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00:00 Hello, my dear witch!
00:05 In today's video, at your numerous requests, I decided to record a video on how to set standards for your man.
00:14 The fact is that a man is initially ready to serve a woman in a masculine way, that is, to take care of her, provide for her, protect her.
00:23 If he does not do this, it indicates that he is infantile, that is, he has not yet revealed his masculinity.
00:30 Such men will look for strong, responsible women who will take care of them for themselves.
00:37 If you attract such men, then it is just a feedback to you.
00:42 Everything can be changed and corrected if you want.
00:45 This is, of course, an inner work on yourself.
00:48 And here we are not discussing men as they are, but what we attract and what to do with ourselves.
00:56 And this is not a question of what you are guilty of, but a question of how you create it.
01:02 And if you bravely answer this question and deal personally with their spiritual growth,
01:10 then after a while completely different men will come into your life.
01:15 And here it is important to understand that when you raise your self-esteem and grow up in your own eyes,
01:23 then you already show all your looks to a man how you can and how you can not.
01:28 Sometimes you need to tell a man directly what you like and what you don't.
01:32 More often we are afraid to be alone and silent and tolerate, without declaring to a man our needs and our wishes.
01:42 The fact is that relationships are, first of all, an emotional intimacy.
01:48 That is, you need to have the courage to say sincerely what you want and how you would like a man to behave with you.
01:57 Therefore, here you need to open your heart and be able to build an emotional intimacy in relationships.
02:06 If you tell a man how you would like him to be, you don't manipulate him, you don't be capricious, you don't be a hypocrite,
02:13 but you sincerely say what you would like and a man doesn't react, then you are a precious magician.
02:20 I want you to be a woman, then this man is not for you.
02:23 And you can't tolerate, please, think that you will tolerate and fall in love.
02:30 You can't do that. Include your instincts and remember that you deserve the best and the best relationships.
02:38 For this, again, you need to work on your self-esteem and build up inside yourself the value of yourself.
02:48 How can you tell a man you love so much that he loves you so much that he would hear you?
02:55 There is a certain algorithm for establishing an emotional intimacy, that is, a heart intimacy, trust between a couple, between partners.
03:05 The first step. If you want to convey a certain message, then first say something good about this person.
03:12 Say a compliment, thank him for being in your life.
03:16 Tell him that you value his manifestations.
03:20 That is, first about the good, about the pros, about the positives.
03:23 When you do this, when you take the first step, you speak about the positive, you open up to a person and he is ready to hear you.
03:31 The second step is your feelings.
03:34 Tell him that you are worried and say it in the first person.
03:38 I'm scared, I'm worried, I'm upset, I'm in complete confusion, it doesn't hurt.
03:44 Or I don't know what to do, or I'm angry and angry, and I won't let him treat me like that anymore.
03:50 That is, what you really feel.
03:53 This is much more important than if you said, "You don't hear me, you are forever, you are always" and so on.
04:00 When you say "I" in messages, you don't impose on a person and don't pressure him.
04:05 And you have a chance to influence him, to influence him without manipulation.
04:13 The next step is what you would like.
04:17 When you say how you see your relationship, what you want, you declare the result.
04:22 For example, I would really like you to warn me when you are late, so that I would be pleased if you called.
04:31 That is, you express the desired result, what you want at the exit.
04:36 Anya, you are always late, why should I wait for you as we can.
04:40 The fourth step is when you say, "I can't do anything with everyone, I can only decide for you."
04:49 This is your choice. You are an adult.
04:52 And the choice is yours, the decision is on your side.
04:57 This step is actually mystical and magical.
05:01 Because when we give a person the freedom of choice, and we don't pressure him,
05:05 and we honestly declare that we can't force him to do anything,
05:10 the relationship is a voluntary choice.
05:12 If you want to do it, you do it. If not, then no.
05:15 If not, then no.
05:17 If yes, then yes.
05:19 When you use these four steps in your conversation, there is a chance that your partner will hear you and you will establish a emotional closeness.
05:27 So, I repeat again.
05:29 The first thing is the advantages of a person, the advantages of a partner. Gratitude, gratitude and positivity about him.
05:35 The second thing is what you feel, what is on your soul.
05:38 The third thing is the desired result.
05:41 The fourth thing is to transfer responsibility.
05:43 As you say, it will be so. Only you decide.
05:46 If a man says, "I don't care if it hurts you or you are irritated,"
05:53 then this is a very strong signal that the relationship needs to be terminated urgently.
05:58 We are in a relationship that has long been unworthy of us.
06:02 Because of the fear of loneliness, because of the fear of being alone.
06:06 Do not be afraid of temporary loneliness.
06:08 It is sometimes vitally necessary for a woman in order to restore her integrity and meet a more mature, more integral man.
06:17 I really want you to be happy.
06:20 See you soon.
06:21 It was Margarita Mrakhovskaya with you.
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