a double standard.
53:29 Double standard, my balls.
53:31 How do I look?
53:33 Oh, my god.
53:35 We've all spent a lot of money to come here.
53:38 I just don't think it goes on.
53:39 What are you going to do, go back to Kenya?
53:41 Fuck you.
53:42 You know where the door is?
53:43 I'm done.
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53:47 It's insane.
53:53 It's insane.
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